What I Wish I Had Known

The ladies chat with blogger, podcaster, and BBC Radio 5 Live dating contributor, Layla about fuckboys and how to spot and stay away from them. Warning! This one has some explicit language.  Layla’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lalaletmeexplain Layla’s Website: www.lalalaletmeexplain.com Layla’s Podcast: www.soundcloud.com/layla-explain Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo/

Sex, relationships, dildos, and abortion are just a few of the topics the ladies discuss during this thought provoking, honest, and hilarious conversation with actress, influencer, writer, and content creator, Tova Leigh. Tova’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tova_leigh Tova’s Website: https://www.tovahleigh.com The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies chat with life coach, speaker, and writer Mary Meadows who, through telling her story of bombshell after bombshell, reveals the secret to being a badass. And it’s not what you think. Mary’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marybadassmeadows/ Mary’s Website: https://marymeadows.co.uk/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo 

Lauren and Jo chat with Jemma Fennings, co-founder of Olivia Burton about juggling a family life, social life, and business. While sharing her story and her struggles, they touch on the difficulties of the balancing act while being a mother, a little on the power of saying no, and how to make it all work.  Olivia Burton Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/oliviaburtonlondon/ Olivia Burton Website: http://www.oliviaburton.com/uk/home The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo   

Jess and Jo chat with addiction, parenting, and relationships expert and author Mandy Saligari about proactive parenting. They cover what it means to be a proactive parent, how to find the root cause of “mom guilt,” and much more. Mandy’s Website: http://www.mandysaligari.com/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo 

Jess and Jo chat with Ali and Finn, the creators of the Positive Planner about positivity. The range of topics include the definition of positivity, how gratitude can change your day, how important journaling is (and how to start), why Jo doesn’t journal, how Jess made someone’s day, and more. The Positive Planner’s Website: https://www.thepositiveplanner.co.uk The Positive Planner’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_positive_planner/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo 

Jess and Joe speak with author, blogger, and podcastor Fiona Thomas about her journey of writing through her depression. Is writing about it publicly a good thing? Can the anonymity of the internet help with mental health? How is depression different in the digital age? The ladies discuss these topics and more. Fiona’s Website: https://fionalikestoblog.com/ Fiona’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fionalikestoblog/ Positive People Podcast: http://positivepeoplepodcast.libsyn.com/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/  

On this special Mental Health Awareness Week episode, the ladies discuss Maternal Mental Health in front of a live audience at the Podfest for Mental Health organized by Happiful magazine and Counselling Directory. Proceeds from all-day tickets were donated to the Mental Health Foundation. Happiful Magazine: https://happiful.com/ Podfest 2019 Site: https://happiful.com/podfest-for-mental-health-2019/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/

In this short bonus episode, the girls quickfire answer user submissions on what they wish they had known. If you’d like the ladies to discuss what they wish they had known about a topic of your choice, contact them here: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/contact/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies deeply dive into the topic of sisterhood. They explore what it means, if people actually use the word properly, the expectations behind it, the reality of it, the difference between “sisters” and “friends,” and much more. As always, they close with a little listener wisdom. The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

*TRIGGER WARNING* This episode contains the discussion of sensitive topics that may be triggering to some listeners.  Lauren, Jess, and Jo along with mental health campaigner, author and vlogger Jonny Benjamin MBE discuss the topic of suicide. The show starts with the story of how he was talked off a bridge by a complete stranger. Jonny then opens up about his search for that stranger through the now famous, “Find Mike: campaign. The group also discusses why people do it, why it’s the opposite of selfish in their eyes, suicide among men, talking about it with children, the general state of mental health facilities, and much more. Jonny’s Website: https://jonnybenjamin.co.uk/ Beyond Shame and Stigma: https://beyondshamebeyondstigma.co.uk/ Jonny’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mrjonnybenjamin/ Mental Health Media Charter: https://www.natashadevon.com/the-mental-health-media-charter Calm: https://thecalmzone.net List of International Suicide Hotlines: http://ibpf.org/resource/list-international-suicide-hotlines The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

Lauren and Jo discuss the idea of saying, “no.” They cover topics like people pleasing, boundaries, self-worth, how to say no and not offend, whether or not you should care if you offend, and more. Don’t say no to this episode! As always, they close with a little listener wisdom. The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

In this short bonus episode, the girls quickfire answer user submissions on what they wish they had known. If you’d like the ladies to discuss what they wish they had known about a topic of your choice, contact them here: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/contact/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

Lauren and Jo chat with Jen Ferguson from TheDadsNet about all things anxiety. They discuss what anxiety is, what it feels like, if it’s different than just being nervous, how it gets lumped in with depression, and much more. As always, they close the show with a little listener wisdom. Jen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/itsthefergusons/ TheDadsNet’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thedadsnet/ TheDadsNet’s Website: https://www.thedadsnet.com/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

What I Wish I Had Known About Divorce The ladies chat with Instagramer, Podcast host, and blogger Jack Rollins about all things divorce. They explore the comparison of divorce and death, the difference between how men and women handle divorce emotionally, how society views the end of the relationship, how to start the healing journey, and much more. Jack’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/f_divorce/ Jacks Podcast: https://anchor.fm/f-divorce The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

Bees, Beyonce, broaches, and an old laptop bag. The ladies explore grief, what it is, what it looks and feels like, and more, as they share their personal grief journeys. They also continue their “listener wisdom” segment. Warning! The content of this episode may contain triggers, especially concerning death and grief. UCL - Sources of Bereavement Support: https://www.ucl.ac.uk/psychiatry/bereavementstudy/sources-of-bereavement-support NHS - Find Bereavement Support Services: https://www.nhs.uk/Service-Search/Bereavement%20support/LocationSearch/314 Cruse Bereavement Care: https://www.cruse.org.uk/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies discuss flaws (not floors). Topics include the definition of a flaw, how the perception of flaws affect us, the invisible scales that we compare ourselves to, the traps of using “flawed” language, the traditions of Wabi-sabi and Kintsugi, embracing our flaws, and much more. They also continue their new listener nuggets, wisdom, (still working on the title) segment. “Wabi Sabi Your Life: 6 Strategies for Embracing Imperfection” by Gretchen: http://www.wholeliving.com/133628/wabi-sabi-your-life-6-strategies-embracing-imperfection “Why The Japanese Art of Kintsugi Is Your New Self-Care Hero” by Catherine Dash: https://www.marthastewart.com/1530905/kintsugi-wellness The article on Freckles that featured Jess: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-6211241/Finally-freckles-fashionable.html The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

In this short bonus episode, the girls quickfire answer user submissions on what they wish they had known. If you’d like the ladies to discuss what they wish they had known about a topic of your choice, contact them here: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/contact/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies discuss what they wish they had known about social media. They cover how it changed their lives for the good, how it can be a scary place, trolls, social media and mental health, remembering to set boundaries, dick pics, and much more. They also continue their new segment where they read and discuss listener submissions on what they wish they had known. Minds for Life - The First Listener: http://firstlistener.mindsforlife.com/ “The Cows (Don’t Follow the Herd) by Dawn O’Porter: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Cows-Dawn-OPorter/dp/0008126062/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies discuss what it means to be sexy. Topics include defining sexy, feeling sexy versus looking sexy, who you should feel sexy for (the answer may surprise you), leaving the lights on, body positivity, whether or not men feel sexy, and much more. They also introduce a new segment where they read and discuss listener submissions on what they wish they had known. Warning! This one gets a little naughty. The 5 Love Languages: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/ The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies discuss therapy. Topics include why one should see a therapist, what therapy is actually like, how to find a therapist and therapy style that suits you, the connection between mental and physical health, the importance of self-care, and much more. Bella says hi! The Counselling Directory: https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk/ BACP: https://www.bacp.co.uk Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies discuss all things career. Topics include impostor syndrome, maternity leave and coming back as a working mom, jobs that aren’t personally and professionally fulfilling, work/life balance, associating your identity with what you do for a living, the problem with CV’s, and much more. Warning - Bella has some opinions on the topic. Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies look back over 2018 and discuss the various things they’ve learned over the last year including balance, stillness, and the power of manifestation. Then, they chat about how they are going to put those lessons to work in 2019. Bella makes her triumphant return. Marie Kondo’s website: https://konmari.com/ Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies chat with author, speaker, and love coach Persia Lawson about dating, love, and finding that special someone. Persia’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/persialawson/ Persia’s Website: https://www.persialawson.com FREE E-Book, “7 Steps to Finding Real, Lasting Love in a Superficial World:” https://persialawson.lpages.co/ebook/ Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies chat with Michelle Elman, body confidence coach, TEDX speaker, youtuber, author, and podcast host about survival, strength, body positivity, body confidence, and more. Michelle’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/scarrednotscared/ Michelle’s Website: https://www.michelleelman.com Michelle’s Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC08VySXPR8gig8UZ3IvxMeQ Michelle’s Book, “Am I Ugly?:” https://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1788541847/ Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies chat with blogger, podcaster, and BBC Radio 5 Live dating contributor, Layla about fuckboys and how to spot and stay away from them. Warning! This one has some explicit language. Layla’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lalaletmeexplain Layla’s Website: www.lalalaletmeexplain.com Layla’s Podcast: www.soundcloud.com/layla-explain Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone

The ladies chat with Aisha Carrington, Spiritual G., love yourself coach, personal stylist and creator of the, “Get LIT ReTREAT,” about all things self-care. Bella returns with some poignant commentary. Show Links: Aisha’s Instagram: (@aishacarrington_) https://www.instagram.com/aishacarrington_ GET LIT ReTREAT’S Instagram: (@getlitretreat) https://www.instagram.com/getlitretreat Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

The ladies chat with Jemma Thomas from, “Jemmas Health Hub” about all things exercise. They discuss the connection between feeling good physically and mentally, having a healthy body image, how to get started with exercising, and much more. Jess’s little girl, Bella makes a special appearance. Show Links: "Jemmas Health Hub:" https://www.jemmashealthhub.com/ Jemma's Instagram: @jemmas_health_hub https://www.instagram.com/jemmas_health_hub/ Mental Health Crisis Services Guide: https://www.mind.org.uk/information-support/guides-to-support-and-services/crisis-services/helplines-listening-services/#.W_CNBnr7Sb8 Hub of Hope: https://hubofhope.co.uk/ Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/ Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo

Get to know the ladies behind the microphones as they cover everything from trolls to pelvic floors. Show website: https://www.whatiwishihadknown.co.uk/  Jess’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thefatfunnyone Jo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lobellaloves_jo