SLO MO REWIND: Dr. Robert Glover on Boundaries and the Pitfalls of Being a Nice Guy

Continuing our Love and Relationships series, we&aposve decided to revisit a few of our favorite past episodes on the subject.

In this episode, I speak to Dr. Robert Glover, author of the brilliant, often life-altering, and slightly controversial bestselling classic, No More Mr. Nice Guy.  It may not sound like the kind of book I&aposd have read, but it is a little piece of self-help magic and has helped countless people recognize their own "Nice Guy Syndrome": the trait of hiding feelings and truths that we fear will get a negative reaction from other people so as to maintain the belief that we are "nice", leading to a host of toxic relationships and fundamentally dishonest behaviors.

Robert is an internationally recognized authority on the Nice Guy Syndrome, and through his book, classes, and therapy groups, he has helped thousands of Nice Guys transform from being passive, resentful victims to empowered, integrated males, transforming their professional careers and intimate relationships along the way.

Before we get started, I implore you as always to stay open minded for this conversation. The concepts, though admittedly slanted toward men due to the focus of Robert&aposs work, certainly apply to women as well, and to all sexualities.

Listen as we discuss:

What is wrong with being a nice guy?How &aposnice guys&apos are often dishonest, resentful, and give to get.How Robert&aposs second marriage was falling apart despite his best efforts.The "Victim Pukes"The confused belief that if sex is bad and evil, why should it only be for the one you love?The three covert contracts that lead to toxic relationshipsThe reason men become nice guys is due to desiring the validation of womenThe crucial need for a stronger involvement of fathers in their sons&apos livesNice guy logic: "If I have needs, I&aposm bad, yet I want things, but I won&apost accept them."For women to experience sexual attraction, they need to experience emotional tension."If a man can&apost stand up to me, how can he stand up for me?"The effect of 50 Shades of Grey on society.Human women are the most sexually evolved creatures on the planet. Men are basically apes.Co-dependency: "I don&apost exist unless I&aposm in a relationship"Healthy interdependence The &aposhugging until relaxed&apos exerciseCalm is contagiousYou can want your partner, but as soon as you start needing them, you lose themTo have the best sex, there needs to be an interplay of dominance and submissionEqual does not mean the sameUsing men&aposs motivation to have sex to expand their emotional intelligenceThe struggle between man vs. woman as a profound catalyst for growthThe lingering effect of not having our childhood needs meetWomen are  sexual Ferraris and men are sexual mopeds"Slut shaming"The Disney and Hollywood effect on women&aposs perception of monogamyRepressing female sexuality has become par for the courseMen need a tribe

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