Talking Sense with Dr Martha

Talking Sense with Dr Martha

By Martha Deiros Collado

Come and join Dr Martha Deiros Collado, clinical psychologist and mother, every Monday to get your parenting questions answered. Get a thought provoking lens on child behaviour that all parents witness and see every day and find ideas to support you and your child. Make sense of children’s behaviours, quirks, and communication, and notice how Talking Sense brings you closer to other parents and helps you feel that little bit less alone through this messy, yet beautiful, chapter we call childhood. Subscribe now and don’t miss an episode!

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Episodes

How to Respond to Children’s Requests For Toys?

Does your child ask for toys? Does it feel like they can never get ‘enough’ and a new thing is always on the horizon? Dr Martha discusses how to respond to children’s requests for more ‘things’ with three easy steps to guide you. She also offers 2 strategies to support you using these moments as opportunities for developing delayed gratification, teaching the value of choices, and managing disappointment. Given the festive period is on the horizon, Dr Martha also touches on how to prepare for a child’s ‘wish list’ for Christmas.  Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
21/11/22·33m 10s

How to Respond When Children Say Hurtful Words To Us?

If your child has ever said “I hate you!” or “you are the worst mummy/daddy ever!” it might have shaken you to the core and made you wonder if there was something wrong with your child (or you as their parent!). Dr Martha talks through what is really happening in these moments, how you can be most effective in your response, and strategies that will support your child in changing their words to something more respectful when big feelings show up.  Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
14/11/22·31m 58s

How Do I Build Gratitude With My Child Whose Cup is Always Half-Empty?

Have you ever organized a day out with all the things your child enjoys only to find them grumpy and telling you they want to go home? Yep… it’s happened to me too! As adults, you might see this as ungratefulness or plain rudeness – but there is something else going on here. Dr Martha walks you through why children appear ungrateful and what is realistically happening, along with what you can do in the moment and outside of these times to build a practice of gratitude.  Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
07/11/22·28m 54s

How To Deal With Others Judgement of Our Parenting?

As parents there will be times when you feel judged by others for the choices you make for your child. How can you respond towards your child at these times? What can you do or say that role models to others that you are doing the best job you can as a parent? And as an adult in the presence of children, what is your role in all of this? Dr Martha uses a real example to walk you through actions, words, and ideas to help you set respectful boundaries with your child and others when you are in public.  Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
31/10/22·29m 19s

How to respond to nightmares and night terrors?

Does your child have nightmares or night terrors? Do you know the difference? And does it even matter? Dr Martha takes a deep dive into this topic, explaining what may trigger a nightmare or a night terror, she explains their differences and similarities, and helps you understand how you can support your child through them. If you listened and found it useful take a moment to rate and review! Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast send an audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
24/10/22·31m 21s

How to Manage Silly Excitement in our Kids?

Are there times when you go out with your child and they seem to go a little bonkers, either saying or doing silly things that seem totally our of character? If this happens to you – you are not alone! Today Dr Martha talks about what happens when excitement becomes too much, how you can support your child in those moments and better still, the things you can do to prepare for times when this might happen. Have a listen, rate and review! Dr Martha mentions a book in this podcast you can have a look at it here: https://amzn.eu/hLUoqwG Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
17/10/22·32m 17s

When Children Pick a Favourite, What Can Parents Do?

Parental preference is a developmental stage most children go through. If you are the parent out of favour this can sting, and if you are the preferred parent of the moment it can be exhausting! What is the best thing to do at these times to support your child? How can you manage those deep feelings of pain that being rejected can bring? And if you feel touched out by your child, what can you do without rupturing your relationship? Dr Martha answers all of this and on todays podcast. Want to get simple parenting strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week? Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter, it’s launching soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com If you would like to be a part of the podcast email and audio question Dr Martha here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
10/10/22·31m 0s

How Should We Praise Children?

Praise is a hot topic at the moment and the messages can be confusing. Is it possible to overpraise a child? What kind of praise fosters self-worth and self-accomplishment? Are there unexpected outcomes of praise? Dr Martha answers all of this and gives you examples to help you make sense of what praise is, it’s impact, and how you can use it most effectively on todays podcast. Be the first to hear news and have simple strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week. Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter here, launching very soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
03/10/22·30m 59s

How Do I Teach My Child Frustration Tolerance?

Children get frustrated with small tasks easily. What helps children grow frustration tolerance? How can you support a child to persevere rather than give up? On todays podcast Dr Martha answers these questions and helps you understand what frustration is about and how you can help your child build a foundation to move through it. Be the first to hear news and have simple strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week. Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter here, launching very soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
26/09/22·28m 26s

What Can I Do To Stop My Child Running Off?

It is hard to keep a little one close by sometimes. How do you stop them from running off in a shop, or a car park? What boundaries are appropriate to set? And how will they learn that staying close to you is the safest option? Dr Martha talks about child development and helps you understand why children might run off from your side and what you can do about it on today's podcast. Be the first to hear news and have simple strategies and happy content land in your inbox every week. Sign up to Dr Martha’s Newsletter here, launching very soon! https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.co Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
19/09/22·25m 3s

How to Stop a Child Becoming a ‘Pushover’?

When children show empathy and kindness how do we make sure we also instill assertiveness in them? What helps children stand up for themselves and speak up? And what is our role as parents and adults in children’s lives? Dr Martha answers these questions on todays podcast. Dr Martha holds a list of favourite reads on useful topics including friendships and social skills. Find the reading list and further resources including sensory toys for soothing here:https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/resources Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
12/09/22·31m 8s

When Can We Expect Our Children’s Big Outbursts To Stop?

As our child gets older we might expect their emotional regulation skills to get better. When can we expect their outbursts to stop? How do we respond when our child is older and still shout at us? Dr Martha talks about this and a lot more on the topic of emotional regulation with older children. Dr Martha holds a list of favourite reads on useful topics including emotions. Find the reading list and further resources including sensory toys for soothhing here:https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/resources Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
05/09/22·33m 0s

How Do We Answer Our Children’s Questions About Death?

Children are curious about death. It can feel ‘magical’ and strange to them. We all hold different stories about death and making sense of this can help us answer our children’s questions more meaningfully. How can we talk about death without instilling fear? What are the keywords children need to hear to make sense of death? What can you do to look after yourself in this process? Dr Martha talks about this and more. If you would find it useful to have resources to talk about death and bereavement with children Dr Martha’s favourite reads to share with children can be found here:https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/resources Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
29/08/22·31m 43s

Should We Read ‘Classic Books’ To Our Kids Even If They Are Full Of Stereotypes?

We all know the classical stories and fairytales of our childhood. How do we feel about reading these stories now to our own children? What if we don’t agree with the stereotypes within them? Will it harm our children to hear these stories or will it make some of what we teach them seem ‘at odds’ with this? Dr Martha talks about some of the themes classic stories carry within them and what you can do with this, if you wish to. If you would like to read some different stories to your child Dr Martha has compiled a list of her favourite books, including some that deliberately re-story the classical fairytales of our childhood. Have a look for these stories. Find reading lists here:https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/resources Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
22/08/22·28m 8s

How Can I Stop Being A 'Shouty' Parent?

We all let out our anger on our children sometimes. How can you begin to make sense of your triggers? What message is Anger trying to tell you? How can you build a toolkit of resources that not only prevents you getting into ‘shouty mode’ but protects and recharges you to have more capacity to be with your child? Dr Martha reflects on all of this and more of this episode on Anger. Need further support to manage anger? There is help out there. Dr Martha has compiled a list of resources including useful charities and ways to access support alongside further reading on emotions. See all of this and more here: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com/resources  Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
15/08/22·33m 47s

Can I Tell My Child How They Make Me Feel Without Shaming Them?

We want our children to learn emotional literacy but how can we talk about how we feel without placing the burden of responsibility for looking after our emotions? Is it wrong to tell children that their behaviour has an impact on others? How does shame play into this? Dr Martha shares her insight on these big topics and offers a simple, actionable framework of how to talk about your feelings and teach your children a valuable lesson in communication and relationships. Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Dr Martha has a list of books she recommends to help support emotional literacy. Find them here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/drmdc_paediatric_psychologist/list/6SUI9EK6J4TJ Join Dr Martha’s community on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.martha.psychologist Sign up to receive Dr Martha’s weekly newsletter to hear news first: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
08/08/22·30m 42s

I Find Playing With My Child So Boring. What Can I Do?

Children want to play all day and it can feel relentless and dare I say it, even boring sometimes. What does play mean to your child? How can you be most effective when you join in play? And are there times when you can say no to your child and that be ok too? Dr Martha talks through all of this in more on this episode on play. Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Dr Martha has a list of toys by age range that she uses therapeutically and with her child. See these lists here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/drmdc_paediatric_psychologist?ref=cm_sw_em_r_inf_own_drmdc_paediatric_psychologist_dp_6SuBTRmJnttP4  Join Dr Martha’s community on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.martha.psychologist Sign up to receive Dr Martha’s weekly newsletter to hear news first: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
01/08/22·29m 10s

How Do I Stop My Child Hitting?

Children sometimes hit other children and sometimes, even you. This can be a big trigger and also raise your concern. Why do children hit? How can you make sense of this behaviour to make it stop for good? Dr Martha talks through what can lead children to hitting and offers ideas and strategies you can trust to redirect the behaviour and meet your child’s needs in a way that makes sense. Want to be part of the podcast? Email Dr Martha an audio recording of your question: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.com Access resources to talk about feelings with your child here:https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/drmdc_paediatric_psychologist/list/6SUI9EK6J4TJ Join Dr Martha’s community on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.martha.psychologist Sign up to receive Dr Martha’s weekly newsletter to hear news first: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
25/07/22·26m 53s

How Do I Support My Child Moving Schools When They Don’t Want To?

When children move schools it can be one of the first transitions they have awareness of, and even if it’s the right decision, it can be hard. Before you can have a new beginning you need to have an ending. Dr Martha talks through what transitions can bring up for you and for your child, offering ideas to support you moving through this in a way that allows both you and your child to process the change and come out the other side feeling more connected. Want to be part of the podcast and ask a question? Email Dr Martha an audio file here: podcast@drmarthapsychologist.comFind resources to support this conversation with your child here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/shop/drmdc_paediatric_psychologist/list/2QRL0IDA5RYYQJoin Dr Martha’s community on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.martha.psychologistSign up to receive Dr Martha’s weekly newsletter as soon as it comes out: https://www.drmarthapsychologist.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
18/07/22·30m 19s

Talking Sense Trailer

Come and join Dr Martha Deiros Collado, clinical psychologist and mother, every Monday to get your parenting questions answered. Get a thought provoking lens on child behaviour that all parents witness and see every day and find ideas to support you and your child. Make sense of children’s behaviours, quirks, and communication, and notice how Talking Sense brings you closer to other parents and helps you feel that little bit less alone through this messy, yet beautiful, chapter we call childhood. Subscribe now and don’t miss an episode! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
08/07/22·2m 41s
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