The One You Feed

The One You Feed

By Eric Zimmer|Wondery

"This podcast saved my life"- Amy W

Practical Wisdom for a Better Life

Open minded discussions of habits, meditation, wisdom, depression, anxiety, happiness, psychology, philosophy, and motivation.

Episodes

405: Jonah Sachs on Unsafe Thinking

Jonah Sachs is an author, speaker, and viral marketing trailblazer who helped spur the 21st-century values revolution, which brought the ideas of social change to the forefront of business and popular culture. Jonah’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Washington Post, CNN, Fox News, NPR, and many others. He also pens a column for Fast Company, which named him one of today’s 50 most influential social innovators.  In this episode, Eric and Jonah talk about the ways he encourages and challenges us to think differently in an effort to bring forth important social change.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonah Sachs and I Discuss Unsafe Thinking and …His book, Unsafe Thinking: How To Be Nimble and Bold When You Need It MostHis organization “One Project” and its important missionHow his unique storytelling approach creates a compelling narrative for important social changeWhat individuals can do to contribute to changeThe radical act of volunteering more and working for pay lessThe safe thinking cycle is relying on your old patterns of thinkingWhat fear and stress do in our brainLearning to use fear as a way to empower yourselfHow stepping out into the uncomfortable zones is what leads to changeMotivational synergy is about focusing on both the intrinsic motivational factors and extrinsic motivation to keep it goingCreative work and understanding the trap of intuitionCultivating intuition by continuing to explore new ideas and ways of thinkingHow redefining problems can lead to new solutionsJonah Sachs Links:Jonah Sach’s WebsiteTwitterBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you enjoyed this conversation with Jonah Sachs on Unsafe Thinking, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Effectively Thinking Ahead with Bina VenkataramanLessons About the Brain with Lisa Feldman Barrett
18/06/2155m 24s

404: Scott Stabile on Perfecting Self-Love

Scott Stabile has amassed a sizable following on social media with his inspirational and provocative quotes, essays, and videos. His previous work includes Big Love, Just Love, Iris, and the Li’l Pet Hospital series. He also wrote a feature film entitled Oogieloves In The Big Baloon Adventure. He’s a regular contributor to the Huffington Post and runs empowerment workshops nationally and internationally.In this episode, Eric and Scott talk about self-love; the myths about it, the things that stand in the way of it, and how we can cultivate more of it. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Scott Stabile and I Discuss Perfecting Self-Love and …His game-changing realization that he can show up with love for himself no matter which wolf he’s feedingHow he’s releasing self-judgment and what he’s then left withThat our thoughts create our feelings and it’s worthwhile to explore that within ourselvesHow we can become addicted to our miseryExpansion as a healthy and healing coping mechanismHis beautifully extreme practice of self-loveHow he cultivates peace and ease in his life through his choicesKnowing for ourselves that we can feel our feelings and survive themThe truth that we all have divine, creator energy within us, the same energy that created planets and stars is within usThe relationship between our thoughts and our emotionsThe big impact of realizing the ways we are already loving ourselves throughout our dayThat the reason we want the things we want is because of how they will make us feel and how we can give ourselves the gift of these feelings nowThe things we can do to create more joy and connection in our lifeScott Stabile Links:Scott Stabile’s WebsiteFacebookInstagramCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfAura Digital Security provides digital security protection to keep your online finances, personal information, and tech safe from online threats. To sign up and get 3 months of service for free, visit aura.com/wolf.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Stabile on Perfecting Self-Love, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Scott Stabile on Mindfulness, Love, and Forgivess (2017(Omid Safi on Radical Love
15/06/211h 0m

403: Valerie Mason-John on Recovery Through Buddha's Teachings

Dr. Valerie Mason-John is a public speaker and master trainer in the field of conflict transformation, leadership and mindfulness. Valerie is the award-winning author of 8 books, and the co-author and co-founder of Eight Step Recovery: Using The Buddha’s Teaching to Overcome Addiction. Since its publication, it has won the Best USA Book Award 2014 and Best International Book Award 2015 in the self-motivational and self-help category. In this episode, Eric and Valerie discuss: Eight Step Recovery: Using the Buddha’s Teaching to Overcome AddictionBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Valerie Mason-John and I Discuss Recovery Through Buddha’s Teaching and …Their book,  Eight Step Recovery: Using the Buddha’s Teaching to Overcome AddictionTheir history of addiction to drugs, alcohol, and disordered eatingTheir traumatic history leading to multiple addictionsThinking of expansive values at the center of our livesHow addiction is an adaptive behavior to soothe ourselvesThe first 3 steps of their recovery process are based on the 4 noble truthsHow we can’t avoid pain, but we can learn to avoid sufferingHow we can become addicted to our “stinking thinking”Meditation helps regulate the central nervous systemWhat it means to seek refuge in dealing with addictionHow the Buddha achieved freedom from the prison of the mindDharma teachings that point us to the truth and freedomThe benefit of Sangha or community in overcoming addictionValerie Mason-John Links:Valerie Mason-John’s websiteTwitterFacebookInstagramStitch Fix knows that when you look your best, you feel your best. Every piece is hand-picked for your fit, your style, and your life. Visit stitchfix.com/wof to take your style quiz and get 25% off your order when you keep everything in your fix. KiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comBiOptimizers: Just 2 capsules of their Magnesium Breakthrough taken before bed gives you all 7 forms of magnesium so that you sleep better at night. Go to www.magbreakthrough.com/wolf and use the promo code WOLF10 at checkout to save 10%.If you enjoyed this conversation with Valerie Mason-John, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Maia Szalavitz on AddictionDr. Gabor Mate on Addiction
11/06/2155m 48s

402: Jay Michaelson on Enlightenment by Trial and Error

Jay Michaelson is a columnist for The Daily Beast and a frequent commentator on MSNBC and NPR. Jay is also a teacher and an editor at Ten-Percent Happier, a leading meditation platform. He has written several books on contemplative practice.In this episode, Eric and Jay discuss his book, Enlightenment by Trial and Error: Ten Years on the Slippery Slopes of Jewish Spirituality, Postmodern Buddhism, and Other Mystical HeresiesBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jay Michaelson and I Discuss Enlightenment by Trial and Error and …His book, Enlightenment by Trial and Error: Ten Years on the Slippery Slopes of Jewish Spirituality, Postmodern Buddhism, and Other Mystical HeresiesThe goal of becoming 10% happier by meditatingThe myth that meditation is about finding your ZenRealization and responsibility in the Jewish mystical pathHis review of Leonard Cohen’s song “The Goal”His short story “The Beard” How letting go allows for more openingLiving aspects of the middle wayHow his LGBT activist work and meditation work enriched each otherThe commonality between his Buddhist and Jewish spiritual practicesRemembering to remember – how the mind eventually learns to remember with practiceJay Michaelson Links:Jay’s websiteTwitterFacebookInstagramPeloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.comID Tech is the world’s number one STEM program for kids and teens ages 7-17. Visit www.idtech.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF to get $100 off ID Tech’s virtual tech camp.If you enjoyed this conversation with Jay Michaelson on Enlightenment by Trial and Error, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dan HarrisEli Jaxon-Bear on Your True Self
08/06/2150m 2s

401: Grace Schireson on Practical Zen

Grace Schireson is president of Shogaku Zen and received her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. She founded two practice centers and a retreat center under the Central Valley Zen Foundation.In this episode, Eric and Grace discuss her book, Naked in the Zendo: Stories of Uptight Zen, Wild-Ass Zen, and Enlightenment Wherever You AreBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Grace Schireson and I Discuss Practical Zen and …Her book, Naked in the Zendo: Stories of Uptight Zen, Wild-Ass Zen, and Enlightenment Wherever You AreHow we need to recognize our egoThe importance of seeing our existence within the large space of awareness“WITBOW” (Wishing It To Be Otherwise) is a formula for sufferingThe essential koan “When nothing will do, what will you do?Awareness is recognizing your true self and your connection to the entire universeMindlessness is just pure awareness and no ownershipThe 4 stages of developing awarenessThe important lesson of making mistakes often and publiclyGrace Schireson Links:Grace’s WebsiteFacebookInstagramCaviar is a food delivery app that brings premium local restaurants to your door. Get $10 off any order of $20 or more, by entering “FEED” at checkout. Download caviar the app today!Ana Luisa Jewelry makes beautiful, high-quality, and sustainably crafted jewelry pieces that are also affordable! Visit analuisa.com/wolf and enter Promo code: WOLF for 10% off your purchase. If you enjoyed this conversation with Grace Schireson on Practical Zen, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Cheri HuberPaths of Spiritual Awakening with Henry ShukmanSpiritual Growth with Normal Fischer
04/06/2153m 44s

400: Chris Bosh on Playing the Inner Game

Chris Bosh is a NBA Hall of Famer, eleven-time All Star, two-time NBA Champion, and Olympic Gold Medalist. Chris had his playing days cut short in their prime by a freak medical condition but he hasn’t let that stop him. In this episode, Eric and Chris discuss his book, Letters to a Young Athlete.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Chris Bosh and I Discuss Playing the Inner Game and …His book, Letters to a Young AthleteWhat inspired him to write this bookThe way his career ended and the surprising impact it had on his soulHow your “what” can be taken away but your “why” cannotDigging in and getting to your deeper whyThe role of intrinsic and extrinsic motivationsThe difference between ego and confidenceHow he handles criticismThe context and impact of daily habitsChris Bosh Links:Chris Bosh’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookInstagramRelief band is the #1 FDA cleared 100% drug free anti-nausea wristband that has been clinically proven to relieve and effectively prevent nausea and vomiting associated with motion sickness, anxiety, migraines, hangovers, morning sickness, chemotherapy, and so much more. Go to www.reliefband.com and use promo code WOLF for 20% off plus free shipping and a 30 day money back guarantee.Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Chris Bosh on Playing the Inner Game, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Radical Responsibility with Fleet MaullChris Grosso
01/06/2152m 41s

399: Radha Agrawal on How to Find Joy and Community

Radha Agrawal is the co-founder and CEO of Daybreaker, the early morning global dance and wellness move-ment in 30 cities and five continents. She recently launched the science-backed platform, DOSE by Daybreaker, a first-of-its-kind membership and community to practice JOY with the goal of making “practicing joy” as ubiquitous as practicing yoga and meditation.  Eric and Radha discuss her book, Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected Life about the importance of finding community and practicing joy every day.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Radha Agrawal and I Discuss How to Find Joy and Community…Her book, Belong: Find Your People, Create Community, and Live a More Connected LifeHow having poor social connections is harmful to your healthHer work connecting joy and belongingProblems with labeling ourselves as an introvert or extrovertHow our bodies remember what our minds may notHonoring the balance of internal joy and collective joyHow we can feel safer to live in our trauma storiesUnderstanding how joy is a daily practiceTo increase our joy, we must get out of our headsHer joy practices, including dancing while sober and blindfoldedBreathwork and moving meditationWhat the brain does with music and dancing Practicing being in joy across different ages and generationsAuditing your life and finding what brings you joyRadha Agrawal Links:Radha’s WebsiteInstagramAura Digital Security provides digital security protection to keep your online finances, personal information, and tech safe from online threats. To sign up and get 3 months of service for free, visit aura.com/wolf. Care/of helps you create a customized health plan for vitamins and supplements. These products are made from the best ingredients and conveniently shipped to you each month.  For 50% of your first order, visit Takecareof.com and enter code: WOLF50If you enjoyed this conversation with Radha Agrawal on How to Find Joy and Community, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mary O’MalleySebene Selassie on Belonging andConnection
28/05/2141m 45s

398: Dr. Chris Niebauer on Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind

Dr. Chris Niebauer holds a Ph.D. in cognitive neuropsychology, specializing in the differences between the left and the right sides of the human brain. He is currently a professor at Slippery Rock University in Pennsylvania, where he teaches courses on consciousness, mindfulness, left and right brain differences, and artificial intelligence.  In this episode, Eric and Chris discuss No Self, No Problem: How Neuropsychology is Catching Up to BuddhismBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program CLOSES May 25, 2021! Visit spiritualhabits.net to learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!  In This Interview, Dr. Chris Niebauer and I Discuss Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind…His book, No Self, No Problem: How Neuropsychology is Catching Up to BuddhismHow the “Mind 1.0 program” is an outdated program that we’re all running onWe don’t update this “program” because we don’t know it’s thereUnderstanding the concept of self and the idea of who we think we areOur thinking mind is not accurate, but we think our thoughts are realityMore thinking doesn’t solve a thinking problemDifferences between left and right brain thinkingDisconnecting the thinking mind from consciousness in meditationRealizing the limitations of the thinking mindHow the thinking mind is not who you are and is geared to finding problemsRecognizing that consciousness is far more vast than the thinking mindNeuropsychology function is to tell us who we’re notBuddha’s teaching of everything changesHow perception is a biological functionDr. Chris Niebauer Links:Dr. Chris Niebauer’s WebsiteYoutube ChannelAwara Mattresses are made with only natural and organic materials, including 100% organic wool from happy New Zealand sheep! For every mattress sold, 10 fruit trees will be planted. To get $350 off your mattress, plus free shipping, a Forever warranty, AND free accessories (including 2 pillows, sheets, and a waterproof mattress protector (value $499)), visit www.awarasleep.com/feedAncient Nutrition offers whole food nutritional products that are designed to provide Ancient Nutrients in a modern, convenient form to power the body and mind and restore health, strength, and vitality. Enter promo code WOLF at ancientnutrition.com to get 20% off your first order.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Chris Niebauer on Neuropsychology and the Thinking Mind, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Neuroscience Behind our Reality with James KingslandRalph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher
25/05/2150m 21s

397: Angus Fletcher on Inventions in Literature

Angus Fletcher is a Professor of Story Science at Ohio States Project Narrative, the world’s leading academic think-tank for the study of stories. He has dual degrees in neuroscience and literature and received his Ph.D. from Yale. He also taught Shakespeare at Stanford and has published several books and dozens of peer-reviewed articles on the scientific workings of novels, poetry, film, and theater.  In this episode, Eric and Angus discuss his book, WonderWorks: The 25 Most Powerful Inventions in the History of Literature, and how we can use literature to bring wisdom, love, courage, creativity, and curiosity into your life.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!  In This Interview, Angus Fletcher and I discuss Inventions in Literature and…His book, WonderWorks: The 25 Most Powerful Inventions in the History of LiteratureHis unique and opposing view to parablesLife is about learning to be more skilled at being who we areHow literature affects the brainHis definition of invention in reference to literatureLiterature is the first technology for spiritualityHow reading in school lean into our primary responses from literatureHis inspiration and hero, Mayou Angelou The dilemma of sharing our wisdom with children Affirming the underlying emotions and values in our livesGrowth in life is changing the external thingsOur life is like a plant that grows into its place in the sun, the garden of lifeCommitment is an act of courageFeelings aren’t what define usHow being human is really hardHow literature can help with regulating emotionsA story is a journey that we don’t need to know where we’re goingHow literature is the most important thing ever inventedLife is about an organic process of growthFeeling ironic about and laughing at yourself brings you out of yourselfThe default mode network and how it’s a place of spontaneous creativityAngus Fletcher Links:Angus’s WebsiteFacebookTwitterPeloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.comBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you enjoyed this conversation with Angus Fletcher on Inventions in Literature, you might also enjoy these other episodes:A Big History of Everything with David ChristianLiving Between Worlds with James Hollis
21/05/2159m 51s

396: George Saunders on Writing and Transformation

George Saunders is the author of eleven books including, Tenth of December, which was a finalist for the National Book Award and won the inaugural Folio Prize in 2013 (for the best work of fiction in English) and the Story Prize (best short story collection). He has received MacArthur and Guggenheim Fellowships, the PEN/Malamud Prize for excellence in the short story, and is a member of the American Academy of Arts and Letters, and the American Academy of Arts and Sciences. George also teaches in the Creative Writing Program at  Syracuse University.In this episode, Eric and George discuss his book, A Swim in a Pond in the Rain.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!  In This Interview, George Saunders and I discuss Writing and Transformation and…His book, A Swim in a Pond in the RainThat we are not powerless to decide what kind of person we’ll becomeSome key Cognitive Distortions from which we all sufferThe Darwinian Confusions that we haveLiving with the Ego while also renouncing the EgoThe question of can people change and if so, how?How and why small adjustments do matter in the grand scheme of thingsThe exponential impact of setting an intentionThe way he maintains a beginners mind amidst repetitionThe “urgent patience” he’s cultivated within himselfThe “cousins” of meditationValuing and blessing our own reactions to what we readHow to know when we should trust ourselvesGeorge Saunders Links:George’s WebsiteFacebookTwitterBiOptimizers: Just 2 capsules of their Magnesium Breakthrough taken before bed gives you all 7 forms of magnesium so that you sleep better at night. Go to www.magbreakthrough.com/wolf and use the promo code WOLF10 at checkout to save 10%.Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.If you enjoyed this conversation with George Saunders on Writing and Transformation, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Improvising in Life with Stephen NachmanovitchTodd Henry
18/05/211h 0m

395: Susan Piver on The Four Noble Truths of Love

Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships.In this special episode pulled from our archive, Susan and Eric discuss her interpretation of the four noble truths and how she applies this wisdom to love and relationships.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to sign up and learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!In This Interview, Susan Piver and I discuss The Four Noble Truths of Love and…Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern RelationshipsThe emotions underneath fear, hatred, and greedDepression being a calcified sadnessThe four noble truths of loveFeeling your feelings without the story and ask yourself what it feels like in your body and environmentDifferences between anger and irritation in the bodyHow enormous space opens up when we drop expectationsThe threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyondThe role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationshipsOpening to the other person as they are in a relationshipIntimacy in relationships has no endHow you can’t think your way into intimacy or inspiration – they come when you make the spacePassion between two people will constantly arise, abide, and dissolveRelax with what is and space will open upHer interpretation of the concept of non-attachment/detachmentA spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it isYour life IS the spiritual pathIn meditation we’re not trying to get anywhere, we’re trying to BE somewhereMeditating In’t about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the momentSusan Piver Links:Susan’s WebsiteFacebookInstagramPeloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.comKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Susan Piver on The Four Noble Truths of Love, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Being Heart Minded with Sarah BlondinSusan Piver (2015)
14/05/2153m 19s

394: Paul Mc Carroll on Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder

Paul Mc Carroll is an Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and anxiety specialist, therapist, and mental health trainer from Belfast, Ireland. As someone who once struggled greatly with OCD, Paul’s story is unique: he now works as a mental health trainer in the hospital in which he was once a patient. He uses his story to inspire hope, reaffirm that recovery is possible, and help clients to stop struggling and start living. In this episode, Paul and Eric discuss OCD, including what it is, what it’s like to suffer from it, and various treatment options that exist that can help someone to heal from this disorder.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to sign up and learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!In This Interview, Paul Mc Carroll and I discuss Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder and…Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)His experience suffering from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) beginning in his teenage yearsHis truth and life story of “the wounded becomes the healer”The Japanese proverb, “Fall down 7 times, get up 8” as it relates to recovery being non-linearWhat to do with intrusive thoughts when they show upThe difference between extreme worry and OCDRuminating thoughtsTreatments for OCDHow somatic mindfulness ties into OCDWays to relate differently to our thoughts so that we suffer lessPaul Mc Carroll Links:Paul’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramID Tech is the world’s number one STEM program for kids and teens ages 7-17. Visit www.idtech.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF to get $100 off ID Tech’s virtual tech camp.Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Paul Mc Carroll on Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, you might also enjoy these other episodes:David K. Reynolds on Constructive LivingAmy Clover
11/05/2159m 28s

393: Sebene Selassie on Belonging and Connection

Sebene Selassie is a teacher, author, and speaker who explores the themes of belonging and identity through meditation, creativity, and spirituality. She is also a teacher on the 10 Percent Happier meditation app. Sebene began studying Buddhism 30 years ago and is a three-time cancer survivor of stage 3 and 4 cancer. Her book, You Belong: A Call for Connection is discussed in today's episode.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to sign up and learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!In This Interview, Sebene Selassie and I Discuss Belonging and Connection and...Her book, You Belong: A Call for ConnectionBelonging is the feeling of not being separate from anythingThe absolute and relative truth of belongingNavigating our imbalances and aversionsHow separation begets domination, which leads to clinging to being rightThe comparing mind measures everything as better than, less than, or equal toHow our society is structured for comparison and competitionOur thoughts are often not our own, but come from our cultureThe challenge of recognizing our unconscious biasEmbodiment practice is bringing mindfulness to your bodily sensationsDifferences between thinking about the body and actually feeling the bodyThe different phrasings of the 5 Buddhist PreceptsSebene Selassie Links:Sebene's WebsiteInstagramSebene's video and audio linksOrganifi: Your all-day, total body, certified organic, delicious superfood system. Go to www.organifi.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 15% off any product in their store.Aura Digital Security provides digital security protection to keep your online finances, personal information, and tech safe from online threats. To sign up and get 3 months of service for free, visit aura.com/wolf.  Ancient Nutrition offers whole food nutritional products that are designed to provide Ancient Nutrients in a modern, convenient form to power the body and mind and restore health, strength, and vitality. Enter promo code WOLF at ancientnutrition.com to get 20% off your first order If you enjoyed this conversation with Sebene Selassie on Belonging and Connection, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Deep Transformation with Spring WashamRobert WrightSteve Hagan
07/05/2154m 48s

392: Dr. Edith Eger on Life Lessons

Dr. Edith Eger is a Holocaust survivor who went on to graduate with a PhD from the University of Texas. She is a prolific author and maintains a busy clinical psychology practice. She is also frequently invited to speaking engagements around the world.  Eric and Dr. Eger discuss her book, The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your LifeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!Registration for the Spiritual Habits Group Program is open now! Visit spiritualhabits.net to sign up and learn more about how to bring forth real transformation in your life!In This Interview, Dr. Edith Eger and I Discuss Life Lessons and…Her book, The Gift: 12 Lessons to Save Your LifeIIf you don’t love yourself, you can’t love othersHow she views her experience in Auschwitz as an opportunity for discovering her inner strengthThe prison of victimhoodLooking at things from different perspectives How we are hungry for affection, attention, and approvalThe opposite of depression is expressionThe prisons of guilt and shameThe prison of judgment Having spiritual freedom Dr. Edith Eger Links:Edith’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookInstagramTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Edith Eger on Life Lessons, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Improvising in Life with Stephen NachmanovitchDr. Tererai Trent on Incredible Perseverance
04/05/2149m 23s

391: Special Episode: Knowing vs. Doing (cont.)

In this special episode, Eric discusses the obstacles that get in the way of us bridging the gap between what we know and what we do and how to overcome these obstacles so that our lives really transform.Be sure you’re signed up on our email list at www.oneyoufeed.net so that you don’t miss out on some exciting things to come!Visit spiritualhabits.net to learn more about the upcoming Spiritual Habits course!In This Episode, Eric Discusses The Obstacles that Get in Our Way and…The obstacle of thinking we need to make big changes Having a clear planTriggers are any stimulus that impacts behaviorTime-based triggersPreceding event triggersLocation-based triggersRandom triggers (ex. using an app for reminders to do an action)Emotional state triggers Having too much information makes it harder to apply our knowledgeChanging the ratio of learning new things to applying what we learnThe Spiritual Habits program teaches you how to practice and embody spiritual principles, or things that are important to you, in a way that will transform your life.Care/of helps you create a customized health plan for vitamins and supplements. These products are made from the best ingredients and conveniently shipped to you each month.  For 50% of your first order, visit Takecareof.com and enter code: WOLF50If you enjoyed this special episode, you might also enjoy:Knowing vs. Doing: Overcoming the Obstacles that Get in Our Way
30/04/2132m 38s

390: Lisa Feldman Barrett on Lessons About the Brain

Lisa Feldman Barrett is among the top one percent most cited scientists in the world for her revolutionary research in psychology and neuroscience. She is a University Distinguished Professor of Psychology at Northeastern University, with appointments at Harvard Medical School and Massachusetts General Hospital. She also received a Guggenheim Fellowship in 2019, the APS Mentor Award for Lifetime Achievement in 2018, and the APA Distinguished Scientific Contribution Award in Psychology in 2021. She is the author of many books including the one discussed in this episode, Seven and a Half Lessons About The Brain.In this episode, Eric and Lisa Feldman Barrett discuss key findings about how our brains work and how these findings can help us live a healthier, happier life. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lisa Feldman Barrett and I Discuss Lessons About the Brain and…Her book, Seven and a Half Lessons About The BrainThe ways that humans regulate one another contributing to the wellbeing or burdening one anotherThat we are the caretaker of other people’s nervous systemsThe fact that we are all also responsible for ourselvesWe are responsible for certain things not necessarily because they’re our fault, but because we’re the only one’s who can change themDifference between responsibility and culpabilityThe brain’s most important jobThe biggest predictor of illness in adulthoodWhat makes you more vulnerable to stressors later in lifeThat brains specialize in predicting rather than reactingThings we can do to make the quality of our day to day experience feel betterFlexibility being the key to resilienceLisa Feldman Barrett Links:Lisa’s WebsiteTwitterID Tech is the world’s number one STEM program for kids and teens ages 7-17. Visit www.idtech.com/wolf to get $100 off ID Tech’s virtual tech camp.Awara Mattresses are made with only natural and organic materials, including 100% organic wool from happy New Zealand sheep! For every mattress sold, 10 fruit trees will be planted. To get $350 off your mattress, plus free shipping, a Forever warranty, AND free accessories (including 2 pillows, sheets, and a waterproof mattress protector (value $499)), visit www.awarasleep.com/feedIf you enjoyed this conversation with Lisa Feldman Barrett, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Lisa Feldman Barrett on Emotions (2017)Strengthening Our Resilience with Linda GrahamNeuroscience Behind our Reality with James Kingsland
27/04/211h 3m

389: David Kundtz on The Art of Stopping

David Kundtz is a former director and presenter of Inside Track seminars and a former clergyman turned author. David has sold more than 113,000 books in English, Spanish, and Japanese and has also established a psychotherapy practice in Berkeley, CA. Eric and David discuss his book, The Art of Stopping: How to Be Still When You Have to Keep GoingIn this episode, Eric and David talk about what it means to practice “stopping” in life, including the three components and the many benefits of stopping.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Kundtz and I Discuss the Art of Stopping and…His book, The Art of Stopping: How to Be Still When You Have to Keep GoingStopping is doing nothing as much as possible in order to wake up, remember who you are and what you want.Stopping allows you to be still in order to access the wisdom within usThe “mountain of too much” How stopping allows us to make a distinction between what is important and not important.The numbness of moving through life and not experiencing itHow slowing down helps you to rememberTrue relaxation is one of the gifts of stoppingThe 3 components of stoppingStillpoints are opportunities to stop, breathe, and rememberUsing your creativity to bring meaning to your still pointsMaking triggers to help you remember your still pointsStopping is a form of meditationHow spending time in nature is compatible with stopping David Kundtz Links:David’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   If you enjoyed this conversation with David Kundtz on the Art of Stopping, you might also enjoy these other episodes:A Big History of Everything with David ChristianBeing Heart Minded with Sarah BlondinGregg Krech
23/04/2141m 25s

388: Marianne Williamson on a New Revolution

Marianne Williamson is an internationally acclaimed author and lecturer. For the last 35 years, Marianne has been one of America’s most known public voices having been a popular guest on television programs such as Oprah, Larry King Live, Bill Maher, and many others. She was also a presidential candidate in the most recent election. Seven of her 12 published books have been New York Times Bestsellers and today she talks about her book, A Politics of Love: A Handbook for a New American Revolution.In this episode, Eric and Marianne Williamson discuss the ways forward to create positive change in our society and our world, in the midst of all the difficulties that surround us. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marianne Williamson and I Discuss A New Revolution and…Her book, A Politics of Love: A Handbook for a New American RevolutionHow the ego is so loud and the spirit is quietThat a common mistake we make when we’re younger is that we don’t take life seriously enoughThe path forward from where we find ourselves todayWhat to do when you encounter someone of a different point of view That once you start asking the deeper questions, the deeper answers will comeThe starting point for getting involved in creating changeHow to remain involved in actively changing the broken parts of the systemThat we need to display as much conviction behind our love as some display behind their hateThe invitation to rise to the challenges before usHealing the polarization of today’s political climateMarianne Williamson Links:Marianne’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Marianne Williamson on a New Revolution, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Deep Transformation with Spring WashamImprovising in Life with Stephen Nachmanovitch
20/04/2147m 42s

387: James Nestor on The Science of Breathing

James Nestor is an author and journalist who has written for Outside Magazine, The Atlantic, National Public Radio, The New York Times, and many more. Eric and James discuss his NY Times bestseller book, “Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art”In this episode, Eric and James Nestor discuss the science of breathing, the importance of nasal breathing as opposed to mouth breathing, and the tremendous health benefits of breathing well.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, James Nestor and I Discuss the Science of Breathing and…His book, Breath: The New Science of a Lost ArtHow breath is the missing pillar of good health  His experience of participating in a study where he did only mouth breathing for 10 daysThe detrimental effects of mouth breathing such as high blood pressure, sleep apnea and snoringUnderstanding that the nose is the first line of defense for our bodiesHis experience of only nasal breathing and how the negative effects of mouth breathing were immediately reversedThe best breathing is gentle breath in for 5-6 seconds and gentle breath out for 5-6 secondsGood breathing increases the connections between the different areas of the brainBreathing slower and exhaling longer can help with anxiety or panic attacksHow lung capacity can improve with healthier breathing habitsHow we get more energy from the air than good nutritionThe different breathing methods and techniques are like interval training for your lungsBreathing well is vital to good health and longevity and is as important as eating well and exerciseJames Nestor Links:James’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfAncient Nutrition offers whole food nutritional products that are designed to provide Ancient Nutrients in a modern, convenient form to power the body and mind and restore health, strength, and vitality. Enter promo code WOLF at ancientnutrition.com to get 20% off your first order If you enjoyed this conversation with James Nestor on the Science of Breathing, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mind Over Matter with Wim HofJillian Pransky
16/04/2154m 20s

388: Knowing vs. Doing: Overcoming the Obstacles that Get in Our Way

This is the first episode in a special mini-series in which Eric explains the obstacles that get in the way of us bridging the gap between what we know and what we do and how to overcome these obstacles so that our lives really transform. Be sure you're signed up on our email list at www.oneyoufeed.net so that you don't miss out on some exciting things to come!
14/04/2110m 47s

386: Lenuta Hellen Nadolu on Courage and Survival

Lenuta Hellen Nadolu is a loving mother, a successful entrepreneur, and, as you’ll find out in this interview – a survivor. Most recently, Helen was a guest speaker at a United Nations High Commissioners For Refugees Charitable Event in Support of Women and Girls in The Democratic Republic of Congo. In this episode, Eric and Hellen discuss her new book, Give Me Courage: The Inspiring True Story Of Survival and Escape. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lenuta Hellen Nadolu and I Discuss Courage and Strength …Her book, Give Me Courage: The Inspiring True Story Of Survival and EscapeHer experience growing up in a struggling communist countryMeeting her future husband, the doctor who cared for her mother in the hospitalThe extraordinary circumstances under which she was able to marry her husbandHer move to Africa in consideration of her daughterThe love, care, and, respect she found in GhanaWhen her husband decided to marry a 2nd wifeHer experience as the first white woman to divorce a black man in the Ghanian court Why she decided to pack her bags, take her children and fly illegally – smuggling her children – out of GhanaHer dream of giving her children a life free of the racist abuse they had experiencedThe psychic who told her where to what country she would move Lenuta Hellen Nadolu Links:TwitterFacebookKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comOrganifi: Your all-day, total body, certified organic, delicious superfood system. Go to www.organifi.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 15% off any product in their store.If you enjoyed this conversation with Lenuta Hellen Nadolu, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Tererai Trent on Incredible PerseveranceDiscovering Our Essence with A. H. Almaas
13/04/2142m 59s

385: Eiman Al Zaabi on Finding Grace

Eiman Al Zaabi is a Muslim spiritual teacher who integrates the principles of harmony, beauty and unity into her teachings. Eiman is a facilitator and transformational coach who helps individuals transform their relationships and careers, heal from past trauma, and live authentically.  In this episode, Eric and Eiman discuss her book, Finding Grace: Daily Comfort for Uncertain TimesBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eiman Al Zaabi and I Discuss Finding Grace and…Her book,  Finding Grace: Daily Comfort for Uncertain TimesEmpowering herself by exploring self-help and energy healingHer journey of evaluating her universal truths and what violates these truthsStaying in integrity with beliefs while discovering new alternative practicesValues are things that we are drawn towardsDifferences between values and moralsThe law of evolution is about your own personal growth and self-actualizationThe law of awakening is about the spiritual journeyDisconnection is when you betray yourself and are not living in alignment with who you areMoving from information to transformationSurrender is going through a spiritual journey of finding your source of divineWhat it means to surrender in your daily lifeWhere our control ends is where the divine takes overInformation toxicity depletes our ability to make good decisionsThe core self, the contextual self, and the developmental selfAllowing the inner self to exhibit itself in the outer selfEiman Al Zaabi Links:Eiman’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Eiman Al Zaabi on Finding Grace, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Eli Jaxon-Bear on Your True SelfTara Brach
09/04/2145m 14s

384: Bruce Feiler on Life Transitions

Bruce Feiler is the author of 7 New York Times best-sellers and he’s also the presenter of two primetime series on PBS as well as the inspiration for the drama series on NBC, Council of Dads. Bruce’s two TedTalks have been viewed millions of times.In this episode, Eric and Bruce discuss his book, Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change At Any Age. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Bruce Feiler and I Discuss Life Transitions and…His book, Life Is in the Transitions: Mastering Change At Any AgeThat our lives are fairy tales – and fairy tales all have difficulties in themHis quest to help other people tell their life’s storiesThe myth of a linear life course and how we suffer because we expect linearityLife quakesHow he defines a life disruptor vs. a life transitionThe three phases of a life transitionThe skill of rewriting your story after a life quakeThe importance of telling our storiesIdentity transitions“Don’t shield your eyes when the scary parts start because that’s when the heroes are made.”How we all can be and need to be the heroes in our own storiesBruce Feiler Links:Bruce’s WebsiteTwitterInstagramFacebookCalibrate helps you reset your metabolic system for sustainable weight loss and improved whole-body health. Calibrate combines virtual doctor visits, FDA-approved medication, and one on one video coaching. See if Calibrate is right for you and available in your area. Go to www.joincalibrate.com and enter promo code wolf to get $50 off your one-year membership.  Organifi: Your all-day, total body, certified organic, delicious superfood system. Go to www.organifi.com and enter promo code wolf to get 15% off any product in their store.If you enjoyed this conversation with Bruce Feiler on Life Transitions, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Successful Aging with Alan CastelThe Happiness Curve with Jonathan RauchPsychological Flexibility with Steven C. Hayes
06/04/2152m 38s

A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem - 4/3/21

Teaching: Deconstructing Emotions Song: Monster Ballad by Josh Ritter Poem: Of Being by Denise Levertov Photo by Alexas_Fotos on Unsplash
03/04/2113m 31s

383: Caroline Myss on Intimate Conversations with the Divine

Caroline Myss is a five-time New York Times bestselling author and internationally renowned speaker in the fields of human consciousness, spirituality and mysticism, health, energy medicine, and the science of medical intuition. She is the former host of the TV Series “The Journey with Caroline Myss” on the Oxygen Network, and a guest on Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday.Eric and Caroline discuss her book,  Intimate Conversations with the Divine: Prayer, Guidance, and GraceIf you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program.  Click here for a free 30-minute call with Eric to learn more.    But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Caroline Myss and I Discuss Intimate Conversations with the Divine and…Her book, Intimate Conversations with the Divine: Prayer, Guidance, and Grace  Her spiritual journey of understanding the nature of God Learning that we are not here for life to serve us, but for us to serve lifeThe great transformation of the shedding of separatism and the emergence of holismOur struggles with knowing what we believe or have faith inLacing faith in yourself makes it impossible to have faith in anything else.  Having faith and trust are essential to our well beingHow there is no logic to mystical matters Humans are designed to sense vulnerability in other people“Upper level” thoughts are about our mutual survival“Lower-level” thoughts are about our personal survivalHow prayer can help keep the dark, “reptilian” thoughts at a distanceForgiveness is not a rational thing, but the first thing we must do for ourselvesHow healing requires a stage of holy witnessForgiving is letting go of the internal rage and for that personWe are born to learn about the creative power of our soulThe text of life is about learning that what we give is better than what we takeCaroline Myss Links:Caroline’s WebsiteTwitterFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with Caroline Myss on Intimate Conversations with the Divine, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mirabai Starr on the Divine FemineKrista TippettChris Hoke
02/04/2142m 46s

382: Michael Brody-Waite on Leading in Life

Michael Brody-Waite is a recovering addict, acclaimed speaker, entrepreneur, award-winning three-time CEO, and leadership coach.  Eric and Michael discuss his book,  Great Leaders Live Like Drug Addicts: How to Lead Like Your Life Depends on It,. This interesting discussion dives deep into the principles used to recover from drug addiction and how they can be applied to lead successfully in both our personal and professional livesBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Michael Brody-Waite and I Discuss Leading in Life and…His book, Great Leaders Live Like Drug Addicts: How to Lead Like Your Life Depends on It How everyone is a leader, even if it’s just leading ourselvesThe parallels between active addiction and behavior in the corporate environment.How the problem is often being addicted to hiding yourselfLearning to practice the principles from recovery in real lifeThe importance of surrendering the outcomeLearning to practice rigorous authenticityChallenging yourself on doing the uncomfortable workLearning to remove the “masks” we wear to avoid showing our true selves Helpful tools for when you’re avoiding difficult conversationsLearning how to be comfortable with the discomfortThe value of being in community with others who are working on the same thingsMichael Brody-Waite Links:Michael’s WebsiteInstagramFacebookTwitterAwara Mattresses are made with only natural and organic materials, including 100% organic wool from happy New Zealand sheep! For every mattress sold, 10 fruit trees will be planted. To get $350 off your mattress, plus free shipping, a Forever warranty, AND free accessories (including 2 pillows, sheets, and a waterproof mattress protector (value $399)), visit awarasleep.com/wolfCare/of helps you create a customized health plan for vitamins and supplements. These products are made from the best ingredients and conveniently shipped to you each month.  For 50% of your first order, visit Takecareof.com and enter code: WOLF50.Feals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting a truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Michael Brody-Waite, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Lewis Howes on the Masks of MasculinityMaia Szalavitz on Addiction
30/03/2157m 21s

381: James Hollis on Living Between Worlds

James Hollis is an American Jungian psychologist. He is a public speaker and the author of 16 books. He runs a private practice as a Jungian Psychoanalyst and is the Executive Director of the Jung Educational Center.Eric and James have an interesting conversation about his newest book, Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing Times, his work with depth psychology, and what it means as we go through different passages in life.If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program.  Click here for a free 30-minute call with Eric to learn more.   But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, James Hollis and I Discuss Living Between Worlds and…His book, Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing TimesDepth Psychology is trying to engage and work with the unconscious Looking at the patterns in your life and working backward to see what produces behaviorHow dreams represent self-regulatory dimensions of the psycheAs we have conversations with the external world, we must have one with our internal worldSelf is the guiding energy that tries to heal your wounds Self is the natural motive towards wholeness and developmentA passage is when something has died and you’re in betweenThe first half of life is asking what the world is asking of me?The second half of life is asking what the soul is asking of me?Meaning is a by-product of being in the right relationship with one’s own soulAsking yourself what your fears make you do or keep you from doing?Investigating the archaic fear that is keeping us stuckThe psyche’s agenda of growth and developmentThe psyche’s agenda of self-healingThe purpose of dreamsJames Hollis Links:James’s WebsiteFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with James Hollis on Living Between Worlds, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Navigating the 5 Givens in Life with David RichoBecoming Wholehearted with Koshin Paley Ellison
26/03/2142m 16s

380: Toni Bernhard on Living with Chronic Illness

This is Toni Bernhard’s second time as a guest on the show and we’re so glad to have her back. She is a former law professor at the University of California, a practicing Buddhist for 25 years, and the author of many books including the one she and Eric discuss in this episode, How to Be Sick: Your Pocket Companion.Eric and Toni talk about her experience living with chronic illness, what she has learned and what she now has to teach others about how they might suffer less amidst their own experience with chronic pain and other long term health conditions.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Toni Bernhard and I Discuss Living with Chronic Illness and…Her book, How to Be Sick: Your Pocket CompanionHow we can feel our emotions without necessarily feeding themThat pushing feelings away in aversion just makes them strongerRepressing emotions intensifies themHer own experience with chronic illnessThe three components of painExamining the meanings that we give things The liberating Zen teaching of “Don’t know mind”What to do when things don’t go our wayWhy it can be so hard to be kind to ourselvesThat being sick is part of being alive, not because you’re not doing something wrongToni Bernhard Links:Toni's WebsiteFacebookCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membershipIf you enjoyed this conversation with Toni Bernhard on Living with Chronic Illness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Toni Bernhard (2016 Episode)Living with Chronic Pain with Sarah Shockley
23/03/2148m 54s

379: Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower on Conversations for Radical Alignment

Alex Jamieson is a holistic weight loss and nutrition and lifestyle coach who has appeared on Oprah, Martha Stewart Living, CNN, Fox News, USA Today, and People Magazine. Bob Gower is a consultant who helps organizations become future-ready and more effective. He has worked with leaders at organizations from multinationals like Chanel, Ford, and GE all the way to non-profits like New York Public Radio and The Studio Museum in Harlem. In this episode, Eric, Alex, and Bob discuss the 4 prompts that can be used in any conversation to produce a better outcome for all people involved.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!As a Spiritual Director and Transformation Coach, Eric works with people to establish healthy habits for a better, more fulfilling life. If you’re curious to learn more about how you might work with him, click here to book a free (absolutely no pressure to sign up!) 30-minute consultation call with him. In This Interview, Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower and I discuss Conversations for Radical Alignment and…Their book, Radical Alignment: How to Have Game-Changing Conversations That Will Transform Your Business and Your LifeHow their son’s diagnosis of dyslexia and ADHD got them both involved in positive psychologyThat we actually calm our nervous system when we speak our concerns out loudHow helpful it can be to get specific about our fearsThe fact that we need to feel good physically to talk about important thingsThe tools that helped them process emotions betterThe conversation formula of Intentions, Concerns, Boundaries, and DreamsWhy, in a relationship, you should absolutely go to bed angryThat the point of their method is to make more of the relationship iceberg visibleThe importance of inviting someone to a conversation (without saying “We need to talk”)Their suggestion to “Listen with compassion and curiosity and speak with courage and vulnerability.”Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower Links:Alex and Bob’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comPeloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? Learn all about it at www.onepeloton.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Alex Jamieson and Bob Gower, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Becoming Wholehearted with Koshin Paley EllisonUnderstanding Emotions with Susan David
16/03/2151m 15s

A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem - 3/13/21

Teaching:  "Don't Believe Your Thoughts"Song: The Ghost of Rockschool by Belle and Sebastian Poem:  Everyday Grace by Stella Nesanovich Photo by Rebe Pascual on UnsplashIf you enjoyed this "Teaching, a Song, and a Poem", please consider supporting the show by becoming a member of our Patreon community. You'll receive weekly ad-free episodes, exclusive post-show conversations, and a Teaching, Song, and a Poem every week. Your support allows us to keep doing what we do! Join our community at oneyoufeed.net/join
13/03/2111m 48s

378: Steven Kotler on The Art of Impossible

Steven Kotler is a New York Times bestselling author, award-winning journalist, and the Executive Director of the Flow Research Collective. The author of 13 books, 9 of which best sellers, Steven is one of the world’s leading experts on human performance. His work has been nominated for two Pulitzer Prizes, translated into 40 languages, and has appeared in over 100 publications.In this episode, Eric and Steven discuss his book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance Primer. They break down the idea of “impossible” into its component parts that, when cultivated, come together to propel us towards states of flow and otherwise unattainable performance in any area of life. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Steven Kotler and I discuss The Art of Impossible and…His book, The Art of Impossible: A Peak Performance PrimerThe fact that you “go where you look”, i.e. where you put your attention is where you end upHis experience having Lymes Disease and his mystical experience when surfing one dayThe two types of impossibleThe neurobiology involved in the state of peak performance called “flow”How we can increase our motivation, learning, and creativityThe fact that more “meaningful” does not always mean more “pleasant”The importance of getting very good at being uncomfortable when working towards our “impossible” goalsExercises people can do to find their curiosityThat passion lies at the intersection of multiple curiositiesAn unexpected way to cultivate gritThe five steps to learn anythingLearning means being uncertainThe process of “crawl, walk, run”Steven Kotler Links:Steven’s WebsitePassion Recipe MasterclassInstagramTwitterFacebookGreen Chef: The first USDA Certified Organic Meal Kit Company that makes eating well easy and affordable. Go to www.greenchef.com/90wolf and use code 90WOLF to get $90 off including free shippingTalkspace is an online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Literati Kids is a try-before-you-buy subscription club. Each month they deliver 5 vibrantly illustrated children’s books bringing the immersive magic of reading right to your home. You choose which ones you want to buy and then send the rest back for free. Head to www.literati.com/wolf for 25% off your first two orders.If you enjoyed this conversation with Steven Kotler on The Art of Impossible, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Transformative Mindfulness with Shauna ShapiroGreg KrechJeffrey Rubin
09/03/2158m 25s

377: John Perkins on How Perception Creates Reality

John Perkins is an author and activist whose 10 books on global intrigue, shamanism, and transformation have been on the New York Times Best Seller list for more than 70 weeks, sold over 2 million copies, and are published in at least 35 languages. John was formerly a chief economist at a major consulting firm advising the World Bank, United Nations, the U.S., and other governments. He is now the founder and board member of the Pachamama Alliance and Dream Change, non-profit organizations that partner with indigenous people to protect the environment and offer global programs to change the destructive ways of industrial societies.In this episode, Eric and John discuss his book, “Touching the Jaguar: Transforming Fear into Action to Change Your Life and the World”, and the importance of understanding how our perceptions create our reality.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, John Perkins and I discuss How Our Perception Creates Reality and…His book, Touching the Jaguar: Transforming Fear into Action to Change Your Life and the WorldHis past role as an “economic hit manA “death” economy is based on the perception of maximizing short term profits, regardless of the social and environmental costsThe difference between capitalism and predatory capitalismHow he learned the meaning of “touching the jaguar” (facing your fears)How changing your perception changes your reality A “life” economy is about maximizing long term benefits for people and the environmentHis work with the indigenous communities in the Amazon and how they came together after being “enemies”Understanding our power and our role as consumers and what we can do to contribute to a life economyAsking ourselves 5 important questions about contributing to a life economy: 1. What do I most want to do with my life?2. How do I do this in a way that helps other people?3. What’s holding me back?4. How does “touching the jaguar” change your perceptions?5. What actions do I take?John Perkins Links:John’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterFacebookPeloton:  Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get a great workout in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com to learn more.Upstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolf Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with John Perkins on How Perception Creates Reality, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Motives and Human Behavior with Robin HansonRadical Responsibility with Fleet Maul
02/03/2151m 39s

376: Adrienne Bankert on How to Choose Kindness

Adrienne Bankert is an Emmy award-winning national news correspondent for ABC News, covering some of the most historic headlines of the past decade. She calls herself a “tour guide” – coaching and mentoring, teaching and speaking across the U.S. Her new book is called, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With Anyone. In this episode, Eric and Adrienne talk about what it means to be kind – how to practice it, cultivate it within yourself, and how it can serve as your beacon and guide no matter the circumstances that come your way.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adrienne Bankert and I discuss How to Choose Kindness and…Her book, Your Hidden Superpower: The Kindness That Makes You Unbeatable at Work and Connects You With AnyoneHow helping others discover their purpose can also help you discover your ownThat kindness helps us turn away from self-focus and towards a focus on the needs of others The way kindness can be at the core of our identityChoosing kindness even when you don’t feel itHow to grow in kindnessWays to respond kindly to people who are unkind to youHer favorite stories of kindnessThat kindness can be an anchor to us when we’re struggling or lostPractical ways to practice kindnessAdrienne Bankert Links:InstagramTwitterFacebookSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/feed and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.FitTrack Dara Smart Scale: It accurately measures 17 vital health metrics including body composition, hydration levels, and so much more. Stop measuring weight and start measuring health with FitTrack. Go to www.getfittrack.com/wolf to get 50% off your order – plus! for a limited time, you’ll save an additional 30% with code BUILD30 at checkout! Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Adrienne Bankert on How to Choose Kindness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Donna Cameron on KindnessShauna Shapiro
23/02/2154m 24s

375: Ralph De La Rosa on The Energy of Emotions

Ralph De La Rosa is a psychotherapist in private practice and a seasoned meditation instructor. His work has been featured in The New York Post, CNN, Tricycle, GQ, SELF, Women’s Health, and many other publications and podcasts. Ralph regularly leads immersive healing retreats at Omega Institute, Spirit Rock, and Kripalu. His newest book is Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs.In this episode, Eric and Ralph talk about the energy of emotions and how bringing awareness and compassion to our strong emotions creates resilience within us.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ralph De La Rosa and I discuss The Energy of Emotions and…His book,  Don’t Tell Me to Relax: Emotional Resilience in the Age of Rage, Feels, and Freak Outs How we are hard-wired for anxiety, fear, and angerCompassion is needed for the negative energies within usThe two kinds of suffering, the one you turn toward and the other your turn towardsTurning away from suffering and turning towards sufferingAllowing our anger to come up, then mindfully speak for that angerBringing awareness to strong emotionsListening and acknowledging your inner critic helps the anger move onThe internal family systems (IFS) model of identifying all the parts of us hereHow emotions are a living energy within youGiving form and naming these emotions brings clarityThe inner critic is a defensive energy that is trying to keep us safeHow suffering points us to compassionMeditation is a training in remembering (to remember)Setting reminders on your phone or post-it notes on the mirror are tools to bring meditation practice into our daily livesRadical non-pathology is viewing symptoms as your body’s way of trying to working something out and not as problems.Curiosity is an extension of our basic wholenessSelf is an ecosystem, where every part works together to produce longevity and vitalityHow everything in our world is trying to reflect ourselves back to usUnderstanding that anger is intelligent and how we have the power to not pass on our angerRalph De La Rosa Links:Ralph’s WebsiteInstagramTwitterKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comPeloton:  Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Ralph De La Rosa on the Energy of Emotions, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher (2018)Understanding Emotions with Susan David 
16/02/211h 0m

374: Lodro Rinzler on Meditation for Anxious People

Lodro Rinzler is the co-founder of MNDFL meditation studios, has taught meditation for 20 years in the Tibetan Buddhist tradition, and is the award-winning author of 7 books. He has spoken across the world at conferences, universities, and businesses as diverse as Google, Harvard University, and the White House.In this episode, Eric and Lodro talk about his new book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious Times and they walk through many practical strategies to employ on the spot when you’re feeling stressed or anxious to help you come back to a sense of “okay-ness” in the present moment.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lodro Rinzler and I discuss Meditation for Anxious People and…His book, Take Back Your Mind: Buddhist Advice for Anxious TimesThe difference between anxiety and stress Useful vs Not Useful thinkingWhat to do when thoughts come up during meditationThe question “Is this helpful?”The question “Is this useful?”Discovering what happens when we unhook from anxious thoughtsHow to deliberately experience “30 seconds of contentment”Dispelling the myth that your mind is too busy to meditateBuddhists connecting our faith as being rooted in our direct experienceHow turning a boat one degree at a time leads to a completely different landWorking with your mind vs your mind working youMeditating without judging ourselvesLearning to be with difficult emotions through meditationSaying to yourself, “It’s ok to feel this”What it means to drop the story and feel the feelingAsking yourself, “What can I enjoy right now?”What it means to have a “thought party”The idea of “basic goodness”The metaphor of going to get a box of cereal from the grocery store when you already have a cupboard full Lodro Rinzler Links:lodrorinzler.comAdditional Resources from LodroInstagramTwitterFacebookUpstart: The fast and easy way to get a personal loan to consolidate, lower your interest rate, and pay off your debt. Go to www.upstart.com/wolfGreen Chef: The first USDA Certified Organic Meal Kit Company that makes eating well easy and affordable. Go to www.greenchef.com/90wolf and use code 90WOLF to get $90 off including free shippingLiterati Kids is a try-before-you-buy subscription club. Each month they deliver 5 vibrantly illustrated children’s books bringing the immersive magic of reading right to your home. You choose which ones you want to buy and then send the rest back for free. Head to www.literati.com/wolf for 25% off your first two orders.If you enjoyed this conversation with Lodro Rinzler on Meditation for Anxious People, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Lodro Rinzler (Episode from 2014)Hardcore Zen with Brad Warner
09/02/2151m 49s

373: Stephen Nachmanovitch on Improvising in Life

Stephen Nachmanovitch performs and teaches internationally as an improvisational violinist and at the intersection of music, dance, theatre, and multimedia arts. Stephen has presented masterclasses and workshops at Julliard and many conservatories and universities. In this episode, Stephen and Eric discuss his new book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of Life, which is an exploration of the creative process, especially the social dimensions of the creative process and a philosophical meditation on living, living fully, and living in the present.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Stephen Nachmanovitch and I Discuss Improvising in Life and…His book, The Art of Is: Improvising as a Way of LifeThat creativity is absolutely worthless without an ethical foundationThe ethics of creativityBuddhism and creativityWhy improvisation is so important to himHis interest in the creative process across all fieldsThat the template for improvisation is conversationThe role of listening and equality in improvisational musicThe relationship between impermanence, imperfection, and improvisationThe relationship between chivalry and the phrase “yes, and…”That play isn’t what you do, it’s how you do itThe relationship between discipline and freedomArt as the act of balancingHow self correction is a lot easier without the added burden of guiltThe metaphor of a child learning to walk and the approach of “positive feedback only”What it means to “stamp out nouns”That when you create something that’s “original” it means, simply, that you are the originStephen Nachmanovitch Links:freeplay.comFacebookTwitterTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com or download the app and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Kettle & Fire: Bone Broth and soups carefully crafted by world-class chefs, made with the best whole ingredients and the bones of humanely raised animals delivered right to your door. Go to www.kettleandfire.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF for 20% off.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Nachmanovitch on Improvising in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Finding Your Creativity with Julia CameronPower of Poetry with Ellen BassRalph White
02/02/2158m 23s

372: Dr. Stuart Eisendrath on Mindfulness for Depression

Dr. Stuart Eisendrath is the founding Director of the University of California San Francisco Depression Center where he served as the Professor of Psychiatry. His newest book is When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression. This book aims to take the reader through steps they can utilize to gain relief from depression and anxiety.In this episode, Dr. Eisendrath and Eric discuss his new book about how mindfulness can help alleviate depression when anti-depressants aren’t enough.If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Stuart Eisendrath and I discuss Mindfulness for Depression and…His book, When Antidepressants Aren’t Enough: Harnessing the Power of Mindfulness to Alleviate DepressionChanging the relationship with depressive thoughts from dominating presence to peaceful coexistence Learning to interpret our thoughts in a different wayDealing with self-criticismRuminating and how being stuck in the downward spiral leads to more depressionThe simple meditation practice of counting each breath When the thoughts are creating an internal stormHow the most powerful thoughts are usually our own ideas that we’re applying in the presentDetermining the difference between facts and thoughtsFalse evidence and the importance of gathering more information to see if it’s trueAsking if there are other explanations to explain these feelingsThe trap of depression: thinking we’ll act when we feel better and how we actually feel better once we act.Taking action when we don’t feel like itThe importance of movement and being active when depressedHappiness equals achievements divided by expectationsHow depression can create distorted views Changing perspective by focusing on very small actionsReplacing the thought of “I should…” with “it would be nice if…”How mindfulness brings us into the present momentHow depressive thoughts are about the past and anxious thoughts are about the futureResistance amplifies emotional pain and increases sufferingThinking of feeling depressed as the weather Dr. Stuart Eisendrath Links:stuarteisendrath.comFacebookBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.   Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.Peloton:  Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Stuart Eisendrath on Mindfulness to Alleviate Depression, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mindfulness and Depression with Elisha GoldsteinJonathan Rottenberg on Depression
26/01/2150m 10s

371: Maggie Smith on Writing for Healing

Maggie Smith is a poet whose work has been widely published, anthologized, and has appeared in Best American Poetry, the New York Times, The New Yorker and elsewhere.  Her latest book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and Change, a collection of essays and quotes, is a national bestseller. In this episode, Maggie and Eric discuss this new book and how for her, writing poetry is having a conversation with herself, problem solving, and healing on paper. If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Maggie Smith and I discuss Writing for Healing and…Her book, Keep Moving: Notes on Loss, Creativity, and ChangeThe dark time in her life that gave birth to her growthHow hope is imaginative and necessary if you’re to come out of difficultyThe role of endurance in healingGratitude as a practice even in the darkest timesThat big life changes are often identity issues that cause us to ask “who am I now?”Another meaning to the phrase “it’s always something!”The reality that we pave the path of the future one step at a timeHer experience as a recovering pessimistThe difference between her poetry and her essaysThe role of setting in her poetryHow it never feels good in the long run to have done the wrong thingPost Traumatic GrowthMaggie Smith Links:maggiesmithpoet.comInstagramTwitterKiwiCo: The subscription service that sends your child hands-on science, art, and geography projects each month to build confidence, creativity, and critical thinking skills. Get 30% off your first month plus free shipping on any crate line with the promo code FEED at www.KiwiCo.comFitTrack Dara Smart Scale: It accurately measures 17 vital health metrics including body composition, hydration levels, and so much more. Stop measuring weight and start measuring health with FitTrack. Go to www.getfittrack.com/wolf to get 50% off your order – plus! for a limited time, you’ll save an additional 10%! Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Maggie Smith on Writing for Healing, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Writing as a Path to Awakening with Albert Flynn DeSilverPower of Poetry with Ellen Bass
19/01/211h 1m

370: Dr. Jud Brewer on Habits to Heal Anxiety

Dr. Jud Brewer is a thought leader in the field of habit change and the science of self-mastery. He is the Director of Research and Innovation at the Mindfulness Center and associate professor in psychiatry at the School of Medicine at Brown University. In this episode, Eric and Dr. Jud talk about his book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind and they explore something called the Habit Loop, using it to understand and heal difficult emotions like anxiety.If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Jud Brewer and I discuss Habits for Healing Anxiety and…His book, Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your MindReward-Based LearningTrigger, Behavior, ResultThe Habit LoopAddiction defined as continued use despite adverse consequencesHabits: Set and ForgetHow if we don’t pay attention to how rewarding the habit is right now, we can’t change the behaviorHow to heal anxiety as well as emotional eating using the Habit LoopThe role of curiosity in healing anxietyLearning to be with difficult emotions and learning to allow them to passHow to remember to be mindful throughout the dayDr. Jud Brewer Links:drjud.comInstagramTwitterGreen Chef: The first USDA Certified Organic Meal Kit Company that makes eating well easy and affordable. Go to www.greenchef.com/wolf90 and use code WOLF90 to get $90 off including free shipping.Peloton: Of course the bike is an incredible workout, but did you know that on the Peloton app, you can also take yoga, strength training, stretching classes, and so much more? If you download the Peloton App today through January 30, 2021 you get 2 free months free! Kettle & Fire: Bone Broth and soups carefully crafted by world-class chefs, made with the best whole ingredients and the bones of humanely raised animals delivered right to your door. Go to www.kettleandfire.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF for 20% off.If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Jud Brewer on Habits for Healing Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Jud Brewer on Addiction and the Craving Mind (August, 2018)BJ Fogg on Tiny HabitsJames Clear on Compounding Nature of Habits-Part 1James Clear on Compounding Nature of Habits-Part 2
12/01/2158m 48s

369: Mirabai Starr on the Divine Feminine

Mirabai Starr is an award-winning author of creative non-fiction and contemporary translations of sacred literature. She taught Philosophy and World Religions at the University of New Mexico-Taos for 20 years and now teaches and speaks internationally on contemplative practice and inter-spiritual dialog. Her latest book is called, WILD MERCY: Living the Fierce & Tender Wisdom of the Women Mystics.In this episode, Eric and Mirabai explore the intersection of interspirituality and the divine feminine – specifically, as it shows up in her life and in the life of the women mystics whose stories she tells.  It’s *finally* a new year! While there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level. If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mirabai Starr and I discuss the Divine Feminine and…Her book, WILD MERCY: Living the Fierce & Tender Wisdom of the Women MysticsA few of her favorite women mysticsThe Divine Feminine EnergyBelief structures that no longer serve us wellBeing engaged in the world as a spiritual practiceHow drawing from many spiritual traditions is like digging one well with many different toolsThe way she has created her spiritual practice over timeFeminine wisdom teachingsThe morning rituals that start her dayThe practice of the SabbathThe link between creativity, spirituality, and mysticismMirabai Starr Links:mirabaistarr.comInstagramFacebookTwitterCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Mirabai Starr on the Divine Feminine, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mirabai Starr (2017)Spirituality and Anti-racisim with Sonia RobertsBeing Heart Minded with Sarah Blondin
05/01/2152m 50s

368: Koshin Paley Ellison on Becoming Wholehearted

Sensei Koshin Paley Ellison is a Zen teacher and co-founder with his partner, Sensei Chodo Robert Campbell, of the New York Zen Center of Contemplative Care. He’s also an author, a Jungian psychotherapist, and a Certified Chaplaincy Educator. In this episode, Koshin Paley and Eric discuss his newest book, Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake Up, and how we can live in such a way that we integrate all of the parts of ourselves into a loving, wholehearted being.As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level. If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Koshin Paley and I discuss Becoming Wholehearted and…His book, Wholehearted: Slow Down, Help Out, Wake UpThe comment from a stranger that helped shape his pathThe problem with being a “lone wolf”How to work with your preferences in a skillful wayThe importance of being open to learning from whatever is happeningLearning to see your friends and enemies as equalsThe bridge of compassionHis practice to cultivate unconditional loveWholehearted as integrating oneself and one’s lifeLife as a journey of endlessly unfolding“Good enough” community and sanghaLearning to be at one with our own pain because it is the place of freedomKoshin Paley Ellison Links:zencare.orgInstagramFacebookTwitterBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Koshin Paley Ellison on Becoming Wholehearted, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Koshin Paley Ellison (Jan, 2017)Being Heart Minded with Sarah Blondin
29/12/2056m 42s

367: Wim Hof on Mind Over Matter

Wim Hof is a Dutch extreme athlete noted for his ability to withstand freezing temperatures. Wim has set world records for swimming under ice and prolonged full-body contact with ice and still holds the record for a barefoot half marathon on ice and snow. He attributes these feats to the technique outlined in his book, The Wim Hof Method.In this episode, Wim and Eric talk about how we can cultivate strength, resilience, and healing within ourselves using the three techniques outlined in his method. As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level. If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Wim Hof and I Discuss Mind Over Matter and…His book, The Wim Hof MethodHow he developed his indomitable spirit at 12 years oldWhy he chooses discomfort over comfort every dayThe role of hormetic stress in awakening our inner strengthOur innate capacity to deal with diseaseThe three components of The Wim Hof MethodHow we can engage in daily cold exposure Breathing techniques to support the immune systemThe science that supports The Wim Hof MethodWim Hof Links:wimhofmethod.comWim Hof Breathing ExercisesInstagramFacebookTwitterKettle & Fire: Bone Broth and soups carefully crafted by world-class chefs, made with the best whole ingredients and the bones of humanely raised animals delivered right to your door. Go to www.kettleandfire.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF for 20% off.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. SimpliSafe is having a huge holiday sale! Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for a free home security camera and a 60-day risk-free trial.Pachamama: Produces extraordinary high quality, organic CBD products. Out of 248 CBD brands, they are one of four to receive the purity award from The Clean Label Project. Visit www.enjoypachamama.com and use code WOLF for 25% off.If you enjoyed this conversation with Wim Hof on Mind over Matter, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Akshay NanavatiRalph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher
22/12/2057m 18s

366: Dr. Aziz Gazipura on Transforming Your Inner Critic

Dr. Aziz Gazipura is a clinical psychologist and one of the worlds leading experts on social confidence. After being stuck in shyness and social anxiety himself for almost 10 years, he became determined to find a way to social freedom. In this episode, Eric and Aziz discuss his book, On My Own Side: Transform Self Criticism And Self Doubt Into Permanent Self Worth And Confidence. They dive into the connection between our inner critic and social anxiety and talk about how to transform your inner world into one that is supportive and ultimately freeing. As we approach a new year, there’s no doubt that 2021 will have its challenges, but there is so much you can do to make it a wonderful year for you on a personal level. If you’d like to start out this new year restoring some balance and putting some healthy habits in place, or if you’re tired of waiting for the right circumstances to make progress towards your goals, Eric, as a behavior coach, can help you. To book a free, no-pressure 30-minute call with Eric to see if working with him in The One You Feed Personal Transformation Program is right for you, click here.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Aziz Gazipura and I Discuss Transforming Your Inner Critic and…His book, On My Own Side: Transform Self Criticism And Self Doubt Into Permanent Self Worth And ConfidenceMisconceptions about what it means to be on our own side or practice self-compassionWhat it means to run on “clean” or “dirty” fuel when it comes to how we motivate ourselvesWhy self-affirmations often don’t work very wellInternal family systemsHow to work skillfully with our inner criticWhen reason doesn’t eliminate the feeling inside of usThat there is no fundamental protection from all pain, danger, and lossThe role of empathy when addressing our inner criticThat the inner critic represents fear within usThe 5 steps to tame your inner criticTaking time to decide who is the head of your “Inner household”The internal mantra of “We can handle what comes our way”Cultivating the skills that allow us to step into our uncomfortable emotionsDr. Aziz Gazipura Links:socialconfidencecenter.comInstagramFacebookTwitterPachamama: Produces extraordinary high quality, organic CBD products. Out of 248 CBD brands, they are one of four to receive the purity award from The Clean Label Project. Visit www.enjoypachamama.com and use code WOLF for 25% off.Plushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. To start your free 30-day trial, go to www.plushcare.com/wolfCalm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Aziz Gazipura on Transforming Your Inner Critic, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Ellen Hendriksen on Social AnxietyTara Mohr
15/12/2056m 37s

365: Sonia Roberts on Spirituality and Anti-Racism

Sonia Roberts is an educator, writer, creator, and activist. Sonia writes about racism, spirituality, parenting, and much more in her Spiritually Speaking blog. Her first book is White Ally: A Guide To Cultivating A Deeply Spiritual Anti-Racism Practice. In this episode, Eric and Sonia explore the intersection of transformational inner work within ourselves and transformational outer work in the world, specifically when it comes to practicing anti-racism.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sonia Roberts and I Discuss Spirituality and Anti-Racism and…Her book, White Ally: A Guide To Cultivating A Deeply Spiritual Anti-Racism PracticeThe intersection of transformational inner work within ourselves as well as transformational outer work in the worldTransforming suffering into something beautifulYogas ten guidelines, the Yamas and Niyamas Instances when it’s not necessarily beneficial for Black people to share their personal stories of experiences with racismThe way that yoga and meditation practices can be instrumental in facilitating social changeThe ethical components that underlie yogaThe practice of gratitude amidst privilegeIdentifying the places of your privilege and subsequently acting in service of those who are marginalizedThe idea of intent vs. impact in matters of race and racismThe difference between being shamed and being held accountableSonia Roberts Links:awakenedlovewarrior.comInstagramSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.Indeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolf BLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BluBlox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLF15If you enjoyed this conversation with Sonia Roberts on Spirituality and Anti-Racism, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Racial Justin with Austin Channing BrownHealing Racism with Ruth King
08/12/2046m 41s

364: Paria Hassouri on Parenting a Transgender Child

Paria Hassouri is a pediatrician, writer, transgender rights activist, wife and mother of three children. Her personal essays have been published in the New York Times, Washington Post, LA Times, Huffington Post, and many more.In this episode, Eric and Paria talk about her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender Change. Her story of understanding, accepting, and ultimately supporting her daughter as a transgender girl is so honest and beautiful and inspiring. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Paria Hassouri and I Discuss Parenting a Transgender Child and…Her book, Found In Transition: A Mother’s Evolution During Her Child’s Gender ChangeThe question, “Am I acting out of love or am I acting out of fear?”The story of her middle child coming out as a trans girlThe process she went through of educating herself about transgender children and teenagersThe factors that ultimately guided her towards supporting her child’s transitionThe change that shifted her outlook and her child’s outlook for the futureHer journey through denial, anger, acceptance, support, and ultimately celebration about her child’s transitionHer internal struggle about her child’s transitionThe power of finding people who have been through what you’re going throughThe stories we make up about our identities – and how they can changeParia Hassouri Links:pariahassouri.comTwitterInstagramBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.    Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.BLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BluBlox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLF15If you enjoyed this conversation with Paria Hassouri on Parenting a Transgender Child, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Andrew SolomonGlennon DoyleAllyship and Activism with Jamia Wilson
01/12/2050m 25s

363: Cory Allen on Cultivating Mindfulness

Cory Allen is a writer, musician, meditation teacher, and creator of the podcast, The Astral Hustle, which focuses on how to live better with leading experts in mindfulness, neuroscience, and philosophy. Cory believes that the more we understand ourselves, the less we suffer.In this episode, Cory and Eric discuss his book, Now Is The Way: An Unconventional Approach To Modern Mindfulness.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cory Allen and I Discuss Cultivating Mindfulness and…His book, Now Is The Way: An Unconventional Approach To Modern MindfulnessThe role of our actions in determining who we areHow to differentiate between helpful and unhelpful negative thoughts and emotionsThe most effective way to widen the gap between stimulus and responseThe watching mind and the doing mindWhy the notions of emptiness and non-self needn’t be scaryThe answer to the question, “Does my life even matter?”How we assign meaning rather than find meaning in lifeWhat it means to dilute strong emotions or ruminating thoughts when they ariseCory Allen Links:www.cory-allen.orgTwitterInstagramBLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BLUblox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLF15SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. SimpliSafe is having a huge holiday sale! Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for a free home security camera and 40% off any security system. Pachamama: Produces extraordinary high quality, organic CBD products. They are one of three companies in over 200 top selling CBD brands to actually test negative for leads, metals, and pesticides and test positive for having the right amount of CBD. Visit www.enjoypachamama.com and use code WOLF for 25% off.If you enjoyed this conversation with Cory Allen on Cultivating Mindfulness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Effortless Mindfulness with Loch KellyTransformative Mindfulness with Shauna Shapiro
24/11/2055m 47s

362: Bina Venkataraman on Effectively Thinking Ahead

Bina Venkataraman is an American journalist, author, and science policy expert. She is currently the Editorial Page Editor of The Boston Globe and a fellow at New America. Bina is a frequent public speaker whose appearances have included the TED mainstage, NPR, Aspen Ideas, MSNBC, CNN, and university campuses around the world. Bina formerly served as Senior Advisor for Climate Change Innovation in the Obama White House and she also advised the President’s Council of Advisors on Science and Technology in responding to the Ebola epidemic, promoting patient access to cancer therapies, and reforming public school science education. In this episode, Bina and Eric discuss her book, The Optimist’s Telescope: Thinking Ahead in a Reckless Age, and how we can live in the present in such a way that we also create the future that we’d like to inhabit.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Bina Venkataraman and I Discuss Effectively Thinking Ahead and…Her book, The Optimist’s Telescope: Thinking Ahead in a Reckless AgeHow to make decisions about the futureThe untold story of the marshmallow testHow most people don’t look past 15 years in the futureTools for more effectively imagining the futureTools for more effectively planning for the futureBeing present while also orienting for the futureWhen we’re more likely to make bad decisionsThe role of implementing impulse buffersWhen an “if/then” strategy can be most helpful to youHow our past informs our view of the futureSocial movements that influence lasting changeBina Venkataraman Links:writerbina.comTwitterTransparent Labs offer a variety of supplements and protein powders that include science-based ingredients and have no sugar, fat, lactose, artificial colors, or sweeteners. Check out Eric’s favorite, 100% Grass-Fed Whey Isolate that comes in many delicious flavors. Visit transparentlabs.com and use Promo code WOLF to receive 10% off your order.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf   BLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BluBlox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLF15If you enjoyed this conversation with Bina Venkataraman on Effectively Thinking Ahead, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Hardcore Zen with Brad WarnerGabriele Oettingen
17/11/2056m 37s

361: Life Through Poetry with IN-Q

IN-Q is an award-winning poet, best-selling author, and multi-platinum songwriter. His groundbreaking achievements include being named to Oprah’s SuperSoul 100 list of the world’s most influential thought leaders, being the first spoken word artist to perform with Cirque Du Soleil, and being featured on A&E, ESPN, and HBO’s Def Poetry Jam. He’s inspired audiences around the world through his live performances and storytelling workshops. Many of his recent poetry videos have gone viral with over 70 million views combined.When IN-Q reads or recites his poetry, it is a moving, powerful experience. In this episode, he reads several of his poems and he and Eric talk about many aspects of life and how he expresses those aspects through his poetry. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, IN-Q and I Discuss Life Through Poetry and…His book, Inquire WithinHow it’s easier to hate than to create but creating is a lot more satisfyingThat for him, poetry is either purging or praying or bothHow we’re all storytellersThat everything is a spiritual practiceHow we’re afraid to be a student at something, to look foolish, but if we never look foolish, we’ll never be brilliantHis poem, Inquire WithinThe way spirituality is logical for himThe role that gratitude plays in his lifeHow his work holds paradoxesHis poem, ProblemsThe ways enlightenment can sneak into our livesHis two definitions of hopeSeeing the difficult reality while also holding hope for betterIN-Q Links:in-q.comFacebookInstagramSimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for a free HD home security camera and a 60-day risk-free trial.Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Be one of the first thousand to sign up via www.skillshare.com/wolf and you’ll get a FREE trial of Skillshare premium membership.If you enjoyed this conversation with IN-Q on Life Through Poetry, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ellen BassRoger Housden
10/11/2050m 49s

360: Ella Frances Sanders on Musings on a Vast Universe

Ella Frances Sanders is an internationally-bestselling author and illustrator of three books. Her third book, Eating the Sun: Small Musings on a Vast Universe, was the recipient of the 2019 Whirling Prize for Prose and has been translated into many languages.In this episode, Eric and Ella have a delicious conversation about this lovely book that contains all sorts of interesting facts and beautiful illustrations about our universe and how we as humans relate to such things.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ella Frances Sanders and I Discuss her Musings on a Vast Universe and…Her book, “Eating the Sun: Small Musings on a Vast Universe”Her take on the wolf parable and how it’s about choosing possibility over panicHow moving slowly helps us notice a lot of what’s goodOur relationship to plants and to the sunHow giving plants human characteristics helps us connect and care about themThe challenge in understanding the scale of thingsWe see things through filters without thinking about itHow science works with laws and things that we know are trueOur choices are affected by how we are influenced by the world around us How the universe is moving toward ultimate chaosOur memories are susceptible to alterations and get filtered through the present momentHow we are only remembering the last time we rememberedStressful situations can affect memoryThe half-life of facts is the amount of time it takes for a fact to become untrueElla Frances Sanders Links:ellafrancessanders.comTwitterInstagramIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolfTransparent Labs offer a variety of supplements and protein powders that include science-based ingredients and have no sugar, fat, lactose, artificial colors, or sweeteners. Check out Eric’s favorite, 100% Grass-Fed Whey Isolate that comes in many delicious flavors. Visit transparentlabs.com and use Promo code WOLF to receive 10% off your order.Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Ella Frances Sanders on Musings on a Vast Universe, you might also enjoy these other episodes:David ChristianSasha Sagan
03/11/2048m 45s

359: Special Episode: Resilience During Challenging Times

Due to the ongoing global pandemic, devastating natural disasters, contentious elections, and instances of heartbreaking violence and injustice, challenging times continue. To help you strengthen your resilience, we’re releasing this special episode which features all-new interviews with 4 previous guests of the show. The guests of this special episode are Ellen Bass, Parker Palmer, Spring Washam, and Ralph De La Rosa.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, We Discuss Resilience During Difficult Times and…How art can help us connect with our inner experience during challenging timesEllen Bass’ motto to cultivate resilience: “work more, worry less”That if we can get the step small enough, there’s always a positive step we can take to helpThe impact of taking care of ourselves on other peopleThe importance of cultivating gratitude for small thingsWhen our hearts are broken open, they grow largerLearning to value small actionsThe motto: “if you can’t get out of it, get into itThe importance of literally changing the channel to limit our intake of distressing newsHow to be in the world but not of the worldWorking with fear skillfullyHow mind and body parallel themselvesMaking time to allow, be with, and be in our emotionsThe importance of metabolizing and digesting our emotionsHow we’re designed to go through stress and bounce backOther Links:Ellen BassParker PalmerSpring WashamRalph De La RosaBLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BluBlox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLF15Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation on Resilience During Challenging Times, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Special Episode #1: How to Work from HomeSpecial Episode #2: Strategies for Emotional HealthSpecial Episode #3: How to Work with AngerSpecia Episode #4: Tips for Living in Close Quarters
27/10/201h 4m

358: Dr. Shauna Shapiro on Transformative Mindfulness

Dr. Shauna Shapiro is a professor, best-selling author, clinical psychologist, and internationally recognized expert in mindfulness and compassion. She has published over 150 journal articles and 3 critically acclaimed books translated into 16 languages. Her most recent book is called, Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and Joy.In this episode, Eric and Shauna Shapiro talk about how we can cultivate transformative mindfulness through daily practices that nurture kindness and compassion towards ourselves.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Shauna Shapiro and I Discuss Transformative Mindfulness and…Her book, Good Morning, I Love You: Mindfulness and Self Compassion Practices to Rewire Your Brain for Calm, Clarity, and JoyHow she first learned the idea that what you practice grows strongerWhy your attitude and how you pay attention is so important when it comes to mindfulness3 pillars of mindfulnessWhat she learned from studying shameThe effectiveness of self-compassionThe ways mindfulness prepares the mind for learningThe difference between mindfulness and meditationWhat your mood in the morning and your mood in the evening says about your longevityThe question you can ask yourself in the morning to prime your mind to look for the good throughout the dayThe ways mindfulness can lose its transformative powerSelf-improvement vs Self-liberationHow perfection is the antithesis of evolutionThe benefits of a regular meditation practiceHer practice of “Good Morning, I Love You”Dr. Shauna Shapiro Links:drshaunashapiro.comFacebookInstagramPlushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. Go to www.plushcare.com/wolfTransparent Labs offer a variety of supplements and protein powders that include science-based ingredients and have no sugar, fat, lactose, artificial colors or sweeteners. Check out Eric’s favorite, 100% Grass-Fed Whey Isolate that comes in many delicious flavors. Visit transparentlabs.com and use Promo code WOLF to receive 10% off your order. Talkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Shauna Shapiro on Transformative Mindfulness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Self Compassion with Kristin NeffEffortless Mindfulness with Loch KellyThe Heart of Awareness with Dorothy Hunt
20/10/2048m 9s

357: Raising an Aging Parent with Dr. Ken Druck

Dr. Ken Druck is a leading mental health expert in the areas of civility, relationships, and aging. Ken writes regularly for the national press and he is the author of several books including the one discussed in this episode, Raising an Aging Parent: Guidelines for Families in the Second Half of Life.In this episode, Eric and Dr. Ken Druck talk about caring for an aging parent, finding meaning after great loss, helping ourselves receive the love that’s offered to us, and how to live through the difficult nature of the difficult situations we will face in our lives. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Ken Druck and I Discuss Raising an Aging Parent, and…His book, Raising an Aging Parent: Guidelines for Families in the Second Half of LifeStanding in the ashes of your “Plan A” in lifeThe tragedy of the death of his daughterThe choice to make your pain the central organizing principle of your life or choosing a life where purpose and meaning are the central organizing principlesOur wholeness coming out of brokenessHow aging is grieving the loss of our younger self and accepting yourself as you are todayLiving in a “both-and” rather than an “either-or” worldThat when we care for an aging parent, we’re giving life back to the parents that gave life to usGiving our parents the good things we have in our hearts to give as they face some of the biggest challenges of their livesThe importance of being a healthy caregiver and not becoming a “slave caregiver”Figuring out what is “enough” as a caregiverAllowing ourselves to receive the love as our parents offer it, rather than waiting for the way we want itFiguring out what stands in the way of us receiving other people’s love, gratitude, and generosityShowing ourselves compassion in moments of difficult decisionsThe work and legacy of an aging parentPutting our house in orderDr. Ken Druck Links:kendruck.comTwitterFacebookInstagramIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolfBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for a free HD camera.If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Ken Druck on Raising an Aging Parent, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Alan CastelKamla KapurJohn Zeratsky
13/10/2054m 16s

356: Julia Cameron on Finding Your Creativity

Julia Cameron is an American teacher, author, artist, poet, playwright, novelist, filmmaker, and much more. She is best known for her book, “The Artist’s Way.“In this episode, in addition to discussing her book, “The Artist’s Way,” Eric and Julia talk about finding your creativity and her famous practice known as “Morning Pages.”But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Julia Cameron and I Discuss Finding Your Creativity and…Her book, “The Artist’s Way“Her many strategies for feeding her good wolfCreative recovery is the process of tracking back to our original selvesCreativity as a spiritual practice“Morning Pages” is her daily practice of writing 3 pages longhand about anything that is on your mind first thing in the morningThe importance of writing no more or no less than the 3 pages.Morning pages are aimed at moving out of inertia into action.Learning to write past our inner critic is how we train ourselves to move past fearCloud thoughts are the thoughts that drift into your consciousness that are not connected to anythingMorning pages are your tough love friend and are not meant to be rereadCreativity can come from happiness as well as painThe reward for paying attention is a sense of well being that counters loneliness“Artist Dates” are expeditions out of your house that you find delightful or brings you joyThe myth that artists are born and not madeHow perfectionism stands between you and your creativityThe process of creativity is more important than the end productMoving past perfectionism with your morning pagesWalking is another important creative tool The secret doubt is our skeptical sense that a higher power isn’t interested in us.The voice of guidance is kind, intuitive, truthful, and supportiveJulia Cameron Links:juliacameronlive.comTwitterInstagramFacebookTransparent Labs offer a variety of supplements and protein powders that include science-based ingredients and have no sugar, fat, lactose, artificial colors or sweeteners. Check out Eric’s favorite, 100% Grass Fed Whey Isolate that comes in many delicious flavors. Visit transparentlabs.com and use Promo code WOLF to receive 10% off your order.Plushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. Go to www.plushcare.com/wolf to start your free 30-day trial.  Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Julia Cameron on the Finding Your Creativity, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Albert Flynn DeSilverByron Katie
06/10/2050m 42s

355: James Kingsland on the Neuroscience of Behind Our Reality

James Kingsland is a science and medical journalist with 25 years of experience working for publications such as New Scientist, Nature, and, most recently, The Guardian. On his own blog, Plastic Brain, he writes about neuroscience and Buddhist psychology. In this episode, Eric and James Kingsland discuss his book, Am I Dreaming: The Science of Altered States from Psychedelics to Virtual Reality and Beyond.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, James Kingsland and I Discuss the Neuroscience Behind Our Reality, and…His book, Am I Dreaming: The Science of Altered States from Psychedelics to Virtual Reality and BeyondWhat the best neuroscience tells us about how the brain worksThat we don’t see the world directly, objectively as it isOur experiential reality as a combination of what we expect to see and the feedback from what our senses are telling us is therePrediction Error CodingHow the brain mainly pays attention when you surprise itThat the Buddha discovered that we see a conditioned view of the worldThe types of things that go wrong in the brainViewing mental illness and addiction through the prediction functionality of the brainHow altered states can help when things go wrong in the brainExpanded the flexibility of the brainWhat happens in the brain during sleep and dreaming His experience with hypnosisActive InferenceJames Kingsland Links:Plasticbrainblog.comTwitterBLUBlox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BluBlox.com and get free shipping worldwide and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLFSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feedIf you enjoyed this conversation with James Kingsland on the Neuroscience Behind Our Reality, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Daniel LevitinCasey SchwartzDr. Rick Hanson
29/09/2048m 3s

354: Judith Grisel on the Neuroscience of Addiction

Dr. Judith Grisel is a professor of Psychology at Bucknell University. Judith is a behavioral neuroscientist with a particular interest in addiction. Her work includes trying to determine what is different about people who develop drug addictions before they ever try a drug. In this episode, Judith and Eric discuss her book, “Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction” where she shares her personal experience of overcoming addiction as well as her passion for research into the neuroscience of addiction.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Judith Grisel and I Discuss the Neuroscience of Addiction, and…Her book, Never Enough:  The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction"  Channeling her strong will and enthusiasm for addiction into recovery Focusing on what she wanted rather than what she didn't wantThe complexity of addiction is there are so many factors that lead to itNature via nurture as well as the inherited risks of addictionThe increased risk of teenagers with addictive disorders when using drugs or alcohol while the brain is still developing.The neural states associated with addiction also come from our history, culture, socialization, communication, and even microbiomes.The "debt of addiction is accrued when borrowing good feelings from the future is due"Mechanisms of what happens in the brain when abusing substancesTolerance is when the brain adapts and counteracts the effects of the drugDependence is when you no longer like yourself without the drugYounger adults may be more prone to addiction, but also more resilient.Her experience of receiving tough love from her parents that ultimately led to recovery.How isolation causes addiction and addiction causes isolationConnection is crucial in the process of recoveryDr. Judith Grisel Links:Judy GriselTed TalkPlushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. Go to www.plushcare.com/wolf to start your free 30-day trial.Jordan Harbinger Show: One of Eric’s favorite podcasts, the Jordan Harbinger Show, is where self-motivated people, just like you, dig deep into the untapped wisdom of the world’s sharpest minds- from legendary creators to intelligence operatives, iconoclastic writers to visionary change-makers. You’ll learn new strategies, perspectives, and tactics you won’t find anywhere else, then take these valuable insights into your own life and live what you listen to. You can find it on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyIf you enjoyed this conversation with Judy Grisel on the Neuroscience of Addiction, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Gabor Mate’Johann HariMaia Szalavitz
22/09/2048m 34s

353: Brad Warner on Hardcore Zen

Brad Warner is an ordained Zen teacher and the author of many books, including There is No God and He is Always With You, Zen Wrapped in Karma Dipped in Chocolate, and Hardcore Zen, Brad is the creator of the “Hardcore Zen” blog and YouTube Channel and is also a punk rock bass player in the band, Zero Defex. He has published work in Buddhist magazines Shambala Sun, Buddha Dharma, and Tricycle as well as rock magazines such as Alternative Press, Maximum Rock and Roll, and Razorcake.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Brad Warner and I Discuss Hardcore Zen and …His book, “Letters to a Dead Friend About Zen”Absolute truth and relative truthThe Buddhist precepts – there are no universal rules that apply to everythingThe universe is a living entity that is affected by our actionsWhy he wrote this book for his friend who diedIceberg metaphor – what can be seen is what we know about ourselves, but we also have unseen and unknowable parts of ourselves.His thoughts on Buddha being a geniusThe Buddha, the Dharma, and the SanghaA goal of not having a goal is also a goalBeing in a goal-oriented societySeeing things as they are and realizing that we’re wrongThe challenge of accepting our current reality as how it's supposed to be and not how we want it to be.Working with our desires for things to be a certain wayBrad Warner Links:hardcorezen.comTwitterFacebookYouTubeIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolf Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee. If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Warner on Hardcore Zen, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Brad Warner )2016 Episode)Shinzen YoungShozan Jack Haubner
15/09/2052m 44s

352: Kelly Wilson on Being Liberated from Anxiety

Kelly Wilson, Ph.D., is a Professor of psychology at the University at Mississippi. He is Past President of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science, and winner of the University of Mississipi’s prestigious Elsie M. Hood Outstanding Teacher Award. Dr. Wilson is one of the co-developers of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and has written several books, including Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety.In this episode, Kelly Wilson and Eric discuss his approach to helping others to become liberated from their anxiety.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Kelly Wilson and I Discuss Being Liberated from Anxiety and…His book, Things Might Go Terribly, Horribly Wrong: A Guide to Life Liberated from Anxiety.Anxiety is not as a disease or that we’re brokenHis past view of vulnerability as being the enemyHis theory that 1 out of 2 people has experienced some form of suffering or hardship in their lifeHow labels can obscure a personBefore talking about acceptance, it’s important to understand what matters.His approach to this therapy is about the direction towards what you love rather than just eliminating symptoms.Your suffering may be due to how it’s being carried, not that it’s being carried.Facing our difficulties is how we come to understand what courage and sacrifice look likeValues and vulnerability as a starting place in therapyIdentifying what would make the hardest thing worthwhileWhen we don’t know our values, identify where it hurtsIf the burden could be lifted, what would you allow?Reclaiming what we value by taking redemptive actionThe next right thing is acknowledging where you’ve been wrongCommitted action is just the next action that brings you back to who you want to beIt’s all about moving in the right direction, not the distanceKelly Wilson Links:onelifellc.comTwitterFacebookPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.comIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolf Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Kelly Wilson on Being Liberated from Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Steven C. HayesRuss Harris (Part 1)Russ Harris (Part 2)
08/09/2051m 46s

351: Spring Washam on Deep Transformation

Spring Washam is a well-known meditation and dharma teacher based in Oakland, California. She is a founding member and core teacher at the East Bay Meditation Center located in downtown Oakland. She is the founder of Lotus Vine Journeys an organization that blends indigenous healing practices with Buddhist wisdom. In addition to being a teacher, she is also a healer, facilitator, spiritual activist, and writer. Spring is considered a pioneer in bringing mindfulness-based healing practices into diverse communities and is committed to enriching the lives of disenfranchised people everywhere.In this episode, Spring Washam and Eric talk about how we can foster deep transformation within ourselves and our world.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Spring Washam and I Discuss Deep Transformation and…Her book, A Fierce Heart: Finding Strength, Courage, and Wisdom in Any MomentBalancing action and contemplationFocusing on what you are fighting for (not just what you’re fighting against)Her constant, daily practice of forgivenessUprooting greed, hatred, and delusion to heal her heart and mindHer profound experiences of interconnectedness Why she takes things far less personally now but still feels the pain of lifeThe deep shift in the heart that transforms someone into an antiracistHer Sunday program: The Church of Harriet Tubman & The Underground Railroad CrewConnecting to our ancestors and learning from historyHow no one is exempt from the 10,000 joys and the 10,000 sorrows of lifeThe way faith in a bigger, loving force can lead to beautiful transformation when pain in life happens to usThe lawful unfolding of the universeWaking up to our innate Buddha natureTransforming difficulty into growthGiving our suffering meaning for transformationDropping into the body to feel the energy and find the blocks in the heartGetting curious when we feel triggered Being afraid of our feelings blocks our transformationMeeting our numbness with loving self careDeveloping self-compassion and compassion for othersSeparation being at the core of many of our woundsThat our whole journey is about letting goSpring WashamLinks:springwasham.comThe Church of Harriet Tubman & The Underground Railroad CrewTwitterInstagramFacebookBLUblox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BLUblox.com and get free shipping and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLFTalkspace is the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. It’s therapy on demand. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Spring Washam on Deep Transformation, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Soring Washam (2017 Interview)Sarah Blondin
01/09/2054m 28s

350: Ibram X. Kendi on Being an Antiracist

Ibram X. Kendi is an American author, historian, and scholar of race and discriminatory policy in America. He is the Director for the Center for Antiracist Research at Boston University and he received the National Book Award for Non-Fiction for his book, Stamped From The Beginning: The Definitive History Of Racist Ideas In America. In this episode, Ibram X. Kendi and Eric talk about his recent book, How To Be An Antiracist.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ibram X. Kendi and I Discuss Being an Antiracist and…His book, How To Be An AntiracistHow he defines the word “racist”The problem at the core of racismHow to determine if a policy is racist or antiracistRacial discriminationDifferentiating between people and policiesThe importance of viewing individual behaviorsHow mistakes impact people of different racesIbram X. Kendi Links:ibramxkendi.comTwitterInstagramIf you enjoyed this conversation with Ibram X. Kendi on Being an Antiracist, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jamia WilsonAustin Channing BrownRuth King
29/08/2033m 14s

349: Sasha Sagan on Science and the Sacred

Sasha Sagan is a writer who has also worked as a television producer, filmmaker, editor, and speaker. Sasha’s writing has appeared in New York Magazine, O Magazine, Literary Hub, and others. Her latest book is called, For Small Creatures Such As We: Rituals For Finding Meaning In Our Unlikely World.In this episode, Sasha Sagan and Eric talk about bringing a sense of sacredness to a scientific world, maintaining our awe and wonder, and the role and importance of ritual in our lives.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sasha Sagan and I Discuss Science, the Sacred, and…Her book, For Small Creatures Such As We: Rituals For Finding Meaning In Our Unlikely WorldMaintaining our sense of awe even as we discover the explanations for thingsSitting with the discomfort of not knowing to foster wonderFollowing our curiosity and having questions as we follow the threads to discoveryGoing through the right of passage of an existential crisisThe fact that things end makes them preciousHow so much of ritual is processing changeRitual being a 3 step path from a state of separateness to a state of togethernessThe wisdom in having rituals that mark timeCreating ritualsThe positive and negative of our human tendency to find patternsTolerating ambiguityThe need for nuanceInterconnectednessSasha Sagan Links:sashasagan.comTwitterInstagramBLUblox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BLUblox.com and get free shipping and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLFPlushcare: Provides excellent primary and urgent healthcare through virtual appointments. It’s easy to book online and you can even get same-day appointments. They accept most major insurance carriers, are available in all 50 states and you get prescriptions sent to your local pharmacy. Go to www.plushcare.com/wolf to start your free 30-day trial.Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sasha Sagan on Science and the Sacred, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Lesley HazletonGretchen Rubin
25/08/2055m 1s

348: Albert Flynn DeSilver on Writing as a Path to Awakening

Albert Flynn DeSilver is an American poet, memoirist, novelist, speaker, and workshop leader. He is the author of several books of poems, a memoir titled “Beamish Boy (I am not my story): A Memory of Recovery and Awakening”, and the book discussed in this episode:  Writing as a Path to Awakening: A Year to Becoming an Excellent Writer and Living an Awakened LifeIn this episode, Albert Flynn DeSilver and Eric talk about using writing, poetry, and contemplative practices as a way to guide us on the path to awakening to our true selves.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Albert Flynn DeSilver and I Discuss Writing as a Path to Awakening and…Attention and action are needed to transcend our conditioningAwakening means waking up to the reality of existence, that we are not our mindsWaking up to our true nature as opposed to conditioned natureHow writing is a creative act that can wake us up to full potentiality or higher truthWriting and meditation as contemplative practices that support each other.Poetry is a way to talk about that which can’t be spoken ofHow reading poetry is a very different and visceral reading experienceWriting with a sense of curiosity and explorationFreewriting exercises – setting up to write what’s there, internally and externallyRealizing we are in collaboration with all of the energy around usUsing prompts for writing for awakening practiceGaining perspective and distance from the voices in our headSetting yourself up for success with intentionalityThe paradox of being “the greatest invention ever” and “completely insignificant”Albert Flynn DeSilver Links:albertflynndesilver.comFacebookTwitterInstagramBombas: “The most comfortable socks on the planet” – Eric Zimmer. Visit www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer code: wolf to save 20%SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee. Indeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Albert Flynn DeSilver, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ellen BassSue Monk Kidd
18/08/2044m 6s

347: Josh Johnson on Humor and Healing

Josh Johnson is a comedian and an Emmy-nominated writer. He is currently a writer on The Daily Show with Trevor Noah and a former writer and performer on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon. Josh was named New York’s Funniest Comic at the New York Comey Festival in 2018.In this episode, Josh Johnson and Eric talk about comedy and how humor can facilitate healing, understanding, and our connection with one another. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Josh Johnson and I Discuss Humor and Healing and…The duality of being humanUsing humor as a coping mechanism that can facilitate healingHow when you laugh you feel no painThat levity can strip something of its power over usWhat it means to be truly contentThe role of comedy in his lifeThe relationship between objectivity and comedyHow he’d rather try and fail on stage than not try something out of fearThe prevalence of mental health issues in comediansThe way humor can change our perspectivesHow he approaches depressive episodes in his own lifeHow skewed our feedback can be based on who surrounds usJosh Johnson Links:joshjohnsoncomedy.comYouTubeFacebookTwitterInstagramIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit to boost your job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolfBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Josh Johnson on Healing and Humor, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Pete HolmesPaul Gilmartin
11/08/2056m 23s

346: Understanding Emotions with Susan David

Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Along with speaking and consulting, Susan is also the author of Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life.In this episode, Susan David and Eric examine how we can experience, interpret, talk about, and relate to our emotions so that we live a life that is more intentional and deeply rooted in what we value. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss Understanding Emotions and…Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change and Thrive in Work and LifeThe problem of going on autopilot through our habitual actionsThe problem of going on autopilot through the habits of our internal worldThe benefits of taking time to think about what we value and then examining our habitual patterns to find ways they might be out of alignmentThat we own our emotions, they don’t own usValues as qualities of actionEngaging with choice points in life Actions as votes towards the person we want to beThe mistaken view of emotions as good or badEmotions as signposts for the things we care aboutThat emotions are data, not directivesHow to decipher whether emotions are old habitual patterns or present-day valuable signalsAsking, “Is my believing this emotion opening me up to thrive or shutting me down into something small?”Being compassionate and curious with difficult emotionsHearing yourself when you describe your emotionsUtilizing emotion granularity to more accurately label and better understand emotionsThe skill of noticing our emotions so that they don’t define usDifferentiating emotions from thoughtsEmotions during times of uncertaintyGentle acceptance as a prerequisite to changeSusan David Links:susandavid.comEmotional Agility QuizTed Talk: The Gift and Power of Emotional CourageFacebookTwitterInstagramAthletic Greens: The all in one daily drink to get daily nutritional needs, support better health and peak performance. Visit www.athleticgreens.com/feed to get 20 free daily travel packs with your first purchase. Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Susan David on Understanding Emotions, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Susan David (February, 2019)Hilary Jacobs Hendel
04/08/2046m 18s

345: A.H. Almaas on Discovering our Essence

A. H. Almaas is the pen name of A. Hameed Ali. He is the founder of the Diamond Approach to Self-Realization which is a contemporary teaching that developed within the context of both ancient spiritual teachings and modern depth psychology theories. He has authored eighteen books about spiritual realization, including the Diamond Heart series, The Pearl Beyond Price, The Void, The Alchemy of Freedom, and his newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened Heart.In this episode, A.H. Almaas and Eric explore how to use curiosity, inquiry, courage, kindness, and love to discover our true nature, which he refers to as our “essence”. It is a deep and freeing approach to achieve healing and wholeness within ourselves. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, A.H. Almaas and I Discuss Discovering our Essence and…His newest book, Love Unveiled: Discovering the Essence of the Awakened HeartThe Diamond ApproachWhat he means when he talks about our “essence”The difference between personality and essenceSeeing our children’s essential nature and loving them for itThe Theory of HolesThe role of inquiry in feeling your emotionAccessing your emotions by seeing what’s in the way of feeling themPrinciples that ground us in inquiry so we might see the totality of our experience in the present momentThe difference between and integration of psychology and spiritualityThe result of staying with our direct, immediate experienceHow wanting to change ourselves interferes with our ability to study and learn about ourselvesIncluding our desires in our inquiryThat “allowing things to be exactly as they are” is the highest teaching there isBecoming consistently curious about what’s happeningHow to learn to stay with emotional painThe similarities between sadness and kindnessInquiring about our essence A.H. Almaas Links:diamondapproach.comTwitterInstagramFacebookBLUblox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BLUblox.com to get free shipping and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLFTalkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee.  If you enjoyed this conversation with A.H. Almaas on Discovering Our Essence, you might also enjoy these other episodes:A.H. Almaas (2016)James FinleyHenry Shukman
28/07/2047m 7s

344: Sarah Blondin on Being Heart Minded

Sarah Blondin is a writer and videographer from British Columbia, Canada. She’s also the creator and host of the well-known podcast “live awake“. In this episode, Sarah and Eric discuss her book, “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love”, where she shares how we can learn to train our minds to listen and follow our hearts.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sarah Blondin and I Discuss Being Heart Minded and…Her book,  “Heart Minded, How to Hold Yourself and Others in Love.”  Listening to the longing that guides us to the dark placeHow grace is like the wind that comes from within lifting us up from the mireCreating a mainline to the heart will move you forward, but we must learn to be aware of it.How taking responsibility for our pain becomes our strengthSeeing from the perspective of the heart and learning to see beyond the painFeeling and giving yourself permission begins the healing processAddressing and not avoiding your afflictionsBecoming empowered to stop choosing to go to the dark place comes with time and practiceBringing the mind down to the heartHow the unharnessed mind is frantic and is an ungrounded companionThe call of the heart is living and leading with loveThe heart gives us a strength to help us maneuver difficult timesTraining the mind to start following the heart’s agendaAs the heart grows, it infiltrates our consciousness and moves us into a more harmonious state.Creating boundaries for yourself when suffering and struggle show up“Inner hospitality” comes from learning how to stay and allowing your feelings to move in then out.How achievements and pursuits hold little value compared to what we create within ourselvesSarah Blondin Links:sarahblondin.comTwitterInstagramBLUblox offers high-quality lenses that filter blue light, reduce glare, and combat the unhealthy effects of our digital life. Visit BLUblox.com to get free shipping and also 15% off with Promo Code: WOLFSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feedSimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Blondin on Being Heart Minded, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Sue Monk KiddDorothy Hunt
21/07/2049m 28s

343: Mini Episode: On and On it Goes (Coronavirus Update)

Spiritual Habits Group Program – Find Solid Ground In Shaky Times: Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness – even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment ends on Sunday, July 19th, 2020In this mini-episode, Eric discusses the importance of having a spiritual practice so that you can have a strong foundation from which to build upon in your life. This has never been more important than right now as we face the seemingly unending coronavirus crisis we are currently in.The realization in his recovery that he didn't have anything sustainable or grounding in his lifeDiscovering a spiritual life when you don't believe in God in the traditional senseFinding spiritual principles such as acceptance, mindfulness, generosity, kindness, and love as a way to orient his life.Learning to make these principles the center of your lifeLiminal space as waiting spaceUsing this space as a fertile ground where transformation can happenLearning to engage with what is here, right now.Using this time as an opportunity to let go and surrender to a greater potentialChoose growth over stagnationChoose thriving or survivingLearning the key spiritual principles and changing our habits to incorporate these key principles in our daily lives.  If you like these mini-episodes donate to our Patreon campaign and get an extra mini-episode per month.
16/07/2013m 25s

343: Justin Michael Williams on Meditation and Activism

Justin Michael Williams is an author, a top 20 recording artist, and a transformational speaker who is using music and meditation to wake up the world. With over a decade of teaching experience, Justin has become a pioneering voice of color for the new healing movement. Between his podcast, keynotes, and motivational online platforms, Justin’s teachings have now spread to more than 40 countries around the globe. His new book is, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of Us.In this episode, Eric and Justin Michael Williams explore the connection between meditation and activism, which is to say, the work we do to heal ourselves and then the work we go do to help heal our world. Spiritual Habits Group Program – Find Solid Ground In Shaky Times: Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness – even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment is open now through Sunday, July 19th, 2020But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Justin Michael Williams and I Discuss Meditation and Activism and…His new book, Stay Woke: A Meditation Guide for the Rest of UsThe role, place, and importance of inner work and outer workThat out of all the healing modalities he’s tried, meditation has had the biggest impact on his lifeHow it’s not always our thoughts that create our realityThat awareness calls us to get up off of our meditation cushion and take actionThat the real reason we meditate is to become more aliveThat we meditate not to disconnect but to reconnectThat actions create our worldThe two things that co-create our reality: What happens to us and our reaction to it That privilege isn’t about what you’ve gone through, it’s about what you haven’t had to go throughDe-colonizing the oppression that lives within us and de-colonizing the external structures that hold us back in the worldCalling people forward vs calling people outHow we can’t shame people into long term changeThe type of meditation he teaches: Freedom MeditationThat the guru is within youJustin Michael Williams Links:justinmichaelwilliams.comTwitterInstagramFacebookIndeed: Helps you find high impact hires, faster, without any long term contracts and you pay only for what you need. Get started with a free $75 credit for your first job post and get in front of more quality candidates by going to www.indeed.com/wolf Calm App: The app designed to help you ease stress and get the best sleep of your life through meditations and sleep stories. Join the 85 million people around the world who use Calm to get better sleep. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Justin Michael Williams on Meditation and Activism, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Austin Channing BrownJamia WilsonJeff Warren
14/07/2053m 35s

342: Ellen Bass on the Power of Poetry

Ellen Bass is a poet, non-fiction author, and teacher. She is the author of many collections and books including Like a Beggar, The Human Line, and Mules of Love. Ellen’s poems also appear frequently in The New Yorker, American Poetry Review, and many other journals. She’s been awarded three Pushcart Prizes, The Lambda Literary Award, The Pablo Neruda Prize, and The New Letters Prize. Ellen also teaches in the MFA Writing Program at Pacific University. Her newest collection of poetry is entitled Indigo. This is Ellen’s second time as a guest on the show.In this episode, Ellen and Eric discuss the power of poetry – how it can change us and deepen our experience of and attention to the world around us. Ellen reads some of her incredibly beautiful poetry and as a result, we are indeed changed.Spiritual Habits Group Program – Find Solid Ground In Shaky Times: Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness – even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment is open now through Sunday, July 19th, 2020Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ellen Bass and I Discuss the Power of Poetry and…Her new book of poetry, IndigoHow gratitude and love help her combat fearHer practice as a poet is to take suffering and make artThe poem that took her 12 years to writeThat worthwhile things are hard to do – even for expertsWanting to be changed after writing or reading a poemHer poem, Taking My Old Dog Out To Pee Before BedHer poem, EnoughWhat she thinks about when she hears someone else read her poetry as well as how poetry is to be read and heard “out loud”Her poem, The Long RecoveryTrying not to resist the life we have and instead, hurl ourself more deeply into itGreat poets and their poetry teach us to observe the world more closely and see it as sacred and beautifulHer poem, Any Common DesolationEllen Bass Links:ellenbass.comTwitterInstagramFacebookAshford University: Their online bachelor’s and master’s degrees allow you to learn on a convenient and flexible schedule. There’s no fee to apply and no standardized testing to enroll. Go to ashford.edu/wolf Athletic Greens: The all in one daily drink to get daily nutritional needs, support better health and peak performance. Visit www.athleticgreens.com/feed to get 20 free daily travel packs with your first purchase. Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls, and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDIf you enjoyed this conversation with Ellen Bass on the power of poetry, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ellen Bass (2018 Interview)Marilyn Nelson
07/07/2048m 30s

341: Lisa Mosconi on Eating for Brain Health

Lisa Mosconi holds a PhD degree in Neuroscience and Nuclear Medicine and is a certified Integrative Nutritionist and holistic healthcare practitioner. At Weil Cornel Medical College in New York, she is the Director of the Women’s Brain Initiative in the Department of Neurology, Associate Director of the Alzheimer’s Prevention Clinic, and Associate Professor of Neuroscience in Neurology and Radiology. She has published over 100 peer-reviewed papers in prestigious medical journals and is the author of 2 books, both of which she and Eric discuss in this episode: Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s Disease.Spiritual Habits Group Program - Find Solid Ground In Shaky Times:Join Eric in this virtual, live group program to learn powerful Spiritual Habits to help you access your own deep wisdom and calm steadiness - even when the world feels upside down. Click here to learn more and sign up. Enrollment is open now through Sunday, July 19th, 2020Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lisa Mosconi and I Discuss the Eating for Brain Health and…Her books, Brain Food: The Surprising Science of Eating for Cognitive Power and The XX Brain: The Groundbreaking Science Empowering Women To Maximize Cognitive Health and Prevent Alzheimer’s DiseaseHow the foods we eat contribute to our brain healthNeuronutrition: the science of how to nourish our brain via the foods we eatHow in our health, genes load the gun but lifestyle pulls the triggerFoods you eat have an almost immediate impact on the health and function of your brainThe damage that results to your brain from eating a Western dietThe brain health benefits of a Mediterranean dietThe importance of drinking water – especially to support your brainThat the human brain is 80% water and therefore is very sensitive to dehydrationThe most important foods and nutrients for brain healthThe beneficial role in the brain of Omega 3 fatty acids in addition to antioxidantsNutritional benefit of whole foods vs supplementsDetrimental nature of regular consumption of processed foodThat health should not be a privilege of the wealthyThe energy production and protective roles of estrogen in the brainThe unique properties of women’s health and women’s brainsHow to reduce your risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia through the foods you eatWhat women can do to support their brains  The detrimental nature of chronic stress on women’s brainsLisa Mosconi Links:lisamosconi.comTwitterInstagramSeed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.Grammarly: The digital writing tool that you can rely on to get your message across clearly, effectively, and correctly. It works where you work: in Gmail, Google Docs, Slack and many other platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at www.grammarly.com/feedIf you enjoyed this conversation with Lisa Mosconi on Eating for Brain Health, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Lisa Feldman BarrettFlorence Williams
30/06/2052m 26s

340: Jamia Wilson on Allyship and Activism

Jamia Wilson is a feminist activist, writer, and speaker. As director of the Feminist Press at the City University of New York and the former VP of programs at the Women’s Media Center, Jamia has been a leading voice on women’s rights issues for over a decade. Her work has appeared in numerous outlets, including the New York Times, the Today Show, CNN, Elle, BBC, Rookie, Refinery 29, Glamour, Teen Vogue, and The Washington Post. She is the author of Young, Gifted, and Black, the introduction and oral history in Together We Rise: Behind the Scenes at the Protest Heard Around the World, Step Into Your Power: 23 Lessons on How to Live Your Best Life, ABC’s of AOC, and the co-author of Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for All.In this episode, Jamia and Eric discuss many aspects of how we can work to develop a deeper understanding of one another, specifically in the realm of racism. Through a path that involves deep listening, allyship and activism, we can find our way to a better world together.The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jamia Wilson and I discuss Allyship, Activism, and…Her book, Road Map for Revolutionaries: Resistance, Advocacy, and Activism for AllHow to disagree with people and get comfortable with conflictHer experience with racismWhen it can be a mistake to give people the benefit of the doubtThe way your lived experience can impact your worldviewWhite AllyshipDeep ListeningThe importance of involving the people closest to the problem when finding a solutionWhite fragilityThe processes of learning and unlearning as lifelong processesRecognizing that we can have privilege in some areas and not in othersA beginners guide to White AllyshipSimple steps to take for local activismJamia Wilson Links:jamiawilson.comTwitterInstagramFacebookAthletic Greens: The all in one daily drink to get daily nutritional needs, support better health and peak performance. Visit www.athleticgreens.com/feed to get 20 free daily travel packs with your first purchase.Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee.If you enjoyed this conversation with Jamia Wilson on Allyship and Activism, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ruth KingAustin Channing Brown
23/06/2055m 35s

339: James Gordon on Healing Trauma

Dr. James Gordon is an American author and psychiatrist known for mind-body medicine. Dr. Gordon is internationally recognized for using self-awareness, self-care, and group support to heal population-wide psychological trauma. He is the founder and executive director of The Center for Mind-Body Medicine as well as the director of Mind Body Studies and clinical professor at Georgetown Medical School at Georgetown University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After Trauma.Click here to schedule a free 30-minute intro coaching call with Eric to see if working 1-on-1 with him is a fit for you to help you build habits that ground and support you in these times of uncertainty. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. James Gordon and I Discuss Healing Trauma and…His book, The Transformation: Discovering Wholeness and Healing After TraumaThe two common and dangerous misconceptions about psychological traumaThat trauma comes to everyone sooner or laterHow everyone can access the path to healing after traumaPost Traumatic TransformationThe antidote to the fight or flight responseWays to experience your own ability to shift feelings of anxiety to calmThe best time to start healing traumaHow to heal population-wide psychological traumaHis wartime work of healing traumaMind-body medicineTechniques and expressive meditation for healing traumaThe role of drawing in dealing with traumaThe wise guide technique for accessing wisdom and healing traumaDr. James Gordon Links:The Center for Mind Body MedicineTwitterInstagramFacebookSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed If you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. James Gordon on Healing Trauma, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Judith BlackstoneDr. Jon Mills
16/06/2054m 17s

338: Ruth King on Healing Racism (Re-release)

We’re re-releasing another episode this week as we continue to be in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States. Ruth King is another leading voice on this important issue and we hope that you find wisdom and healing in her words.We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. Donate to or get involved with:Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.org/  NAACP Legal Defense Fund- The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. https://www.naacpldf.org/Campaign Zero- Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide. https://www.joincampaignzero.org/Ideas of other ways to get involved:Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.- https://www.change.org/p/mayor-jacob-frey-justice-for-george-floydI found this to be a great article that had lot’s of action to take- 75 Things White People Can Do for Racial JusticeSo many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have more impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt “Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey “So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo “The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris “The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle AlexanderThe End of Policing- Alex S. Vitale (free book)In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss Healing Racism and …Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside OutThe value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of usRacism being a heart disease that is curableHer open heart surgery at the age of 27Rage being an exit routeRage being energy moving through the bodyHabitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can’t tolerate – they are defense mechanismsRacial affinity groups6 hindrancesThe structure of racismRacism vs PrejudiceRacist vs RacismUnderstanding our own experience with racism and talking about itWhat it’s like to be “membered”Individual vs group identityDiversity within the body of colorRuth King LinksRuthking.netFacebookDaily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls, and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDBeachbody On Demand: Workout at home with this easy to use streaming service with over 1300 super effective workouts suited for anybody at any time. Listeners of the show can get a free trial membership when you text WOLF to the number 303030. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!
09/06/2049m 27s

337: Austin Channing Brown on Racial Justice (Re-Release)

Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who “navigates whiteness on a regular basis”. After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion – regardless of where you are on that spectrum today. We’re re-releasing this episode because as we’re in the midst of a crisis point of racial injustice here in the United States, Austin Channing Brown is a leading voice on racial justice and her wisdom and perspective can benefit us all. We hope you’ll take some time to pause, listen to what she has to say, and consider the ways in which you might take some action to further healing and justice at whatever scope and scale you are able. To that end, we’ve created a small resource guide to point you in a few directions that we think might be helpful as you look to further educate yourself on what action steps to take. Donate to or get involved with:Southern Poverty Law Center- The Southern Poverty Law Center is dedicated to fighting hate and bigotry and to seeking justice for the most vulnerable members of our society. Using litigation, education, and other forms of advocacy, the SPLC works toward the day when the ideals of equal justice and equal opportunity will be a reality. https://www.splcenter.orgNAACP Legal Defense Fund- –https://www.naacpldf.org/–  The NAACP Legal Defense and Educational Fund, Inc. is America’s premier legal organization fighting for racial justice. Through litigation, advocacy, and public education, LDF seeks structural changes to expand democracy, eliminate disparities, and achieve racial justice in a society that fulfills the promise of equality for all Americans. Campaign Zero- https://www.joincampaignzero.org/– Funds donated to Campaign Zero support the analysis of policing practices across the country, research to identify effective solutions to end police violence, technical assistance to organizers leading police accountability campaigns and the development of model legislation and advocacy to end police violence nationwide.Ideas of other ways to get involved:Sign the petition for George Floyd- Yes millions have signed and so can you.75 Things White People Can Do for Racial JusticeSo many of the changes we need to see regarding police brutality have to happen at the local level. That is good news because it’s easier to get involved and have moe impact. This page has Campaign Zero’s list of issues by city and state:There are so many books out there but here are some books that come highly recommended:“White Fragility: Why It’s So Hard for White People to Talk about Racism” by Robin DiAngelo“How to Be an Antiracist” by Ibram X. Kendi“Biased: Uncovering the Hidden Prejudice That Shapes What We See, Think, and Do” by Jennifer L. Eberhardt “Raising White Kids” by Jennifer Harvey “So You Want to Talk About Race” by Ijeoma Oluo “The Black and the Blue: A Cop Reveals the Crimes, Racism, and Injustice in America’s Law Enforcement” by Matthew Horace and Ron Harris “The Fire Next Time” by James Baldwin“Why I’m No Longer Talking to White People About Race” by Reni Eddo-Lodge“They Can’t Kill Us All: Ferguson, Baltimore, And A New Era In America’s Racial Justice Movement” by Wesley Lowery“The Third Reconstruction: How a Moral Movement Is Overcoming the Politics of Division and Fear” by Jonathan Wilson-Hartgrove and William Barber II“Between the World and Me” by Ta-Nehisi Coates“Stamped: Racism, Antiracism, and You” by Jason Reynolds and Ibram X. Kendi“The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness” by Michelle AlexanderIn This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss Racial Justice and…Her book, I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for WhitenessThe importance and value of angerHow we can fight the monsters without becoming the monstersThat anger reveals something is wrongWhite fragility – sadness and angerNaming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happensRealising racial biasTransformation comes after a moment of realizationThe idea of “whiteness being normal”Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injusticeDisunity in ChristWhy Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About RaceHow to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injusticeCheck out “Be the Bridge”The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliationSkipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you’ll take nextWhat reconciliation means to herRacial justice and reconciliationRadical ReconciliationHow reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each otherThe celebration of blackness that is throughout the bookCultural misappropriationAustin Channing Brown Linksaustinchanning.comFacebookTwitterDaily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls, and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDTalkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!
03/06/2053m 22s

336: Nir Eyal on Becoming Indistractable

Nir Eyal is an author whose writing on technology, psychology, and business has appeared in the Harvard Business Review, The Atlantic, Psychology Today, and many other renowned publications. Previously, he taught as a Lecturer in Marketing at the Stanford Graduate School of Business and Design School. In this episode, Nir and Eric discuss his new book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Nir Eyal and I discuss Becoming Indistractable and…His book, Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your LifeHow what we pay attention to determines our quality of lifeThe importance of being in control of how you spend your time and attention in lifeWhen it comes to being distracted, there are the blamers, the shamers, and the claimersThat the root cause of distraction is uncomfortable sensationsTime management is pain managementHow you can’t stop emotions but you can respond to themThe 4 key steps of becoming indistractableTraction and Dis-tractionHow anything can become a distractionThat you can’t call something a distraction unless you know what you are distracted fromThe tyranny of the to-do listDeciding with intent when you’re going to do somethingTimeboxingMastering our internal triggers: Learning to work with our uncomfortable emotionsThe 3 reasons we get distractedThe antidote to impulsive behaviorUsing an identity to help us become indistractableNir Eyal Links:nirandfar.com; FREE Schedule MakerTwitterInstagramFacebookBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day money-back guarantee.Seed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.If you enjoyed this conversation with Nir Eyal on the Becoming Indistractible, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Chris BaileyJames Clear Part 1James Clear Part 2
26/05/2053m 11s

335: Laura McKowen on the Magic of Being Sober

Laura McKowen is an author, award winning blogger and host of Spiritualish, a show that provides an irreverent take on self help. She has been featured on WebMD, the New York Post, Bravo, the Today Show, and more. Laura also hosts sold out retreats and courses teaching people to say Yes to a bigger life. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her newest book, “We are the Luckiest, the Surprising Magic of a Sober Lfie”You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Laura McKowen and I Discuss the Magic of Being Sober and…Her book, We Are the Luckiest: The Surprising Magic of a Sober LifeAddiction isn’t about will power or being badHow we as humans are “magnificent monsters” in that we all have light and dark inside of usBeing in a liminal space is where transformation takes place.  Looking at challenging times and asking “What is this trying to teach me?”Embracing the mystery of not knowingHow addiction demands everythingHaving a “split mind” – the conflict of wanting to drink and knowing that you shouldn’tThe cognitive dissonance between who we think we are and what we’re doingBeing afraid of how you’ll feel when you’re not drinkingUnderstanding that sobriety gets better, then it gets worse, then it’s differentHer experience with AA and the positive and negative aspects of this recovery programThe importance of dealing with the physical body in recoveryThe fear of “aloneness” and not having a home within ourselves Dealing with the ongoing struggle and need to be fixed or saved by someoneLearning to not being afraid of herself and starting to build self esteem and dignityLaura McKowen Links:lauramckowen.comTwitterInstagramFacebookGrammarly: The digital writing tool that you can rely on to get your message across clearly, effectively, and correctly. It works where you work: in Gmail, Google Docs, Slack and many other platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at www.grammarly.com/feedCryo-freeze CBD Roll-On by Omax Health: Quick, effective, and long-lasting relief from joint and muscle aches and pains. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off and free shipping of any Omax Health product at www.omaxhealth.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Laura McKowen on the Magic of Being Sober, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine GrayMishka ShubalyAnna David
19/05/2050m 49s

334: Scott Barry Kaufman on Living a Transcendent Life

Scott Barry Kaufman is a cognitive scientist interested in the development of intelligence, creativity, and personality. He applies a variety of perspectives to come to a richer understanding and appreciation of all kinds of minds and ways of achieving greatness. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Transcend: The New Science of Self Actualization. They discuss many ways in which we can go beyond coping and, instead, set our sights a bit higher to thrive in our day to day life, regardless of the circumstances. Scott Barry Kaufman shows us how the ordinary life is always, at its heart, the extraordinary life.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Scott Barry Kaufman and I discuss Living a Transcendent Life and…His book, Transcend: The New Science of Self ActualizationThat the way you frame a question can influence how you feelHow to take the leap towards growth so that your focus is no longer on simply copingThe idea of spending our days in transcendent ways What it means to copeThe detrimental path of Experiential Avoidance The importance of integrating everything that’s happening right now within yourselfHow to view your personal growth opportunities while others are sufferingThe difference between those who are creative amidst uncertainty and those who struggle to be creative in the same conditionsBeing open to embracing new experiences by letting go of the need for controlGoing right to the heart of the fears that you have so that you can make peace with themThat we don’t grow all at once and in a linear wayScott Barry Kaufman Links:scottbarrykaufmanTwitterFacebookYouTube Channel“Demons on the Boat” VideoDaily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls, and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you enjoyed this conversation with Scott Barry Kaufman on Living a Transcendent Life, you might also enjoy these episodes:Mark NepoLinda Graham
12/05/2049m 10s

333: Sue Monk Kidd on The Longings of Our Heart

Sue Monk Kidd was raised in the small town of Sylvester, Georgia, a place that deeply influenced the writing of her first novel, The Secret Life of Bees. Her 1990 book, When the Heart Waits, has become a touchstone on contemplative spirituality. Sue serves on the Writers Council for Poets & Writers, Inc and is well known for her work in feminist theology. Her new book is a novel called, The Book of Longings.  You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpFor a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times, go to www.spiritualhabits.netNeed help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sue Monk Kidd and I discuss Longings of our Heart and…Her book, The Book of LongingsThat what you pay attention to will either devour you or save you because we become what we pay attention toThe particular genius that dwells in every personHow she first decided that she wanted to write fiction when she was in her 40sAsking the prayer that’s at the bottom of your heartHow being visible and being audible in the world is a choice to express the largeness that’s inside each of usThat we can nurture the largeness in another person, even if the largeness is inconvenient for usGod as an essence that lives everywhere, the being-ness in our midstThe many ways we conceptualize and thereby connect with GodWhy suffering results in increased kindness in some while it hardens othersThe role of vulnerability in our personal growthWhen her therapist told her that the pain won’t kill you but the running from it might.What it means to “let life be” when both beautiful and terrible things happenRadical acceptanceHow the path to healing is right through the woundFacing our pain so our soul can metabolize it and we can move through it and move onWhat it means to be a mother beyond having actual childrenThe middle places in life where the waiting and the work happensHer writing processThe silence beneath her wordsHer life as a prayerHow letting go is not a one-time thingThat life is like a spiralSue Monk Kidd Links:SueMonkKidd.comTwitterFacebookInstagramTalkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.If you enjoyed this conversation with Sue Monk Kidd on the Longings of our Heart, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Parker J. PalmerTara Brach
05/05/2044m 47s

332: Henry Shukman on Paths of Spiritual Awakening

Henry Shukman is a poet, writer, and Associate Zen Master who lives in New Mexico where he teaches at Mountain Cloud Zen Center. He has published eight books to date of fiction, poetry, and non-fiction. He writes regularly for Tricycle, The New York Times, and other publications. In this episode, Eric and Henry discuss his beautifully written book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen Memoir.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Henry Shukman and I discuss Paths of Spiritual Awakening and…His book, One Blade of Grass: Finding the Old Road of the Heart, a Zen MemoirHow to work with the 3 poisons that we all have: Greed, Ill Will, DelusionOpening up to pain (rather than turning away from it) so that we can healHis experience with dysthymia The awakening experiences he has had in his lifeLearning how to be with his pain and wounds in order to healA major myth of meditationHow he knew he was ready to work with a spiritual teacherHis realization that awakening experiences are doorways and we must then step onto the paths they open up to in order to continue our spiritual growthThe value of community in spiritual growthThe trouble with thinking you have to do things aloneDiscovering for ourselves the deep experience of the ordinary moments of our livesThe wisdom of cherishing the normal and finding beauty in ordinary thingsPoetry as the practice of paying very close attention to thingsThe different levels of loveHenry Shukman Links:Mountaincloudzencenter.comFacebookSeed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.Clean Cult: Makes effective cleaners with non-toxic ingredients you recognize and packaging that’s landfill-free. To get 25% off your first customized starter kit go to www.cleancult.com/wolf (this offer is good through May 30th, 2020)Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. If you enjoyed this conversation with Henry Shukman on Paths to Spiritual Awakening you might also enjoy these other episodes:Loch KellyRyan OelkeNorman Fischer
28/04/2049m 36s

331: Special Episode: Tips for Living in Close Quarters

Many of us are staying at home right now because of the COVID-19 pandemic and if you live with people, chances are you have had moments of feeling irritated, frustrated, or annoyed as a result of being cooped up in close quarters together. This special episode has all-new interviews with 5 previous guests of the show, each offering you tips to help you navigate the difficult feelings and situations that come with spending so much time at home with loved ones. The guests of this special episode are Susan Piver, Lodro Rinzler, Rosalind Wiseman, Ralph De La Rosa, Rick HansonYou can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpYou can also access a free video in which Eric teaches you 3 perspectives you can take to help you navigate these challenging times by going to www.spiritualhabits.netIn This Episode, We discuss Tips for Living in Close Quarters and…That we are all subject to unbidden moods in these circumstancesHow to grow closer through experiencing the ups and downs togetherResisting the urge to solve the “problem” of difficult feelingsTo be with each other we need to be comfortable being with ourselvesStrategies to help you avoid snapping at your loved ones Turning towards your feelings rather than your thoughts How we’re face to face with our own minds right nowFeeling what we feel without judgment and without a storylineWhat to do when you feel highly triggered The simple question we can ask ourselves before acting on a feelingWhat to do to prepare before having a difficult conversation with someone you live withHow humor can helpWays to cultivate a warmer heartThat listening is being prepared to be changed by what you hearA helpful structure for family or household meetingsHow we can prepare for difficult emotional experiencesTaking ownership of our own emotionsHow to relate to our irritationRemembering the people you live with are suffering, tooThe phrase, “Like me, you, too, ____”How to reduce the way we take things personallyThe neuroscience of why tuning into internal bodily sensations worksBeachbody On Demand: Workout at home with this easy to use streaming service with over 1300 super effective workouts suited for anybody at any time. Listeners of the show can get a free trial membership when you text WOLF to the number 303030. Clean Cult: Makes effective cleaners with non-toxic ingredients you recognize and packaging that’s landfill-free. To get 25% off your first customized starter kit go to www.cleancult.com/wolf (this offer is good through May 30th, 2020)Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs’ diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee.Links to Other Episodes:Susan PiverLodro RinzlerRosalind Wiseman; ‘Rosalind’s “Tiny Habits:Ralph De La RosaRick Hanson
21/04/2050m 33s

330: Dr. Christian Conte on Radical Anger Management

Dr. Christian Conte is one of the country’s most accomplished mental health specialists in the field of anger and emotional management. He specializes in working in the prison system with people convicted of violent crimes. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World. If this conversation about radical anger management rubs you the wrong way in the beginning, we invite you to get curious about your reaction and stay with the conversation – you may feel and think differently by the end of the episode.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Christian Conte and I discuss Radical Anger Management and…His book, Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged WorldWorking with our own anger The relationship between our ego and our angerAnger managementThat our expectations influence our experience of the worldHindsight biasHow anger is a wonderful motivatorThat if we loosen our grip on being right, we can humble ourselves to receive other perspectivesThe metaphor of only being able to see one side of the boxSwitching to a position of curiosity That certainty is an emotion, not a cognitionLeading humility and curiosity lessens the intensity of a situationBy saying, “here’s what I’m seeing, please teach me about what you’re seeing”, you can change the energy of the conversationHow we can drain our own limbic system in the midst of feeling angryWhat it means that our mind wants to match our bodyWhy he recommends that we go to bed angry (instead of following the old adage that says otherwise)That when we understand something intellectually, we think we’ve mastered putting it into practice in our livesThat extreme language produces extreme emotionsHow we’re not disturbed by things – we’re disturbed by our view of thingsThat certainty is at the heart of a lot of angerDr. Christian Conte Links:drchristianconte.comFacebookTwitterYouTubeGrammarly: The digital writing tool that you can rely on to get your message across clearly, effectively, and correctly. It works where you work: in Gmail, Google Docs, Slack and many other platforms. Get 20% off Grammarly Premium when you sign up at www.grammarly.com/feedClean Cult: Makes effective cleaners with non-toxic ingredients you recognize and packaging that’s landfill-free. To get 25% off your first customized starter kit go to www.cleancult.com/wolf (this offer is good through May 30th, 2020)Cryo-freeze CBD Roll-On by Omax Health: Quick, effective, and long-lasting relief from joint and muscle aches and pains. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off and free shipping of any Omax Health product at www.omaxhealth.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Dr. Christian Conte on Radical Anger Management, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Special Episode: How to Work with AngerLiz FosslienHilary Jacobs Hendel
14/04/2053m 20s

329: Mini Episode: Allowing Yourself to Feel Everything and Post Traumatic Growth

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn this mini episode, Eric shares helpful advice and many suggestions on how to deal with strong emotions during this global pandemic. He also offers a hopeful message about the personal growth that can come from such challenges.Allow yourself to be where you areLower your expectations if you need toBe kinder to yourself and practice self compassion (see Kristin Neff episode)Journaling can be a helpful practicePost traumatic growth - turning adversity into something betterAllowing ourselves to explore thoughts and feelings can help not only cope, but create meaning in our lives7 areas of growth that can come from adversityThe importance of routine and structure in our days
11/04/2011m 9s

329: Mark Nepo on Connecting to What Matters

Mark Nepo is a poet, philosopher and cancer survivor who has taught in the fields of poetry, health, and spirituality for 40 years. Mark is a New York Times #1 selling author who has published numerous books and audio projects. In this episode, Eric and Mark discuss his book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What Matters. This episode is a tonic to the suffering that we are facing right now in the midst of a pandemic. This conversation offers some of the most liberating wisdom that, when connected to, releases us from the grip of fear so that we are living from a place of presence, peace, and connecting to what matters. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mark Nepo and I discuss Connecting to What Matters and…His new book, The Book of Soul: 52 Paths to Living What MattersThe value in cooperating, listening and working with things (rather than trying to bend them to our will)That “sin”, as literally translated, is the same as “opaque” or, “not seeing”That when we lose sight of the vastness to which we belong, succumbing to our narrow condition, we paint everything with the color of our troubleHow the surface of the ocean is what’s choppy and as we go down below the surface, we connect with the depth that is less tumultuous“Rightsizing” our perspective on troubles by putting them in a larger perspective of vastness and wholenessHow to move at the pace of what is real: synchronizing the moving pace of mind, heart, and body That the power of reading out loud is like the difference between reading sheet music and hearing it in our heads vs. actually playing the musicThat we meditate not to be great meditators, but to be clear vesselsHow we’ve become “addicted to the noise of things falling apart”That things are always simultaneously falling apart and coming togetherWe are challenged to honor what we’re going through while at the same time remembering that what we’re going through doesn’t define usAsking “What is actually happening?” so we might identify right actionWaiting for the cloud of fear to pass so that you can decipher what is actually dangerous How in the modern world we have catastrophized our relationship to the unknownThat the unknown can produce love and beauty just as it can produce difficulty and hardshipsThe truth that there is no “there”, there’s only “here”That often, when you can’t leave a difficult situation, you realize that everything you need is right hereThe menacing assumption that life is somewhere other than where we areThat out of fear, we make a god of survival. But without thriving, what’s the point?Mark Nepo Links:marknepo.comFacebookTwitterInstagramBeet Elite: Helps you to go further and longer when taken before your workout. www.livehuman.com/wolf to get 20% off your 1st purchaseSimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf Free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  If you enjoyed this conversation with Mark Nepo on Connecting to What Matters,you might also enjoy these other episodes:Mark Nepo (2016 Interview)Lama Surya DasSharon Salzberg
07/04/2048m 26s

328: Adreanna Limbach on Befriending our Difficult Feelings

Adreanna Limbach is a head-teacher at MNDFL Meditation Studios in New York City. Adreanna’s work has been featured in the New York Times, Women’s Health, Refinery 29, and Yoga Journal. Her new book is, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling Worthy. In this episode, Adreanna and Eric talk about how to be more skillful in the ways in which we relate to our “demons” – in other words, how we can go about befriending difficult feelings. You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpThe wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adreanna Limbach and I discuss Befriending our Difficult Feelings and…Her book, Tea and Cake with Demons: A Buddhist Guide to Feeling WorthyHow difficult it was for her to write her bookHow hard it is to create anythingThe value of tenacityThe story her book is based onHow our demons, or difficult feelings, can be very personal but they all look a lot alikeThe unskillful ways that we deal with our difficult feelingsAsking our demons “what do you have to teach me?”How questions open things while answers shut them downIdentifying your “exit” when you’re feeling uncomfortable in your own skinThe 4 Noble Truths of BuddhismAdreanna Limbach Links:adreannalimbach.comFacebookInstagramSeed: Scientifically validated, next-generation probiotics. Their mission: to bring much-needed precision, efficacy, and education to the global probiotics market. Go to www.seed.com/wolf or use promo code WOLF for 15% off your first month of The Daily Symbiotic.
31/03/2048m 59s

327: Special Episode: How to Work with Anger

So many of us are feeling angry for a myriad of reasons amidst the COVID-19 pandemic. To help us better understand and work with our anger, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast about anger. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode featuring 4 “mini-interviews” is the result. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Rick Hanson, Hilary Jacobs Hendel, Ruth King, and David Richo.You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn This Episode, We discuss How to Work with Anger and…That anger is a natural and normal responseUtilizing anger rather than letting anger utilize usHow anger can feel good in the moment but it corrodes over timeFinding peace when confronted with the truth of uncertaintyMindfully noticing and naming our angerAnger being triggered by perceived danger and it readies us for a fightThe danger of blocking our angerThat we feel anger as energy that wants to get outUsing fantasy to release the energy of anger When calm, making a list of “state-changers” for yourselfNoticing our coping strategies in the face of things we can’t controlThe critical choice of what to do with the energy of angerBeing informed by our anger instead of reacting out of itChanneling the energy in constructive ways rather than damaging waysGetting curious about what the anger is trying to tell us – rather than focusing on what it’s saying about other peopleGetting fiercely clear about rather than ablaze in the fire of our angerWhen we’re in the anger, we lose touch with how it’s impacting our bodiesSetting the intention of doing no harm That fear is often underneath angerNot acting out of anger because it can be abusiveLinks to Other Episodes:Rick HansonHilary Jacobs HendelRuth KingDavid Richo
27/03/2046m 24s

326: Special Episode: Crisis Strategies for Mental and Emotional Health

You can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpAs the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for two special edition episodes of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the second of those two episodes. These mini-interviews are with 6 leaders in the realms of mental health and spirituality. Eric talks with each of them about how to deal with difficult thoughts and offers practical strategies for emotional health during these challenging times. These are all new conversations with previous guests, Parker Palmer, Mirabai Starr, Lewis Howes, Steven C. Hayes, Scott Stabile, and Sharon Salzberg.In This Special Episode, We discuss Strategies for Emotional Health and…Turning our attention to those who are vulnerable and need our helpThe connection between anxiety and uncertaintyAccepting the truth that there are many things we cannot controlBeing attentive to what we can controlHow reflecting on and learning from suffering can be therapeuticThat dissolution is a good thing: You’ve lost an illusion and you’re that much closer to realityHow to abide in a space of not knowingThe paradox of actively helping the situation by doing less, staying put and slowing downReorienting to what we really need vs. our tendencies towards overconsumptionHow to be mindful and Feed Our Good Wolf during a time of crisisThat constantly seeing crisis media alerts is like seeing a car crash every 2 minutes – we benefit from placing boundaries on how often we consume media coverage Creating meaning amidst sufferingHow psychological flexibility can help us move through difficultyHow to move through a crisis so that you come out of it with post-traumatic growthWays to work with your anger towards others during this crisisWays to work with your fear about this crisisThe helpful pillars of self-care that can really support us in crisisLooking for ourself in others to bring empathy What it means to connect to our hearts and soulsThe importance of giving yourself grace and forgiveness during a crisisHow loving-kindness meditation can help usHow staying home can mimic the effects of a reflective retreatA guided meditation from Sharon SalzbergCalm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Peloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you're looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com Laurel Springs: An accredited online private school for students K-12. Personalize the learning program and learning schedule for your unique child with Laurel Springs' diverse and enriched curriculum. Register your child at www.laurelsprings.com/wolf and receive a waived registration fee.Links to Other Episodes:Parker J. PalmerMirabai StarrLewis HowesSteven C. HayesScott StabileSharon Salzberg
24/03/201h 17m

325: Special Episode: How to Work From Home

As the COVID-19 pandemic intensified earlier this week, Eric reached out to several previous guests of the show to ask them if they would be willing to talk with him for a special edition of The One You Feed Podcast. They all generously agreed at a moment’s notice and this episode is the result. These mini-interviews are with 4 experts on the subject of human behavior and Eric talks with each of them about how we might go about structuring our time, environment and mindset on living and working from home. These are all new conversations with previous guests, David Kadavy Charlie Gilkey, Chris Bailey, and Liz FosslienYou can find all of the most up to date crisis help & support resources that Eric is making available through The One You Feed by going to www.oneyoufeed.net/helpIn This Episode, We discuss…How to set boundaries for yourself in your time, space, and mindThe Pomodoro MethodWays to divide your physical space for workSetting up mental boundaries to get into and out of a work mindsetMisdiagnosing distractions when they’re actually challenges of competing prioritiesPre-work, lunchtime, and post-work routinesMaking your environment work for youThat your environment matters more than your willpower over the long termHow to be productive while in crisis modeReplacing your commute-to-work time with self-care activitiesBest practices for consuming the news while working from homeHow it’s ok to feel feelings during this difficult timeBest practices for managing people Deciding the next day’s priorities at the end of the previous dayNot letting praise be something that gets lost while working virtuallyEmotionally proof-reading your messages before sending
20/03/2051m 25s

324: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion

Kristin Neff is an Associate Professor at The University of Texas at Austin’s Department of Educational Psychology. With her partner Chris Germer, she has developed an empirically-supported training program called Mindful Self-Compassion that is taught by thousands of teachers worldwide. She co-authored The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook as well as the book, Teaching the Mindful Self Compassion Program: A Guide For Professionals. In this episode, Kristin and Eric dive into the topic of self-compassion and discuss what it is and isn’t. Kristin also shares how to practice self compassion as well as leads listerns through a self-compassion practice. The wisdom and practice of self-compassion is a foundational principle that Eric teaches and helps his private clients learn to apply through the 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. To learn more about this program, click here.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Kristin Neff and I discuss Self Compassion and…Her book, The Mindful Self-Compassion WorkbookThat what we practice grows strongerThe science of contemplative practiceWhat self-compassion isTreating yourself with the same kindness you’d show to a dear friend Starting with mindfulnessThe connectedness of compassion The fact that we suffer unites us as human beingsQuintessential question, “What do I need?”Myths of self-compassion and how it is a powerful antidote to shameThe Inner Ally vs. Inner EnemyConstructive self-criticismHow to practice and the physiology of self compassion.The self-compassion break Why and how self-criticism harms usKristin Neff Links:selfcompassion.orgTwitterFacebookDaily Harvest delivers delicious organic, carefully sourced, and chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDSimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf for free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.If you enjoyed this conversation with Kristin Neff, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Kristin Neff (2015)Guy WinchElisha Goldstein
17/03/2045m 12s

324: Mini Episode: Fear: How to Cope in Uncertain Times

Eric talks about how to best deal with fear during these uncertain times
15/03/2016m 47s

323: Norman Fischer on Spiritual Growth through Imagination

Norman Fischer is a poet, author, Zen Buddhist teacher and priest. He’s a graduate of Iowa’s Writer’s Workshop and he’s been publishing poetry since 1979. He’s the author of 17 books of poetry, 6 books of prose on Zen and religion as well as numerous articles and essays. In this episode, Eric and Norman discuss his book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva Path.If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Norman Fischer and I discuss Spiritual Growth through Imagination and…His book, The World Could Be Otherwise: Imagination and the Bodhisattva PathRedefining imagination and discovering it’s prevalence and role in lifeThe role of imagination in spiritual pathsHow we don’t see the world exactly as it is, but rather through filtersLoosening our grasp on what we think of as absolute realityConstructing useful stories in our mind rather than living by our default storiesThe essential ways in which imagination enriches the experience of our livesWhen we realize we are making our lives for ourselves, we have the power to make it differentlyThe Bodhisattva: A Buddha in trainingCompassion, Love and Service for the benefit of othersThe Bodhisattva PathThe myth of separateness and the truth of interconnection and loveThat holding two (seemingly contradictory) ideas in our mind at one time offers us depth perceptionHow ideals can inspire us rather than put pressure on usThe disease of perfectionismHow to engage in “Joyful Effort” when you don’t feel very joyful and don’t have much effort to sparePatience: Just keep going and be of benefit to othersTurning toward what’s arising: facing it, embracing it, breathing into it and going forward with itThe problematic nature of favoring one’s own suffering over the suffering of othersNorman Fischer Links:normanfischer.orgPoems by Norman FischerEssays by Norman FischerBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Blinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up!Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.If you enjoyed this conversation with Norman Fischer on Spiritual Growth through Imagination, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Shinzen YoungRobert WrightBenjamin Shalva
10/03/2046m 53s

322: Kamla Kapur on Transformative Powers in Life

Kamla Kapur is an award winning author, poet and playwright. She was born and raised in India and studied in the United States. Kamla now divides her time between living in the remote Indian Himalayas and in San Diego, California with her husband. She holds a Master’s Degree in Literature from Kent State University in Ohio and she studied Creative Writing at the University of Iowa. Kamla was on the faculty of Grossmont College in San Diego for 18 years and her stories, poems, and plays have been published in many prestigious Indian and American journals. In this episode, she and Eric use her new book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the Heart, as a jumping off point to discuss the transformative powers we experience through various life experiences.If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Kamla Kapur and I discuss Transformative Powers in Life and…Her book, Rumi: Tales of the Spirit: A Journey to Healing the HeartThe deep wound to Rumi’s heart that transformed him and brought forth his treasured body of work that we now know and loveHow suffering can be our greatest tutor and guide in lifeThe idea of expansion and contraction in our livesThat when your heart breaks, it breaks open How suffering can open us up to being more aware and connected to our higher selvesThat those who transform as a result of their suffering are open to a different way of thinking as a result of the difficult things that happen to themThe transformative powers of hope, joy, and loveRumi’s stories of characters embracing sufferingHow all suffering has the power to awaken usThe transformative power of sufferingThe transformative power of acceptanceHow Rumi says, “When the candle of your youth dims, you have to light the candle of the spirit.” Actively ascending to our agingThe awe and wonder of existence and the mystery of life that we as humans can perceiveKamla Kapur Links:kamlakkapur.comTwitterInstagramFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with Kamla Kapur on Transformative Powers in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Stephen MitchellMary O’Malley
03/03/2047m 39s

321: Ryan Oelke on Awakening in Life

Ryan Oelke is the co-founder of Buddhist Geeks and is the founder of Awakening In Life. Ryan is a meditation teacher with an MS.Ed. in Counseling Psychology and has 18 years of experience in meditation. He is also a certified teacher in Judith Blackstone’s Realization Process. In this episode, Ryan and Eric discuss using Radical Curiosity and embodying our experiences to Awaken In Life.If you are interested in learning more about how to integrate and embody spiritual principles into the moments of your daily life, Eric teaches people how to do just that in his 1-on-1 Spiritual Habits Program. Click here to learn more.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ryan Oelke and I discuss Awakening in Life and…Practicing Radical CuriosityComing home to yourself as you are in this momentBeing radically open to what is happening to fully see itHow nothing collapses consciousness faster than judgmentHow being curious implies being engaged with the subject matterAwakening in LifeLife as the opportunity to awakenWays to integrate spiritual principles into the moments of our lifeCultivating capacity through formal practiceHow to use the little moments that might otherwise be “thrown away” during the dayThat focusing on embodying our experience enables it to become more deeply our ownHow awakening in life is a responsive, integral pathA prescriptive path/model vs. a responsive path/modelHaving a deep trust in your own experience Metta DharmaThat the entire point of waking up in life could be to have an appropriate response.Ryan Oelke Links:ryanoelke.comTwitterInstagramFacebookPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.Best Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Calm App The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Ryan Oelke on Awakening in Life, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Judith BlackstoneMary O’MalleyAmoda Maa
25/02/2056m 38s

320: Stephen Mitchell on the Questioning Mind

Stephen Mitchell is an author and translator who has dedicated much of his life to Zen practice. Eric and Stephen have an in depth discussion about the questioning mind as well as his work of translating many famous texts, including the Tao Te Ching, Bhagavad Gita, and Rilke’s “Letters To a Young Poet”. Stephen has also co-authored many books with his wife, Byron Katie, who is a former guest on the show. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Stephen Mitchell and I Discuss the Questioning Mind and…The parable: how reality cannot be broken into good or bad, it’s just what is.When authentic action that is true to yourself becomes second nature, it’s an expression of your own reality.His wife Katie’s words, “when we believe our thoughts, we suffer; when we question our thoughts, we don’t.”Suffering can end when we awaken to the truthDistinguishing between pain, a physical phenomenon, and suffering, a mental phenomenonSuffering often comes from being stuck in an imagined past or imagined futureHis translation of the Heart Sutra that is about openness rather than emptinessThe “don’t know” or questioning mind and how it doesn’t get stuck in judgementBeing immersed in an intense formal Zen practice for 7 yearsHis Koan studies that helped him get to a state of stillness and learn to hold the questioning mind without any content.Defining Koan studies as an existential problem meant to catapult the student into a space of questioning.  If you can rest in that space of not knowing, the answer will present itself to you.The mind’s relationship with it’s contentsDifference between the mind and what it thinks.We don’t suffer because of what happens to us, but rather how we think about what happens to us.Self inquiry and asking yourself the question, “Is it true”?How he learns the language of the text he’s translating.His work of translating is more than just learning the meaning of words, but also the music of the words.When translating text, his allegiance is to the spirit of the text and not just the literal meaning of the text.Joseph and the Way of Forgiveness: A Biblical Tale Retold is discussed in the post show conversation.Stephen Mitchell Links:stephenmitchellbooks.comFeals is premium CBD delivered to your doorstep that can help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDIndeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting.  If you enjoyed this conversation with Stephen Mitchell on the Questioning Mind, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Byron KatieLoch Kelly
18/02/2045m 45s

319: Gretchen Rubin on Living Skillfully

Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. Gretchen is known for her ability to distill and convey complex ideas with humor and clarity in a way that’s accessible to a wide audience. She is the author of many books which have sold over 3.5 million copies worldwide in more than 30 languages. She also has an award-winning podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin. In this episode, Eric and Gretchen talk about how being strategic and smart about the ways we approach our habits and behavior can radically impact our likelihood of success.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Gretchen Rubin and I Discuss Living Skillfully and…How feeding our bad wolf can feel easier sometimesHow not eating sugar actually makes her feel betterAbstainers and ModeratorsTrying different approaches until you find the one that works for youDecision fatigueThe 4 Tendencies Model: the way people respond to expectationsUpholder, Questioner, Obliger, RebelKnowing your tendency type can help your tailor your approach and be more successful at living skillfully.Where personality comes fromHow much people can realistically change in lifeWhat and how much is really in our controlThe 21 Strategies of Habit ChangeHow cravings inevitably come and go (rather than the myth that they build and build until they overwhelm us)Accepting yourself AND expecting more from yourselfSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed  Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get 25% off your first month, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolfGretchen Rubin Links:gretchenrubin.comTwitterInstagramFacebookIf you enjoyed this conversation with Gretchen Rubin on Living Skillfully, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Ruth WhippmanJonathan Rauch
11/02/2053m 41s

318: Fleet Maull on Radical Responsibility

Fleet Maull is an author, consultant, trainer, meditation teacher and executive coach who facilitates deep transformation for individuals and organizations through his philosophy and program of Radical Responsibility. Fleet is a senior mindfulness meditation teacher in 2 highly respected traditions and is also a Roshi, or Zen Master, and dharma successor of Roshi Bernie Glassman of The Zen Peacemakers Community. In this episode, Eric and Fleet discuss his book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For Good. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Fleet Maull and I Discuss Radical Responsibility and…His book, Radical Responsibility: How to Move Beyond Blame, Fearlessly Live Your Highest Purpose and Become An Unstoppable Force For GoodOur decision about whether or not to let fear set in Fear and Survival Based ReactionGetting into your body to become more grounded, heart-centered and responsive Fear is an intelligent, natural human emotion How to become more resilientStrategies and approaches that people can use to be less afraidThe sympathetic and parasympathetic responses within usBreath awareness in addition to breathing techniquesNeurosomatic mindfulnessDefault Mode Network and the Task-Positive Network in the brainHow blame gives away our powerLetting go of the agenda of trying to control the people in your lifeThe difference between blame, fault, and ownershipMoving from victim to survivor and how we can choose the attitude we bring to any situationMindful self-compassion Fleet Maull Links:fleetmaull.comTwitterPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.SimpliSafe: Get comprehensive protection for your entire home with security cameras, alarms, sensors as well as fire, water, and carbon monoxide alerts. Visit simplisafe.com/wolf Free shipping and a 60-day risk-free trial.Bombas: “The most comfortable socks on the planet” – Eric Zimmer www.bombas.com/wolf offer code wolf save 20%
04/02/2057m 2s

317: Mini Episode: A Reply to Mark Manson’s "Motherf*ckin’ Monday"

I love Mark Manson's weekly newsletter called "Motherf*ckin’ Monday" where he discusses three ideas about the mind, life or the world.This weeks episode had three important ideas that I wanted to discuss and debate to some degree with Mark. They are:1. Your next big breakthrough is already here2. Is the growth mindset just another fad?3. Breakthroughs rarely feel good As someone who focuses on breakthroughs, transformations and slow changes over the time and someone who has gotten some mileage out of the growth mindset, I wanted to add my two cents to the discussion. I hope you enjoy.
30/01/2011m 13s

317: Sarah Wilson on Anxiety

Sarah Wilson is a New York Times Bestselling author, journalist and founder of iquitsugar.com. She has published 15 I Quit Sugar books in 46 countries and in 2017 and 2018, she was ranked as one of the Top 200 Most Influential Authors In The World. At 29, Sarah was the Editor and Chief of Cosmopolitan Magazine Australia and she has also been the host of Master Chef Australia. Her newest book is, First, We Make the Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through Anxiety and it is this that she and Eric discuss in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sarah Wilson and I Discuss Anxiety and…Her book, First, We Make The Beast Beautiful: A New Journey Through AnxietyWhere the mind goes, energy flowsThe idea of disconnection and reconnection in mental healthHow to know when the line into disordered anxiety has been crossedUnderstanding the role of medicine for anxiety, depression and other mental illnesses as well as the role of struggle in our inner life.The importance and role of therapy while also taking medication for mental disordersThe dynamic, changing nature of actively supporting mental wellnessStopping the cycle of getting anxious about being anxiousSitting in your suffering and ride it out rather than trying to beat or escape itThe slow approach for dealing with AnxietyHow walking can help AnxietyWays handwriting can help AnxietyWays space can help AnxietySpiritual idea of contraction vs expansionAsking yourself “Will this enlarge or contract my life?”Sarah Wilson Links:sarahwilson.comTwitterInstagramFacebookBest Fiends: Engage your brain and play a game of puzzles with Best Fiends. Download for free on the Apple App Store or Google Play. Indeed: Millions of great candidates use Indeed every day to find their next opportunity. You can post a job in minutes and use screener questions to create your shortlist of qualified applicants fast. Skills tests for applicants are just one way Indeed helps you make smart hiring decisions quickly. Post your job today at www.indeed.com/wolf and get a free sponsored job upgrade on your first posting.Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf If you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Wilson on Anxiety, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Dr. Ellen HendriksenMatthew Quick
28/01/2049m 46s

316: Steven C. Hayes on Developing Psychological Flexibility

Steven C. Hayes is one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and this is his second time on the show. This time, he and Eric discuss his new book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What Matters. Dr. Hayes is a Professor of Psychology at The University of Nevada Reno. He’s the author of 43 books and more than 600 scientific articles. He’s served as the President of the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapy and The Association for Contextual Behavioral Science. He is one of the most cited psychologists in the world. In this episode, Dr. Hayes teaches what psychological flexibility is, how to cultivate it, and the ways in which it can improve your life.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Steven C. Hayes and I Discuss Psychological Flexibility and…His book, A Liberated Mind: How to Pivot Toward What MattersAsking “What is the problem we’re trying to solve?”Understanding what you really care about. Take what you’re really struggling with and flip it over, therefore allowing your pain to speak to youThe lengths we go to in order to protect ourselves from hurt“Psychological Flexibility” vs “Psychological Rigidity”6 processes or pivots that promote Psychological FlexibilityThe masks we put on to try and connect with others and belong in addition to our true belongingPivoting from cognitive fusion to diffusionThoughts as ongoing attempts at meaning-making The ability to think multiple things and be guided by what is usefulLiving according to your values as well as the qualities of being and doingResponse Ability – deciding what this is about for you Accepting what we feel and committing to act according to our valuesSteven C. Hayes Links:stevenchayes.comTwitterFacebookFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDPhlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf
21/01/2058m 24s

315: Pete Holmes on Discovering Spiritual Truths

Pete Holmes is an American comedian, actor, writer, producer, and podcaster. He is both a hilarious comedian and a deeply contemplative, spiritual person. In this episode, Eric and Pete discuss his book, Comedy Sex God where they go into detail about how Pete views and experiences the world. From how he has learned to deal with frustrations to the way he returns to the present moment and experiences God in his daily life, this interview explores his direct experience with so much spiritual wisdom. You will laugh and also be deeply touched and inspired by this engaging, thoughtful conversation about discovering spiritual truths.Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Pete Holmes and I Discuss Spiritual Truths and…His book, Comedy Sex GodThe nature of lifeLighting up our pleasure centers can dull the rest of lifeHow sin is about being unconsciousThe consequences of our behavior are not waiting for us in the afterlife – they’re with us in the here and nowThe tension between being and doingMaintaining your center while doing a taskWhen Ram Dass told him, “don’t do funny, BE funny”The mistake of postponing your happiness until things are going your wayHis favorite mantraThat being here and saying yes to the present moment is the kingdom of heavenBeing present even while you’re planning in addition to non-resistanceThe story of you, your ego and how it likes to existHow he connects with his wife when he’s rushedThe role of curiosityWhen in doubt, zoom outHow God is a metaphor for a mysteryPete Holmes Links:peteholmes.comTwitterFacebookPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.Remrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. Skillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed 
14/01/201h 5m

314: Linda Graham on Strengthening Our Resilience

Linda Graham is a licensed marriage and family therapist and her work focuses on helping people strengthen capacities to cope with the challenges and crises of their lives. She also helps people recover an authentic sense of self, deepen into healthy relationships and engage with the world through meaningful, purposeful work. Her book is Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even Disaster. In this episode, she and Eric talk about the neuroscience of resilience and specific ways to strengthen our resilience, no matter our starting point. When life gets difficult, this episode will teach you how to cultivate your resilience, bounce back and grow stronger. Need help with completing your goals in 2020? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Linda Graham and I Discuss Strengthening our Resilience and…Her book, Resilience: Powerful Practices for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and Even DisasterThe neuroscience of resilienceAll emotions are signals to pay attention and take wise actionHow emotions run through our nervous system in about 20 seconds, unless we feed them with stories and with habitual patterns of responseIf we can allow difficult emotions and have compassion for ourselves for feeling them, we can shift the patterns in our brain away from that contracted state and into a more open state – the outcome is resilienceWhat resilience is Response flexibilityHow you respond to the issue, IS the issueThe severity of the stressor and the strength of our external resourcesOur own internal resourcesDifferentiating between our perception and our responseHow our attitude is a filter that our perception goes throughCultivating a resilience mindsetThe factors that influence our brain’s response flexibility. as well as how we can re-wire our brain’s response flexibilityHow to create new patterns of responding to difficultyThe default mode networkPractices that people can use to strengthen their resilienceA practice that will calm a panic attack in under 1 minuteThe things that accelerate brain changeChanging every “should” to a “could” That “should” creates contraction in the brain whereas “could” creates openness and possibility in the brainPausing to remember that we can be resilient and asking yourself “What story am I believing now?”How triggers become trailheadsLinda Graham Links:lindagraham-mft.netTwitterFacebookCalm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Daily Harvest: Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDIf you enjoyed this conversation with Linda Graham on Strengthening our Resilience, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Elissa EpelRick Hanson
07/01/2044m 10s

313: NEW! BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change

BJ Fogg teaches innovators about human behavior. He has a doctorate from Stanford and founded the Stanford Persuasive Tech Lab – now called the Stanford Behavior Design Lab – in 1988. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change Everything. There is so much practical, applicable wisdom in this episode. If you have any changes you want to make, any habits you’d like to start in your life, this episode could be a game-changer for you. In it, you’ll learn the “how-to” when it comes to the science of behavior change. It is a skill you can learn, even if you’ve struggled to make changes in your life before. And the best news? It’s incredibly do-able – if you know how.Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, BJ Fogg and I Discuss Tiny Habits for Behavior Change and…His book, Tiny Habits: The Small Changes that Change EverythingThat people change best by feeling good, not feeling badThe Tiny Habits MethodThe technique of CelebrationLearning to be a friend to yourself and treat yourself accordingly When it comes to changing your behavior, looking at yourself as a baby who is learning to walkThe 3 things you should do to set yourself up to succeed when changing a behaviorStop judging yourselfTake your aspirations and break them down into tiny behaviorsEmbrace mistakes as discoveries and use them to move forwardGolden behaviorsThe problem of “all or nothing thinking” The problem of expecting perfection from yourself when it comes to habitsThat when it comes to habits, context is as important as the behavior itself. Change the context, it’s a different habit.The Fogg Behavioral Model: Motivation, Ability and a PromptTroubleshooting a behavior change problemThe danger in assuming you know someone else’s motivationTrying to motivate someone vs. taking away a de-motivatorWays we can make a behavior easy to doThat we can plant a tiny seed in a good spot and it will grow without coaxingBJ Fogg Links:bjfogg.comSkillshare is an online learning community that helps you get better on your creative journey. They have thousands of inspiring classes for creative and curious people. Get 2 FREE months of premium membership at www.skillshare.com/feed If you enjoyed this conversation with BJ Fogg on Tiny Habits for Behavior Change, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Michelle SegarJames Clear (Part 1)James Clear (Part 2)
31/12/1955m 22s

312: Re-Release: Michelle Segar on Making Lasting Changes

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Michelle Segar, PhD, is a motivation scientist and author of critically acclaimed “No Sweat! How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of Fitness” . She is also the Director of the Sport, Health, and Activity Research and Policy Center (SHARP) at the University of Michigan, and Chair of the U.S. National Physical Activity Plan’s Communications Committee.Her evidence-based ideas about what motivates people to choose and maintain healthy behaviors is changing the conversation across fields. She consults with global organizations on these issues and delivers keynotes and sustainable behavior change trainings. She ran with the Olympic Torch at the 1992 Olympic Games in Barcelona.In This Interview, Michelle Segar and I Discuss…The One You Feed parableHer book, No Sweat: How the Simple Science of Motivation Can Bring You a Lifetime of FitnessHow considering a different “why” for starting to be more physically active can be helpfulThat why we engage in physical activity and what it is that we do are critical when it comes to us sticking with itHow too many “whys” dilute their positive effect on usIntrinsic vs Extrinsic goalsHow answering the question, “What kind of physical activity did you enjoy doing as a kid?” can be importantThat we should start doing what makes us feel good and stop doing what makes us feel bad when it comes to physical activityThat any physical movement is better than none at all – Everything counts!That flexibility is a strategy for success when it comes to sustained physical activity in your lifeThe vicious cycle of failureThe sustainable cycle of self-careThat it’s important to focus one complicated behavior change at a timeThe self-care hierarchyMichelle Segar LinksHomepageTwitterLinkedIn
30/12/1941m 44s

312: Re-Release: Tim Pychyl on Being a Procrastinator

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. We discuss how to go from being a procrastinator to someone who gets things done. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeIn This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss Being a Procrastinator and…His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeHow it’s in the getting on in life that makes a lifeBeing a procrastinator can be an existential matterWhat he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.When we are procrastinators we delay getting on with our livesBeing an active member or your own lifeThe two ways being a procrastinator compromises our healthStressFewer wellness behaviorsTreatment delay “I’ll look after that later”Being a Procrastinator is a problem of self-regulated behaviorI won’t give in to feel goodGoal Intentions and Implementation intentionsWhen….then…Giving the monkey something to doWhat’s the next action?Keeping it smallHacks to work around our irrational thinkingMotivation and then Action or Action and then MotivationThe meaning behind our goalsMeaning and ManageabilityAsking what will this cost me if I put it off?Being a ProcrastinatorPrefer tomorrow over todayThinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”Affect forecastingThinking of your future self as a strangerDeveloping empathy for future selfSelf-handicap to preserve self-esteemTim Pychyl Procrastinator Episode LinksHomepageTwitterTim’s Psychology Today Page
29/12/1945m 54s

312: Re-Release: James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits, Part 2

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric!Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You’ll learn some really specific, easy and flat out “why didn’t I think of that” genius methods to apply to your life and habits.In this Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHabits are a response to the physical cues in our environmentIncreasing the friction it takes to complete the taskThe more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the betterHabit stacking/Anchoring“After _____ I will _____”The more specific the betterSocial environment and habitsYou want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behaviorMake it easyThe two-minute ruleA habit must be established before it can be improvedOptimize for the starting line rather than the finish lineMake it satisfyingFeel successful at the endBring the long-term consequences into the short term James Clear LinksHomepageInstagramTwitter
28/12/1934m 47s

312: Re-Release: James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits, Part 1

Are you ready to make some changes in your life in 2020? Click Here to book your Free Strategy Session with Eric! Chances are, you’ve heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That’s kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 1 of a 2 part series, he talks about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. It’s a fascinating and educational discussion surrounding how to work with yourself and your habits to set yourself up for short and long-term success when it comes to behavior change. Everyone can benefit from listening to the wisdom in this episode. Enjoy.In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss…His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHow habits can compound for you or against youThat small changes don’t seem to matter much in the momentThe 4 Laws of Behavior ChangeYour outcomes are a lagging measure of your effortsHow bamboo is like habitsYou need to build a foundation to see resultsHow work isn’t wasted, it’s storedFocusing on systems rather than goalsHow the outcome is a natural consequence of habitsThat goals restrict your happinessThe role of identity in behavior changeHow you choose to act is a vote towards the kind of person you want to bePutting your identity on the back burner while you accrue some evidenceGrowth vs Fixed MindsetHow humans are learning machinesThe 4 Stages of HabitsHow you interpret the cues in your life determines how you respond to themThe toolbox for breaking and building habitsJames Clear LinksHomepageInstagramTwitter
28/12/1936m 55s

312: David Christian on A Big History of Everything

David Christian is a Distinguished Professor of History at Macquarie University and director of the school’s Big History Institute, which he founded with Bill Gates. David has delivered keynotes at conferences around the world including the Davos World Economic Forum and his TedTalk has been viewed more than 7 million times. He’s the author of numerous books and articles including the book we discuss in this episode, Origin Story: A Big History of Everything. This episode is truly awe-inspiring, fascinating and mind-blowing.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Christian and I Discuss A Big History of Everything and…His book, Origin Story: A Big History of EverythingLooking for the balance in dualitiesWhat an origin story means to him as well as the guidance it offersHow modern society has lost touch with origin storiesLinking knowledge together as well as telling an ancient origin story using modern scienceKnowing who you are, where you are and what challenges you faceHaving a deep sense of awe for how things are as well as The story line of increasing complexityWhat we know & don’t know about The Big BangPure potentiality becoming energy and matterEverything that has ever been came from something that started 13.8 billion years ago, and was a million times smaller than the period at the end of a sentence.Emergence of stars, planets, and life happenedCells acting with purpose and preference and how collaboration and specialization is inherent.The origin of life and the appearance of humans, as well as the unique contribution that human beings that make the emergence of our species are all transformative events on the planet Earth.The impact of our utilization of fossil fuelsDavid Christian Links:www.mq.edu.au/bighistoryTwitterTed TalkFeals: Premium CBD delivered to your doorstep to help you manage stress, anxiety, pain, and sleeplessness. Feals CBD is food-grade and every batch is tested so you know you are getting truly premium grade product. Get 50% off your first order with free shipping by becoming a member at www.feals.com/wolf Calm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and Calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Get 40% off a Calm Premium Subscription (a limited time offer!) by going to www.calm.com/wolf Phlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first Phlur sampler set at www.phlur.com/wolf
24/12/1951m 48s

311: Cal Newport on Digital Minimalism

Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University. In addition to his academic research, he writes about the intersection of digital technology and culture. He is the author of 6 books, his most recent being the New York Times bestseller, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World. In this interview, Eric and Cal discuss how to optimize the role of tech in our lives so that it supports us in the life we want to live., rather than depleting us and causing us to feel like we are giving it too much of our time and energy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cal Newport and I Discuss Digital Minimalism and…His book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy WorldThe concerns about our digital lifestyleThe mixture of harm and benefit with social mediaThe costs of our digital lifestyleDigital Maximalist vs Digital MinimalistStarting with your values as a guide to decide what tech you use to maximize the time you can spend on things you valueHow to think about the role of tech in your lifeDeploying tech to support you in living life according to your valuesHaving a philosophy surrounding the use of tech in your lifeHow clutter is costlyAdding up the cost and value of somethingThe importance of optimization in addition to the role of tech in our livesIntentionality is satisfyingThe 3 step process for implementing digital minimalismCal Newport Links:calnewport.comDaily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Astronomy, Cooking and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfRemrise is a personalized sleep solution that uses natural, plant-based formulas to help calm the mind, relax the body and get your circadian rhythm back on track. It’s drug-free and has no groggy side effects in the morning. To get your first week FREE, go to www.getremrise.com/wolf and take their sleep quiz to determine which formulation is right for you. 
17/12/1949m 56s

310: Liz Fosslien on Embracing Emotions at Work

Liz Fosslien is the Head of Content and Editorial at Humu, a company that uses behavioral science to make work better. She leads interactive scientifically-backed workshops about how to create a culture of belonging to help remote workers avoid burnout, navigate different work styles, and effectively harness emotion as a leader. Her work has been featured by The New York Times, The Economist, and NPR. Liz is the co-author and illustrator of the book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work. In this episode, she and Eric dive into the important and fascinating topic of the role of emotions in the workplace. You may think being “cool, calm and collected” at work is the right way to be but after listening to this episode, you will likely think differently.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Liz Fosslien and I Embracing Emotions at Work and …Her book, No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotions at Work.How we underestimate the emotions we bring to workTools to help with embracing emotions in the workplaceHow we make really bad decisions when we don’t reference our emotionsThe danger of being a “feelings fire hose” at workThe “Skill Swap” exercise at workThe New Rules of EmotionCaring about yourself more than you care about your workYour Support Network and your Challenge Network at workCommunicating what you need in the moment to another person Social DistancingWhy we lack motivation at workRelevant Emotions vs Irrelevant EmotionsLiz Fosslien Links:fosslien.comTwitterInstagramThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Eric decided to buy one after his 30-day free trial. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.SoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, stock bits, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up.
10/12/1943m 16s

309: Greg Marcus on the Spiritual Practice of Good Actions

Greg Marcus is a practitioner, facilitator, and innovator of American Mussar which is a 21st-century spiritual practice for an authentic and meaningful life. He has a B.A. in Biology from Cornell University and earned his Ph.D. in Biology from MIT. He worked for 10 years as a marketer in the Silicon Valley genomics industry, after which he became a stay at home dad, writer, life balance coach, and biotech consultant. His latest book is called The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of Mussar. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Greg Marcus and I Discuss Spiritual Practice of Good Actions and …His book, The Spiritual Practice of Good Actions: Finding Balance Through the Soul Traits of MussarThe Jewish Spiritual Practice of MussarTaking mindful action in everyday lifeThe Soul Trait of EnthusiasmToo much of a Soul Trait vs not enough of a Soul TraitThe middle way as it relates to Soul TraitsFocusing on a Soul Trait for 2 weeksHow to move head knowledge into heart knowledgeThe Morning MantraPicking 1 specific action to takeJournalingThe Great Wall of Mussar – and how to overcome itHandling significant emotional disruptionHow our free will isn’t always accessible to usHow to slow the train of emotional disruptionShadow Soul TraitsInverting the Shadow Trait: What is the light that’s casting the shadow?Greg Marcus Links:americanmussar.comTwitterFacebookFabFitFun:  A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.comCalm App: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription.Talkspace: the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.
03/12/1941m 39s

308: Dr. John Norcross on the Keys to Successful Behavior Change

Dr. John Norcross is an internationally recognized expert on behavior change. He is Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of Scranton and a board-certified psychologist. He is the author of the acclaimed self-help book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and Resolutions, has authored over 400 publications and has co-written and edited 22 books, principally in the areas of psychotherapy, clinical psychology, professional training, and self-change. In this episode, he and Eric discuss what the science of behavior change tells us when it comes to the do’s and don’t’s of creating new behaviors and putting an end to problematic ones. This episode is full of practical wisdom and is a must-listen for anyone looking to create meaningful, lasting change in their lives. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. John Norcross and I discuss Behavior Change and…His book, Changeology: 5 Steps to Realizing Your Goals and ResolutionsOne of the colossal mistakes people make when trying to change their behaviorMotivation & willpower versus learnable skillsHarnessing the power of the science of behavior change as well as the 5 stages of behavior changeThe power of doing the right things at the right timePreparing to follow a behavior change programThe 90-day commitment for lasting behavior changeChronic Contemplation as well as what to do when you slip upThe findings from the New Years Resolutions StudyEnergy sourcesThe importance of a “change team” or a “support team”The common “countering” methods using “healthy opposites”How to apply the “healthy opposites” approach to emotional eatingThe truth: what is measured, improvesDealing with urges as well as cravingsDr. John Norcross Links:changeologybook.orgTwitterFacebookBlinkist: Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less (audio available too!) go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial and then save 25% off your new subscription if you decide to sign up!Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLFPhlur: Get a luxurious scent made with transparent, clean ingredients. Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your Phlur sampler set at Phlur.com/wolf
26/11/1944m 50s

307: Loch Kelly on Effortless Mindfulness

Loch Kelly is an author, meditation teacher, psychotherapist, and the founder of The Open-Hearted Awareness Institute. Loch works to help people access awakening as the next natural stage of human development. by offering in-person retreats, workshops, and online video and audio courses. He has served on the New York Insight Teachers Council and has collaborated with neuroscientists at Yale, U Penn and NYU in the study of how awareness training can enhance compassion and well being. Loch also studied extensively with Mingyur Rinpoche and was invited to teach direct realization by Adyashanti. As a licensed psychotherapist, Loch has been teaching seminars, supervising clinicians and practicing awareness psychotherapy in New York City for 30 years. His latest book is called, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Loch Kelly and I discuss Effortless Mindfulness and…His book, The Way of Effortless Mindfulness: A Revolutionary Guide for Living an Awakened LifeThe good wolf & the bad wolf: how there are no “bad” parts of usFeed the one who is aware of the two wolvesHow he defines “effortless mindfulness”Flow consciousnessDeliberate mindfulness vs effortless mindfulnessObjects of consciousness vs the space that objects are inMindfulness is about awakening rather than it just being about stress managementRelieving suffering at it’s rootSmall glimpses, many times and the practice of the “small glimpses” techniques.Dropping from head mind to heart mindNon-dual awareness How to practice the "small glimpses techniquesAwareness-based knowingLoch Kelly Links:lochkelly.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramDaily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box, go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDSoFi Invest: A platform that makes investing easy by offering stocks, crypto & automated investing all in one. With access to their financial advisors to answer any questions you have at no cost. Go to www.sofi.com/wolf, create an account, and they will give you $25 of free stock just for signing up.Netsuite by Oracle: Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf
19/11/1944m 49s

306: Judith Blackstone on Healing Trauma Through Consciousness

Judith Blackstone is an innovative and experienced teacher in the contemporary fields of non-dual realization and spiritual, relational, and somatic psychotherapy. She developed The Realization Process, which is a direct path for realizing fundamental consciousness. She also teaches the application of non-dual realization for psychological, relational, and physical healing. Judith has taught The Realization Process for over 35 years throughout the United States and Europe. She currently has 6 books in publication including her latest book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental Consciousness.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Judith Blackstone and I discuss Healing Trauma through Consciousness and …Her book, Trauma and the Unbound Body: The Healing Power of Fundamental ConsciousnessUncovering fundamental consciousnessAttuning to the 3 components of fundamental consciousness: awareness, emotion, and physical sensationDefining traumaThe way we hold back things that won’t be met with approvalHow traumatic events cause us to be divided – driving us out of our fundamental nature of wholeness, which is fundamental consciousnessInhabiting our body vs scanning our bodyReleasing trauma through our bodiesHealing trauma through consciousnessPsychological healing in addition to spiritual awakeningThe role of memory in healing traumaAccessing memories through somatic connectionsHealing trauma in relation to other people as well as with other peopleJudith Blackstone Links:realizationprocess.orgFacebookThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfEverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your testFabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Judith Blackstone on Healing Trauma through Consciousness, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Hilary Jacobs HendelMary O’Malley
12/11/1946m 29s

305: David Richo on Navigating the Five Givens in Life

David Richo, PhD is a psychotherapist, teacher, workshop leader and writer who works in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, CA. He combines Jungian, poetic and mythic perspectives in his work with the intention of integrating the psychological and the spiritual. His books and workshops include attention to Buddhist and Christian spiritual practices. He is the author of the classic book, How To Be An Adult: A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration and his latest book, 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big Challenges, is the focus of the conversation in this episode. If you’ve experienced difficulty in life – and who hasn’t? -then this episode on navigating the 5 givens in life is for you.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Richo and I Discuss Navigating the Five Givens in Life and…His latest book 5 True Things: A Little Guide to Embracing Life’s Big ChallengesThat perfection is not a human optionHow a “given” can be looked at as an immutable fact or something that we’ve been grantedNavigating the 5 givens in life that are the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassionLife is not always fair and that pain is part of everyone’s lifeThe importance of saying yes to these givens as it brings more equanimity and serenity into our lifeAccepting the things we cannot change, while trusting that if life is like this, these “givens” aren’t penalties – rather, they have gift dimensionsHow we create our own suffering through our saying “no” to what isHis words, “Anything that crosses swords with our entitled ego is a powerful source of transformation and inner evolution.”The ego tries to control the givensThat love is accepting someone as they are, knowing that everyone comes with these 5 givensHow the opposite of yes is not no, but rather it is controlBuilding the inner resources that make me strong enough to handle whatever givens come my way as well as the importance of becoming skilled at griefHis words, “A spiritually evolved adult seeks not an answer, but a significance.”Live with the questions and notice where they take usAct with loving-kindness in addition to holding difficulty with mindfulnessSpirituality is the intersection of 3 paths: letting go of ego, “yes” to the conditions of human experience, and compassionHappiness is not a reward and suffering is not a punishmentDavid Richo Links:davericho.comThe Great Courses Plus: Are you a life long learner? A perpetually curious person? The Great Courses Plus is an on-demand streaming service that offers courses taught by professors on a whole host of topics such as Human Behavior, Money Management Skills, Black Holes, the History of England and so much more. Eric is currently enrolled in their course called, The Hidden Factor: Why Thinking Differently is Your Greatest Asset. Listeners of the show get a full month of unlimited access to their library for FREE by signing up at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, sleep stories, soothing music, and calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you connect with a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $100 off your first month.
05/11/1943m 54s

304: Tony Wrighton on Managing Your Energy

Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …Trying to meditate with a 4-month-oldHow there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolvesHis training in NLPThe role of control in our livesParentingWhy he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to himThe idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the worldThe thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exerciseThe thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levelsHis books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a MinuteThe NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things upAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)AuthenticityTony Wrighton Links:tonywrighton.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramNetsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfNimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLFPhlur: Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf
29/10/1950m 26s

303: James Finley on Contemplation and Awakening

James Finley is a contemplative practitioner, clinical psychologist and faculty member of The Living School for Action and Contemplation. Drawing from his experience as a former monk and spiritual directee of Thomas Merton, James helps seekers who desire to live a contemplative, whole life. In this episode, he and Eric discuss many of his works and concepts pertaining to contemplation, awakening to our true nature, truth that transcends religions, love and wisdom. We think you will be struck (as we are!) by how expansive, inclusive and edifying James’ words and teachings are when it comes to helping you to connect with that which is loving and true and always present. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, James Finley and I Discuss Contemplation, Awakening, and …The question: In this moment, what’s the most loving thing I can do?How it’s love that feeds the good wolfHis book, Merton’s Palace of NowhereHis violent, abusive alcoholic father and how that facilitated his seeking a place in a monastery with Thomas Merton Merton’s message that we are one with the infinite love that is God and that is our deepest identity and it is our destiny is to realize thatThat we subsist in a relationship with God as light subsists in flameHow truth transcends religionsThe True Self and False SelfThe lie that the ego is all that we areIdentity: The discovery of the true self is the process of dying to our dreaded and cherished illusion that anything less than infinite union with infinite love has the authority to name who we are.The acts that hurt ourselves and others is the acting out of a mistaken identityHis book, The Contemplative HeartTo contemplate means to pay attention, to observe carefullyContemplation is sustained attentiveness infused with loveHis book, Christian MeditationTaking the stance of least resistance when it comes to awakeningThe welling up of that which sustains us in the brokennessRemoving complexities and distractions to be present in stillnessThe mystic teacher is one whose words awaken your heart to the desire for “the great way” and offers trustworthy guidance in it. The mystic teacher uses language in the service of helping a person to let go of their dependency on the kind of language that stops short at explanations to find the language that is a kind of a cry from the heart, from our true self.The true self embraces both solitude and communion with othersThe metaphor of a high jumper and a very high bar and God’s mercy or compassion then placing it on the ground where we then trip over it and fall into God’s loving armsBeing sustained by a mystery that then brings us to itself – and that is wisdomJames Finley Links:jamesfinley.orgCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionDaily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code FEEDFabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Give yourself (or someone special in your life!) this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com
22/10/1943m 1s

302: Reba Riley on Post Traumatic Church Syndrome

Reba Riley is a blogger, artist, and healer. She travels the world speaking about transformation, courage, health, and healing. Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and Healing, is the topic of discussion in this episode. You will be moved and inspired by Reba’s story. As it turns out, kindness, love, and bravery really are some of the most powerful forces to harness for healing and hope and that’s what she discovered as she explored 30 religions before she turned 30 and battled a deep depression in the years following.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Reba Riley and I Discuss Post Traumatic Church Syndrome, and …Her book, Post Traumatic Church Syndrome: A Memoir of Humor and HealingHer chronic illnessFacing her anger and bitterness30 religions before she turned 30Life being grey when religions answers are often black and whiteThat love is bigger than everythingLove healing us and bringing us togetherHer mothers love through her journeyThat wherever she found love (in the 30 religions) she found GodHow love and forgiveness have to start in each of usLooking past beliefs and differences and judgments to find the love that existsIf love rolled up her sleeves and put on her work boots, kindness is what would happenKindness is the action, the outpouring, the verb – of loveKindness is love made visibleHer battle with dark, debilitating depressionFeeling like she had no reason to do anything, no will to liveUsing kindness to battle depressionHow she did 5000 random acts of kindness over 18 months and it saved her lifeThe story she hasn’t told anywhere else about her relapse of depression The alchemy of kindness to transform your painCouraging = brave as a verbReba Riley Links:rebariley.comtwitterPeloton: Wondering if a Peloton bike is right for you? You can get a free 30 day home trial and find out. If you’re looking for a new way to get your cardio in, the Peloton bike is a great solution. Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with the purchase of a bike, and a free 30 day home trial.Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLFThe Great Courses Plus: Learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at  www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf
15/10/1943m 53s

301: Robin Hanson on Motives and Human Behavior

Robin Hanson is an Associate Professor of Economics at George Mason University and a Research Associate at the Future of Humanity Institute of Oxford University. His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday Life, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. They explore topics like motives, perspective, the left brain interpreter and so much more as it relates to human behavior. This episode will give you a lot of insight into yourself and others.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Robin Hanson and I Discuss Motives, Human Behavior, and …His book, The Elephant In The Brain: Hidden Motives In Everyday LifeHow often, we keep our true motives hidden from othersThat we also keep our true motives hidden from ourselvesModularityThe things happening at a conscious as well as an unconscious levelThe left brain interpreter being like a press secretaryNeeding to tell a story about our motivesQuestioning whether or not you know the motives of othersThat we have multiple motives for doing thingsUnderstand others and then assume you’re a lot like themCynicism and MisanthropyPerspectiveThe evolution to protect ourselves from each otherThe need to have others like us and think well of usObliviationWhat if others couldn’t see what you bought – that their opinion of you wouldn’t change because of what you bought – how would that change what you’d buy?That we pay a lot for varietyProximate and distal causesThat evolution designed us to be relatively unaware of our motives – so why is it good to know about them?Robin Hanson Links:elephantinthebrain.comovercomingbias.comTwitterTed TalkWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get one month for free at  www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get $65 off your first month.
08/10/1948m 21s

300: Charlie Gilkey on Getting Things Done

Charlie Gilkey is the author of Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To Done. An Army veteran and near Ph.D. in philosophy, Charlie is the founder of Productive Flourishing, a company that helps professional creatives, leaders, and change-makers take meaningful action on work matters. He’s widely cited in outlets such as Inc. Magazine, Time, Forbes, The Guardian, Life Hacker and more and his work will help you discover the path from the ideas in your head to the actions you take in your daily life and the way you live out your values – and most importantly how to go about getting things done.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Charlie Gilkey and I Discuss Getting Things Done and …His book, Start Finishing: How To Go From Idea To DoneHow kindness towards others often brings out the best in everyoneThe Tao Te ChingFocusing on your input and letting go of the resultsWhy finishing is so importantThat we only get mastery from finishing things, not halfway doing themWe don’t just improve by thinking about things, we improve by doing themCreative constipation breeds toxicity We’re either creating something or destroying somethingWe don’t do ideas, we do projectsHow it feels good to think about our ideasHow doing our best work is often really hardThe myth: if it’s meant to be for us, it’s supposed to be easyThat when you start something you’re not as good at it as you want to be and it takes time to and effort to get betterThe myth that if it doesn’t come easy for you, you shouldn’t do itDoing something until you’re good enough at it to decide whether or not you want to continue doing itThe 5 things that get in the way of doing our best workHead Trash: Doesn’t matter if a thought is true or not – it matters if we believe it or notThe problem with automatically believing our thoughtsHow discipline limits decision fatigueAction expresses priorityBeing sick isn’t a character defect – how you respond to it mattersThat big life changes take life force and energy in order for us to respond to and deal with them and that’s life force that we can’t put towards other things – and that’s okCharlie Gilkey Links:productiveflourishing.comTwitterFacebookEverlyWell: Offers more than 35 at-home lab tests with super easy to follow instructions. Results are processed in a certified lab and reviewed by board-certified physicians and are then sent directly to you within days. The EverlyWell digital platform helps break down exactly what your results mean for you plus you can also set up a free discussion with a healthcare professional to discuss them. To start learning more about your health, go to everlywell.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF for 15% off your testPhlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolfCalm: The #1 rated app for meditation. They have meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. www.calm.com/wolf 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionIf you enjoyed this conversation with Charlie Gilkey on getting things done, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Chris BaileyDavid KadavyTim Pychyl
01/10/1950m 16s

299: Mark Henick on Suicide and Depression

Mark Henick has appeared in hundreds of television segments and countless more radio, print and online features about mental health. Mark’s TedTalk, “Why We Choose Suicide”, is among the most-watched in the world with over 6 million views. In this episode, he tells Eric about his experience with attempts at suicide, relapsing depression and getting skillful with finding meaning and living his life. This isn’t just a broad discussion on suicide and depression – there are real, practical techniques and approaches that can be applied to life today, no matter your circumstances, to create meaning, fulfillment, and yes, even joy. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mark Henick and I Discuss Suicide, Depression, and…The duality of life and deathMental Health and SuicideHis suicidality at 12 years oldThe message he got that he couldn’t talk about suicideThe complete stranger who saved him from jumping from a bridge at night – physically holding on to himHis realization that he didn’t have to be the suffering boy he was, he could be the stranger that helped him…that his life could be differentThe myth that if you talk about suicide it will give people the idea to do itThe right way and wrong way to talk about suicide and depressionHow freeing it is to talk about somethingWhen others told him they could relate to his story of suicide and depressionHis recovery through a newfound sense of purposeThe healthier relationships he pursuedGetting clear about boundariesThe toxic masculinity he was surrounded by as a childNot having the language to express the feelings he hadThe perceptual field and increasing your options by getting uncomfortable.How depression limits the options you can see Broadening of perception and expansion as a part of awakeningSomething good can come from most painful situations; It’s in the lens you take and the work that you do.His depression and social anxiety disorderThe danger in an avoidant coping strategy as well as the flaws of perfectionism.Realizing the cross you bear can change into meaning and how to turn your struggle into something good.Getting good at re-lapsing with his depressionHis misguided thought that he was failing at getting betterLearning to trust himself AND learning not to believe every one of his thoughtsThe truth: This too shall pass (the more you cling to it the longer it takes to pass)How depression hates a moving targetMark Henick Links:markhenick.comTed Talk: “Why We Choose Suicide”TwitterFacebookTalkspace:  the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.Daily Harvest – Delivers absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get $25 off your first box go to www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEED
25/09/1948m 57s

298: Essential Concepts: Key Strategies to Making a Change

This mini episode is about the tactical and emotional aspects of changing behavior.  
21/09/1912m 28s

298: Sarah Shockley on Living with Chronic Pain

Sarah Shockley is a multiple award-winning producer and director of educational films including Dancing From the Inside Out, a highly acclaimed documentary on disabled dance. Sarah is the author of a number of books on living with chronic pain, including the one discussed in this episode, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic Pain.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sarah Shockley and I Discuss Living with Chronic Pain and…Her book, The Pain Companion: Everyday Wisdom for Living with and Moving Beyond Chronic PainHow it’s hard for us to heal when we’re in a battle with painThe good wolf aspect of painFeeding into healing vs feeding in living with chronic painHer experience with debilitating painThe many components of chronic pain – in addition to the physical componentHow isolating chronic pain can be Chronic emotional painSeeing pain differentlyTurning towards pain and asking it, “What could positively be your positive purpose here?”What you resist persistsBecoming partners with your painThinking of pain as the voice of something within you that wants to be healedCreating a different relationship with painWe lock pain in place when we get into a resistant modeGiving pain a lot of spaceBreathing into the painThe messages that pain brought herAsking pain, “What do you need?”How her life has been transformed by changing her relationship and experience with chronic painThat she wrote the book she wished she had been given in the midst of her struggle with painThat being seen in your pain can be the beginning of healingLiving with chronic pain and what she imagined her pain looking likeSarah Shockley Links:thepaincompanion.comFacebookYouTubeDoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you enjoyed this conversation with Sarah Shockley on living with chronic pain, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Toni BernhardMichael Galinsky
18/09/1942m 47s

297: Eric Kaufmann on Conscious Leadership

Eric Kaufmann guides leaders to make better decisions and achieve better results. He has consulted for hundreds of leaders including executives and team leaders at Sony, TMobile, Genentec and Alcon Labs just to name a few. He is the founder of Sagatica Inc and he serves on the board of the San Diego Zen Center. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his work of teaching conscious leadership in the workplace.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric Kaufmann and I Discuss…How he interacts with his shadow sideThe key to not making a situation worseHis practice of refrain and returnConscious leadershipUnrelenting commitment to results with an unwavering regard for spiritWhat someone says they want vs what they needThe courage it takes to say noThe 3 building blocks of our egoic stateThe 3 pillars of being a conscious personWisdom = mistakes + timeWisdom = Seeing below the surface and beyond the obviousThat being wise means being present and awareHow cultivating wisdom is a practice and how humor cultivates wisdom.Courage is walking toward what you want to walk away fromHave the courage to Speak Up, Care, CommitHow sarcasm can be a mask of fearBringing the weirdHow it takes energy to withholdLove is wanting to do well for othersLove is expansive, inclusive, and connectiveThe things that get in the way of loveEric Kaufmann Links:sagatica.comFacebookInstagramYouTubeCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get 3 months of unlimited access to their entire library for just $30. www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf
10/09/1942m 43s

296: Brent Williams on Recovering from Depression

Brent Williams suffered for a long time from depression and anxiety and during that time he kept a journal about his thoughts, feelings, and experiences. That journal has now been turned in to a beautiful graphic novel called, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. In this episode, Brent and Eric use his story as a jumping-off point to discuss how depression can show up in your life and how you can realistically, practically, and effectively find your way out of it.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Brent Williams and I Discuss…His book, Out Of The Woods: A Journey Through Depression and AnxietyHow subtle depression can be in your life – permeating everything All the things he went to as a diagnosis before he admitted it was depression he was suffering fromHis resistance to taking depression medicationHow he watched his father take medication for anxiety and how it changed himHis resistance to taking help from othersHis experience in therapyThe metaphor of depression medication being a life preserver but you still have to swim back to shoreThe components of self-care: eat well, exercise, be with people, be outside, get support, stop ruminating, proper sleepHow fundamental good nutrition is when it comes to mental well beingDoing small and manageable things when you’re depressedHow the reward mechanism in your brain isn’t working properly when you’re depressedHow it took him a while to find the right therapist The potential danger of meditating when depressedThat mindfulness meditation was the form of meditating that helped him mostThe impact of keeping a mood chart – seeing a pattern that you can’t see at the timeThat sometimes you just have to push yourself over the hurdle of doing things that are good for you when you don’t feel like doing themLooking at your activities to assess your mental wellbeingDepression showing up as irritability in menBrent Williams Links:outofthewoods.co.nz **Special Offer** for The One You Feed listeners! Buy 1 Book, Get 1 Free to give to a friend, family member or a community center!FacebookTwitterPhlur – Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolfFabFitFun – A women’s lifestyle subscription box filled with full-size premium items that you will love. Eric’s girlfriend is honestly obsessed because the items in this box are just so good. Give yourself this gift – use the promo code FEED for $10 off your first box at fabfitfun.com
03/09/1939m 58s

295: Dr. Sue Johnson on Navigating Romantic Relationships

Dr. Sue Johnson is an author, clinical psychologist, researcher, and an internationally recognized leader in the field of couple interventions. She is founding Director of the International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT) and Distinguished Research Professor at Alliant University in San Diego, California, as well as Professor Emeritus, Clinical Psychology, at the University of Ottawa, Canada. In this interview, Dr. Sue Johnson discuss her best selling book, “Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of Love” and her groundbreaking research of helping couples to enhance, repair, and keep their relationship.  Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Sue Johnson and I Discuss…Her book, Hold Me Tight: 7 Conversations for a Lifetime of LoveThe wolf parable and how therapists act as the third wolf for couples.Relationships are often stuck in fear and angerEmotional disconnection causes distress in relationships.Humans are wired for close connection with others.Attachment needs continue into adulthood, most notably in romantic relationships.Common conversations in distressed relationships are known as “demon dialogues”.Relationships stuck in predictable patterns is referred to as the “Protest Polka”.“Freeze and Flee”means one person gives up on the relationship. “Find the Bad Guy” in other words, It’s not me, it’s you” Understanding the circle of criticism, or the “dance” you’re stuck in.Learning to blame this “dance” rather than each other.  The “hold me tight conversation” that creates safety in the relationship.Understanding the negative cycle that causes disconnection.Creating a positive cycle by creating a secure bond“ARE” – Accessibility, Responsiveness, and Engagement.Talking about fears rather than acting on them leads to bonding.Emotional connection in a relationship is a source of joy and strength.Dr. Sue Johnson Links:drsuejohnson.comTwitterFacebookTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.DoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com
27/08/1942m 51s

294: Gabe Howard on Mental Illness

Gabe Howard is an award-winning writer, speaker, and host of the weekly Psych Central show who lives with bipolar and anxiety disorders. His new book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other Observations, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. You’ll be captivated by Gabe’s story as he tells it – it’s compelling, relatable, inspiring, and educational. Whether or not you have bipolar disorder or another mental illness, chances are you know someone or some people who do and so this is an important episode to listen to – you’ll deepen your understanding of what it means to live with mental illness. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Gabe Howard and I Discuss…His book, Mental Illness Is an A-Hole – And Other ObservationsWhat bipolar disorder is (and isn’t) and how it shows up in his lifeHis compelling storyThe myth that people with mental illness come from bad familiesWhen he went to the ER because of suicidal thoughtsHow he defines recovery: spending more time living life than managing his bipolar disorderThe 4 years he spent in a battle with his mental illnessHow you have to learn what works for you – and how that takes timeThe role of medication in the treatment of mental illnessHow it stings when your body lets you downEric’s experience taking and not taking medication for his depressionWhole health wellnessSuicideDon’t choose a permanent solution to a temporary problemHow suicide doesn’t end the pain – it transfers it to someone elseGabe Howard Links:gabehoward.comTwitterFacebook
20/08/1949m 22s

293: A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem 08/15/2019

Hi Everyone!Here is a mini episode that was made for our Patreon members called A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem (and sometimes a bad joke!)Teaching: We Can Always Grow and ChangePoem: The Trees- Philip LarkinSong: Tomorrow- James If you'd like to get one of these every week, you can become a member of our community by going to oneyoufeed.net/joinBy supporting and joining The One You Feed Community, you'll get access to:A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem mini episodesPost Show ConversationsAd Free Episodesand more!Your support is greatly appreciated!
16/08/199m 35s

293: Lauren Zander on Your Inner Dialogue

Lauren Zander is a life coach, university lecturer, public speaker and co-founder and chairwoman of The Handel Group. Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life is what she and Eric discuss in this episode. Lauren has an incredibly useful approach to uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Lauren Zander and I Discuss...Her book, Maybe It's You: Cut the Crap. Face Your Fears. Love Your Life. Getting conscious of the unconscious parts of yourselfHer life-changing moment at 19How much of what is plaguing a person is in their inner dialogueThe strategist in your headThat over 80% of our thoughts are negative and repeating from the day beforeThe chicken, the brat, the weather reporterKeeping promises to yourselfIntegrity and spiritualityConsequencesAccountability Lauren Zander Links:handelgroup.comTwitterFacebookFabFitFun: FabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box - though the box is valued at more than $200. Eric's girlfriend is honestly obsessed. You don't want to miss the upcoming fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box www.fabfitfun.comWestin - their reason for being is to help you travel well - eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.com
13/08/1948m 7s

292: Father Richard Rohr on The Universal Christ

Father Richard Rohr is a globally recognized ecumenical teacher bearing witness to the universal awakening within Christian mysticism and the Perennial Tradition. He’s a Franciscan priest in the New Mexico Provence and the founder of the Center for Action and Contemplation in Albuquerque. In this episode, Eric and Father Richard discuss his most recent book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and Believe.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Father Richard Rohr and I Discuss…His book, The Universal Christ: How a Forgotten Reality Can Change Everything We See, Hope For, and BelieveWhat the word “Christ” means for himHow God loves things by becoming them, by uniting with themThat a mature Christian sees Christ in everything and everyone elseThe notion of God IN all things vs God IS all thingsHow Christ is a stand-in for everythingFocusing on the death of Christ and missing the life of ChristWhen God hides his faceThe difference between spiritual darkness and depressionA loss of the feeling of faith in God isn’t the same thing as a loss of faith in GodHow distraction doesn’t make you happyGod uses 3 things to draw us out of ourselves: goodness, truth and beautyLife doesn’t have to be perfect to be wonderfulHow God uses evil for your transformationThat Jesus punishes nobodyWhen you return in kind – like Michael and the dragon – you become the dragonThe 2 virtues you need to move forward on the spiritual path: humility and honestyFather Richard Rohr Links:Center for Action and ContemplationTwitterFacebookWestin – their reason for being is to help you travel well – eat well, move well and sleep well. Welcome to wellness. Explore at Westin.comPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setDoorDash – Don’t worry about dinner, let dinner come to you with DoorDash. Get $5 off your first order of $15 or more when you download the DoorDash app and enter promo code WOLFIf you liked this episode with Father Richard Rohr, you might also enjoy listening to these earlier interviews:Richard Rohr – Part 1 (2017)Richard Rohr – Part 2 (2017)
07/08/191h 0m

291: Maia Szalavitz on Addiction - Re-Release

Maia Szalavitz is an American reporter and author who has focused much of her work on the topic of addiction. She is the co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her latest book is Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding Addiction  In this paradigm-shifting interview, Maia Szalavitz explains that addiction is a learning disorder, a developmental disorder, which is a different way of thinking of addiction than it being a disease or a moral failing.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Maia Szalavitz and I Discuss…Her book,  Unbroken Brain: A Revolutionary New Way of Understanding AddictionThat your brain becomes what it does – that the more you repeat an activity, the easier it becomesHow addiction is a developmental disorder and how learning is critical to addictionThe problems with discussion about addiction as a diseaseArguing that addiction is a disease and then treating it like a moral failingAddiction resets your priorities and causes one to make different decisionsAddiction = compulsive behavior that continues despite negative consequencesHow illogical it is then to try and address addiction by focusing on implementing additional negative consequencesThe complexity of addiction, genes + culture + timingThe developmental history that gets you to addictionHow the drug isn’t the problem and our efforts to get rid of it isn’t a helpful solutionAddiction as a learning disorder that is characterized by a resistance to punishmentThe problem with “rock bottom” is it’s not helpful scientifically, and it implies a moral component of having to reach a point of extreme degradation before you can stop.What the motivation is that turns people to recoveryHow addicts keep using because they can’t see how they can survive any other wayRecovery begins when you start to see that there are other optionsPeople with addiction are living at a point of learned helplessnessThe role of hope and other ways of managing their lifeAddiction as a coping mechanismThe pleasures of the hunt vs the pleasures of the feastWanting vs LikingDifferent motivational statesAddiction as escalating wantingStimulants and chasing that satisfactionThe effectiveness and usefulness of 12 Step ProgramsThe role of medicine in a developmental disorderLooking at addicts as students who need to learn better coping skills rather than sinners who need to be forced to repent.Maia Szalavitz Links:maiasz.comTwitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionPeloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike.  Westin – Westin resorts have wellness offerings that are curated just for you to help you eat, move and sleep well. Explore at westin.comIf you enjoyed this conversation with Maia Szalavitz, you might also enjoy these other episodes!Dr. Gabor Mate’Judson Brewer
30/07/1949m 4s

290: Hal Gregersen on Asking Better Questions

Hal Gregersen is the Executive Director of the Leadership Center at MIT. He is a prolific author and motivational speaker recognized by Thinkers 500 as one of the World’s 50 Most Innovative Minds. In this episode, Eric and Hal discuss his book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Hal Gregersen and I Discuss…His book, Questions are the Answer: A Breakthrough Approach to Your Most Vexing Problems at Work and in LifeThat whether we know it or not, we’re all living questionsKeystone questionsShadow questionsHow he discovered his questionsThe heart attack that changed his lifeHis shadow questionsAsking better questionsCompeting CommitmentsUnderlying assumptionsAlexander PapaderosHow if you want better answers, you’ve got to ask better questionsThat if you feel stuck you’re probably asking the wrong questionBrainstorming questions without answering themWhy we don’t ask good questionsCatalytic questions that challenge false assumptionsHow wanting to be right and smart stops us from getting to better questionsWhat if you woke up and asked, what am I dead wrong about today?That if you’re not making big enough mistakes, you’re not trying hard enoughThe danger of moving into smaller and smaller tribes that are founded on being rightActively seeking passive data – observing and listeningThe power of the pauseListening to understand vs listening to defendHow can I find and reflect the light in you?Hal Gregersen Links:halgregersen.comTwitterDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more to get 3 cups free in your first box. Visit www.dailyharvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get 65% off your first month.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you enjoyed this conversation with Hal Gregersen, you might also enjoy these other episodes!John ZertaskySkip Prichard
24/07/1951m 2s

289: Eric Tivers on ADHD in Adults

Eric Tivers is a licensed clinical social worker, coach, podcaster, speaker, consultant, and entrepreneur. He specializes in ADHD and has worked extensively with individuals on the autism spectrum. His podcast is ADHD reWired and in this episode, Eric and Eric talk about the experience of being an Adult with ADHD.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eric Tivers and I Discuss…How he separates “mind” and “brain”ADHD in AdultsImpulsivity and HyperactivityInattention and DistractabilityHow people with ADHD aren’t lazy – according to brain scansThe diagnostic criteria for ADHDThe multimodal treatment approach for ADHDHis experience with AdderallThe lie of “I’ll remember that”Time wisdomThe importance of Exercise, Sleep Separate decision from actionThe wisdom in flipping a coinA disorder of self-regulationAccountabilityThe anatomy of a to-do listVision verbingWhy cueLife on hard mode – but we can do hard thingsEric Tivers Links:ADHDreWired.comTwitterFacebookYouTubeBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial.
17/07/1948m 16s

288: Cindy Stulberg on Relationships

Cindy Stulberg is an internationally respected psychologist and is the Director of The Institute of Interpersonal Psychotherapy which provides psychological assessment and counseling for individuals and couples, groups and families and has done so for the past 35 years. In this episode, Cindy and Eric discuss her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Cindy Stulberg and I Discuss…Her book, Feeling Better: Beat Depression and Improve Your Relationships with Interpersonal Psychotherapy That your relationships hold the key to your happinessInterpersonal PsychotherapyThe areas of life that trigger a depressive episodeDrawing your social circle and asking questions about themHow to build your social circleConversation startersThe difference between feelings and moodsQuestions for emotional enlightenmentGetting input from others when looking to do things differently for them to make things betterPaying attention to how you feel The question: What’s the best, worst and most likely outcome?Linking rigid expectations to happinessHow you can’t expect 1 person to meet all your needsCindy Stulberg Links:The Institute of Interpersonal PsychotherapyTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com/wolf and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setQuip – Comes in an easy carrying case making it a great portable electric toothbrush – with timed settings to make brushing easy. It starts at just $25. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your first refill pack for freeThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Amy BanksEric Maisel
10/07/1944m 35s

287: Claire Booth on Curing Achiever Fever

Claire Booth is an entrepreneur, author, and speaker. She’s the founder and CEO of the market research firm Lux Insights with two decades of experience serving some of the worlds most recognized brands. In this episode, Eric and Claire discuss her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself Crazy.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Claire Booth and I Discuss…Her book, The Achiever Fever Cure: How I Learned to Stop Striving Myself CrazyHer experience of learning to love her bad wolfKeeping her inner house cleanThe anxiety, depression, and insomnia that came with her constant achievingThe difference between achiever fever and achievingI’ll be happy when…The craving mindset of achievingHow every leader in her business has a coachThe importance of a coachThe questions we ask ourselves, the stories we tell ourselves – that we need someone to poke holes in themHer inner critic – the judgeThe left brain interpreter Checking your thoughts for truthAsking if your thought could be defended 100% in a court of lawAsking yourself, who would I be without that thought?Cognitive BiasAsking yourself “Would my life be better if I wasn’t drinking?”The feeling of worryHow she is able to let go of worryClaire Booth Links:www.clairebooth.comTwitterFacebookGoodreadsCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with many One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription.Peloton – Looking for a new way to get your cardio in? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike.  
03/07/1944m 55s

286: Adyashanti on Living in the Service of Truth - Part 2

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years togetherThe role of play and being sillyHow our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specificallyHow meditation is the relinquishing of an agendaThe way we engage with the mystery of beingThe curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himselfThat spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknownThe paradox we’re embracing with meditationStart meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside, let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mindWhen you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, kindly and gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listeningObserve your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditationGratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state Encountering life attitudes during meditationSpiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment?Chasing a spiritual highAsking “what am I in service to?”Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right actionAdyshanti Links:adyashanti.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get your first week free!If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018Adyashanti (2017)
26/06/1955m 18s

285: Adyashanti on Living in the Service of Truth

Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, Eric and Adya talk about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…His book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of LifeAttention and IntentionThe inquiry at any given time: Where are we giving our attention to?Considering the question: What is worthwhile orienting your life around?The limitations that come with aging How the definition of happiness changes as we ageWholeness of beingLife as it is rather than the image of lifeTwo interpretations of the fact that sometimes those who are the most unhappy tend to be seeking happiness the mostShooting for meaning rather than happinessHow meaning is an experience of beingThe inquiry: What am I in service to?That we don’t seem to do well as human beings when we live exclusively for ourselvesWhat does it mean to really serve what you realize (rather than trying to realize more and more)The mistaken thinking that an act of service must be grand in scale or scope or must be visible to really count or matterHow it’s easy to be noble when you are noticed but in most of our lives that’s not what’s taking placeThat giving time and attention when someone needs it can make for transformative momentsSeeing the importance of the things you do in your life now that are in serviceThat you can’t make yourself awaken but what you do DOES have an impact – it’s just indirectThe yearning itself comes from the very thing we’re yearning for (in terms of awakening)Adyshanti Links:adyashanti.orgTwitterFacebookInstagramDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: FEEDFabFitFun is a seasonal subscription box delivered 4 times a year with full-sized beauty, fashion, home, fitness, and wellness products for just $49.99 a box – though the box is valued at more than $200. The summer box is valued at over $400! Eric’s girlfriend absolutely loved the box they sent and has already signed up to receive their fall box. Use the code FEED to get $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.comPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018
19/06/1943m 42s

284: Something Special

Something Special
17/06/192m 9s

284: Donna Hylton on Healing and Hope

Donna Hylton is a women’s rights activist and criminal justice reform advocate. Donna speaks publicly about the issues facing incarcerated women and girls and the significant impact the significant increase in the female prison population is having on families, children and our communities.  Her book,  “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound” tells the story of the childhood abuse she endured, the spiral of events that lead to her incarceration and how she learned to live, love and trust all over again. In this episode, Donna shares some deeply personal stories of her traumatic past and how she found her voice to help other victims of violence and abuse.   Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Hylton and I Discuss…Her book, “A Little Piece of Light: A Memoir of Hope, Prison, and a Life Unbound”Navigating the good times and bad times of her early childhood.Finding the courage to ask for help.How she ran track in high school as a way to “run away”How we must talk about these painful stories to get to the root causes.How dealing with trauma does something to our psyche. Believing we don’t have value can be reinforced by those around you.Dealing with the difficult relationship with her daughter, who was the result of rape Years of therapy and healing helped find that place of light inside herself. How talking about the trauma releases the pain instead of holding on to it.  How we need to face the trauma, try to understand it and then try to stop it.When you’re young, you believe that what happens around you is your fault and therefore often make the same mistakes because you don’t know how to rationalize what is happening.   How she became a wounded healer.How she started healing and forgiving herself when she went to prison.  How she became an advocate for the sick women in prison after losing a close friend.Realizing she could no longer stand by or stay silent when something bad happened to others.How she helped bring counseling, educational and other care programs into the prison system.Saying goodbye to the little girl inside who was silentEmbracing the little girl inside who found her voiceWe are not the worst moment in our lives, we’re not our mistakesWe are human beings who have been through somethingBeing part of the newly passed Domestic Violence Survivors Justice Act (DVSJA) which considers alternative sentencing or intervention for those convicted who have been victims of severe abuse.When a body is put under pressure, it’s going to react and do whatever it takes to surviveHer source of unconditional love and truth, Sister Mary, who helped her to become the activist she is today.How “we can connect deeply with humanity if we look through the eyes of love and compassion”We were created in love and beauty is all around us if we can just recognize it.  Peloton – Looking for a new way to get in your cardio? The Peloton bike will make you rethink the way you look at cycling classes!  Visit onepeloton.com and enter Promo code “WOLF” to get $100 off of accessories with purchase of a bike!The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial.
12/06/1946m 47s

283: David Kadavy on Getting Started

David Kadavy is a best selling author, blogger, podcaster and speaker. Through his blogging and podcasting, he helps people find satisfaction through following their crafts even if it takes them down an unconventional path. His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. If you ever struggle with procrastination, you’ll find this episode helpful, informative, inspiring and empowering. There’s some real, practical wisdom here that will enable you to get started with whatever it is that you want to do in your life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, David Kadavy and I Discuss…His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start CreatingHow to get startedThe things that stand in the way of us startingWhat it means to be creative, or to createThe resistance that comes from the ego surrounding getting startedMotivational JudoTricks to get yourself to just get startedGive yourself permission to suckYou can’t do good work without doing bad work firstPerfection paralysisWhat happens when the scale of a creative project is too bigFortress fallacyThe role of curiosity in getting startedBalancing exploitation and explorationFollowing your curiositiesDavid Kadavy Links:davidkadavy.netFacebookTwitterCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayQuip – looking for a gift for a dad or a grad? Give them the gift of good oral hygiene made automatic, affordable and easy. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf and get your refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Tim PychylTim Urban
05/06/1943m 23s

282: Alan Castel, Ph.D. on Successful Aging

Alan Castel, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Psychology at The University of California Los Angeles. His research focuses on how cognition changes with age and how people selectively remember important events. His work has been supported by the National Institute on Aging and has been featured in The New York Times and Time Magazine. In this episode, Eric and Alan discuss his book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Alan Castel, Ph.D. and I Discuss…His book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful AgingHow mindset matters in agingRole models in successful agingThat life can get better with ageSocio-Emotional Selectivity TheoryThe realization that time is finiteThe ways that life can get better the older we getWhat helps prevent cognitive declineThat older adults often have less regret than younger adultHow we’re better at focusing on what’s important as we ageWalking or getting physical exercise (getting blood flow to the brain) is key in preventing cognitive declineThe importance of balance training when it comes to healthy agingHow illuminating it is to test your balanceHow helpful it is to be around people who do the things that we’re looking to do in our livesThe challenges that come with retirement – and how to overcome themThe middle way as it applies to retirementThe two most important things in lifeAlan Castel, Ph.D. Links:memory & lifespan cognition labgoogle scholarNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setThe Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial.If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan RauchParker J. Palmer
29/05/1935m 49s

281: Re-Release: Mary O'Malley on Practical Awakening

Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness, and struggle with ease, well-being, and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats, and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening.Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy.  Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.”Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss…The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yangDealing with eating problemsHow what we fight, we empowerCreating a relationship with the dark sideThe impact of the early years of our livesThe conditioned selfHow we are addicted to struggleBeing present to life instead of thinking our way through lifeThe “low-grade suffering” that permeates our livesThe storyteller in our mindsThe Four LetsLearning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mindThe difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about lifeThe power of curiosityThe 8 core spells that we tell ourselvesLook to UnhookThe power of human attention to healSticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slowWatching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let goLearning to be here for whatever life presentsThe gift of our compulsionsHaving a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power awayLife is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for lifeNot being the victim of lifeHaving the ability to come back to the heartMary O’Malley Links:maryomalley.comtwitterfacebook
21/05/1954m 59s

280: Ruth Whippman on the Complexity of Happiness

Ruth Whippman is a regular contributor to radio shows, television, and podcasts, having made appearances on shows including NPR’s Brian Lehrer Show, To the Point, CBS news and Morning Edition amongst many others. She is also a regular speaker and has given talks at Google, Princeton University and UC Berkeley as well as many other venues. Her book is, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks and it is this – along with the flaws of the self help that she and Eric talk about in this episode.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Ruth Whippman and I Discuss...Her book, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous WrecksHow many people in the self-help industry are trying to sell easy answers and life is incredibly complexSitting with a certain amount of complexity in lifeThe flaws with studiesThe one thing consistent across all research and people’s experience about happinessThe American tradition of self-relianceThe victim blaming myth that we’re completely responsible for how we feelThat circumstances absolutely play a role in our degree of happinessWhat’s behind the positive psychology movementHow we need to think of well being as a shared responsibilityThat it’s easy to lose compassion when you go too far down the road of “your happiness is completely within your control and completely your responsibility”The flaws in The Law of Attraction theoryHow to cope with the anxiety-producing stuff going on in the newsThe importance of social support, community, and connectionThe challenges of social mediaRuth Whippman Links:ruthwhippman.comtwitterfacebookinstagramThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Jonathan RauchPaul DolanMichelle Gielan
15/05/1946m 21s

279: Skip Prichard on Mistakes and Success

Skip Prichard is the fifth president of OCLC, a global library cooperative that supports thousands of libraries in making information more accessible and more useful to people around the world. Among Skip’s many passions is his leadership insights blog where he interviews authors and thought leaders and shares his views on a number of topics. His new book is The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Skip Prichard and I Discuss…His book, The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful FutureHow what you focus on growsThat he looks at everybody as a teacherThe riddle that’s perplexed him throughout his lifeSuccess is when you’re filled with ambition and peace in equal measure at the same timeThe mistake of accepting excusesBuilt-in personal accountabilityHow nobody but you can work on your healingOk, that happened – what are you going to do about itThe microphone in our mindAllowing temporary setbacks to become permanent failuresHaving GritThe very real pain of failureHow do you keep going through despair, failure, depression – it’s resilienceAre you showing up to the people in the room intentionally?Skip Prichard Links:www.skipprichard.comtwitterfacebookCalm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium SubscriptionThe Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfQuip – Check out the new kid’s Quip! Now the whole family can brush using an affordable and effective Quip toothbrush Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Sam WeinmanEmma SeppalaCarol Dweck
07/05/1944m 39s

278: Dr. Ellen Hendriksen on Social Anxiety

Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss…Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social AnxietyThe positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a personThat the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathyThe neuroscience of social anxietyHow if you face your fears you can change your brainThe problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety Overt avoidanceCovert avoidanceThinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusionAvoidance means we never see what actually happensThe inner criticThe buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire PersonalitySocial Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______The tool, ReplaceAnxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of?4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do?The tool, EmbraceThe role of mindfulness in anxietyMaking your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environmentSelf-compassionCreating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goalDr. Ellen Hendrisken Links:ellenhendriksen.comtwitterNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set.The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trialIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann HariMatthew QuickEric Maisel
30/04/1945m 3s

277: Sister Joan Chittister on Fruits of the Spirit

Sister Joan Chittister is a Benedictine Sister of Erie, Pennsylvania. She is the author of over 50 books and is the winner of 14 Catholic Press Association Awards. Sister Joan is an international speaker who inspires both her audience and readers with her passion for justice, equality, and peace – especially for women, in both society and the church. In this episode, Eric and Sister Joan discuss her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic Life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Sister Joan Chittister and I Discuss…Her book, Radical Spirit: 12 Ways to Live a Free and Authentic LifeHow words matterThat experiences matterHumility as the cornerstone of spiritualityThe sanctification of the humble spiritSelf-superiority in American cultureBe who you are, know who you are, respect others around you and take your place in the human raceHumility is having an accurate picture of who you areHer take on AAHow holiness is the same everywhereThat narcissism is a disease in our cultureBeing willing to face yourselfHow self-deprecation and self-aggrandizement are really the same thingsNot thinking about yourself all the timeThe burden of selfThat we’re looking for freedomObedience as she defines it – it doesn’t mean we submit our souls to an authority figure. It’s grounded in the Latin word which means “to listen”How each of us grows into the ability to listenEndurance and StabilityThat you can’t rush your own developmentWe become to be of service to othersHow nothing of value spiritually comes overnightThe role of community in one’s great breakdowns in lifeSister Joan Chittister Links:joanchittister.orgCapterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free todayFor Hers makes convenient, affordable access to birth control available for all women. You get access to licensed doctors online who can evaluate you and if appropriate, prescribe you birth control that can be delivered directly to your door. The One You Feed listeners get their first month of For Hers birth control for just $5 (see website for full details) www.forhers.com/wolfTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code WOLF to get your first week free
23/04/1940m 41s

276: Donna Cameron on Kindness

Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result. **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss…Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around YouThat incivility is contagiousThat kindness is contagiousListening for the missed note instead of the musicPlaying “Gotcha” in the way you look at lifeThe negativity biasThe power of kindnessThe difference between nice and kindHer year of living kindly and blogging about itQuantifying the benefits of kindnessBeing indifferent and still being niceHow you can’t be indifferent and still be kindThat it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be niceExtending yourself beyond what is comfortableCaring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in returnThe chasm between kindness and unkindnessNot being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kindKeeping score and being kindThat when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something elseThe health business of kindnessHow kindness alleviates social anxietyEmploying curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?”Various kindness practicesPracticing a pauseAsking yourself “What is the kind response here?”Receiving graciously as an act of kindnessDonna Cameron Links:ayearoflivingkindly.comFacebookTwitterRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johann BerlinBarbara Bonner
16/04/1939m 23s

275: Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. on Mindfulness and Depression

Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. is the co-founder of the Center for Mindful Living in West Los Angeles and is the creator of the 6-month Coaching and Mentorship Program: A Course in Mindful Living. He's a psychologist and international speaker and mindfulness educator. He's written many books and in this episode, he and Eric discuss his book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self Compassion. There are so many practical approaches and new perspectives in this episode. We think you'll get a lot of useful information out of the conversation.Spiritual Habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Learn more here: thespiritualhabit.comNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Elisha Goldstein and I Discuss…His book, Uncovering Happiness: Overcoming Depression with Mindfulness and Self CompassionThat what you practice and repeat is what you getDepression Triggers and Depression CuresThoughts, Emotions, Sensations, and BehaviorsThe triangle of awarenessProcedural memoryThe habit loop being like a traffic circle with 4 entry pointsThe way our brain associates thingsThe way our nervous system is overwhelmed when we’re experiencing depressionAvoidance and depressionHow naming something gives us a little space and perspectiveHow naming something actually changes the activity in our brainPerspective-making toolsThe way journaling objectifies your experiencesNatural anti-depressantsMindfulness: a state of engaged curiosityRelating to your experience differently through mindfulness, self-compassion, play, compassion, purpose, and masteryThe growth mindset and the fixed mindsetPracticing being curious in your daily life to cultivate a growth mindsetHow a learning mindset is related to a growth mindsetThe importance of playHow to discover what kind of play you might enjoy as an adultElisha Goldstein, Ph.D. Links:Mindful Living CollectiveFacebookTwitterYouTube Channel
10/04/1947m 38s

274: Oren Jay Sofer on Mindful Communication

Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States.  He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent CommunicationThat we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to momentThe three steps to create effective conversationLead with PresenceCome from Curiosity and CareFocus on What MattersHow most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another personThat you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or notBringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)Bodily sensations happen in the present momentThe power of pausingHow our rate of speech is connected to our nervous systemThat when we are present, we have a lot more choicesThat our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communicationsThe intention to understandThe intention of kindness and careHow you can practice kindness to someone you don’t likeKindness can be about protecting your own heartThe phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…”Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need?The difference between needs and strategiesThe Nonviolent Communication ModelObservations, Feelings, Needs, RequestsCommunicating in the workplaceOren Jay Sofer LinksOrenJaySofer.comFacebookTwitterInstagram
03/04/1954m 52s

273: Dr. Tererai Trent on Incredible Perseverance

Dr. Tererai Trent is an inspiring and dynamic scholar, educator, humanitarian, motivational speaker, author and the founder of Tererai International. Dr. Trent is one of the most internationally acclaimed voices for women's empowerment and quality education. Named by Oprah Winfrey as her all-time favorite guest, Dr. Trent's latest book is called The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams. She tells her incredible story in this episode and you will be so deeply moved, so deeply touched, and so deeply inspired by it. We'ver never heard anything like it and are honored that she would tell us about her astounding life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Dr. Tererai Trent and I Discuss...Her book, The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred DreamsThe two hungers in our life - the little hunger and the great hungerThe hunger for a meaningful lifeAsking yourself, "what breaks my heart?"The rural community she grew up inThe wisdom of her grandmotherThat her grandmother was defined by her wisdomHer answer to the question she was asked - what are your dreams?The moment she was told that her dreams were achievableWhen her mother said to write down her dreams and bury (i.e. plant) them in the ground.How she broke the cycle of povertyThe baton of poverty, illiteracy, early marriage, and abuse that she redefinedThe baton of wisdom, that she receivedThe four dreams she wrote downWhen her mother said, "your goals in life will be more achievable when connected to the greater good of your community"The difference between culture and customsThe 8 years it took for her to graduate high schoolGetting into Oklahoma State University but not having enough money to fly to AmericaFeeding the deep hunger that says - you can achieve your dreamsWhen she reconnected with the woman who first believed in herWhen she finally earned her PhDShe worked 3 jobs and took 18 hours of coursework and took care of 5 kids getting her food from trashcansHow she is not a victim, she is part of the solutionWhere her kids are now"It is acheivable"How many girls her work has now impacted
27/03/1957m 7s

272: A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem 03/22/2019

A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem
22/03/1910m 50s

272: Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management

Oliver Burkeman is an award-winning writer for The Guardian and his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking explores the upsides of failure, difficulty, and imperfection – which we discussed in our first interview with Oliver several hundred episodes ago. Each week in his column in The Guardian, “This Column Will Change Your Life”, he writes about social psychology, self-help culture, productivity, and the science of happiness. In this interview, he discusses his take on time management in today’s world.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss…His take on the modern time management worldThat technologies of efficiency don’t seem to bring peace of mindHow your to-do list is never going to go awayThat having emails in your inbox is not necessarily a problemTime management whispers of the possibility of true peace of mindThinking of “a simpler time”How processing through your inbox is like climbing up an infinitely long ladderThat tough choices have to be made when deciding what to do with your time – no matter how many productivity assists you haveHow it’s often easier to spend time on trivial stuff than the big projectsDavid Allen’s book, Getting Things DoneHow no one beats them self up for not being able to jump a mile in the air because they never thought they could in the first placeSimilarly, accepting the real limitations in how much time you have and how much you can get done is incredibly liberating Productivity advice from Warren BuffetThe role social media plays in our expectations about how productive we could or should beHow digital distractions help us numb outOliver Burkeman LinksHomepageFacebookTwitter
20/03/1948m 44s

271: Eli Jaxon-Bear on Your True Self

Eli Jaxon-Bear founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization. Eli is also the author of many books, including the one we discuss in this episode, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary. In this episode, he talks to Eric about accessing and experiencing your true self and things that get in the way of that. Also, he hits on a perspective of the Enneagram that we bet you’ve never considered before. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Eli Jaxon-Bear and I Discuss…His book, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual RevolutionaryDiscovering who is feeding the wolves withinThat to know your true self you have to turn away from your false self – the self you construct in your mindNLP, the Enneagram and hypnosis integrated into his therapyHis lasting enlightenment Knowing what you really want and staying true to it in each momentThe journey from “me” to “I” Symptom cure and habit controlHis book, Sudden AwakeningHow your heart is already intelligent and aliveThat the Enneagram Personality Types is actually the Enneagram of Character FixationAsking, does this bring me freedom, true love, happiness? Go deeper than the character fixation and find your characterWaking up from the act, from the show, and stop taking it personally having to prove thingsThe character fixation of an Enneagram type 9The “Chief Feature”All of our experience has a Mental, Emotional and Physical component and the ego encapsulates all three of thoseThe history of the origins of the EnneagramHis book on the EnneagramEli Jaxon-Bear LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere get a full month for FREE thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler setRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Belinda GoreAmoda Maa
13/03/1940m 35s

270: Essential Concepts: Consistency and Taking Small Steps

This mini episode is about the importance of taking small steps and how being consistent is not about being perfect.
10/03/199m 48s

269: Catherine Gray on Unexpected Joy

Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single SerenityThat being single is not terrible!How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see itEnjoying where you are at the timeThat there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being singleThe “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving targetHow you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thingChoosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudesThat being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationshipHow people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being aloneWhat being a “love addict” meansHow you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happyHow essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationshipThe three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attachedHow feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single nowA thought doesn’t have to lead to an actionDon’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)Catherine Gray LinksHomepageInstagramTwitterDaily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feedThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25. Visit www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for freeIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Catherine Gray (First interview 2018)Mary O’Malley
06/03/1948m 11s

268: Jonathan Rottenberg, Ph.D. on Depression

Jonathan Rottenberg is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of South Florida where he’s the director of the mood and emotion laboratory. He’s also the author of the book, The Depths:  The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic“, which he and Eric have discussed before. In this interview, they discuss some of the studies and research he’s involved with specific to those who go on to flourish after having depression. Why do they? What can we learn from them? There’s hope and practical wisdom in this episode for you.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rottenberg and I Discuss…His book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression EpidemicThriving after depressionThe studies and research he’s involved withPeople who thrive after depressionThe destructive and recurring nature of depressionThe typical low expectation for those with depression about life moving forward and how it should be differentWhat is mental “health”?Psychological well beingExperiencing positive emotionsExperiencing negative emotions to a lesser degreeFeeling of balance in lifeHaving meaningful relationshipsFeeling a sense of autonomy over your lifeHow happy should we expect to be?Having elements of wellbeing amidst struggling with depressionThe 3 things that seed a low mood: events, temperaments, and routinesRuminationWays that people can work with depression more skillfullyHaving a different relationship with your negative thoughtsHaving connections with othersResearch on flourishingHow much control do we have over our state of flourishing?That it’s never too lateThere is hopeOur culture that idealizes euphoriaThe role of our basic temperamentFactors of wellbeing other than emotion and moodThe organization he helped found, Depression ArmyThe interesting and transformative experience of depressionThat his depression has been defanged and it doesn’t break the skin anymoreJonathan Rottenberg, Ph.D. Links:Depression ArmyFacebookTwitterInstagramBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less, go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trialPolicy Genius helps you compare insurance plans and find the right policy for you at a price you can afford and then they handle everything – negotiating your rate and booking your appointment. Visit www.policygenius.comRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.comIf you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes:Johan HariLisa Feldman BarrettTherese Borchard
27/02/1946m 12s

267: Susan David, Ph.D. - Emotional Agility

Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss…Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and LifeHow emotions are a guidance systemThat emotions can help us adapt and thriveThe thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”Emotional AgilityLoosening up, calming down and living with more intentionThe space between stimulus and responseEmotional rigidityAllowing the story in our head to drive our actionsBeing who we most want to be in this worldMoving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it”Getting hooked – accepting thought as factThat we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data sourceThe story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted wayHow to get unhookedGetting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hookedI’m noticing that I’m feeling ____Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves“Walking your why”Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values?Social contagionKeeping your values front of mindDiscomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful lifeThat our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our valuesUnder our difficult emotions are signposts for our valuesPremature cognitive commitmentStories help us to make sense of our worldNaming our storiesSusan David, Ph.D. Links:susandavid.comTed Talk – Susan David, Ph.D.FacebookTwitterInstagramDaily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious, organic, carefully sourced, chef created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feedThe Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. To get a full month for FREE, visit thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code: WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.
20/02/1942m 2s

266: Time for a Change?

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16/02/1910m 15s

266: Parker Palmer - Reflections from Getting Older

Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting OldHis reflections looking back on his lifeThe resilient fabric of his lifeHow perfection is an illusionThe role mistakes can play in one’s lifeThe gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present momentFeeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)Moments of life that are burdened with egoThe correlation between ego concerns and anxietyThe importance and role of perspectiveThe what and why of the things we’re doingThe question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?My legacy vs Our legacyHow we’re all embedded in community“I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”How life and work are profoundly communalReflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”Turning attention outward vs inwardBeing one among many vs trying to be something or someone specialThe healing impact of getting out into the natural worldHis poem “Harrowing”To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waitingParker Palmer LinksHomepageFacebookTwitterThe Great Courses Plus – Thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a full month for FREE! thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfRobinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.com
13/02/1951m 55s

265: Dean Sluyter on Fearing Less

In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and AddictionRight View and how it relates to having less fear in your lifeHow right view is always liberatingAsking, “does it help?”“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS LewisThe problem with trying to control your mindTranscendental MeditationHanging out in tasklessnessThe open space of awarenessHow thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditateRelax your grip, and relax back into yourselfIt doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.What it means to relax at the moment of contactRelax into it, stop the resistance of itPain is inevitable, suffering is optionalsuffering = pain x resistanceDean Sluyter LinksHomepageMeditationYoutubeTwitter
05/02/1945m 5s

264: Megan Devine- On Grief and Loss

Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine LinksHomepageAnimation on GriefInstagramTwitter
30/01/1943m 32s

263: Jonathan Rauch on The Happiness Curve

Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50Connection to othersGenerosityThe factors that most contribute to our happinessThe U shape curve of happiness in lifeThe emotional peak of lifeHow our expectations change as life goes onThat our values continue to changeThe fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetimeHow the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durableThe hedonic treadmillWhat to do to be happier at the bottom of the curveThe suffering that comes from social comparisonStaying in the present momentInternal criticismGuilt vs Shame in mid-lifeThe benefits of being other-directed, other-orientedHow the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friendJonathan Rauch LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Courses Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.
23/01/1943m 5s

262: John Zeratsky on Making Time Each Day for What Matters

After a career as a designer in the tech industry, John Zeratsky became obsessed with the idea of re-designing time. He’s a writer who has written multiple books and his work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Time, Harvard Business Review, Wired, Fast Company, and many others. In this episode, among other things, we discuss his newest book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every Day.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!n This Interview, John Zeratsky and I Discuss…His book, Make Time: How to Focus on What Matters Every DayUnderstanding the limits on will-powerSetting up our world around us so it’s easier to make the right decisionsCreating more time in your day for the things you care aboutThe two powerful forces that compete every day for our time“The Busy Bandwagon”The Infinity PoolsQuestioning the “defaults” in our scheduleCreating a highlight for every dayLiving a “someday” lifeFinding more meaningful momentsUrgency, Satisfaction, JoyBatch the little stuffLaser modeTaking back control of your time and energyCreating barriers to distractionManaging your energyBuilding your energyFocusing on the process not the outcomeJohn Zeratsky LinksHomepageTwitterThe Great Sources Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolfCalm- The number one app that helps you meditate, sleep and relax. For a limited time, get 25% off a Calm premium subscription – giving you access to ALL their content – at www.calm.com/wolf
16/01/1948m 19s

261: Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful Poetry

Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful PoetryMarilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…Her book, How I Discovered PoetryHer poem, MississippiHer book, A Wreath for Emmett TillThe poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnetsHer poem, Rosemary for RemembranceHer poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a WreathHer poem, Like His Gouged EyeHow poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silenceThe value of silence in a life well livedSilence, contemplation, and self-knowledgeOur quiet centerHer book, CarverHer poem, Professor Carver’s Bible ClassHer book, Snook AloneMarilyn Nelson LinksHomepageFacebookNetsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsweep’s free guide, Crushing the 5 Barriers to Growth, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolfThirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolfBlinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7 day free trial
09/01/1933m 38s

260: Roger Housden on Poetry for Difficult Times

Roger Housden is a second time guest on the show – you might remember him from episode 152. He founded The Open Gate which is a conference and workshop center in England that introduced the work of Ram Dass and Thich Nhat Hanh and many others into Europe. You also might have seen his work featured in places like O Magazine, The New York Times and The Los Angeles Times. In this episode, Roger and Eric discuss his beautiful book, 10 Poems for Difficult Times.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Roger Housden and I Discuss…His book, 10 Poems for Difficult TimesSaying “there is happiness happening” or “there is anger happening” rather than “I am angry” or “I am happy”How poetry helps us in difficult timesThat poetry gives voice to that which is unsayableThe poet Ellen BassHow suffering can soften us if we bow down to itThat you can’t fake surrenderThe opportunity in suffering is growthHow poetry points us in the direction of possibility in sufferingThe poet Maggie SmithThe poet Marie HoweAnnunciation by Marie HoweThe specific pointing to the universal in poetryRoger Housden LinksHomepageTwitterFacebookPhlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.compromo code WOLF 20 off first custom sampler setQuip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing www.getquip.com/wolfand get your first refill pack for free
02/01/1941m 50s

259: Steven C Hayes- Getting Out of You Mind

Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies.He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment TherapyNeed help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…The One You Feed parableHis book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life The ACT approach to therapyThat you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bearThe difference between pain and sufferingThe importance of putting the human mind on a leashThat suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelingsThe meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughtsThe importance of and various types of contemplative practiceVarious diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)The concept and practice of experiential avoidanceThe full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”The idea of creating larger behavioral patternsThe role of values based actionSteven C Hayes LinksHomepageFacebookTED Talk
26/12/1848m 1s

258: Paul Hannam on The Wisdom of Groundhog Day

Paul Hannam has started, owned and managed a number of successful businesses and he taught business and environmental management at Oxford University. His new book is The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time. Before you jump to thinking you know what he’s going to say about this – wait and listen to this episode. You’ll be surprised and intrigued by his insight and recommendations based on this movie.Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year.But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Paul Hannam and I Discuss…His book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a TimeThe controlled experiment of Groundhog Day (the film)The life skill of experimentationInvestigating our behaviorWorking on changing one variable at a timeKeeping a journalAsking “what is my role in creating my mood?”Looking inward for the answerMaking change 1 day at a timeThe action of our inner lifeNarrowing the spectrum of life through routineThe inner monotonyHow you have everything you need to be happy nowSlowing down with mindfulnessGrounding yourself in your sensesConnecting with natureThe conditioned selfThe authentic selfConditioning, Circumstances and Our MindHow our brain doesn’t like changeThe 5 characteristics of our conditioned selfTry looking at things in a new wayTrying to control our inner stateLetting go of outcomesPaul Hannam LinksHomepageTwitter
19/12/1837m 39s

257: Tim Pychyl on Procrastination

Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeBut wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you!In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeHow it’s in the getting on in life that makes a lifeThat procrastination can be an existential matterWhat he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our livesBeing an active member or your own lifeThe two ways procrastination compromises our healthStressFewer wellness behaviorsTreatment delay “I’ll look after that later”Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behaviorI won’t give in to feel goodGoal Intentions and Implementation intentionsWhen….then…Giving the monkey something to doWhat’s the next action?Keeping it smallHacks to work around our irrational thinkingMotivation and then Action or Action and then MotivationThe meaning behind our goalsMeaning and ManageabilityAsking what will this cost me if I put it off?Prefer tomorrow over todayThinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”Affect forecastingThinking of your future self as a strangerDeveloping empathy for future selfSelf-handicap to preserve self-esteemTim Pychyl LinksHomepageTwitterTim’s Psychology Today PageBlinkist – Join the 5 million people already using Blinkist to read or listen to non-fiction books in 15 minutes or less! Free 7 day trial www.blinkist.com/wolfQuip Electric toothbrush – the perfect stocking stuffer that will be used every day and everyone needs! They’ll think of you every day when they use it. www.quip.com/wolf get your first refill pack freeTalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. www.talkspace.com/wolf Promo Code WOLF to get $45 off your first month.
12/12/1842m 7s

256: Hilary Jacobs Hendel on How to Process Our Emotions

Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others. RxBar & RxNut Butter wants to build delicious food the right way – with transparency on their simple, real ingredients. Get 25% off your first order of their best seller variety pack. Use URL http://www.rxbar.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF at checkout (the US only)Ancestry DNA- unlock your family story – the perfect holiday gift. To get it for the special price of $59 use URL http://www.ancestry.com/wolfIn This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic SelfThe 7 C’s of our authentic selfThe science and biology of emotionsThe change triangleThe Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual ExcitementThe 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and ShameHow core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressedInhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotionsHow to work The Change TriangleTrauma vs traumaThe power of naming your emotionsOur open-hearted stateWhen our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process themGrounding and breathingThe role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerveAll core emotions have impulses associated with themHow harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can beRelating to ourselves as a small childHealthy shame vs toxic shameHilary Jacobs Hendel LinksHomepageTwitter
04/12/1847m 22s

255: Neil Pasricha on the Happiness Equation

Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author with books published in over a dozen languages. He’s spent 7 years (and counting!) on best-seller lists and his books have sold millions of copies. You may know his blog – 1000 Awesome Things – it’s won 2 Webby awards for the Best Blog in the World and has had over 50 million hits. His most recent book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything, is what we focus much of this interview on. You’ll learn really practical advice, grounded in research and science, on what you can do to be happier.Fin – Do you feel like you can never get everything on your to-do list done? Get a little extra help getting tasks crossed off with Fin, a digital personal assistant which can do things like book travel plans or find contractors to fix things around the house. Send Fin a couple of requests for free! Use the link www.fin.com/wolfAncestry DNA – give the gift of finding out your family history www.ancestry.com/wolf $59Quip – an electric toothbrush that makes brushing better at an affordable price $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack freeIn This Interview, Neil Pasricha and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have EverythingThe 9 critical steps in achieving the happiness equationThe 7 ways to be happy right nowThe benefits of 3 brisk 30-minute nature walks each weekThe power of random – or conscious – acts of kindnessA complete unplugWhy you should never retireSocial, Stimulation, StoryThe importance of structureThe bench test for all major life decisionsHis upcoming audible book on resilienceThe war between more and enoughNeil Pasricha LinksHomepageInstagramTwitterNeil’s New Audible Show
28/11/1845m 24s

254: Omid Safi on Radical Love

Omid Safi on Radical Love
21/11/1848m 40s

253: Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher

Ralph De La Rosa on the Mind as Your Teacher
14/11/1849m 35s

252: Ruth King on Healing Racism

Ruth King is an emotional wisdom author, coach, and consultant. She's a guiding teacher at Insight Meditation Community of Washington and she's on the teacher's council at Spirit Rock Meditation Center. In addition, she's the founder of Mindful Members Insight Meditation Community in Charlotte, NC. She has a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and is the author of several publications including her new book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism from the Inside Out. In this stirring, thoughtful and wise conversation, she touches on the heart of racism and teaches how we can move to heal this heart disease.Get Ad-Free Episodes and More Ancestry DNA - more detailed in the different regions globally- www.ancestry.com/wolf get your kit for $59Casper - you spend 1/3 of your life sleeping so you need to be sleeping on the right mattress that's comfortable for you. Casper mimics the shape of your body. Affordable because it cuts out the middleman and sells direct to you www.casper.com/oneyoufeed promo code oneyoufeed get $50 towards select mattresses In This Interview, Ruth King and I Discuss...Her book, Mindful of Race: Transforming Racism From The Inside OutThe value of being curious about the good and bad wolves inside of usRacism being a heart disease that is curableHer open heart surgery at the age of 27Rage being an exit routeRage being energy moving through the bodyHabitual patterns of racism being a layer on top of the real issue that we can't tolerate - they are defense mechanismsRacial affinity groups6 hindrancesThe structure of racismRacism vs PrejudiceRacist vs RacismUnderstanding our own experience with racism and talking about itWhat it's like to be "membered"Individual vs group identityDiversity within the body of colorRuth King LinksHomepageFacebook Please support the show with a donation
07/11/1845m 57s

251: James Clear on the Compounding Power of Habits Part 2

Chances are, you've heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That's kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You'll learn some really specific, easy and flat out "why didn't I think of that" genius methods to apply to your life and habits.Get Ad-Free Episodes and MoreQuip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet freeBombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLFBlinkist- read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your7-day free trial  In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss...His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHabits are a response to the physical cues in our environmentIncreasing the friction it takes to complete the taskThe more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the betterHabit stacking/Anchoring"After _____ I will _____"The more specific the betterSocial environment and habitsYou want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behaviorMake it easyThe two-minute ruleA habit must be established before it can be improvedOptimize for the starting line rather than the finish lineMake it satisfyingFeel successful at the endBring the long-term consequences into the short termJames Clear LinksHomepageInstagramTwitter  Please support the show with a donation
31/10/1833m 6s

250: James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits Part 1

James Clear on the Compounding Nature of Habits Part 1
24/10/1838m 0s

249: Dr. Gabor Mate´ - Re-Release

This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addictionA renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development.For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site.As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages.Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner.Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University. In This Interview, Dr. Gabor Mate´ and I Discuss... The One You Feed parableThe degree of choice we have in lifeWhat is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?What is addiction?The characteristics of addictionRecognizing what addicts get out of their addictionThe fundamental question is not “Why the Addiction” but “Why the Pain”How all addiction comes out of some hurt or traumaThe different types of traumaThe role of neurotransmitters in addictionHow drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisionsWhether or not genetics play a significant role in addictionWhether our culture breeds addictionHow our children get most of their leadership from other childrenHow the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addictionThe critical role of the culture in our the development of our brainsRecognizing our inherent valueTo what degree we have freedom over our choicesWithout consciousness, there is no freedomPaths to recoveryHow compassion can help with recoveryDeveloping compassionate curiosity towards ourselvesDr. Gabor Mate´ LinksHomepageTED TalkFacebook
17/10/1852m 2s

249: Tara Brach- Re-Release

249: Tara Brach- Re-Release
10/10/1848m 9s

249: Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of Awareness

Dorothy Hunt on The Heart of Awareness
03/10/1839m 41s

248: Miguel Chen on Punk Rock and Buddhism

Miguel Chen is a meditation practitioner, a yoga instructor, a yoga studio owner and the bass player for a punk rock band. He has also published a book called I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too. In this compelling episode, Eric and Miguel explore the connection between punk rock and Buddhism and they dive into the experiences in his life - both traumatic and positive - that have shaped his spiritual path of awakening.Please support the show with a donationBombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLFLinkedIn Find talent whether they're looking for a job or not. Focus on finding the right people regardless of their employment status. www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 off your first job postingPhlur Expertly crafted sustainably produced perfumes without all the bad stuff sold at an honest price. Go to their website to view pictures, listen to sounds and connect with words...if you like those, chances are you'll like the scent associated with them and they'll send you a 3 sampler kit to see. www.phlur.com use the promo code WOLF to get 20% off your custom Phlur sampler set In This Interview, Miguel Chen and I Discuss...His book, I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can TooHow he owns a yoga studio and plays in a punk rock bandThe way he suppressed grief for dead family membersAsking himself why he wasn't happyThe connection between punk rock and BuddhismThe other as selfForgetting who we areThe importance of being mindful throughout lifeNot being present with stuff we likeNot being present with stuff we don't likeEating mindfullyHow if you're used to disconnecting from things you don't like, it starts creeping into the things you do likeHow he stays in the present momentTraining the mindHis morning routineNon-attachmentBeing criticized for his spiritual practiceHis spiritual practice while on tourThe danger of taking people in life for grantedHow grateful he is that he woke up early in his lifeWhy some people get motivated to get sober and others don'tMiguel Chen LinksHomepageInstagramTwitter Please support the show with a donation
26/09/1838m 13s

247: Julie Simon on Emotional Eating

Julie Simon on Emotional Eating
19/09/1845m 18s

246: Scott Edelstein on Discerning the Role of a Spiritual Teacher

Scott Edelstein on Discerning the Role of a Spiritual Teacher
11/09/1846m 26s

245: Brandi Lust on Growth via the Present Moment

Brandi Lust on Growth via the Present Moment
05/09/1851m 1s

244: Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity and Meditation

Chris Bailey on Focus, Productivity and Meditation
28/08/1854m 3s

243: Terry Patten on Inner-Work and Outer-Work

Terry Patten on Inner-Work and Outer-Work
22/08/1845m 26s