How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You | Michael Gervais

How To Stop Worrying About What People Think Of You | Michael Gervais

By Ten Percent Happier

Why fear of other people’s opinions (FOPO) holds us back, and what to do about it.  

Michael Gervais is a high performance psychologist and the host of the Finding Mastery podcast. His new book is called The First Rule of Mastery: Stop Worrying About What People Think of You. 

In this episode we talk about:

A handy new acronym: FOPO, Fear of People’s Opinions How the evolutionary roots of our desire for social acceptance work against us in the modern world Why caring about what others think is not the same thing as worrying about what others think The difference between a purpose-based identity and a performance-based identity The anti-FOPO power of things like: imagination, journaling, meditation, social support, and considering your mortalityWhy focusing less on yourself can be the greatest bulwark against FOPO

Related Episodes:

Michael Gervais and Pete CarrollMichael Gervais in conversation with Jon Kabat-Zinn 

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