It Can't Just Be Me

Last week, it was reported that the middle-aged population in Britain is the loneliest in Europe, so Anna has invited TV presenter and broadcaster, Gaby Roslin, to interrogate why that might be.  Gaby is passionate about curbing the epidemic of loneliness, which can impact people of all ages and looks different for everyone. In this episode, she shares some of what she’s learnt from her investigations into loneliness – including tips on how to prevent it, as well as explaining just how detrimental loneliness can be for both our physical and mental health.  Alongside super-psychotherapist, Sam Pennells-Nkolo, Gaby and Anna offer advice to a listener in her 50s who feels lonely, despite having a busy and full life with family living close by. The trio offer her words of encouragement, recommend some strategies that might minimise her sense of loneliness, and suggest places where she could meet some like-minded folk.  This is our final episode for this season of It Can’t Just Be Me, so we’ll be taking a short-break. But, fear not… we’ll be back soon! Stay subscribed to keep up to date with all future episodes. — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on Youtube.

The entire nation was gripped by the lies and betrayals in the hit TV show The Traitors, with viewers particularly impressed by Jaz Singh’s (a.k.a Jazatha Christie) ability to sniff out the traitors. Today, Anna has Jazatha Christie himself in the studio to talk about earth-shattering family secrets, to which Jaz is no stranger. When Jaz revealed on The Traitors that his dad has a second family, he was overwhelmed with messages on social media from people going through similar heartbreak over family betrayals.   Together, Jaz and Anna tackle a dilemma from a listener who may be on the verge of a life-altering discovery. He’s unearthed something unexpected about his late dad that could force him to re-evaluate who his dad really was. Along with psychotherapist Fiona Kau, they debate the merits and risks of getting to the truth, bearing the consequences of finding out information you can't “unknow”, and what it means to re-build your life after secrets are unearthed.  — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on Youtube.  

The wellness industry is worth about $5 trillion worldwide and it feels like there's always something we should be spending money on to benefit our mind, body and soul. But the quest to feel our best can come at a cost that extends beyond the financial - it can impact our relationships too. Here to unpack the world of wellness, spirituality and radical healing with Anna is Charlotte Church (singer and founder of wellness and healing centre, The Dreaming) and Michele Knight (psychic, astrologer and Sunday-Times best-selling author).  Together, they discuss a dilemma from a listener who is skeptical about his partner’s belief in alternative therapies and the validity of the wellness industry as a whole. They also address a dilemma from someone who is concerned his partner is becoming overly dependent on her psychic.  During the conversation, Charlotte and Michele explore the tension between helping people and monetisation, the dangers of spiritual and psychic practices when not conducted ethically, and whether it’s possible to build a relationship with someone who fundamentally has different beliefs.   — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kim Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on Youtube.   Headshot by Rekha Garton

To mark International Women's Day this week, Anna puts the spotlight on one of the most dangerous issues that many women are facing - domestic abuse.  Anna is joined in the studio by Charlie Webster (award-winning broadcaster, journalist, and Women's Aid Ambassador) who shares her own moving story of surviving abuse, Sarah Davidge (Women's Aid Head of Research) and psychotherapist Fiona Kau.  Together, the group unpack a dilemma from a woman who had an abusive partner when her daughter was young. Along the way, they also touch on the subject more broadly, considering how society views victims of domestic abuse and what needs to be done to provoke meaningful change.  The advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. You can call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. There are further resources on the Women’s Aid website. — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on Youtube.   Headshot by Laura Ribatallada 

This episode centres around one powerful voicenote from a listener called Fiona – a trans woman who grew up in the 1950s. Fiona got in touch to share the turmoil she went through growing up and the ripple effect it’s had on her life. Fiona asks how we can stop young trans people today feeling the same level of shame and ultimately create a more accepting society for future generations.  To unpack this question, Anna is joined by one of the most prominent trans male voices in the UK today Jake Graf, along with Sarah Taylor – a trans-woman who appeared on Naked Attraction twice: once before transitioning, and once after.  Joining the trio, is Chris Sheridan (AKA - the queer-psychotherapist) to offer their expertise to this impassioned and important conversation about what it means to be transgender in the UK today. Jake is a patron for Mermaids, a charity that supports trans, non-binary, and gender-diverse young people and their families.  — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kim Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.

Nearly 14 million people watch porn every month in the UK alone. Yet, many people keep their relationship with porn under wraps – a secret between us and our screens. In this episode, Anna opens conversations about porn into the public sphere by having an honest and frank conversation about porn and the ethics behind its production. She’s joined by television personality, Megan Barton-Hanson, who made a name for herself on Love Island and is now one of the UK’s highest earners on Only Fans. And, she’s also joined by two friends of the show, sex educator and presenter, Ruby Rare, and psychotherapist Sam Pennells-Nkolo.  Together they discuss the porn industry, and interrogate a dilemma from a male listener whose female partner doesn’t approve of him suggesting they watch porn together. Plus, they also offer advice to a mum of three teenage sons about how to handle tricky conversations around porn and consent.  — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kim Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube.

For this Valentine’s Day special , Anna is joined in the studio by actor, broadcaster and CEO Kelle Bryan, alongside author Becky Holmes to deep dive into romance scams and coercive relationships. With psychotherapist Fiona Kau, Anna and her guests share their personal experiences of scams and coercive relationships and tackle a dilemma from a listener who’s worried their colleague is caught up in a romance scam. You can find out more about fraud, including how to report it, via ActionFraud. You can find suggestions of where to go for emotional support following a scam on this Citizens Advice page.  If you think you might be in a coercive relationship, you can call the National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247. There are further resources on the Women’s Aid website. — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kim Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. This episode is brought to you by The Better Menopause. Visit www.thebettermenopause.com to find out more and use special code "ANNA" for 15% off. 

A couple of weeks ago, Anna asked you to get in touch with your questions about the menopause. And, oh boy – did you deliver! We were inundated with your responses – which varied from questions about vaginal dryness, worries about the impact of menopause on libido, concerns around HRT, and experiences of mental health struggles during the menopause.  So today in the studio, Anna is joined by broadcaster and presenter, Kate Thornton and GP and menopause specialist, Dr Louise Newson. Together, they’re on a mission to answer your burning questions and share everything they know to support you through the menopause.  Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace an in-person consultation  with a trained professional. — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kim Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on YouTube. This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ANNA and get on your way to being your best self. 

Anna is joined this week by Irish icon, Vogue Williams – one of the few people who could bring a touch of humour to the difficult subject of grief. Vogue reflects on her own experience of navigating grief, after losing her dad, Freddie, in 2010. She recounts the guilt she felt following his passing, and – with the power of perspective gained after 14 years – considers her reaction in the early days of grief.  With the assistance of psychotherapist Fiona Kau, Vogue and Anna respond to a dilemma from a listener who is looking for advice on how to support her partner to move through the process of grieving his mother. And they also talk through a dilemma about grief and intimacy.  If you’re struggling with grief, help is available. You can call Cruse, the bereavement support group, on 0808 808 167. Mind also has information about where to find support following a bereavement, including links to specialised services and guidance on peer-support networks.  — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Producer for Mags: Faith Russell  Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. You can also watch the full episode on Youtube.  

This week, Anna is joined by comedian, author, actor and host of the podcast 28 Dates Later, Grace Campbell to talk all about family breakdowns over politics and toxic jealousy in friendships.  Anna, Grace and psychotherapist Fiona Kau discuss Grace’s experience growing up in a family where she witnessed her fair share of intense debates. Now, as an adult, Grace speaks about how she sees her feminism influencing her father's (Alastair Campbell) politics. Together, they get into a dilemma from a listener who has fallen out with a family member over differing political views, and discuss whether it’s ever possible to separate the person from their beliefs. They also tackle a dilemma from a listener who has intense feelings of jealousy towards her friend, and reflect on whether jealousy can ever be a useful emotion.    --- If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Executive Poducer for Mags: Faith Russell Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. And, you can watch the full episode on Youtube.

In today's episode, Anna digs into rage, anxiety and intrusive thoughts with Psychotherapist, best-selling author and fellow podcaster, Anna Mathur.  Together, they speak candidly about collective rage in the world today, the shame attached to anger and how to express this emotion in a healthy way in our personal relationships. They also tackle two dilemmas - one from a listener who’s struggling to live with her partner’s temper and another from a listener who is experiencing intrusive thoughts after having a baby. If you are worried that you might be in an abusive relationship, please see this NHS information and advice which includes how to get help and support.  If you are struggling with your mental health, please do reach out to your GP. The mental health charity, Mind, has online mental health resources that you can access, as well as helplines where you can get more information and advice on where to get support.  --- If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. And, you can watch the full episode on Youtube.

Is it ever possible to transition from a romantic relationship to a friendship? This week, Anna welcomes writer, actor, presenter, comedian and all-around National Treasure - Sue Perkins - to unpick this very question, along with the help of psychotherapist Sam Pennells-Nkolo. The trio hear from a listener who, after coming out as gay to her husband, is struggling with their new dynamic. Together they consider how deep love and respect can still exist in a relationship even when it's no longer romantic, how younger generations are finally embracing more fluidity when it comes to sexuality and Sam offers expert advice for our listener on how to navigate this situation with their children's welfare in mind. — If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates.  This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ANNA and get on your way to being your best self.”

This week, Anna invites the Labour MP for Birmingham Yardley into the studio to respond to a dilemma from a listener who is apprehensive about preparing for her second baby. She recounts just how challenging she found her first weeks and months of early motherhood and shares some of her unique memories of this time.  Anna and Jess are joined by psychotherapist, Sam Pennells-Nkolo, who shares her professional advice, as well as relating to Tiffany as a mum. The trio discuss the importance of building a network, consider the value they found in returning to work, and encourage Tiffany to be a little bit kinder to herself.  This episode discusses postnatal depression and puerperal psychosis (also known as postpartum psychosis) If you or someone you love has been affected by any of the topics covered in this episode, help is available.  The NHS website contains guidance on how to access support for postnatal depression https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/post-natal-depression/ and postpartum psychosis, https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/post-partum-psychosis/  — If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Sarah Myles Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. And, you can watch the full episode on Youtube.   This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/ANNA and get on your way to being your best self.”

This week we have a special treat for anyone missing the glitz and glam of the BBC’s Strictly Come Dancing – Anna is joined in the studio by the show’s head judge, Shirley Ballas! In the spirit of looking forward to the New Year, and the changes that may be on the horizon, they’re talking all about change, and how best to navigate it.  With the assistance of psychotherapist Fiona Kau, Shirley and Anna respond to a dilemma from a listener called Amanda. She’s experiencing two major changes – one personal, and the other professional – and is looking for advice around how to step into a new phase of her life. The trio dissect Amanda’s dilemma, sharing advice from their own experiences navigating life-altering events. This episode discusses suicide. If you or someone you love has been affected by any of the topics covered in this episode, help is available.  The NHS website contains guidance on how to access mental health support, and lists other helpful resources. https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/  The Samaritans also provide a safe space to call 24 hours a day at 116123.  Shirley is an ambassador for the Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM). You can learn more about their work and the support they offer at https://www.thecalmzone.net/  — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Sarah Myles Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. And, you can watch the full episode on Youtube.  

This week we’re looking back on some of the fun, powerful and moving moments captured on It Can’t Just Be Me so far.   Since launching the podcast, we've welcomed extraordinary guests and experts into the studio who have shared their personal stories with us and given their advice in response to your burning dilemmas. So here are just some of our highlights from the series - are they the same as yours?  Get in touch and let us know your favourite moments from the series so far! We’ll be back next week with a new episode of It Can’t Just Be Me.  In this episode, you will hear:  1:14 - Kinks, Icks, and Parenthood: An Extended Quick Fire Round with LalalaLetMeExplain 4:09 - Managing Perimenopause? With Gabby Logan 6:33 - Coming out as a teenager? With Riyadh Khalaf 12:21 - Questioning my sexuality? With Milena Sanchez 15:20 - Non-monogamy? With Ruby Rare 18:15 - Cutting down on alcohol? With Dr Alex George 20:37 - Festive Fun with Sophie Habboo — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editors: Pulama Kaufman, Patrick Carter Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for weekly updates. And, you can watch the full episode on Youtube.  

It’s a festive special in the studio today as Anna and guests tackle the classic seasonal dilemma of how to split your time at Christmas while doing your very best to keep everyone happy. Our listener Ellie is not only trying to figure out how to fit in time with family and friends alongside a job with anti-social hours, but she’s also in a long-distance relationship. Luckily, Anna has seasoned podcaster, TV personality and content creator Sophie Habboo on hand to help work through Ellie’s conundrum. Sophie not only co-hosts the podcast Wednesdays but she is, of course, co-star of the podcast Newlyweds with her husband Jamie Laing. Having spent several Christmases with Jamie’s family already, and with both parents living abroad, Sophie is no stranger to finding creative ways to portion up her time over the festive season. Bringing psychological expertise (as well as even more Festive magic) to the conversation is psychotherapist Fiona Kau. Together, Anna, Sophie and Fiona discuss why we put so much pressure on ourselves at this time of year, unspoken family dynamics and learning to make space for your partner’s family. Not to mention the guilt, arguments, and passive-aggressive emails! They also share advice for a listener who is, like so many of us, on a tight budget this Christmas, and offer up tips for someone who wants to approach the New Year with a more positive mentality.   So get comfy with your favourite festive treat. This one’s a Christmas feast for the ears!   … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for regular updates. 

Today’s dilemma is from an entrepreneur and mum to two young children. She’s finding it increasingly frustrating that the responsibilities of parenting aren’t split equally between her and her male partner. It’s a cliche she’s always been keen to avoid, so she wants to know what practical steps she can take to redress the balance in her relationship. Cue iconic shoe designer, entrepreneur, and mum to five – Sophia Webster. Sophia has found a way to make this seemingly impossible balancing act work, although she admits that it isn’t always easy and she doesn’t have everything sorted, by any means.  Anna and Sophia are joined by psychotherapist, author, podcaster and parenting specialist, Anna Mathur. Together, they discuss navigating the career and motherhood jigsaw puzzle; feeling “mum guilt;” and Sophia shares how she and her husband manage to work together, live together, and parent together, all at the same time. And, naturally, there’s also a lot of talk about shoes!  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram and @itcantjustbemepod on TikTok for regular updates

We are bursting with excitement as we have Dr Alex George in the studio this week to talk through a dilemma from a listener who’s thinking about cutting down on alcohol, in the run up to the festive season.  Dr Alex is a former A&E doctor, ex-Love Islander and expert Mental Health Ambassador. He gave up drinking in December 2022, so he couldn’t be better placed to give some advice to our listener.  With the help of psychotherapist Nadiyah Davis, Anna and Dr Alex talk about why it’s not just to do with the amount we drink, but also about reflecting on why we drink and how it makes us feel. They explore what we might gain from cutting down on alcohol, how to deal with the social side of not drinking, and share tips for anyone thinking of giving it a try. They also give advice to a listener seeking purpose in their life, and another listener experiencing Seasonal Affective Disorder.    If you’re worried about your alcohol consumption, please see this NHS webpage that has more information and includes advice about getting the help you might need: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/alcohol-misuse/ . You may also like to contact the charity With You who provide free, confidential support to people in England and Scotland who have issues with drugs, alcohol or mental health.   

Come on into this episode where we’re talking all about coming out as a teenager.    In the studio with Anna, we have the inspiring LGBTQ+ advocate, author, TV presenter and celebrity-masterchef, Riyadh Khalaf.  Riyadh’s challenging, but incredibly powerful, story of coming out as a teenager to his then Irish Catholic mother and Iraqi Muslim father, means he has much wisdom to pass on to our listener today. Our dilemma is from a listener struggling to come out to her parents, whilst also dealing with grief over losing the only family member who knew she was gay and who was a great support to her.  Alongside Riyadh, we have best-selling author and much-loved psychotherapist, Owen O’Kane. Owen not only generously shares his expertise but also has his own coming out story to share, having come to terms with his sexuality while training to be a priest.  Anna, Riyadh and Owen have a conversation filled with warmth, laughter, pain and joy where they offer concrete advice to our listener on finding connection and acceptance, chosen families, bringing shame out into the light and, throughout it all, finding your courage.    While this episode is an inspiring listen, it does mention self-harm, suicide and a non-consensual sexual encounter. So please approach the episode with care.  If you or someone you love has been affected by any of the topics covered in this episode, help is available.  The NHS website contains guidance on how to access mental health support, and lists other helpful resources. https://www.nhs.uk/mental-health/ The Samaritans also provide a safe space to call 24 hours a day at 116 123.  The 24/7 Rape & Sexual Abuse Support Line run by Rape Crisis England & Wales offers support to anyone of any gender aged 16+ in England and Wales who has experienced any form of unwanted sexual behaviour. Webchat is available via the website at https://rapecrisis.org.uk, or you can call them at 0808 500 2222.  Rape Crisis Scotland provides support for Scottish listeners via their website http://www.rapecrisisscotland.org.uk or via a call to 0808 801 03 02 Finally, the LGBT Foundation offers a range of services, support and information to lesbian, gay, bi and trans people. Phone: 0345 3 30 30 30 (Daily 10am-10pm) https://lgbt.foundation — Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative  Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom  Executive Producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Grace Victory is one of those people who just draws you in — she is utterly compelling. So, it was a total pleasure to have her join Anna in the studio to offer some advice to a listener who is struggling with intimacy following a previous trauma. Having experienced trauma herself — both in her early years, and more recently — Grace generously shares her own story and the wisdom she's gathered on her own healing journey.  With the assistance of super psychotherapist, Sam Pennells-Nkolo, Grace and Anna discuss the listener’s dilemma, consider its echoes with Grace’s story, and ultimately share advice on how the listener can begin to confront her challenges with intimacy. They also consider the contested question of young children and screen-time, and what gifts to buy for a new mother.  This episode is powerful and amazing, but Grace’s story does cover heavy topics such as abuse, domestic violence, eating disorders, anxiety, sexual assault, and depression. So please approach the episode with care.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Anna can really relate to this week’s dilemma - it comes from a woman who’s severely struggling with her perimenopause symptoms and is asking why it seems to be so much harder for some women than others.  So, Anna has called on the expert sports broadcaster and host of The Mid.Point podcast, Gabby Logan, to share her sage advice. With the assistance of TV doctor extraordinaire, Dr Ellie Cannon, Anna and Gabby share anecdotes from their own perimenopause and suggest some of the tips and tricks that have helped them navigate this aspect of their mid-life journeys. The trio discuss the medical options available to those dealing with difficult menopause symptoms, highlight the importance of caring for and understanding our bodies as we grow older, and consider the value of naming and identifying the menopause to our families, friends and colleagues.  To hear more from Gabby on the subject of mid-life, you can listen to her brilliant podcast The Mid.Point (https://podfollow.com/midpoint). And you can find out more about Menopause Matters, the magazine and forum that supported on us on this episode, via their website. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

One more week until It Can't Just Be Me returns with special guest Gabby Logan! In the meantime, how's this to keep you busy? This is an episode of Where's Home Really?, an award-winning podcast that sets out to  discover what home means to famous faces from the worlds of TV, music, comedy, food and beyond. In this episode, Jimi meets chef, author and broadcaster Andi Oliver. to discuss cultural appropriation, jerk rice and the time Andi accidentally joined a punk band. You can subscribe to Where's Home Really? wherever you're listening to this. ___________________________________ Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com

We've got a little treat for you before Anna is back to solve more of your dilemmas and prove that it's not just you. This is an episode of Go Love Yourself, an award-winning podcast that’s helping us love ourselves a little more.  You might know its host, Laura Adlington, from the 2020 Bake Off final. Along with her best mate Lauren, Laura is unlearning everything she's been taught about body image, acceptance and confidence. This episode is about the effect that magazines have had on our body image and what we can do to repair the damage - we think you'll love it. You can find Go Love Yourself wherever you're listening to this. ___________________________________ Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com

There’s no question about it - sex is a big deal in an intimate relationship. How often do we have it? How do we feel about it? Do our expectations align with our partner? And, how should we communicate when they don’t?  Well, this week Anna has a listener dilemma that skirts around all of these questions. It’s from a woman in a happy relationship, who’s looking for some advice on how to navigate her dwindling desire for sex with her partner. To help out with this one, Anna is joined by someone who is no stranger to talking about sex on a podcast —  the brilliant TV chef and previous co-host of Sex, Lies & DM Slides, Gizzi Erskine.  With the help of super-psychotherapist, Sam Pennells-Nkolo, Gizzi and Anna offer advice — suggesting some tools and tricks to the listener about how to build intimacy, ask for what you want sexually, and understand your own desires. We’ve had so many emails about this in the It Can’t Just Be Me inbox, so I know this is one that lots of you will be interested in.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

It’s Mental Health Awareness day this week, so who better to join Anna in the studio than mental health advocate and the host of the Hurt to Healing Podcast, Pandora Morris. Pandora’s story is one of survival and resilience. And, in today’s episode, she shares her journey in response to a listener’s dilemma — as a reminder that everyone’s mental health journey is different. With the guidance of psychotherapist, Shabnam Yasmin, Anna and Pandora respond to a dilemma from a listener who found that having a dog was detrimental to their mental health. What follows is a powerful and moving conversation around the complex topic of Mental Health and positions of responsibility and care. The trio also offer advice to a listener who is struggling with dating and anxiety, and they respond to a dilemma from a listener thinking about changing career. We speak about eating disorders, OCD, anxiety, and severe mental health struggles in today’s episode. So, please take care when considering how, and when, to listen. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

This week, Anna is responding to a dilemma from a woman in her late 40s who has questions around her sexuality. This listener was in a relationship with a man for 30 years, but after the breakdown of this marriage, she had a whirlwind romance with a woman. Now, she’s navigating teenage kids, questions around her sexuality, and to top it all off… the menopause. Yikes!  To help Anna get to the bottom of this dilemma, she’s joined by the brilliant Milena Sanchez. Milena is one-third of The Receipts Podcast, and has a lot to share on the topic of this dilemma, having come to terms with her own sexuality after the birth of her daughter. With the assistance of Julian Pascal-Saadi, a psychotherapist with specialities in sexuality and gender, Anna and Milena offer advice to the listener drawing on their experiences navigating their own sexuality.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Anna’s getting the low-down on non-monogamy this week, and, who better to guide us through this rich and fascinating topic than sex-positivity advocate, and practicer of non-monogamy themselves, Ruby Rare.  Ruby offers some guidance to a listener who has just opened up their previously monogamous relationship and is asking for some advice around how to approach conversations about their new sexual-liaisons with their long-term partner. With the assistance of Chris Sheridan (The Queer Therapist), Ruby shares some top tips and tricks on how they make non-monogamy work in their relationship. And, they open up about all the beautiful ways non-monogamy has enhanced every aspect of their life.  We also chat about tough break-ups and a certain condition that will spark a sense of dread in anyone with a vagina — thrush! So, buckle up for a sexy, but informative, ride! … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Charles Tomlinson Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Anna Richardson is back with a brand new season of It Can’t Just Be Me, and she's primed and ready to answer your burning questions! To kick-start the season, Anna is joined by superstar anonymous Agony-Aunt, LalalaLetMeExplain.  Anna and Lala trawl through some of the juiciest dilemmas in the inbox. From belly-button kinks, parenthood, icks, and dating apps - Anna and Lala leave no stone unturned and have a good old laugh along the way.  For more from LalalaLetMeExplain, you can listen to her podcast It’s Not You, It’s Them…But It Might Be You Please note, this episode strays into a discussion around blurred boundaries in relationships. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producers: Laura Williams and Christy Callaway-Gale Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @itcantjustbemepod and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

You loved the glorious Cici Colman when she joined me for last week's episode of It Can't Just Be Me. So, I'm sharing the first episode of her brilliant podcast, First Dates: The Podcast with you this week whilst I take a break for the summer. First Dates: The Podcast, is like a podcast version of the debrief you have with your best friend after you've gone on a first date. Co-hosted by Cici and the fabulous Frankie Bridge - I just know you're going to love it! You can find the show wherever you're listening to this or on listentofirstdates.com.

Cici Coleman is amazing at many things — she's the nation's favourite waitress, the co-host of First Dates: the Podcast, and a brilliant fitness and life coach. But, one thing Cici isn’t very good at is making decisions. And there's one decision that plagues her more than any other — whether or not to have children.  So, for this episode, I’ve beckoned her into my podcast studio to respond to a dilemma from a woman who is child-free by choice and is struggling with feeling like she has to explain her decision to others.  With the help of Zoë Noble — the founder of We Are Childfree — Cici and I delve into a discussion about being childfree. We consider the childfree choice, how best to communicate our decisions about parenthood to others, and offer advice to listeners about how to engage with childfree women.  You can listen to all new First Dates: The podcast, co-hosted by the wonderful Cici, via this link. And, you can find out more about Zoë Noble's We Are Childfree photography series here.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com. This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Sarah Myles Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

It’s no secret that I love talking about sex… and judging by our inbox, it seems that you lot do too! So, I decided that the time has come to give the people what they want — advice about sex, pleasure, and everything in between! To help me get stuck into this sexy special, I’ve invited our resident psychotherapist — the fabulous Sam Pennells-Nkolo — to join me.  It’s a hot and steamy ride — from secret masturbation, orgasms, infidelity, long-distance relationships, and even some scandalous personal revelations from me. You’re going to love it! … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Sarah Myles Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

It's been more than ten years since Sali Hughes, The Guardian’s resident beauty columnist, went through a divorce. But she says it's still the most traumatic thing she's ever been through. In this episode Sali joins Anna and divorce coach, Maxine Clancy, in the studio to reflect on her experience and offer advice to a listener in the early stages of a separation. Together they share tips on how to approach the horrible practical tasks that come with a separation — like divvying up shared stuff — and offer some glimmers of hope about what’s waiting on the other side. You can stay up to date with Sali via her Instagram. And if you or someone you know is going through a separation, they might be in need of some heartbreak therapy from today’s brilliant expert: psychotherapist and divorce coach Maxine Clancy. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Ever wondered if you have ADHD? In the past it seemed like this was a label reserved only for naughty boys, but these days more adults than ever are being diagnosed with the condition. Which begs the question: do some of us have it and don't even know? In this episode Anna is joined by comedian Shaparak Khorsandi, whose life was transformed for the better when she was diagnosed with ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) in her forties. With the support of NHS consultant psychiatrist Dr Jessica Eccles, Anna and Shaparak explore how ADHD can affect us as adults, and what we can do if we suspect we have it. We want to thank the wonderful Sarah and Chris from the online community HeyDHD who helped us out for this episode. You can follow them here. To learn more about Shaparak’s ADHD journey, you can read her book Scatterbrain, available in all good bookshops. And you can find out more information about Dr Eccles' research at @drbendybrain. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Pulama Kaufman Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Feed your soul with nourishing conversations from two best friends, one therapist - and zero filter. Listen to Best Friend Therapy with Elizabeth Day and Emma Reed-Turrell on Global Player or wherever you get your podcasts.

Everyone wants to look their best for their wedding, but is it healthy to lose weight just for the big day? In this episode Anna is joined by Geordie Shore icon, body positivity advocate and soon-to-be-bride Vicky Pattison. Together, the pair grapple with a dilemma from a nutritionist who’s feeling conflicted: she tells her engaged clients they shouldn't lose weight just to look 'better', but now her own big day is coming up she's tempted to shed some pounds for the sake of those photos. With the expert guidance of Anna Sinski, a psychotherapist and food coach, Anna and Vicky consider why people feel the pressure to lose weight ahead of a wedding, and how to manage this. To hear more from superstar guest, Vicky Pattison, you can listen to her podcast The Secret To, or follow her on Instagram and Twitter. Content Warning: This episode includes discussions around weight loss and body image. Please only listen if these kinds of conversations are helpful for you. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Charles Tomlinson Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Suzi Ruffell is a professional comedian, a parent, and one of few people who has managed to turn crippling anxiety into a successful comedy show. So Anna knew she was the person to call on for this week’s dilemma, which comes from a parent who's feeling anxious about the fact they're feeling anxious. With the help of our resident psychotherapist, the wonderful Sam Pennells-Nkolo, Anna and Suzi consider whether parents should be honest with their children about their anxieties, or if they should try and keep them hidden. They ask: is anxiety just part-in-parcel of being a parent? And - if we reframe it - is it actually the ultimate expression of parental love? If you want to hear more from Suzi (why wouldn’t you!) - you can listen to her brilliant podcast OUT, or her podcast Like-Minded Friends with Tom Allen. And you can follow her on Instagram and Twitter to stay up to date with all the latest news. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Sarah Myles Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Owen O’Kane is a best-selling author and a qualified psychotherapist. His advice is hailed by the likes of Benedict Cumberbatch, Dame Kelly Holmes, and Fearne Cotton, so Anna is keen to make the most of having him in the studio and mine him for as much advice as possible.  In order to take full advantage of Owen’s expertise, this episode runs a little differently than usual. Anna puts several listener dilemmas to Owen — ranging from bringing a partner home after coming out as gay, dating as a dog parent, burn-out, and grieving the breakdown of a friendship. Owen’s advice is as broad-in-topic as it is fascinating. There really is something for everyone in this episode! You can find out more about Owen and his brilliant work by visiting his website, and you can buy his three books — How To Be Your Own Therapist, Ten Times Happier, and Zen to Ten — at all good booksellers.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Actor Evanna Lynch has come a long way since she played Luna Lovegood in the Harry Potter films. In this episode she looks back on her own relationships and mental health struggles to offer advice to a listener who’s concerned her partner is depressed. Anna and Evanna are joined by our resident psychotherapist Sam Pennells-Nkolo from The London Practice, as they ask: how much responsibility do we have for our partner’s happiness? And, if they won’t get help, at what point should we just walk away? This episode touches on the subject of suicide, so do bear this in mind when you’re deciding if and when to listen. If you’re struggling, or you’re worried about someone else, you can get 24/7 support from The Samaritans at samaritans.org or on 116 123. You can also call CALM at 0800 58 58 58. Lines are open between 5pm and midnight.  Evanna’s book The Opposite of Butterfly Hunting is a memoir about her childhood, and battle with an eating disorder. She is also a tenacious animal cruelty activist, and co-hosts the podcasts The ChickPeeps and Just Beings.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

When comedian Sarah Keyworth lost their good friend Paul, they were floored by the strength of their grief. In the end, the only way to process it was to talk about the friendship in their stand-up routines, and relive the joyful, and sometimes silly, moments they enjoyed together.  In this episode, Sarah reflects on their experience as they join Anna to unpack a dilemma from a listener who is grieving two important people in his life, and is struggling to move on. This episode touches on the subject of suicide, so do bear this in mind when you’re deciding if and when to listen. If you’re struggling, or you’re worried about someone else, you can get 24/7 support from The Samaritans at samaritans.org or on 116 123. You can also call CALM at 0800 58 58 58. Lines are open between 5pm and midnight.  Sarah Keyworth has appeared on TV shows including Live at the Apollo and 8 out of 10 Cats, and presented their own BBC Radio 4 series Are You a Girl or a Boy?. You can also listen to their podcast Thank F*ck For That here. Anna and Sarah are supported in the studio by the wonderful psychotherapist Louiza Davies, who specialises in bereavement, anxiety and stress at The London Practice.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

This week's dilemma is one of the rawest we've had so far, so we brought Kate Ferdinand (the queen of blended families!) into the studio for some expert support. Listen in as Anna and Kate help out a step-mum who admits that when her stepchildren are around, she resents not being her partner's 'number one'. Along the way Kate discusses being step-mum to footballer Rio Ferdinand’s kids, and shares some of the challenges she’s faced.  Anna and Kate are joined in the studio by the brilliant psychotherapist Sam Pennells-Nkolo from The London Practice. Kate Ferdinand is a big advocate for championing and celebrating blended families. You can hear more from her by listening to her podcast Blended, or reading her book How To Build a Family. Kate’s latest book, The Family Tree, is out on the 8th of June. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

When Izzy Judd and her husband Harry decided to start a family, they had no idea what kind of journey lay ahead of them. They battled through miscarriage, IVF and some very dark days to get to where they are now - a happy family of five. In this week’s episode Izzy joins Anna to tackle a dilemma from a midwife who’s going through IVF. She wishes her friends and family could understand what she’s going through and stop suggesting she should ‘just adopt’ instead. Anna and Izzy are joined by Anne Bracken for this episode. Anne is a specialist fertility counsellor and author of Mind Body Baby. We’d like to thank The Fertility Network and The Fertility Foundation for their help and advice for this episode. We encourage anyone struggling with their fertility journey to access their resources online.  … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast touches on adult themes, including miscarriage and suicidal ideation, that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Medical doctor and TV presenter Ranj Singh came out at the age of thirty after being married to a woman. In this episode he and Anna reflect on their own experiences of coming out, and unpack a dilemma from a gay woman who wants her male exes to know that their relationship was authentic. We want to thank Erene Hadjiioannou who joined Anna and Ranj for this recording. Erene is an Integrative Psychotherapist who specialises in LGBT+ matters. In the episode Erene recommends a resource called Mapping Your Sexuality. You can find it here.  Dr Ranj also recommended The Sleep Charity. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Comedian Rosie Jones joins Anna to tackle a dilemma from a woman preparing to get back on the dating scene. Along the way Rosie opens up about her own dating history, and reveals the moving moment she realised she was worthy of love as a woman living with cerebral palsy. Anna and Rosie are joined in the studio by Jennie Williams, CEO of Enhance the UK. This charity runs The Love Lounge, an initiative that gives disabled people one-to-one advice on dating and intimacy. We want to thank Enhance the UK for their support in making this episode. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Scarlette Douglas (I'm a Celeb 2022, A Place in the Sun) helps Anna unpack a dilemma from a woman who thinks her boyfriend resents her successful career. In this episode Scarlette offers her advice and opens up about her own experience with an ex who she felt wasn’t supportive of her dreams. Anna and Scarlette are joined in the studio by psychotherapist Sam Pennells-Nkolo from The London Practice. … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional. For more information and resources on the topic of controlling behaviour go to womensaid.org.uk or refuge.org.uk From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

In the first episode of this series, Anna is joined by love and relationship coach Mel Schilling to tackle dilemmas on break-ups, friends who won’t take good advice, and telling your dates you don’t want kids. You’ve probably seen Mel advising new couples on Channel 4’s Married at First Sight. But while she’s an expert, she’s had her own fair share of ups and downs in the relationship department, so she really knows what she’s talking about! … Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. Please note that advice given on this podcast is not intended to replace the input of a trained professional. If you’ve been affected by anything raised in this episode and want extra support, we encourage you to reach out to your general practitioner or an accredited professional.  From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates

Anna Richardson is primed and ready to solve that big dilemma in your life. And she’s invited some very special celebrity guests and experts to help. Have questions about sex? Divorce? Motherhood? Menopause? Mental health? With no topic off limits, Anna’s here to prove that whatever you’re going through, it’s not just you. If you have a dilemma you’d like unpacked, visit itcantjustbeme.co.uk and record a voice note. Or tell Anna all about it in an email to itcantjustbeme@podimo.com This podcast contains adult themes that may not be suitable for children. Listener caution is advised. From Podimo & Mags Creative Producer: Alice Homewood with support from Laura Williams Editor: Kit Milsom Theme music: Kit Milsom Executive producers for Podimo: Jake Chudnow and Matt White Follow @annarichardso and @podimo_uk on Instagram for weekly updates