Lala's Old Podcasts

In this episode Lala is joined by Sarah Smith and Mark Harrington from Breck Foundation. Breck Foundation was created by Breck Bednar's mother Lorin following Breck's tragic murder by the person who groomed him online. www.breckfoundation.org.uk

This podcast is sponsored by www.beducated.com - with my code: LALALA you can get 70% off the annual fee! I could not recommend them more highly. In this episode Lala is joined by ex Love Islander Kaz Crossley. Kaz is an amazing influencer who has recently fundraised to build a house for disadvantaged children in Thailand. This podcast covers dating dilemmas sent in by followers and discussions around experiencing domestic abuse.

In this episode Lala is joined by fat rights activist Danica Marjanovic (@danica_marjanovic) and Life Coach Kayleigh Dixon (@kdlifecoach) to discuss fatness and dating. We discuss questions from followers including: What is fat? Thickness is a trend but where is the line? Is the word fat OK or offensive? Is it wrong to utilise angles and lighting to hide your weight on dating apps? How do you differentiate between being someone’s type and being fetishized? The worry that they have underestimated your size in photos and how they will react in person and feeling the need to alert them to the fact that you are fat before meeting? Is it fatphobic to not find fat people attractive? How do I get rid of the feeling that I am not thin enough to be attractive to men? I internalise thoughts like ‘I can start dating again when I’ve lost a bit of weight’ Do I need to decrease my standards after gaining 15kg? Handsome men feel out of my league now. Men are definitely less interested in me now that I am larger. Lack of confidence during sex due to weight. Especially being on top.

In this podcast Lala is joined by BBC radio 1xtra presenter Richie Brave to answer questions sent in by followers including: Racist tropes around Black men's penises, how do I communicate my sexual needs or even begin to know what my sexual needs are, why are so many men shying away from relationships, is my partner gaslighting me and more......

In this episode Lala is joined by Lucy Whittaker from Alpha Vesta CIC training to discuss some less commonly spoken about aspects of domestic abuse, including spiritual abuse, pet abuse, BDSM and abuse, and employer's responsibilities for training and supporting staff.

In this episode Lala is joined by author and founder of the Everyday Sexism Project Laura Bates to answer questions sent in by followers including, how can we change the minds of misogynistic men in our lives, how can we educate the young men in our lives, how to spot a fake feminist man, how to deal with sexism in the workplace, how can we shift the negative perceptions of feminism, how to keep the faith in good men existing......and much more.

This week Lala is joined by US based singer, dancer, and actress Mila Jam to answer questions sent in by followers including, how to stay authentic in a world full of fakes, dating as a trans woman, dealing with bullying at school and trolls online, dismantling the patriarchy and much more.

In this episode, Lala is joined by Kate Sanger from Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust to discuss HPV. There is so much confusion around the subject of HPV so we have answered followers questions to try to give more clarity on the issue.

Lala is joined by comedian Jamali Maddix to answer questions sent in by followers: Five dates in and the guy tells me he has served time in prison for a murder he committed when he was 14. Would you keep dating them? I’m 28 and I have never had a relationship, all my friends are coupled up and buying houses and I find it impossible to think that it’s my fault for not attracting a partner. The men I like seem to all be prone to ghosting and breadcrumbing. What can I do? Is cancel culture impacting on your comedy? Do you feel you have to censor yourself now? Can professionals like nurses and teachers use party drugs or weed recreationally and still be good at their jobs? My boyfriend has slept with a lot of people – how do I not feel insecure about my body and my sex skills with him?

In this week's episode Lala is joined by the amazing Lemar! Lemar rose to fame after staring in BBC's Fame Academy and went on to release 5 platinum albums. Lemar now has his own podcast 'The Lemar Show' where he delves into the music industry highs and lows with a range of special guests. This week Lemar and Lala discuss: Adjusting to fame Gender and race equality in the music industry Can you suggest tips for approaching a guy who isn't interested What will you be telling your daughter about boys and your son about girls? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years but we haven't met each other's families or friends because he says he isn't ready. Am I being too demanding by trying to push it? Would it matter to you if a woman had been with one of your friends before you?

This week's podcast is a dating and disability special featuring journalist and disability activist Cathy who has dwarfism(Insta @thatsinglemum) and podcaster Joy who has visual impairment (@joysworldthepodcast). In this podcast we discuss questions sent in by followers on the topic of disability and how that impacts on dating. Including: I have an invisible disability. When is the right time to bring it up when dating, and how? How do you calm anxiety when dating? How do you have conversations with disabled people, about their disability without being offensive? What should we not say to disabled people? Ableism is so rife. Can we discuss people feeling sorry for disabled people, and how they think we are sexless? Is fetishization a fear of yours? Is there anything that a person could do to allay those fears when starting a relationship with a person with a disability? How do you date as a single mum? Men always ask to come over when my child is asleep and I get called boring if I say no. I don’t get a lot of free time so it’s hard to navigate.

This week Lala is joined by the fabulous Oloni. Oloni is a writer, presenter, and sex positive advocate. One half of the amazing Laidbare Podcast, Oloni uses her voice to empower and educate women around all things sex! This weeks podcast topics are: Have you ever done any wild shit to snag a man? Is it OK for my partner to watch porn when I am not around? It weirds me out and makes me feel insecure. When it comes to dating I have a fear that I am going to get assaulted. I find it hard to invite them over even after a few dates. Any tips for security? How do you cope with the anger that comes after your ex moves on quickly to a new relationship? Do you think it’s harder to find people to date in this day and age than it was when you were younger? How do I stop herpes being such a huge barrier to me getting close to anyone? Can I fuck new people without them catching it? I love my man from the bottom of my heart but his penis is a bit too small. What do I do? My orgasm is important to my partner, but I have been faking it because I feel choked when it comes to telling him what I want. How do I learn how to communicate what I want in bed?

In this weeks episode Lala is joined by Chloe and Anny (@_annyma) Chloe and Anny are both patrons (subscribed to Lala's patreon platform to support the podcasts and Instagram). Last month Lala ran a competition for two patrons to win the opportunity to become podcast guests, the winners were picked out of a hat and we think you'll agree that the hat did well! This week we discuss questions sent in by followers including: Dating a girl that has been previously hurt, what to do to go the extra mile (I’m a guy) Regretting an abortion when finding it difficult to get pregnant years later What is your advice for dealing with your boyfriend who is going through a police investigation for a historic rape allegation. It was 9 years ago – he said it never happened. I am so confused. How do you meet men if you’re nearly 40, in a pandemic and especially anxious about covid? I love being single but my pool of single friends is shrinking as we get older. How do I continue to be true to myself and not settle for the sake of not being the only single one. And how will I meet other single people in their late 20s? Do you think it is feasible to date someone with different religious or political views to your own? I am absolutely broke, I was furloughed and then made redundant. I am considering starting an Only Fans but I am nervous about the potential repercussions. Would you do it if you had no other choice?

This week Lala is joined by Empowerment and Mindset coach @megan_rose_lane . Megan was one of the best guests that has ever featured on this podcast. As always, questions were sent in from followers including: How do I stop worrying about never meeting a great guy. I am 35 and they all seem rubbish! I feel that I am going to be single forever because I won't tolerate shitty male behaviour - do you two feel the same? How do you know if a man will be a good dad? How do you adjust to parenting alone? How do you get over a situationship of over a year and gain the courage to not go back to it? My thoughts are horrible and I feel horrible because they seem bigger than me, I don't know what to do? Mental health for working class people - if people can't afford expensive therapists due to poverty what can they do to help themselves? Am I disrespecting myself by staying with a guy who cheated? I wasn't ready to sleep with a guy so he ended it. Should I feel guilty?

For this episode Lala was joined Robin and Claire, two ex child abuse investigation detectives who are experts in the field of child safeguarding to discuss child sexual exploitation and sexual abuse. Robin Watts is a specialist trainer and you can hire him to deliver training to your organisation www.rawtrainingltd.com This podcast will give you the tools to understand how to protect your own children and children around you. I just listened back to it and I thought that there were a few bits that we missed out so I wanted to add them here.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ If you suspect that a child has been the victim of sexual abuse do not ask leading questions. If it's proven that you asked leading questions it can impact the outcome in court. So don't ask "Did Daddy touch you?" ask "Can you tell me what happened with Daddy?"⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Have professional curiosity. If your gut tells you that something is wrong then hang on to that. Keep that child on your radar. Talk to other professionals in that child's life. Try to connect the dots. If a child is acting out and behaving in ways that make you dislike them then make an even bigger commitment to show up for that child. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Sometimes victims become abusers, but that doesn't take away from their abuse. For example, sometimes gangs do 'line ups' where they will have one girl in a room who has to have sex with a line of boys. We might look at all of those boys as abusers, but a 13 year old boy who is forced to lose his 'virginity' in this way in a room full of his friends is also experiencing trauma. Sometimes female victims of CSE recruit friends for abuse, again, we need to see the bigger picture. They are all victims. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When talking to victims of CSE we need to be careful about the language we use about the perpetrator. Calling him a disgusting piece of shit and saying he doesn't love you might be true, but the child has been groomed and feels loved. It might make them feel more defensive and less likely to listen. If you are a health care professional look for signs such as frequent hospital attendances. Ensure that you speak to the patient alone, if their boyfriend/girlfriend/alleged relative is always with them, then find a way to see them alone. If you need to report then contact the police or the children's service based in the area where the child lives. Google the child's local authority. Even if you don't have a lot of evidence it is still worth having a chat with a social worker. You can report anonymously to NSPCC too.

In this episode Lala is joined by magazine editor, model and non-binary activist Jamie Windust and trans activist and model Kenny Ethan jones. In this podcast we answer question's sent in by followers around LGBTQ+ dating and relationship issues including: I really want to understand the difference between non-binary and gender neutral and how to refer to non-binary people in language that isn’t genderised. My gay friend doesn’t date bi-sexual people but he was offended when I said that I wouldn’t want to date a bisexual man, can we discuss this? How do you navigate being out and proud with relationships when living in a ghetto area where hate crime is more likely? How can I support my best friend who has transitioned but who has changed their personality so much that I barely recognise their personality and I don’t get them anymore. They are not the person I made friends with but I feel like if I raise it it’ll be seen as being related to their transition? Is it harder for someone who has had gender reassignment surgery to orgasm? Why do LGBTQ relationships move so much faster than cis het relationships? Do you think it’s essential to disclose that you are trans to people who you are dating? My son is in secondary school and he has come out to me as gay, I want to encourage him to live his best proud life but I also don’t want him to become a target for bullying. Is it oppressive if I suggest that he doesn’t tell his school friends yet?

In this podcast Lala is joined by Eve from the We Can't Consent To This campaign @wecantconsentto. They are campaigning for the law to be changed so that the rough sex defence can no longer be used to get lighter sentences when women are murdered and seriously harmed. They are also campaigning for choking. spitting and hurting women during sex to not be normalised in popular culture. This podcast includes graphic discussion about rough sex, murder and rape, but we also hope that it is an empowering conversation that will help women to feel more confident about expressing their needs in the bedroom and that will also inspire listeners to fight for change.

For this podcast Lala was joined by Elliot and Lisa from @bluebaglife. Lisa and Elliot started telling their story of their relationship and experiences of addiction, prison, recovery, and support on their Instagram account. As the account grew they began to offer real life stories and perspectives from people in prison, addicts, recovering addicts and those in relationships with people currently in prison. Bluebgalife is growing a community for the voices of others to connect and form a motivated support network, in the hope of undoing shame and learning and educating to implement social change. Lisa and Elliot currently run workshops in UK prisons. In this podcast we discuss addiction, dating someone with an addiction, supporting loved ones in prison, taking children on prison visits and much more.

In this episode Lala is joined by Actor and Writer @t1official and self proclaimed 'Dating adviser' @thewayofthealpha_ This podcast features lots of shouting, interrupting and going round in frustrating circles. It's interesting but very jarring so be prepared for it's annoyingness.

In this episode Lala is joined by sexual harassment lawyer Deeba Syed from The Rights Of Women to discuss sexual harassment in the workplace. We answer questions from followers including: Can you report bullying/non-sexual harassment years after you have left the job? My boss has made several comments about me probably getting pregnant in the future during meetings. I feel uncomfortable with this. Do I have the right to be? My senior boss at work said that my Insta posts were too saucy and that men will start assuming that on my days off I get up to a certain kind of thing and that I should avoid bikini pics . What could I have done in this situation? I didn’t report it as I was scared of repercussions. What can you do if it’s a co-worker but if it’s outside of work? What do you do if there is no HR department at work? One guy from work gets handsy (arm around back or hand on knee) with females at the Christmas party every year. Everyone knows about it and even warn newer female employees to watch out for him but no one will do a single thing to stop him or even speak on his behaviour. He has never touched me or actually assaulted anyone else but is there anything I can do to make it stop? Is it sexual harassment if someone asks you out at work? My manager is a narcissist and now someone is leaving because of him. How do I deal with him? What is your advice to people who don’t think that they will be believed? I work in a male dominated environment – they have never been directly nasty with me but I hear the way that they speak about other women. They will talk about women they have slept with in really nasty ways and they often make sexualised comments about female customers. Do I have the right to say something even if it’s not directed at me? How do you deal with little ‘banter’ comments. For example – my manager spilt a bit of water on my foot and said ‘Sorry did I get you wet?” I knew what he meant but I know that if I had complained he would have been able to justify it because technically he did get me wet. How do we deal with things like that?

In this episode Lala is joined by @natashakbenjamin from the wonderful charity Free Your Mind @Freeyourmindcic. Natasha is an abuse survivor who now provides therapy to children who have suffered parental violence. Natasha's vital work with children has earned her the title of Lorraine Kelly's Woman Of The Year 2019. In this episode we answer questions from followers including: Can you ever fully recover from witnessing abuse in childhood? How does DV in childhood impact on us as adults? How do we spot the signs that a child is living in a violent household? How do we speak to children about abuse? And much much more! Please follow on your preferred platform, like, comment, and share if you enjoy x

In this episode Lala is joined by Claire from @earlymenopauseandme and clinical nurse specialist Georgia to answer questions about fertility, infertility, miscarriage, and all things related including questions sent in by followers including: Why are the NHS so unprepared? Why is there no space in the EPU or labour ward for women miscarrying? Why are early miscarriages palmed off when they have the same mental effect? When is the best time to bring up that you have a fertility issue with a partner? How do you cope with people constantly asking when you are going to have children? What does PCOS mean for fertility? 3 miscarriages in 12 months, how can I mentally deal with getting pregnant again? I am struggling to find my place in the world, if I am not a Mum, what am I? In the long term? How do I stop myself feeling bitter when I see shit parents? Is it insensitive or upsetting when you see people say they don’t want children or had termination? How do you support a friend or relative who desperately wants children but cannot physically have them? Can stress cause miscarriage? Donor eggs, pros and cons? How do you talk about it without people feeling bad for you? How can I feel hope?

In this week's episode Lala is joined by @sidemanallday and @stevothemadman1 to discuss questions sent in by followers including, do all men cheat, are belly rolls a turn off, gender roles, what would you teach your daughters about men, do men get the ick, and much much more!

In this episode Lala is joined by Ellie from @themummydiary and Zoe from @frolo_app to talk about the highs and lows of single parenting. The following questions were sent in by followers: I’ve just found out that I am pregnant after a one night stand. I am more than happy to do this on my own but I know that my child needs a Dad in their life and he deserves the opportunity to be a dad. I just can’t let go of the idea of having to hand over my baby to this person that ultimately I don’t want anything to do with. I would never deny him seeing his baby but I feel awful about it. When is the best time to introduce your kids to a new partner? Top tips for balancing working/earning money/ and childcare as a single parent? My ex and I aren’t together but he is supportive, his mum does 3 school runs for me a week so I really need her in my life, the problem is that she constantly makes comments about the kids coats or shoes not being right for the weather, or she’ll make sly digs about me always being at work. How do I handle this without losing her support? How can you make it work while co-parenting with a narcissist? My ex is now with the woman he left me for last year and has asked if our daughter can meet her. The thought of this makes me feel completely sick, what should I do? How the fuck do you juggle dating and being a single Mum? I am struggling Strategies for handling the responsibility of being solely responsible for everything. Mother’s guilt What are the good things about being a single parent?

In this weeks episode Lala is joined by @drnaomisutton from E4's The sex Clinic for a sexual health special. In this episode we discuss all things sexual health and contraception related. Including questions sent in by followers including: I am too embarrassed to get tested in a clinic. What are the alternatives? Is it common for older women to get recurring bouts of thrush? Since getting the coil fitted I get thrush every time I have sex. Could it be linked? I’m having really bad outbreaks of herpes at the moment and suppression treatment is not working. What do I do? My ex has given me an STI again. How do I get him to go and get treated? I've given him all the facts Can we talk about that new STI Mycoplasma genitalium? How do you explain herpes to a new partner? How do you prevent yourself from catching warts or herpes when condoms don’t always help with that? Is it dangerous or damaging for a woman to have sex in a bath/pool? Can you have sex whilst you’ve got thrush? Why do I get BV every time I sleep with my new partner? After being treated for an STI do you need to get tested again to be sure? Do you always get a flu like illness when you first catch HIV? Could you catch it without any changes at all? How can you have anal without things getting messy? Does anal mess with your bowel movements? How can I feel confident to have sex without the need for alcohol? Is it true that we could have HSV but never have an outbreak? Could an outbreak just come one day years after contracting the virus therefore meaning you wouldn’t know who gave it to you? MAKE SURE YOU CHECK OUT CHEEKYZEBRA CARDS WWW.CHEEKYZEBRA.COM

In this episode Lala is joined by two women who inspire her. Fitness guru Natasha Knight and charity founder and author Nicola Dad, both who have overcome all the madness that life has thrown at them to be bad ass inspirational women. In this episode we answer questions from followers including: How can you stop yourself from comparing yourself to your exes new girlfriend when she’s perfect? Can you love two men at the same time? Both completely different qualities. :) I am a 34 year old single woman and I haven’t had much experience. I can’t seem to find the confidence to just go for it. Help! Why are men so intimidated by strong successful women? What is life like after cancer? How do you stay motivated to go to the gym regularly when you are a lazy person? Is it a bad sign if a guy brings you to his Mum’s house for the first time and they both expect you to clean? He suggested several times that I clean his room. I would love some advice on overcoming low self-esteem in terms of body image. I have some permenant scarring on my chest and back and I don’t ever feel confident wearing strappy tops and it makes it hard to be intimate with someone new. I don’t know how to deal with my boyfriend. He is so jealous of my past and can’t deal with the fact that I’ve even had one. Long story short. I left photos on social media of my ex and he asked me to delete them a few times. But he’s a hypocrite because he’s been liking facebook pictures of people he’s slept with and he’s slept with a lot of people! I don’t even care about his past but his paranoia about mine is making me suspicious. He can’t seem to get his head around the fact that I don’t want my my exes back. He’s been going to counselling because he reacts really badly to things when it comes to my ex. He shuts me out – can be up to a week and says really nasty things which then cause me to feel insecure and worried that he might not want me. Help! I’m in recovery from alcohol addiction – I’m currently 8 months sober. On dates I always have to explain why I don’t drink which always ends up with me rabbling on and giving way too much detail on my recovery. When people say ‘oh one won’t hurt’ I feel like screaming and it puts me off them. What is the right amount to share? Should I really tell a date why I don’t drink? My friend is quite overweight and she constantly has a very bad odour down there! Other friends that have known her longer than me say that she has smelt like that since school. Whyyy! It’s honestly so bad. I want to help her and tell her but I feel awful. How do I get the message

In this episode Lala is joined by @karen_hobbs from @eveappeal Gynae Cancer Charity for a chat about gynae cancers, cervical screening (smear tests), sex, vaginas, and vulvas as well as answering questions sent in by followers including: If you have had abnormal cells removed does it just prolong getting cervical cancer or do your chances go back to that of someone without HPV? What is the process of the smear? What can you do if you find vaginal examinations traumatic? What is HPV? My smear test is due next year but I will be living in Abu Dhabi. I have previously had abnormal cells but I don’t know the system over there or whether I trust it completely. Can I get an early test in the UK for this reason? Can you please talk about pages that promote Yoni detox for purging the vagina? Do they work? Do we need to cleanse internally? Can your inner lips stretch over time, for example if you pull them to shave or dry yourself? Is there really a way to tighten the vagina – do exercises really work? My cousin has had vulva cancer 3 times, what are the chances of me getting it? My clit is really small and hidden/buried so I find it really hard to have a clitoral orgasm. Any advice? Does porn give us an unrealistic view of vulvas?

This week Layla is joined by special guests rapper and mental health advocate @anontheartistofficial and mental health vlogger @sorayastuart to discuss questions sent in by listeners including: My family aren’t understanding of mental health at all and feel that I just need to get on with it. I need to seek help before my mental health gets worse, but how can you deal with unsupportive relatives and friends? It’s really putting me off getting help What can I do to help my best friend? There’s days when she won’t speak or let me see her as she doesn’t want to see anyone. I feel like as her best friend I should be doing more but I don’t know what to say. I lost my Dad to suicide and I have a real fear of getting close to a man just in case they just leave in an instant. I have been single for 6 years, I just can’t bear the thought of getting close to someone for them to just leave. I recently came out of a short relationship with a guy with mental health issues (depression/anxiety)Unfortunately he ended things as he started to get anxious about the relationship What wold be your advice for dealing with mental health issues in a relationship and how to respect someone’s boundaries when starting something with someone with a history of mental ill health? I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. I am finding it very hard to get the correct help as I work full time but it affects my life massively. Any suggestions on self-help or is seeing a therapist my only way to cure this horrible disorder? How can you tell the difference between normal pain/heart-ache after a break up and real depression? How do you stop MH issues and traumas impacting on dating? Can being neglected and abused as a child make you treat your girlfriends badly even if you are in love? I have children and a professional career, I am in a dark place but I don’t want to seek professional help in case a referral is made to social services or my employers find out and think I am not capable of doing my job. What options do I have? What do you do when your anxiety has crippled you for months but you still have bills to pay and deadlines to meet? Is self-medicating with cannabis going to make things worse?

This week Lala is joined by @erin_budina and DJ @samsupplier to answer questions sent in by followers including: • What do men really want for Valentine’s Day? • Why do women throw themselves at DJs? My DJ boyfriend says that I can trust him but I don’t trust the women • I need help with my relationship. I have been with my fiancé for 3 years and he cheated on me 2 years ago. He continues to message his ex even though she has moved on and is happy. We have amazing sex and I feel like that is the only reason we’re together. What do I do?! • My long term partner often casually refers to women as slags / dirty slags and tarts. It is really putting me off him and making me lose respect for him. Are these differences in outlook deal breakers? Will it just end up driving us apart? • What do you do if your man won’t have sex with you? It kills my confidence like you wouldn’t believe. I have tried everything, from sexy lingerie to pretending I don’t care. We’ve been together for 14 months and I am going mad with frustration • I started talking to a guy on tinder, got on really well. After 48 hours of talking I decided I had to meet him and things went really well. The sex was intense and passionate and we told each other we loved each other. It feels 100% right. But can you literally fall in love with someone after 7 days of messages and calls and less than 48 hours in their actual company!? •What is the best way to deal with slut shaming on how you dress or act? • Would you stay friends with someone who was sleeping with a married man? Check out www.thesway.co.uk for amazing pleasure themed subscription packages

For this episode, we are looking at controlling and abusive relationships. Domestic abuse is often hidden behind closed doors, but for this episode we are joined by the charity Women’s Aid to bring it out into the open. We are joined by Sian Hawkins, Head of Campaigns and Public Affairs at Women’s Aid and Alex, a support worker on the National Domestic Violence Helpline which the charity runs in partnership with Refuge. Just to clarify, the charity does not endorse any products featured on this podcast or the podcast’s sponsors. In this episode we discuss Lala's followers topics including: What are the red flags for an abuser? How do you move on from someone who won't let you go? I am struggling with different information from social services and housing about what my rights are? My partner hurts me but I am dependent on him financially and emotionally. Do perpetrators programmes work? My friend is in a violent relationship, how can I make her leave him? My violent ex has a new girlfriend - should I warn her about him? I miss my abuser even though things were awful when I was with him. How do I handle mutual friends and family who have been charmed by the abuser and victim blame? Can an abuser change without professional help? My ex always put me down, how can I stop his words ringing through my head now I'm dating again? How do you help children who have witnessed DV? I have had 3 abusive partners - how do I break the cycle? What legal support is available? Why do survivors stay for so long? How can you ever trust anyone again after an abusive relationship? If a guy is really jealous and wants to control your every move is that domestic violence? Is it abuse if it is physical but non-serious like slapping, pushing, grabbing etc? Is it normal to suffer from PTSD after an abusive relationship? I am scared to leave my abusive partner because he has threatened to commit suicide if I do. And much more!!

This week Lala is joined by comedian and presenter Cassandra Maria and 3 shots of Tequila podcaster and promoter Tazer Black to answer questions sent in by followers including: Do you think we should stop listening to R Kelly’s music because of his behaviour? Should a man always pay on the first date and if he doesn’t does that mean he’s not interested? I’ve been seeing a guy for a few weeks now, he’s REALLY nice, he’s literally everything I’m looking for in a man, the nicest guy I’ve ever met. He told me the other day that he’s not ready for a relationship right now but wants to continue seeing me and getting to know me and hopes it will blossom into a relationship in the future. I’m confused, do you think I should keep seeing him? How can you tell a man that he doesn’t make you cum without hurting his feelings? Where are all the men? Where is a good place to meet single men outside of dating apps? My boyfriend wanks every morning while I’m in bed, even after sex the night before. Is this normal? I went on a date with a guy, it went well. We spoke again after the date about meeting up and he said ‘It’s my turn to buy the round next time” and now he just won’t reply. Why is he doing this? Are there any men out there who don’t get violent when they are stressed? This podcast is brought to you in collaboration with www.thesway.co.uk themed pleasure packages.

This week Lala is joined by Dan Mosaku @danagram_ from Channel 4's reality show The Circle and Gamer, presenter and Youtuber @elzthewitch to answer questions from followers including: Is it OK to date someone my ex friend dated 3 years ago? I see a guy on the train all the time on my way to college and we always make eye contact. I've recently seen that he has got a girlfriend, do I leave it alone or pursue it? Why do fuckboys say they don't want you but keep contacting you periodically? Is it true that men can stop themselves from cumming to quickly if they train their brain? Why don't men take condom usage seriously? If you invite a man over to hang does he automatically assume it means sex? Do men care what their friends think of their partners? If you get the ick can you un-ick? And much more....This podcast has been bought to you in collaboration with The Sway subscription pleasure package www.thesway.club

This podcast comes to you in collaboration with www.thesway.co.uk - Themed Pleasure packages, products and prompts for you and your partner, check them out to ignite a bit of new passion into your bedroom! In today's episode we answer the following questions sent in by followers - should dick pics be illegal? Due to a bi-polar disorder I had manic phases as a teen and slept with a very large number of people, will any man ever take me seriously? I work in porn and webcamming - how can I tell future partners what I do? What are you limits, what have you said no to? Best sex tips? Do you family and friends know what you do? How do I bring up with my partner that I want to be a lifestyle dominatrix? What do you do if you find a client really unattractive? Have you ever had any frightening experiences? Do you enjoy sex for work as much as you enjoy sex in your personal life?

This week Lala is joined by sex and relationship therapist Dr Karen Gurney (Instagram: @thesexdoctor) to answer questions sent in by followers - unfortunately due to having to edit out the third guest this podcast does sound a bit weird at times and some bits don't make sense at all so keep that in mind when listening!! In this episode we discuss - whether a spark is needed to keep a relationship alive, monogamy and whether it works, porn and it's impact on young people and sex, the female orgasm gap, vaginismus, myths around labia size and shape, and why some people can only orgasm when they are in one particular position! Enjoy! And Please rate and review if you do!

This week Lalaletmexexplain is joined by Radio presenter @elzthewitch and Vlogger @vanillatrilla to answer questions and topics sent in by followers, including - do women care if men are dating multiple people at once, advice on writing a dating profile bio, how to feel confident wearing sexy lingerie if you are not body confident, what to do if your partner lied about being tested and then gave you an infection, is it worth talking to a guy in prison, how do you not take ghosting personally, and am I paranoid for being suspicious about my partner's facebook activity. Enjoy!

This week Lalaletmeexplain is joined by two of her friends Anthony and Grace to answer questions and topics sent in by followers, including - Should you date someone if you've previously dated their friend? Does an old friend owe you loyalty if they are not in your life much now? The couple that has only ever had anal sex. Is it OK to speak to an ex when you are seeing someone new? How to approach your gym crush without looking weird? Is it morally wrong or realistic to have a child alone? And can you trust a partner who has cheated multiple times? Enjoy!

This is the first ever Lalalaletmexplain podcast with special guest @stevothemadman1. In today's episode we talk about women farting around men (we talk about it a bit too much to be honest), 'body counts', raising children in a sexualised society, women carrying condoms, how to keep a relationship spicy, and much more!