Lala's old podcasts

Lala's old podcasts

By Lalalaletmeexplain

This podcast delves into the highs and lows of modern day dating sex and relationships using dilemmas sent in by real people. Layla and her guests give raw and honest advice on topics that people are often too embarrassed or afraid to talk about. OVER 18 ONLY - ADULT CONTENT.


Podcast 41 - Online Grooming and Internet Safety with Breck Foundation

In this episode Lala is joined by Sarah Smith and Mark Harrington from Breck Foundation. Breck Foundation was created by Breck Bednar's mother Lorin following Breck's tragic murder by the person who groomed him online.
09/08/221h 20m

Podcast 40 - Kaz Crossley

This podcast is sponsored by - with my code: LALALA you can get 70% off the annual fee! I could not recommend them more highly. In this episode Lala is joined by ex Love Islander Kaz Crossley. Kaz is an amazing influencer who has recently fundraised to build a house for disadvantaged children in Thailand. This podcast covers dating dilemmas sent in by followers and discussions around experiencing domestic abuse.
02/02/221h 5m

Spectacular Big Tings - Dating and Fatness

In this episode Lala is joined by fat rights activist Danica Marjanovic (@danica_marjanovic) and Life Coach Kayleigh Dixon (@kdlifecoach) to discuss fatness and dating. We discuss questions from followers including: What is fat? Thickness is a trend but where is the line? Is the word fat OK or offensive? Is it wrong to utilise angles and lighting to hide your weight on dating apps? How do you differentiate between being someone’s type and being fetishized? The worry that they have underestimated your size in photos and how they will react in person and feeling the need to alert them to the fact that you are fat before meeting? Is it fatphobic to not find fat people attractive? How do I get rid of the feeling that I am not thin enough to be attractive to men? I internalise thoughts like ‘I can start dating again when I’ve lost a bit of weight’ Do I need to decrease my standards after gaining 15kg? Handsome men feel out of my league now. Men are definitely less interested in me now that I am larger. Lack of confidence during sex due to weight. Especially being on top.
02/11/211h 31m

Podcast 36 - Domestic Abuse In Depth with @alpha_vesta_cic

In this episode Lala is joined by Lucy Whittaker from Alpha Vesta CIC training to discuss some less commonly spoken about aspects of domestic abuse, including spiritual abuse, pet abuse, BDSM and abuse, and employer's responsibilities for training and supporting staff.
14/09/211h 53m

Podcast 35 - Laura Bates - Author of Everyday sexism and Men Who Hate Women

In this episode Lala is joined by author and founder of the Everyday Sexism Project Laura Bates to answer questions sent in by followers including, how can we change the minds of misogynistic men in our lives, how can we educate the young men in our lives, how to spot a fake feminist man, how to deal with sexism in the workplace, how can we shift the negative perceptions of feminism, how to keep the faith in good men existing......and much more.
27/07/211h 22m

Podcast 34 - with Mila Jam - Trans Activist and artist

This week Lala is joined by US based singer, dancer, and actress Mila Jam to answer questions sent in by followers including, how to stay authentic in a world full of fakes, dating as a trans woman, dealing with bullying at school and trolls online, dismantling the patriarchy and much more.
13/07/2159m 41s

Podcast 33 - HPV Information with Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust

In this episode, Lala is joined by Kate Sanger from Jo's Cervical Cancer Trust to discuss HPV. There is so much confusion around the subject of HPV so we have answered followers questions to try to give more clarity on the issue.
15/06/211h 25m

Podcast 31 Lala Explains with Lemar!!

In this week's episode Lala is joined by the amazing Lemar! Lemar rose to fame after staring in BBC's Fame Academy and went on to release 5 platinum albums. Lemar now has his own podcast 'The Lemar Show' where he delves into the music industry highs and lows with a range of special guests. This week Lemar and Lala discuss: Adjusting to fame Gender and race equality in the music industry Can you suggest tips for approaching a guy who isn't interested What will you be telling your daughter about boys and your son about girls? I've been with my boyfriend for 10 years but we haven't met each other's families or friends because he says he isn't ready. Am I being too demanding by trying to push it? Would it matter to you if a woman had been with one of your friends before you?
01/12/201h 29m

Podcast 30 Disability and Dating with @thatsinglemum & @joysworldthepodcast

This week's podcast is a dating and disability special featuring journalist and disability activist Cathy who has dwarfism(Insta @thatsinglemum) and podcaster Joy who has visual impairment (@joysworldthepodcast). In this podcast we discuss questions sent in by followers on the topic of disability and how that impacts on dating. Including: I have an invisible disability. When is the right time to bring it up when dating, and how? How do you calm anxiety when dating? How do you have conversations with disabled people, about their disability without being offensive? What should we not say to disabled people? Ableism is so rife. Can we discuss people feeling sorry for disabled people, and how they think we are sexless? Is fetishization a fear of yours? Is there anything that a person could do to allay those fears when starting a relationship with a person with a disability? How do you date as a single mum? Men always ask to come over when my child is asleep and I get called boring if I say no. I don’t get a lot of free time so it’s hard to navigate.
12/11/201h 47m

Podcast 25 - Child Sexual Exploitation and Abuse

For this episode Lala was joined Robin and Claire, two ex child abuse investigation detectives who are experts in the field of child safeguarding to discuss child sexual exploitation and sexual abuse. Robin Watts is a specialist trainer and you can hire him to deliver training to your organisation This podcast will give you the tools to understand how to protect your own children and children around you. I just listened back to it and I thought that there were a few bits that we missed out so I wanted to add them here.⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ If you suspect that a child has been the victim of sexual abuse do not ask leading questions. If it's proven that you asked leading questions it can impact the outcome in court. So don't ask "Did Daddy touch you?" ask "Can you tell me what happened with Daddy?"⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Have professional curiosity. If your gut tells you that something is wrong then hang on to that. Keep that child on your radar. Talk to other professionals in that child's life. Try to connect the dots. If a child is acting out and behaving in ways that make you dislike them then make an even bigger commitment to show up for that child. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ Sometimes victims become abusers, but that doesn't take away from their abuse. For example, sometimes gangs do 'line ups' where they will have one girl in a room who has to have sex with a line of boys. We might look at all of those boys as abusers, but a 13 year old boy who is forced to lose his 'virginity' in this way in a room full of his friends is also experiencing trauma. Sometimes female victims of CSE recruit friends for abuse, again, we need to see the bigger picture. They are all victims. ⁣⁣ ⁣⁣ When talking to victims of CSE we need to be careful about the language we use about the perpetrator. Calling him a disgusting piece of shit and saying he doesn't love you might be true, but the child has been groomed and feels loved. It might make them feel more defensive and less likely to listen. If you are a health care professional look for signs such as frequent hospital attendances. Ensure that you speak to the patient alone, if their boyfriend/girlfriend/alleged relative is always with them, then find a way to see them alone. If you need to report then contact the police or the children's service based in the area where the child lives. Google the child's local authority. Even if you don't have a lot of evidence it is still worth having a chat with a social worker. You can report anonymously to NSPCC too.
27/08/202h 35m

We Can't Consent To This - Trigger warning for discussion of rape and murder

In this podcast Lala is joined by Eve from the We Can't Consent To This campaign @wecantconsentto. They are campaigning for the law to be changed so that the rough sex defence can no longer be used to get lighter sentences when women are murdered and seriously harmed. They are also campaigning for choking. spitting and hurting women during sex to not be normalised in popular culture. This podcast includes graphic discussion about rough sex, murder and rape, but we also hope that it is an empowering conversation that will help women to feel more confident about expressing their needs in the bedroom and that will also inspire listeners to fight for change.
16/03/201h 51m

Podcast 20 - Challenging Misogyny with @t1officiall and @thewayofthealpha_

In this episode Lala is joined by Actor and Writer @t1official and self proclaimed 'Dating adviser' @thewayofthealpha_ This podcast features lots of shouting, interrupting and going round in frustrating circles. It's interesting but very jarring so be prepared for it's annoyingness.
19/01/202h 31m

Podcast 19 - A Workplace Harassment Special with specialist Lawyer Deeba syed

In this episode Lala is joined by sexual harassment lawyer Deeba Syed from The Rights Of Women to discuss sexual harassment in the workplace. We answer questions from followers including: Can you report bullying/non-sexual harassment years after you have left the job? My boss has made several comments about me probably getting pregnant in the future during meetings. I feel uncomfortable with this. Do I have the right to be? My senior boss at work said that my Insta posts were too saucy and that men will start assuming that on my days off I get up to a certain kind of thing and that I should avoid bikini pics . What could I have done in this situation? I didn’t report it as I was scared of repercussions. What can you do if it’s a co-worker but if it’s outside of work? What do you do if there is no HR department at work? One guy from work gets handsy (arm around back or hand on knee) with females at the Christmas party every year. Everyone knows about it and even warn newer female employees to watch out for him but no one will do a single thing to stop him or even speak on his behaviour. He has never touched me or actually assaulted anyone else but is there anything I can do to make it stop? Is it sexual harassment if someone asks you out at work? My manager is a narcissist and now someone is leaving because of him. How do I deal with him? What is your advice to people who don’t think that they will be believed? I work in a male dominated environment – they have never been directly nasty with me but I hear the way that they speak about other women. They will talk about women they have slept with in really nasty ways and they often make sexualised comments about female customers. Do I have the right to say something even if it’s not directed at me? How do you deal with little ‘banter’ comments. For example – my manager spilt a bit of water on my foot and said ‘Sorry did I get you wet?” I knew what he meant but I know that if I had complained he would have been able to justify it because technically he did get me wet. How do we deal with things like that?
28/12/191h 16m

Podcast 18 - Domestic Violence and Children with Natasha K Benjamin

In this episode Lala is joined by @natashakbenjamin from the wonderful charity Free Your Mind @Freeyourmindcic. Natasha is an abuse survivor who now provides therapy to children who have suffered parental violence. Natasha's vital work with children has earned her the title of Lorraine Kelly's Woman Of The Year 2019. In this episode we answer questions from followers including: Can you ever fully recover from witnessing abuse in childhood? How does DV in childhood impact on us as adults? How do we spot the signs that a child is living in a violent household? How do we speak to children about abuse? And much much more! Please follow on your preferred platform, like, comment, and share if you enjoy x
08/12/191h 46m

Podcast 8 - Lala Explains with Women's Aid - A Special Focus on Domestic Abuse

For this episode, we are looking at controlling and abusive relationships. Domestic abuse is often hidden behind closed doors, but for this episode we are joined by the charity Women’s Aid to bring it out into the open. We are joined by Sian Hawkins, Head of Campaigns and Public Affairs at Women’s Aid and Alex, a support worker on the National Domestic Violence Helpline which the charity runs in partnership with Refuge. Just to clarify, the charity does not endorse any products featured on this podcast or the podcast’s sponsors. In this episode we discuss Lala's followers topics including: What are the red flags for an abuser? How do you move on from someone who won't let you go? I am struggling with different information from social services and housing about what my rights are? My partner hurts me but I am dependent on him financially and emotionally. Do perpetrators programmes work? My friend is in a violent relationship, how can I make her leave him? My violent ex has a new girlfriend - should I warn her about him? I miss my abuser even though things were awful when I was with him. How do I handle mutual friends and family who have been charmed by the abuser and victim blame? Can an abuser change without professional help? My ex always put me down, how can I stop his words ringing through my head now I'm dating again? How do you help children who have witnessed DV? I have had 3 abusive partners - how do I break the cycle? What legal support is available? Why do survivors stay for so long? How can you ever trust anyone again after an abusive relationship? If a guy is really jealous and wants to control your every move is that domestic violence? Is it abuse if it is physical but non-serious like slapping, pushing, grabbing etc? Is it normal to suffer from PTSD after an abusive relationship? I am scared to leave my abusive partner because he has threatened to commit suicide if I do. And much more!!
03/02/191h 35m
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