Date Yourself Instead

Date Yourself Instead

By Lyss Boss

You’ve made it to Date Yourself Instead, a podcast intended to inspire you to become the best version of yourself. In 2021, social media personality Lyss started a self-love series on TikTok which amassed over 100+ million views on her videos and counting. In this podcast, she gets candid about her relationship experiences, and touches on other topics including business, beauty, wellness, and so much more. Welcome to the #dateyourselfinstead movement. Episodes every Monday.

Episodes

I got sick from a toxic relationship + how I healed my PCOS naturally

A highly requested topic about how I got physically sick from being in a toxic relationship, and how I was able to heal my body naturally after suffering from PCOS for years and having irregular periods, mood swings, weight gain, and more. For years, I didn't feel good in my body, and I knew I needed to make significant changes. DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor and I am not here to provide concrete medical evidence, I am here to simply tell my story and share it with you.
26/02/24·28m 36s

How to master your emotions and remain in your power

Have you ever lashed out at someone and later regretted how you responded to a situation? Have you ever overreacted in your relationships and later realized things weren't nearly as bad as they seemed? To be honest, sometimes in the past I have tended to go off the rails in situations and later didn't really like how I acted. This episode is all about steps to make those changes to MASTER your emotions in the moment so you can remain grounded and in your power. That way, you can approach situations and conflicts from a place of calm, and make better decisions for your future. 8:00 - Being non-reactive and how to master your emotions. - JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS - use code 'SELFLOVE' for $20 off the course. IF you’ve been holding onto someone who you know isn’t good for you, if you feel stuck in your life and can’t seem to figure out your “why”, if you feel held back by ANYONE or anything and you want to skyrocket forward into the new year, THIS course is it. This is the game changer and I am so insanely excited for you to join us!!! WHAT DO YOU GET?  4 days of videos instructed by me •detailed workshops on the power of letting go •the exact meditations I used to get over my breakup quickly  •an exclusive private group chat 💬 with all of our members  •unlimited access to classes (once you have it, it’s yours forever) •instant access via email - Follow me on instagram @lyss and the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead and send me a message if you enjoyed this episode! :) I love you x
19/02/24·44m 0s

My biggest dating icks + dealbreakers in 2024

Moving into the new year, I've decided that I have new boundaries and standards when it comes to dating, so here's a full episode about it. As always, send me a DM on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode. ARE YOU READY TO DETACH?  The Dare to Detach masterclass is officially OPEN with limited spots available this time around. If you’ve been holding onto someone who you know isn’t good for you, if you feel stuck in your life and can’t seem to figure out your “why”, if you feel held back by ANYONE or anything and you want to skyrocket forward into the new year, THIS course is it. This is the game changer and I am so insanely excited for you to join us!!! WHAT DO YOU GET?  4 days of videos instructed by me detailed workshops on the power of letting go the exact meditations I used to get over my breakup quickly  an exclusive private group chat 💬 with all of our members  unlimited access to classes (once you have it, it’s yours forever) instant access via email DOWNLOAD THE MASTERCLASS HERE Also, be sure to download my free worksheet, meditation and vision board workshop for the new year.
12/02/24·42m 52s

10 BIG ways to improve your mindset & manifest your dream life

Having a healthy mindset is the key to ultimate success. There's been many times in my life where I've gone through periods of time where my mindset was not in a healthy place. In this episode, I discuss 10 big ways I've changed my entire mindset for the better and had major breakthroughs when it came to my mental health. If you loved this episode as always, send me a DM @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead. JOIN THE MASTERCLASS DARE TO DETACH Use code "selflove for $20 off the course.
05/02/24·32m 58s

Get ready with me for a first date in London (VLOG)

A different type of podcast - vlog style. If you have Spotify, you can watch the video on the app, or watch the video on YouTube here. GET READY WITH ME FOR A FIRST DATE in London, one of my favorite cities in the world. This past December I decided to take a solo trip back to the UK to celebrate the holidays, have some good comfort food, and experience what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in A WHILE. In this particular situation, I ended up connecting with a guy on instagram, and then there was a major plot twist...enjoy! If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to DM me as always on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead. JOIN MY MASTERCLASS DARE TO DETACH Use code SELFLOVE for $20 off, exclusively for the podcast listeners :)
29/01/24·20m 25s

How to fall in love with YOURSELF in 2024

Fall in love with YOURSELF and your own life in 2024. Let me ask you a serious question. Would you want to date yourself? Would you want to get to know YOU? In today's episode, I cover the ways you can learn to love yourself deeply and like never before into the new year. I hope you enjoy! As always, feel free to message me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead if you're loving the podcast. JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS DOORS OPEN AGAIN SOON. If the doors are not open, be sure to join the waitlist so you can snag a spot next time it's available!
29/01/24·24m 16s

Stop projecting a fantasy of what someone could be…THEY'RE NOT THAT PERSON.

Do you fantasize a lot about the potential of a person? Then this episode is for you. If you continue to try to change or mold someone into something that they're not, you're simply wasting your time and energy. Just listen! :) JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS And remember to download my free higher self meditation and free worksheet! xx
22/01/24·35m 41s

31 life lessons I learned before turning 31

Happy birthday to me! IT'S CAPRICORN SEASON! On this episode, I talk about 31 valuable life lessons I've learned before turning 31 years old. Enjoy!!!! xx
15/01/24·37m 34s

What to do when they pull away + the best dating advice EVER ft. Jemma Sbeg

NEW YEAR, NEW EPISODES! FINALLY, I have my very first guest on the Date Yourself Instead podcast, my dear incredible friend Jemma Sbeg, who hosts the Psychology of Your 20's podcast. In this episode, we discuss what to do when someone pulls away from you, and we also cover tons of widely popular dating topics + YOUR sent in questions!!! If you've enjoyed this episode, feel free to always message me on instagram @lyss or on the podcast instagram @dateyourselfinstead. Jemma's socials: @thatpsychologypodcast and @jemmasbeg Be sure to check out Jemma's podcast here. JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Also remember to sign up for my free higher self meditation, and free worksheet! :) xx
08/01/24·41m 50s

Why going no contact WORKS.

GOING NO CONTACT IS THE MOVE IN 2024. It is a PRIVILEGE to have access to you and your energy. JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Are you tired of constantly holding onto what or WHO isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade? Are you ready to become a new, more powerful, more fearless, more unstoppable YOU? Let’s do this. It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. MY DARE TO DETACH masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. THERE'S NO MORE TIME TO WASTE.
01/01/24·42m 24s

How to manifest a specific person back into your life

How to manifest a specific person! Listen intentionally with caution. I want you to be happy overall, so I want you to manifest someone ONLY if you truly feel they were your person. Also I feel like I'm going to get cancelled for being a cold hearted Capricorn in this episode because I discuss my icks, but oh well. In this episode I also talk about my experience from dating apps recently and some fun life updates. Enjoy! :) JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Are you tired of constantly holding onto what or WHO isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade? Are you ready to become a new, more powerful, more fearless, more unstoppable YOU? Let’s do this. It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. MY DARE TO DETACH masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. THERE'S NO MORE TIME TO WASTE. REMEMBER TO USE CODE "SELFLOVE" FOR $20 OFF.
25/12/23·31m 50s

If they wanted to, THEY WOULD.

If they wanted to, they would...? Or maybe they just can't. Maybe they don't have the capacity to love you the way you love them. Let's dive into this topic together.
18/12/23·34m 3s

5 BIG ways to level the f*ck up in 2024

If you're ready to step into your POWER in 2024, this episode is for you. JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS HERE DOORS OFFICIALLY OPEN FOR NEW MEMBERS ON DECEMBER 19TH, 2023.
11/12/23·41m 12s

Decenter that toxic man now. YOU are the main character.

A reminder to focus on you, because you have one f*cking life to live. Stop making someone else the main focus of your orbit. You are the SUN. You deserve to be front and center in your own movie. Xoxo. JOIN THE DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS (DOORS OPEN DECEMBER 19TH) Use code SELFLOVE for a discount, exclusively for the podcast listeners.
04/12/23·33m 1s

DETACH to ATTRACT - how being detached helps you manifest faster

DETACHMENT SPEEDS UP MANIFESTATION. When you truly let go, miracles happen. I WANT YOU TO UPLEVEL. UPGRADE. DETACH. BE FREE. BE F*CKING HAPPY. Because...why not? If you need a little push or a sign from the universe, this episode is for YOU. Detach to attract. LINK TO THE DARE TO DETACH COURSE Download instantly and get started on creating your dream life. Also be sure to sign up for my free meditation and reframe worksheet. With all the love and gratitude, Lyss
27/11/23·38m 12s

Feeling lonely this holiday season? I've got you.

Being alone during the holiday season or any celebration day in general can feel like sh*t, let's just be honest. HOWEVER, it can also be empowering and fun if you make it that way - which is why I created this episode. TIS THE SEASON to embrace yourself and love yourself even more. I love you lots. Here is the link to my masterclass, use code selflove for a discount. xx Lyss JOIN DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Remember to use code "selflove" for $ off the course - exclusive for my podcast listeners. HAPPY HOLIDAYS!!!!
20/11/23·26m 2s

SEND THEM LOVE anyway - the ultimate healing guide

Send them love. They need it the most. When someone hurts you, it can be easy to hate them - but what I've learned is that healing works from the inside out by becoming an energetic vessel of LOVE. JOIN DARE TO DETACH MASTERCLASS Doors open November 16th officially for all new members! We'd absolutely love to have you.
13/11/23·31m 17s

Stop procrastinating, your future self needs you

Why do we procrastinate?  I was the queen of procrastination and I would always assume things would just happen for me, but YOU NEED TO take action to get results and become your best self. Stop putting shit off! ;) I love you. Much love. Xoxo, Lyss. JOIN DARE TO DETACH - DOORS OPEN NOV 11TH Use code "selflove" for a discount when you join us. DOORS OPEN NOVEMBER 11TH FOR ALL NEW MEMBERS. You can also stay updated on instagram @daretodetach for all things about the course.
06/11/23·39m 20s

It's time to upgrade, uplevel, and become f*cking unstoppable this fall season

Do you know how special and important you are??? Do you know how much you bring to the table? NO ONE IS YOU and that is your superpower. In this episode, I discuss ways to level up, create boundaries, know your worth and much more. The Dare to Detach MASTERCLASS doors open November 16th, 2023 for new clients! Learn more HERE. Use code "selflove" for $20 off the course when you join us. I can't wait for you to level up even more and step into your power, let go of the toxic BS, and join our amazing private community group chat led by me and other members.
30/10/23·42m 13s

How to handle rejection & move on

Rejection is redirection - everyone has dealt with rejection at a point. Sometimes the universe is here to just guide you into a much bigger and better situation that you could've even imagined for yourself. In this episode, I dive into a dating story time about a guy who got me hooked on him and then ghosted me - ultimately leaving me feeling rejected, hurt, and embarrassed. I also talk about how to know your value and how it was fairly easy for me to overcome this situation after time had passed. JOIN DARE TO DETACH⁠ Tap ⁠HERE⁠ to join our amazing community - DOORS OPEN AGAIN NOVEMBER 16, 2023 FOR NEW MEMBERS. Are you tired of constantly holding onto what isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade?  It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. This masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. Let's do this. WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS COURSE: 4 DAYS OF MATERIAL - WORK AT YOUR OWN PACE. Each day is designed to reprogram your mind, help you let go, detach, and free yourself from anything that is no longer serving your growth. A step by step guide on the art of detachment and learning how to love yourself in healthy, constructive ways Workshops including reprogramming your subconscious mind to level up and a shadow work integration to help your healing process A private and exclusive community group chat TOTAL VALUE: $1,199 YOURS FOR: $222 USE CODE "SELFLOVE" FOR $20 OFF THE COURSE ⁠I'M READY TO UPLEVEL
26/10/23·35m 14s

Dare to Detach

JOIN DARE TO DETACH Tap HERE to join our amazing community! Are you tired of constantly holding onto what isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade? It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. This masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. Let's do this. WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS COURSE: 4 DAYS OF MATERIAL - WORK AT YOUR OWN PACE. Each day is designed to reprogram your mind, help you let go, detach, and free yourself from anything that is no longer serving your growth. A step by step guide on the art of detachment and learning how to love yourself in healthy, constructive ways Workshops including reprogramming your subconscious mind to level up and a shadow work integration to help your healing process A private and exclusive community group chat TOTAL VALUE: $1,199 YOURS FOR: $222 USE CODE "SELFLOVE" FOR $20 OFF THE COURSE I'M READY TO UPLEVEL
16/10/23·1m 35s

The power of being direct and communicative (stop playing games)

In this episode, I talk about the power of being direct, forward and just communicating versus running from your problems - especially when it comes to dating. Sometimes I've been anxious or afraid to speak my truth because of the fear of messing things up. But, as of recently, that changed. Here's everything I've learned about being honest and direct about my feelings. If you enjoyed this episode, always dm me @lyss and let me know your feedback. Love you xx.
16/10/23·33m 51s

Mastermind - how to get anything or anyone you want

Become a mastermind and manifest anything or anyone you want with just a simple mindset. Trust the process baby. You've got this. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me on instagram and check out the new masterclass, Dare to Detach, coming October 11th! My new masterclass coming out October 11th. instagram.com/daretodetach My personal ig: instagram.com/lyss
09/10/23·34m 53s

If you can't match my energy, BYEEE (masculine vs. feminine energy)

If I'm dating you, you better bring the same vibes and energy to the f*cking table. If you don't reply to me for days, it's not the vibe. If you could go 48 hours without a reply...it's a no. Here are some of my dealbreakers, my opinions on matching energy in dating, and alllll the coverage on masculine versus feminine energy. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me @lyss and feel free to share it - it helps the pod grow. I appreciate you xx
02/10/23·52m 20s

5 signs you need to breakup + my views on sex & casual hookups

If you're in a sticky situation where you are attached to someone but you just can't seem to let them go, this episode covers the major warning signs and red flags that I personally feel could make or break a relationship. These are some of my dealbreakers that I find are helpful when deciding when to leave a relationship. In the second half of this episode, I talk about my views on sex and intimacy for the first time ever on the pod, and my perspective on casual hookups. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me @lyss! xx
25/09/23·39m 2s

YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY

SURPRISE to the video episode :) It's the 1 year anniversary of DATE YOURSELF INSTEAD baby!!! Wow. I can't believe just one year ago I started the podcast and it became what it is today. In this episode, I discuss my mental health journey, as well as this idea of your THOUGHTS creating your reality. Thinking positively about your life and yourself, and your future...is SO essential in order to live the life of your dreams. I hope you love this episode, and let me know if you want more videos. Xoxo.
11/09/23·47m 6s

How to know if they're the 1 - GREEN FLAGS

Self love leads to true love. There is some wholesome loving content on today's episode. This is your reminder that you deserve true, deep, unconditional love. You deserve peace and safety. You deserve to feel secure in a relationship. Xoxo, Lyss <3
04/09/23·28m 41s

Stop diluting your power for a man

It's easy to lose focus when you're so fixated on someone else. But baby, you have to remember that YOU ARE THE MAIN CHARACTER. When it comes to relationships, we often dilute our power and give our energy away instead of directing it towards OURSELVES. Agree or disagree?
28/08/23·33m 53s

He's just not that into you

Signs that he's just not that into you. He's being hot and cold. Flaky with plans. Distant. A bad texter. Says he doesn't know where he stands or what he wants. In this episode, I dish the hard truth and the signs of when someone is just not...that interested.
21/08/23·39m 14s

Here's what to do when they pull away

When someone pulls away, it can be difficult to navigate. Often times we feel like we did something wrong to mess the relationship up. It can cause a lot of anxiety if we're not sure where the other person stands or why they're distancing themselves...when everything seemed to be going well. In this episode, I talk about what to do when they pull away from you - and how to handle it like a pro. You'll feel better in no time baby.
14/08/23·38m 33s

Why we broke up - the breakup that changed me forever

Why my ex and I broke up - the full detailed story. I wasn't sure if I would ever speak on this relationship and the breakup that changed me forever. In this episode, I am finally sharing my experience and more details about the breakup that inspired the Date Yourself Instead podcast. If this resonated with you in any way, I would love to hear your story as well. Always feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss.
07/08/23·29m 17s

How to raise your standards HIGH AF

Cause you deserve the best :-) I love you.
31/07/23·30m 37s

The POWER of solo traveling

Ahhhh. SOLO TRAVEL. One of the most highly requested topics I get asked to cover is my experience doing shit alone. And yeah, it can be intimidating, scary and crazy to go off on adventures completely solo. In this episode, I talk about a few experiences I've had solo traveling, the lessons I've learned, my honest thoughts on it, and a wild story time about my study abroad journey in Australia. I'll definitely be recording a part two. Xoxo.
24/07/23·43m 39s

How to master detachment

It's a detached girl summer. Psssst if you loved this episode, DM me on instagram @lyss and stay updated by following the podcast on Spotify.
17/07/23·29m 55s

How to be unbothered, go no contact, deal with cheating, & more

It's official - I am HERE to answer all of your questions on this very juicy episode of Date Yourself Instead. In this episode, I discuss the art of being unbothered and how to live your truth, how to go no contact and my thoughts on blocking someone if you're broken up, my honest thoughts on cheating, and more.
10/07/23·35m 48s

The red flags you see now are the reasons you'll leave later

Self explanatory. If you see some major issues early on, my best advice is to get out while you still can. The red flags you see in the beginning are the reasons you'll most likely leave the relationship later - or they'll be the reason you're unhappy in a relationship. Yes, people can grow and change, however, I've noticed that my gut was always telling me to run prior to diving deeper into a situation with someone...yet I just ignored it. Let's talk about it.
03/07/23·37m 36s

How to really DATE YOURSELF INSTEAD

Dating yourself instead. What does dating yourself really mean? I'm in London right now, and I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone. Here's a full breakdown of how I've recently started to date myself, take myself out and dive into a brand new timeline to change my life and open my heart up to the idea of meeting new people. When you go through a breakup, it can be difficult to put yourself out there and learn how to be alone, so this episode covers everything you need to know.
26/06/23·33m 18s

How to trust the process of your life & manifest faster

Trusting the process of your life can be a scary thing to do when it feels like everything is falling apart. It's also harder when you're trying to manifest things and you just feel blocked, stagnant and not your best self. Here is my best advice when it comes to trusting your journey, and how to manifest and attract the best things into your life faster. If you loved this episode, would mean the world if you rated on Spotify and sent me a dm on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.
18/06/23·41m 27s

Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore

If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distraction away from who we are, our goals, and what truly makes us happy. This episode is really just a reminder to work on yourself and your goals, and find the passion that drives you, instead of focusing on someone that isn't showing up for you. Remember, if you loved this episode feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead, and be sure to rate it on Spotify.
11/06/23·25m 6s

The worst dates I’ve been on in New York City

You asked for it, and here we are. The worst dates I've ever been on in New York City. Dating can be a whirlwind, and an absolute mess - especially with easy access to dating apps. In my late 20's, I would go on dates for fun that often were either really fun or a total disaster. In this episode, I talk about some of the worst experiences I've had. If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to follow and dm me @lyss and stay updated with more content on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.
05/06/23·33m 55s

How to avoid getting attached too quickly

It's easy to get attached to someone we've just met...because they're nice. Because they're attractive and treat us right. But how soon is too soon to get attached? Often times I'd become so fixated on one person early on, only to realize it was all smoke and mirrors. This person was not at all who I thought they were. So here's an episode talking about that experience, and how to avoid getting attached too fast. If you loved this episode, dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead and share it with a friend. Xoxo.
29/05/23·38m 27s

I was LOVE BOMBED - a dating story time

The first half of this episode talks about self worth, valuing yourself and to avoid jumping into a new relationship before you've processed a breakup. The second half of this episode talks about love bombing and a story time of a guy I dated super briefly that was fucking obsessed with me for a hot minute and then put me in a really uncomfortable situation, and THEN vanished off the face of the earth. If you liked or could relate to this episode, follow me and dm me on instagram @lyss and stay updated on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Xoxo.
22/05/23·38m 14s

Stop being desperate & needy in love

I definitely have had my moments in relationships where I felt like I smothered my partner with desperate energy. I was needy and insecure because I didn't love or value myself enough to know who I truly was. I didn't know my worth, so I would project my insecurities often onto my boyfriends in hopes that would make them want to be with me more, but instead it often backfired and became messy. I also mention this amazing book, The Mastery of Love, in the beginning of this episode which has helped me through my healing process and has helped the relationship I have with myself. If you are loving the podcast, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
15/05/23·34m 49s

Stop giving SO much to someone you’re not even dating

In this episode, I dive into a storytime about a guy I was taking on dates around New York City. I was putting in an unreasonable amount of effort…and for what? When someone isn’t your boyfriend, you shouldn’t be the only one making concrete plans.
08/05/23·23m 51s

How to feel GOOD being alone

Being alone can be a scary experience at first, especially after a breakup. In this episode, I dive into my advice about being by myself and what I’ve learned from being my own company.
08/05/23·21m 37s

I did magic mushrooms in mexico - here's what I took from it

Psyliocybin. Magic mushrooms. Tulum. This experience changed my life and my perception of everything in the world. I was going through one of the worst depressions, and I met a Spirit Guide in Mexico who altered the course of my life permanently. She guided me through a magic mushroom trip that would ultimately lead me to creating the podcast, and free me from a great deal of trauma I had carried with me over the course of my life. In this episode I dive into the lessons this experience taught me and I hope this experience can help some of you.
01/05/23·26m 30s

Forgiving yourself when you've f*cked up

What happens when you're the problem? Forgiving yourself when you've made a mistake can be challenging. We all go through periods of time in our live where we're bound to make mistakes, but those mistakes can turn into valuable learning lessons. In this episode, I give various examples of how we can f*ck up and how it can be helpful to just own up to those mistakes and be honest with who you are. Don't beat yourself up too much, you're still human. PS - if you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.
24/04/23·27m 16s

Not everyone is going to like you

Not everyone is going to like you or accept you - that's just how life is. The most important thing is that YOU like you. In this episode, I talk about my personal experiences with how people treated me poorly for no apparent reason at all - and what those experiences taught me. If you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.
17/04/23·28m 12s

How to know if you're with the wrong person vs. right person

Being with the wrong person can feel heavy on your heart and on your mind. It could feel like you're constantly trying to change for someone else or try to compromise your needs for someone else. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be in the wrong relationship, or in a relationship that needs some work. I also dive into what it feels like to be in a good and healthy relationship with a partner. I hope it can help guide you and make you feel less alone if you're currently in this type of situation. Always feel free to DM me as well on instagram @dateyourselfinstead or @lyss if you enjoyed this episode. Sign up for the exclusive hoodie waitlist HERE: https://www.dateyourselfinstead.co Shop the Peter Thomas Roth moisturizer HERE: Potent-C Brightening Vitamin C Moisturizer
10/04/23·26m 36s

Going through a breakup? Here's the ultimate best friend pep talk

Sign up ⁠HERE ⁠for my limited edition, exclusive hoodies: ⁠http://www.dateyourselfinstead.co⁠ They are dropping SO soon and there are only 100 hoodies available, so sign up for the waitlist to snag one before they sell out. Going through a breakup? Today I'm talking to you as your best friend. You deserve the world. You deserve to be happy. Remember that you have the power to create the life you want, and that you deserve to be surrounded by people who appreciate and value you. Let's chat! DM and follow me on instagram @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode. Tiktok: @dateyourselfinstead
03/04/23·21m 10s

Twin flames and karmic relationships

Twin flames - are they a good or bad thing? In this episode, I dive into my personal twin flame experience and the valuable lessons I learned from dating mine. I reflect on how my twin flame taught me a lot about myself, and helped me grow & mature as a person. As always, if you enjoyed this episode, feel free to rate the podcast on Spotify, and send me a message on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
27/03/23·25m 52s

How to let go and move on because you deserve BETTER

This is the ultimate breakup guide and podcast for anyone trying to move on and let go, because you deserve better. You deserve someone who will commit to you and give you the world. Why are you settling? In this episode, I discuss my perspective on this topic and dive into my own emotions as well. Remember, you can always message me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode.
20/03/23·27m 54s

The power of walking away

Why are we so afraid to walk away from a toxic relationship? Sometimes we're afraid to leave relationships for a variety of reasons, including: Fear of being alone Fear of the unknown Fear of change Children and family obligations And so much more. In this episode, I talk about the power of walking away from a relationship that isn't serving you, and some useful tips to navigate a breakup. As always, you can DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode! Subscribe to my new YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCCCyfFUtRJ5-RS0M3d99TQQ
13/03/23·28m 41s

Love letter method - manifest your soulmate instantly

Surprise!!! I decided to release this one early because, well...I love you all dearly. Manifest your soulmate literally instantly, this works every time ;) This video is about how I manifested 3 different people into my life using a letter. It's simple, effective, and can bring magic and miracles into your life really quickly.  Let's connect on my socials! If you decide to try this, let me know.   Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/lyss Tiktok: http://www.tiktok.com/@lyss Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0eOWc023M5M
10/03/23·18m 38s

How self-respect changes everything

This episode is all about self-respect, taking a stand for what you believe in, and valuing who you truly are. Self-respect means honoring yourself over anyone else, and ignoring what other people are saying about you. For most of my life, I've been bullied for my image and my looks, and as I've gotten older, I've realized that the only way to honor who I am is to block out the noise and focus on self-love. I also go into detail about my own personal stories with my self-confidence, and how I've struggled with being assertive in the past. Remember if you enjoyed this episode, feel free to dm me @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead on instagram. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
06/03/23·37m 41s

Right person, wrong time

The phrase "right person, wrong time” is an expression that describes a situation where two people are deeply in love but are unable to be together due to circumstances beyond their control. So, is this concept real? In today's episode, I dive into why I think the right person, wrong time is not necessarily true. I also dive into different examples and stories that prove that true love will always find its way back if it's really meant to be. Remember, if you loved this episode, be sure to share it on instagram and send me a dm @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
27/02/23·30m 22s

Setting boundaries in love & how toxic relationships can make you sick

I am guilty of doing too much for the wrong person and I know I’m not the only one, so I wanted to dive a little bit into people pleasing and boundary setting in this episode. Plus, I have some insight on how toxic relationship can impact your physical health, so we are also talking about the signs to watch for and things I’ve learned from personal experience. Highlights of this episode: (2:00) - Feeling guilt about saying no (5:20) - Doing too much for the wrong guy (14:00) - The story of how I got sick from a toxic relationship (21:00) - If you’re not with the right person, your body will speak to you (29:50) - Low self esteem in a toxic relationship (32:00) - External validation from other people (35:00) - It’s never too late to find love and start over, including a cute true story time to inspire you If you loved this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
20/02/23·39m 1s

50 ways to date yourself at any age

Dating yourself - what does it REALLY mean? In today’s episode, I dive into why I think Valentine’s Day is a scam, why learning to love yourself is important regardless of your relationship status, and 50 ways to date yourself at any age. Learning the power of self-love and treating yourself to a day of fun with or without a partner is always a good idea. PS - this Valentine’s Day, I’ll be treating myself to a romantic dinner for one.  Feel free to message me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead and tell me how you’re celebrating! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
13/02/23·32m 5s

Let go of them and become MAGNETIC as f*ck

We all know how this story goes; You’re in love or like with someone but you’re holding on too tight. When you choose to let go of them, they sense it and try to come right back into your life. In this episode I build on how to take your POWER back after a breakup and talk about what being magnetic means, what letting go looks like and the empowerment you’ll feel when you experience the freedom of stepping into your higher self. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
06/02/23·37m 44s

You’re not “crazy” - why trusting your gut is SO powerful

I pride myself on my sense of intuition, but those gut feelings can be easy to ignore especially if you’re like me and like giving people the benefit of the doubt. In this episode I share a story where gaslighting and red flags were ignored until my gut was screaming at me. Sometimes we get too in our heads to listen to that built-in accuracy radar but know that feelings of insecurity are normal, and the right person will work through those feelings with you. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
30/01/23·35m 46s

How to manifest your dream life in 2023

With the fresh start 2023 is giving us, it’s the perfect time to start attracting abundance and transforming into your best self. I share the stories of the power of manifesting in my own life and how you can harness your own power and manifest your dream life too! Have you heard about this lucky girl syndrome trend? I’m going to experiment with this over the next few months. I love hearing from you guys so if you want to do it with me, lets DM! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
23/01/23·28m 4s

30 things I learned before my 30th birthday

It’s a big thing to be turning 30 and a lot has happened in the past couple of years to make me who I am today. This week I am talking about 30 things I learned before turning 30. I also wanted to say a belated Happy New Year and I’m so excited about getting listeners involved in the future of the podcast; bringing on guests and incorporating your topic suggestions!   Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
16/01/23·27m 18s

Proving people wrong is fun

I’ve had a lot of hate over the years in my career and I have learned that I don’t need to prove myself to anyone. All of the energy I put into listening to what other people thought of me never helped me get anywhere. In this episode, I share some of these pivotal moments and tips I use to harness that energy to create an amazing life for myself. Pursue your passions and block out the noise – you are amazing! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
09/01/23·29m 48s

How to detach, let go, and REALLY move on

Detaching is an art that can be very emotionally challenging. Becoming aware of what is NOT serving your growth then letting go of it can make you MAGNETIC. This episode lays out the steps to detach in a healthy way and how I have applied them to relationships in my life. If this is a part of your journey, go easy on yourself. Detaching can be such a beautiful thing! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
02/01/23·23m 47s

Stop being impressed by the BARE MINIMUM

Today we talk about the many reasons why you should raise your dating standards but what does it ACTUALLY mean to claim your power? You are not somebody’s backup plan! I share what I do to remember my worth and the shift that can happen when you learn how to show up for yourself and not tolerate shitty behavior. Once you love yourself so fucking much, you’ll attract someone that matches your love! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
26/12/22·24m 0s

Let’s talk situationships

One of the questions I get in my DM’s regularly is: Am I doing the right thing by staying in this situationship? As always, no pressure to jump out of a situationship if you’re loving where you’re at but if you want to address the pros and cons, we are talking expectations, standards, communication and genuine happiness. If your happiness is being compromised right now, remember that you deserve unconditional love and you are amazing! Thanks for listening! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
19/12/22·29m 9s

Falling in love with a narcissist

If you’re dating a person based on a conceptualized version of them vs. the person they are consistently showing you that they are, I’ve been there. Today I am sharing my challenging experience with a narcissist and what I learned from it. Once you understand narcissistic personalities then start to turn inward to examine your worth, your transformation can begin! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
12/12/22·26m 13s

Why are female friendships so hard?

I got a DM that hit hard: How do you make friends to easily in NYC? Just like other relationships, female friendships can be toxic. If you always gravitate toward masculine energy, maybe you can relate to this. A lot of what I have experienced in the social media space has been superficial, but in this episode you’ll hear about how I balance surrounding myself with genuine, empowering people and wondering, am I the problem? Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
05/12/22·26m 1s

How to manifest your soulmate

If you’re ready to receive someone into your life, this story may inspire you manifest it. Once, after listening to a podcast suggesting manifesting a love by writing a letter, I immediately met a new person. It’s easy to match someone’s energy for too long and lose yourself. Instead, you can use your positive thoughts to manifest someone that you can be your true self with. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
28/11/22·30m 43s

Feeling lonely on the holidays

Feeling cozy and celebrating the holidays with a significant other is such a great feeling but when I realized that I will likely be alone for the holidays this year... the anxiety spiral began. If you’re feeling left out during the holiday season, I share some tips what can shift your perspective. You’re welcome to feel your feelings but if you’re ready to embrace this season in a new way, focusing on being alone can be a super positive experience! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
21/11/22·26m 3s

Do all men come back?

I am constantly flooded with this question: Do all men come back? If you’re in a waiting period right now, this episode validates all of the feelings that come along with that. Sharing from my personal experience in situationships and relationships, I talk about how to assess if this is a connection worth exploring and if it is, how to become a magnet. Either way, know that you deserve a healthy and amazing love and that the universe has got you! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
14/11/22·28m 40s

how to take your POWER back after a breakup

This episode is probably my favorite one yet, because it’s going to teach you how to TAKE YOUR POWER BACK after a bad breakup. It’s so easy to lose yourself in a toxic relationship, and this episode covers everything you need to know about claiming who you are again and focusing on healthy ways to heal. You know you’re unstoppable and you have all the power you need within yourself; it’s just about finding it again. I’ve got you covered. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
07/11/22·33m 25s

A Halloween storytime and my best manifestation tips

HAPPY HALLOWEEN! For all of you fellow witches out there, I know this day is very special to you because it is to me. This episode is going to be different. I’m diving into a crazy story about how my mom was almost murdered while she was pregnant with me. I’ll also be covering my best manifestation tips and practices for this spooky season. PS - if you have any fun Halloween plans, DM me on instagram @Lyss. I would love to hear what you’re up to tonight. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
31/10/22·21m 0s

Stop Comparing Yourself To Everyone Else

Today's episode is going to talk about COMPARISON and why there is no point in ever comparing yourself to anyone else. In the world of social media, it is so difficult sometimes to pull yourself away from what everyone else is doing. The truth is, most of what you see isn't real. I also talk about my personal experiences dealing with social media and the reality of what I've been through. Let's dive into this together. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
24/10/22·27m 31s

it’s okay to be depressed

It’s okay to allow yourself to feel your feelings. Lyss tells the story of entering therapy and the lows she had to let herself fully experience in order to get to the root of her issues. The only way out is through and Lyss talks about the loss and shock she felt before finding her purpose and reinventing herself. Don’t put off moving your body, trust the process & lean into what make you feel alive. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
17/10/22·15m 45s

My Red Flags When Dating

Have you ever been love bombed or felt underwhelmed by the texting character shown by the person you’re talking to? This week Lyss shares her personal experience with red flags while dating. When no effort is put in to making plans and excuses start to stack up, follow your intuition. Stay tuned for part two! Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
17/10/22·19m 1s

So he ghosted you…now what?

Ok so he ghosted you, now what are you supposed to do? In this episode, I take it step by step on what to do when someone ghosts you. Because we all know getting ghosted can be a shitty feeling. Don’t worry, I’ve got you covered. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
10/10/22·20m 6s

How I Attracted My Ex Back with The Law of Attraction

If you’re skeptical about the Law of Attraction, the stories in this episode will convince you otherwise. Lyss was in a loose relationship that ended brutally when months later a symbolic necklace pulled his energy back into her space. Lyss also followed her intuition in a different relationship which built a connection that was a crucial part of her personal development. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
03/10/22·19m 53s

Free Girl Fall, F*ck Boy Fall (And A Dating Story Time)

Lyss is kicking off the fall season in a positive and inspirational way. Join her mental freedom journey as she explains the new routines she’s putting in place to set the tone for the rest of the year. Life is short so Lyss is focusing on fueling her passions + she ends this episode with a classic f*ck boy fall dating story that is to be continued. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
26/09/22·21m 39s

How to Heal from a Heartbreak

Today Lyss speaks on a highly requested topic: Heartbreak. She relives one of the most painful breakups she has ever experienced and covers all of the very relatable insecurities that come post-breakup. This episode is full of practical steps Lyss took to begin the healing process and the inspiration that came after the healing began. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
19/09/22·29m 16s

Trusting Your Intuition and Inner Voice

Today Lyss shares takeaways from past dating experience on valuing herself, trusting her intuition + the amazing things that she has attracted when she wasn’t mirroring a toxic partner. Lyss also had a new experience with a psychic this week and is feeling the pressure of being at a crossroads at work. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
12/09/22·19m 14s

Welcome to Date Yourself Instead

You’ve made it to Date Yourself Instead, a podcast intended to inspire you to become the best version of yourself. In 2021, social media personality Lyss started a self-love series on TikTok which amassed over 100+ million views on her videos and counting. In this podcast, she gets candid about her relationship experiences, and touches on other topics including business, beauty, wellness, and so much more. Welcome to the #dateyourselfinstead movement. Episodes every Monday. Connect with the Date Yourself Instead Movement: Website | Instagram Connect with Lyss: TikTok | Instagram | YouTube
09/09/22·1m 8s
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