How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman

How Not to Ruin Your Relationships | Drs. John & Julie Gottman

By Ten Percent Happier

What 40 years of research tells us about how to cultivate good relationships in our lives.

World-renowned for his work on marital stability and divorce prediction, Dr. John Gottman has conducted over 40 years of breakthrough research with thousands of couples. He is the co-founder of The Gottman Institute and Affective Software Inc. as well as author of over 200 published academic articles and author or co-author of more than 40 books, including The New York Times bestseller The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Dr. Julie Gottman is the Co-Founder and President of The Gottman Institute and Co-Founder of Affective Software, Inc. A highly respected clinical psychologist and author, she is sought internationally by media and organizations as an expert advisor on marriage, domestic violence, gay and lesbian adoption, same-sex marriage, and parenting issues. She is the co-creator of the immensely popular The Art and Science of Love weekend workshop for couples and she also co-designed the national clinical training program in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. 

In this episode we talk about:

how to talk (and listen) to your partner in moments of conflictwhat to do before you start trying to solve a problem togetherwhy “there’s no such thing as constructive criticism” the details of John’s research findings, which have allowed him to predict with stunning accuracy whether a couple will get divorcedhow the Gottmans themselves do when it comes to operationalizing their findings/advicehow and why betrayal occurswhen a couple should consider separating the role mindfulness can play in healthy relationshipsand the role of humor in relationships.

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