Time To Talk with Alex Holmes

In this episode, Alex Holmes introduces the Time to Talk Project, exploring the themes of emotional honesty, masculinity, mental health, and the importance of relationships. He discusses the four pillars of concern that guide his work: spirituality, masculinity, work and leadership, and relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for deeper discussions around mental health and the role of the community in fostering connection and understanding. The Time to Talk project aims to explore what it means to be alive today. Emotional honesty is crucial for genuine connections. Masculinity is in crisis and needs to be addressed. Mental health is a priority in today's disconnected world. Relationships are at the heart of the Time to Talk project. Spirituality can provide a greater connection to ourselves and others. Leadership requires bravery and self-reflection. Community engagement is essential for mental health support. Conversations about masculinity should include diverse perspectives. One meaningful conversation can spark significant change. I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions  You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex Holmes explores the emotional and psychological landscapes of fathers and sons, focusing on healing unspoken emotional wounds. He discusses the impact of silence and stoicism in familial relationships, particularly in the context of masculinity and cultural expectations. Through the story of Isaac and his father Thomas, Alex illustrates the journey of breaking the cycle of silence, embracing vulnerability, and fostering emotional literacy. The episode emphasizes the importance of forgiveness, open communication, and creating a supportive environment for emotional expression. Takeaways Healing begins with breaking the silence. The legacy of silence can weigh heavily on future generations. Forgiveness is essential for personal growth. Emotional literacy is crucial for healthy relationships. Creating space for emotions fosters connection. Vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness. The cycle of unspoken expectations can be broken. Open communication is key to understanding. What we teach the next generation shapes their future. You're not alone in your struggles. Chapters 00:00 Healing Emotional Wounds: A Personal Journey 09:36 The Legacy of Silence: Fathers and Sons 18:52 Breaking the Cycle: Steps to Healing Thank you for listening! I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Mindful Monday, Alex Holmes discusses the overwhelming nature of modern life and the importance of recognizing that it's okay to not be okay. He emphasizes the necessity of connection and reaching out to others during tough times. Alex also explores the inner critic that many face and encourages listeners to challenge negative self-talk. Finally, he shares grounding practices to help navigate life's chaos and reminds us that progress is made through small, imperfect moments. Chapters 00:00 Navigating the Storm of Life 02:51 The Importance of Connection 05:07 Challenging Inner Criticism I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Time To Talk, Ton Mazzone brings a level of understanding and depth that I have struggled to reach at points in my life. In this conversation, we talk about: Masculinity in parenthood; Breaking patterns as a father; Creativity and mental health; Trauma and self-care; Comedy and anxiety; His 7-year journey to wellness. As ever, if you want the full video of the episode you can find that on PATREON. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex Holmes introduces the concept of Mindful November, focusing on men's mental health and the importance of mindfulness in decision-making. He discusses the burden of choice and freedom, emphasizing how modern men feel overwhelmed by the multitude of options available to them. Through existential psychotherapy, he explores the idea that while we may never make the perfect choice, we can find richness in commitment and acceptance of our paths. The conversation encourages listeners to reflect on their choices and the nature of freedom in their lives. Takeaways Mindful November aims to promote mental health awareness. Men's mental health is a central theme this month. Freedom can feel like a burden due to endless choices. Each decision carries an undercurrent of 'what if'. The pressure to succeed can paralyze decision-making. Existential psychotherapy teaches acceptance of our choices. Life's richness comes from commitment, not endless options. The perfect life is an illusion; embrace imperfection. Acceptance is key to navigating life's varying paths. Community engagement is encouraged for shared experiences. Thank you for listening. I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Time to Talk with Alex Holmes. Today is Day 2 of our Movember journey, and we’re diving straight into one of the most essential questions of all: Who am I? This question may sound simple, but beneath it lies a whole world of complexity. So many of us define ourselves by our roles, titles, or what we do. I’m a father. I’m an artist. I’m a leader. I’m a provider. These labels give us a sense of identity, but they’re just one part of who we are. The question “Who am I?” has been asked throughout history, by philosophers, spiritual teachers, and anyone searching for deeper understanding. In the context of existential mental health, this question invites us to look beyond the surface—to explore who we are beneath those roles, beneath the expectations, and even beneath what we think we “should” be. I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Substack Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Tune in for a conversation that goes deeper than the usual narrative of resilience. In our latest episode, Amani shares not only his journey through life-changing challenges but also the transformative power of vulnerability in healing and connection. In 2011, Amani Simpson survived a near-fatal knife attack that marked a profound turning point in his life. Today, he dedicates his work to guiding young people away from cycles of violence and despair. Through his social enterprise, AVIARD Inspires CIC, and partnerships with impactful initiatives like Apprentice Nation and The Commission on Young Lives, Amani leads with an unshakable purpose. Amani’s commitment extends beyond community initiatives—he's also a secondary school governor, a trustee of a top creative college, and a board member at a leading Christian media production company. As a creative force, Amani took his first steps into filmmaking in 2018, producing and starring in the powerful short film AMANI, which reached one million views within days of release and continues to resonate with nearly four million viewers. Every story he tells is rooted in honesty, thought-provoking themes, and upliftment. Driven by a mission to add value through his lived experience and deep connections, Amani's goal is to impact lives by building safe spaces for growth, truth, and healing. Join us in this episode to explore why he believes finding someone to be vulnerable with can be a life-changing key to resilience. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to Time to Talk with Alex Holmes, and thank you for joining me for our journey through men’s mental health this Movember. Over the next month, we’ll take 10 minutes each day to slow down, reflect, and explore what it means to live with authenticity and purpose—without the noise, clutter, and external expectations that often weigh us down. Today, we’re laying the groundwork by talking about existentialism and mental health. You might wonder—why existentialism? Why this philosophical approach? What makes it relevant, especially now? Existentialism is a philosophy that focuses on life’s biggest questions: Who am I? Why am I here? What do I want my life to mean? These questions have been around for centuries, but they’re especially important for men in today’s world. We live in a time where external definitions and societal expectations can often feel like a mold we have to fit. Yet, existentialism offers us another way—a way to live authentically, rooted in personal values, and to create meaning from the inside out. I am so glad you got this far. Please have a look at my website if you are interested in speaking about what I do, and get in touch. Website Podcast Patreon Substack Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In honor of Movember, join me for a journey into men’s mental health that digs deep into authenticity, mental minimalism, and intentional living. Each 10-minute episode of Time To Talk with Alex Holmes is crafted for quiet moments—whether you’re on a morning walk, cooling down after a workout, or just need a break to slow down. For men in the public eye, searching for meaning and purpose amid the pressures of a high-visibility life, this series is an invitation to step back and focus on what truly matters. Through themes of self-awareness, relationships, purpose, and legacy, we’ll explore how to live authentically, shedding mental clutter and aligning with values that resonate with who we truly are. How to Get Involved: Listen Daily: Tune in for a short episode every day throughout November. Reflect and Act: Each episode comes with a reflection to carry through your day, focusing on mindfulness and intentionality. Sunday Recaps: Receive a weekly written recap every Sunday in the Sunday Meaning series, ideal for those who prefer to read or want to revisit the week’s insights. If you’re ready to start living with intention and authenticity, join us. Subscribe, rate, and review: follow on LinkedIn, or sign up on Substack for Sunday Meaning recaps. Let’s take this month to reconnect with ourselves and build a foundation for a life that truly reflects who we are. Website Podcast Patreon Ask Questions You are awesome. Stay that way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Time to Talk, host Alex Holmes deeply converses with Dean Atta about his experiences with masculinity, identity, and family dynamics. Dean shares his journey of navigating his childhood as a mixed-race boy, his relationship with masculinity, and the impact of his family, particularly his uncles and mother, on his identity. The discussion also delves into the complexities of coming out, the perceptions of his sexuality within his family, and the importance of self-acceptance. Dean reflects on his aspirations for the future and the significance of sharing his story through his work. Key Takeaways: Masculinity can be perceived as a box that limits expression. Family dynamics play a crucial role in shaping identity. Coming out is an ongoing process, not a one-time event. The importance of finding comfort in one's true self. Creative outlets can serve as a form of therapy. Navigating childhood experiences can be complex and challenging. Supportive family members can provide a sense of safety. Self-acceptance is key to personal growth. The impact of societal expectations on masculinity. Sharing personal stories can foster connection and understanding. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Context of Masculinity 05:56 Navigating Childhood and Gender Roles 13:18 Family Dynamics and Male Relationships 22:34 The Intersection of Performance and Masculinity 24:49 Exploring the World of Performance 30:04 The Journey into Poetry and Self-Expression 30:15 Navigating Family Dynamics and Coming Out 39:04 Reflections on Youth and Future Aspirations PATREON SUBSTACK Listen on your favourite podcast app. Submit Your Questions: https://forms.gle/EqHpeBWPSzJ7h4pJA TikTok: @byalexholmes Website: alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex Holmes discusses the importance of community engagement through his podcast, emphasising the role of existential coaching in personal development. He explores the challenges faced by black men in the public sphere, particularly in light of recent setbacks among younger black male figures. The conversation delves into themes of authenticity, identity, and the societal pressures that shape black masculinity, ultimately advocating for a more nuanced understanding of these experiences. Takeaways Community engagement is vital for personal growth. Existential coaching helps individuals navigate their identities. Setbacks can illustrate the unique struggles faced by black men. Authenticity requires resisting imposed societal definitions. Black masculinity is multifaceted and complex. Learning from setbacks is crucial for personal development. Existentialism encourages self-definition through choices. Public visibility can complicate personal authenticity. The narrative around black men needs to evolve. Creating a supportive community fosters open conversations. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Community Engagement 08:10 Exploring Black Men's Experiences in the Public Sphere 22:09 Authenticity and Identity in the Face of Setbacks PATREON SUBSTACK WEBSITE ASK YOUR QUESTIONS Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

JORDAN STEPHENS is a writer and performer and one-half of the chart-topping duo Rizzle Kicks. Having been publicly open about his struggles surrounding mental health, Jordan has been active in creating awareness around the stigma. His mental health campaign #IAMWHOLE reached over 120 million people online and was mentioned in the Houses of Parliament. His children’s book The Missing Piece was shortlisted for the 2023 Waterstone’s Children’s Book Prize, and his new book, Avoidance, Drugs, Heartbreak and Dogs (Canongate Books) became an instant Sunday Times bestseller when it was published in August 2024. Listen Here On All Platforms. Buy His Book Here. Do you want to become a Change Agent? As a Change Agent, you will join a powerful community of people who want to live an intentional life, improve their mental health and well-being, and see an improvement in the state of masculinity in a holistic way. Positive vibes, but challenging conversations. You're called up to inspire and lead. Join PATREON to become a Change Agent. Read my writing in SUBSTACK. Website: alexholmes.co TikTok: @byalexholmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Time to Talk, Alex Holmes reintroduces himself and discusses the importance of mental health conversations, particularly focusing on black men's mental health. He highlights the challenges faced in therapy, including feelings of misunderstanding and the need for culturally competent therapists. Alex emphasizes the significance of connection and community in the healing process, exploring various therapeutic modalities such as hypnotherapy and group therapy. He encourages listeners to seek the right support and to be curious about their mental health journey, ultimately advocating for a more open dialogue around mental well-being. Takeaways: Mental health conversations are crucial for collective healing. Black men's mental health often goes misunderstood in therapy. Culturally competent therapists are essential for effective therapy. Silence around mental health can be harmful. Connection with a therapist who understands is vital. Therapy is not a one-size-fits-all solution. Exploring different therapeutic modalities can be beneficial. Community support plays a significant role in healing. Curiosity about oneself is key to personal growth. Seeking help is a sign of strength, not weakness. Time Stamps: 00:00 Welcome to Time to Talk 05:06 The Importance of Mental Health Conversations 08:25 Understanding Black Men's Mental Health 17:06 Navigating Therapy: Challenges and Misunderstandings 21:23 Exploring Therapeutic Modalities 25:16 Finding the Right Support 27:55 The Path Forward in Mental Health Check out this article by David McQueen: 'Black Men In Therapy: A Love Letter To Self' : https://davidmcqueen.co.uk/journal/therapy-for-black-men-a-love-letter-to-self Substack: timetotalk.substack.com Submit Your Questions: https://forms.gle/EqHpeBWPSzJ7h4pJA TikTok and IG: @byalexholmes / @thetimetotalkproject Website: alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Time To Talk, Alex Holmes introduces the podcast and its mission to address men's mental health, particularly focusing on stress and burnout. He shares his journey, including his experiences with breakdowns and the creation of the Time To Talk project, which aims to foster open discussions about mental health, especially within the black community. The podcast serves as a platform for community support, therapy, and coaching, encouraging men to seek help and redefine strength. Time Stamps: 00:00 Introduction to Time To Talk 01:35 The Journey of Alex Holmes 03:46 Understanding the Time To Talk Project 05:31 Call to Action and Community Engagement Highlights: The podcast aims to create spaces for men to thrive emotionally. Stress management is crucial for mental health and relationships. Alex Holmes shares his journey of overcoming burnout. The Time To Talk project focuses on black men's mental health. Community support is essential for healing and growth. Open discussions about mental health can redefine masculinity. Therapy and coaching are integral to the Time To Talk initiative. Men are encouraged to ask questions about their mental health. Healing is a journey that requires open communication. The podcast seeks to challenge societal norms around masculinity. Substack: timetotalk.substack.com Insagram and IG: @thetimetotalkproject Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode of Time to Talk, host Alex Holmes explores the intricate relationship between mental weakness and mental strength, emphasising that they are not opposites but two sides of the same coin. He discusses embracing vulnerabilities as a pathway to personal growth and mental fortitude. Through personal anecdotes and client experiences, Alex illustrates how acknowledging struggles can lead to transformation and resilience. He encourages listeners to confront their fears and vulnerabilities, highlighting that true strength lies in authenticity and emotional connection. Substack: timetotalk.substack.com Submit Your Questions: https://forms.gle/EqHpeBWPSzJ7h4pJA TikTok: @byalexholmes / @thetimetotalkproject Website: alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex discusses the goals of bibliotherapy and how it can be used as a tool for therapy and personal growth. The four goals of bibliotherapy are: improving how you respond to the world, increasing self-understanding, clarifying personal relationships, and dealing with reality as is. He explains each goal in detail and provides examples of how bibliotherapy can help achieve them. The episode also mentions upcoming topics and guests for future episodes. Takeaways Bibliotherapy is a complementary approach that combines the love for books with the passion to help people. The four goals of bibliotherapy are: improving how you respond to the world, increasing self-understanding, clarifying personal relationships, and dealing with reality as is. Bibliotherapy can help enhance self-awareness, empathy, and understanding of others. Reading books can provide a focus, improve concentration, and help clarify personal responses and feelings. Bibliotherapy can assist in recognizing and dealing with negative emotions, as well as addressing existential issues. Engaging with literature can help reduce feelings of isolation and loneliness. Bibliotherapy encourages personal growth, self-reflection, and the exploration of different perspectives. Future episodes will include book breakdowns and discussions with authors and experts in the field of mental health. Chapters 00:00 Improving How You Respond to the World 15:30 Increasing Self-Understanding 29:49 Dealing with Reality as Is 36:08 Upcoming Topics and Guests Reading List: https://uk.bookshop.org/shop/byalexholmes Substack: byalexholmes.substack.com Instagram: @byalexholmes TikTok: @byalexholmes Website: alexholmes.co Podcast Links: https://pod.link/1437894589 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex explores the concept of bibliotherapy and its impact on men's mental health. He discusses the power of books to provide guidance, support, and inspiration, and shares his personal experiences with books that have influenced his journey. The host also addresses the challenges men face in developing a relationship with reading and offers a reading list for men interested in exploring bibliotherapy. He emphasises the importance of engaging with books actively and discusses techniques such as reflective writing and guided sessions. The episode concludes with an invitation for listeners to embark on a journey of self-discovery and personal growth through the power of books and therapy. Takeaways Bibliotherapy is the use of books for therapeutic purposes and has been used for centuries to support mental health and personal growth. Books have the power to shift perspectives, challenge beliefs, and provide insights and coping strategies for various mental health conditions. Men often have a complicated relationship with reading due to past experiences and societal expectations, but engaging with books can be a powerful tool for personal development and self-reflection. Bibliotherapy involves actively engaging with books through techniques such as reflective writing and guided sessions to translate insights into real-life actions. A curated reading list can serve as a gateway for men to explore bibliotherapy and find books that resonate with their experiences and support their mental well-being. Chapters 00:00 Introduction: Exploring the Intersection of Therapy, Men's Mental Health, and Books 05:18 Understanding Bibliotherapy: The Power of Books to Transform Men's Mental Health 15:00 Challenges Men Face in Developing a Relationship with Reading 25:03 Curated Reading List for Men's Mental Health and Well-being Get in touch: Reading List: uk.bookshop.org/shop/byalexholmes Instagram TikTok: @byalexholmes Website: alexholmes.co Podcast Links: https://pod.link/1437894589 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex discusses the importance of a male-friendly approach to psychotherapy and provides tips for men seeking therapy. He emphasizes the need for therapists to understand male communication styles and experiences, and create a non-judgmental environment. Alex also highlights the importance of focusing on strengths, setting clear goals, and being open to being challenged in therapy. He explores what men want from therapy, including a quick fix, feeling understood, and addressing relevant topics such as relationships and life transitions. Alex encourages men to seek help and become the architects of their own lives. Takeaways Therapists should have a male-friendly approach that understands male communication styles and experiences. Creating a non-judgmental environment is crucial for men to feel safe and express their emotions and vulnerabilities. Men should focus on their strengths, set clear goals, and be open to being challenged in therapy. Therapy can address relevant topics such as relationships, fatherhood, friendships, and life transitions. Seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but a brave step towards improving mental health and becoming the architect of one's own life. Chapters 00:00 The Male-Friendly Therapeutic Environment 09:13 Creating a Non-Judgmental Environment 13:59 Focusing on Strengths and Goals 20:38 Addressing Relevant Topics in Therapy 23:29 Seeking Help: A Brave Step Towards Mental Health Socials: Email: alex@alexholmes.co Instagram: instagram.com/thehardpartpodcast TikTok: tiktok.com/ @byalexholmes Substack: byalexholmes.substack.com Podcast: https://pod.link/1437894589 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Summary Mental health struggles do not discriminate, but our societal response to them does. Men face a stigma around seeking help, which is damaging and perpetuated by traditional notions of masculinity. This episode explores the importance of breaking the stigma and creating a culture of openness and support for men's mental health. The story of Carl and Drew highlights the consequences of silence and the transformative power of seeking help. Strategies for breaking the stigma include creating open dialogues, educating oneself and others, seeking professional help, and advocating for better mental health resources. Taking responsibility for one's mental health is crucial for personal growth and effective leadership. Takeaways The stigma around men's mental health is damaging and perpetuated by traditional notions of masculinity. Seeking help for mental health struggles is an act of bravery and not a sign of weakness. Open dialogues, education, professional help, and advocacy are key strategies for breaking the stigma. Taking responsibility for one's mental health is crucial for personal growth and effective leadership. Chapters 00:00 Introduction 03:12 The Stigma Around Men's Mental Health 09:14 Breaking the Stigma 14:17 Story of Carl and Drew 24:48 Taking Responsibility for Mental Health 27:06 Challenging the Status Quo 27:57 Conclusion Connect: Book: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/time-to-talk-how-men-think-about-love-belonging-and-connection-alex-holmes/5009612 Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/43wekyCcEkxSaf… YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC3MvN8HTNLtOjvuoHw… PodLinks: pod.link/1437894589 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@byalexholmes Instagram: instagram.com/thehardpartpodcast Substack: byalexholmes.substack.com Email: alex@alexholmes.co Rate, Review, Share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Alex Holmes introduces himself as the host of the Hard Part podcast, which focuses on the intersection of masculinity and mental health. He explains that the podcast aims to explore men's mental health, masculinity, and personal growth. Alex shares his background as a coach and therapist, as well as his journey in the field of men's mental health. He discusses the challenges he faced in understanding what it means to be a man today and the harmful ideas around masculinity. Alex emphasises the importance of having compassionate and authentic conversations about mental health. Takeaways The Hard Part podcast explores men's mental health, masculinity, and personal growth. Men's mental health is often overlooked, and harmful ideas around masculinity can be challenging to navigate. Therapy and coaching are valuable tools for men's mental health, and finding the right approach and practitioner is important. Men's health and well-being have a significant impact on society, and it's crucial to address issues such as loneliness and gender disparities. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Purpose of the Podcast 06:07 Alex's Background and Journey 16:13 Overview of the Book 'Time to Talk' 22:19 Men's Relationship to Therapy and Coaching 25:15 Men's Health and Wellbeing 26:14 Challenges in Men's Relationships and Connections 28:22 Becoming the Best Version of Yourself 29:19 Creating an Interactive and Inclusive Space 30:08 The Importance of Men's Health Connect: Book: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/time-to-talk-how-men-think-about-love-belonging-and-connection-alex-holmes/5009612 Spotify: open.spotify.com/episode/43wekyCcEkxSaf… YouTube: youtube.com/channel/UC3MvN8HTNLtOjvuoHw… PodLinks: pod.link/1437894589 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@byalexholmes Instagram: instagram.com/thehardpartpodcast Substack: byalexholmes.substack.com Email: alex@alexholmes.co Rate, Review, Share! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Antonio Ferreira is a mental health advocate and campaigner. He speaks to me about his diagnosis of schizophrenia, and what that has meant for him as a young Black man today. I am still on holiday, so looking forward to sharing more about that in the next few weeks. My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection The Time To Talk Project Gated Community: timetotalk.supercast.com Ask a question. Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I am speaking to Gregory David Roberts. He is a former heroin addict, escaped convict, and now a musician living in Jamaica. His bestselling book, Shantaram, is now a TV series on Apple TV+ and we chat about all things from his experience in a straight jacket to living in India for ten years on the run. I am still on holiday in Jamaica, so looking forward to sharing more about that in the next few weeks. My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection The Time To Talk Project Gated Community: timetotalk.supercast.com Ask a question. Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

For the next two weeks, I am away. In these episodes, you will get full conversations with me and a guest. This episode is with a friend of mine, Mark McCartney. He wrote this newsletter called 'What Is A Good Life?' We talk about: Silent retreats in India Starting anew Finding out what a good life is My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection The Time To Talk Project Gated Community: timetotalk.supercast.com Ask a question. Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I ask, 'Why are men lonely?' Articles referenced today: The Rise of Lonely, Single Men - Greg Matos, PsyD All The Lonely People Are Men - Greg Hurst My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection The Time To Talk Project Gated Community: timetotalk.supercast.com Ask a question. Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today is World Mental Health Day. Is Mental Health a global priority? Dr. Sanah's Guardian Article: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2022/sep/06/psychologist-devastating-lies-mental-health-problems-politics 'What resources are there for men who have therapy on their to-do list'? Ben West talks about writing his book 'This Book Could Save Your Life' Gated Community: timetotalk.supercast.com Men's Groups: MenSpeak - https://www.instagram.com/menspeakmensgroups/ Men's Circle - https://www.menscircle.club/ Ask a question: https://forms.gle/mEA8Meyi2VjCifAA7 Email: alex@alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to Time To Talk. New episodes will be back on World Mental Health Day, October 10th. Until then, here's what has been happening! Looking forward to meeting you on October 10th. Ask questions here: https://forms.gle/dd6PT8X3ANJoYZRN6 Join the gated community on Steady: https://steadyhq.com/alexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Socials: instagram.com/byalexholmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

HAPPY NEW YEAR! This episode was recorded at the end of the year. In this episode, I am joined by Simon Thomas, James Espey, Jonny Benjamin, Dr. Az, Adam Shaw, Hope Virgo, and Tom Chapman as we discussed the theme for International Men's Day. Confronting outdated ideas surrounding men’s identity & challenging stereotypes through the power of a shared story will be presented through a series of myths alongside a real-life depiction that busts the myth and creates a continued conversation around 'what it means to 'be a man' in 2021'.  If you have been affected by any of the themes in this episode: Samaritans: https://www.samaritans.org/ Shawmind: www.shawmind.org Mind: www.mind.org.uk Look forward to seeing you next week with a fresh episode to kick-off 2022. CONTACT: Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: instagram.com/byalexholmes Newsletter: alexholmes.substack.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

[FROM THE ARCHIVE] - Jan 2020 Public philosopher Roman Krznaric talks to me about what it means to be a good ancestor. He wrote a book called The Good Ancestor, and I have to credit Roman with helping me to think a lot more about legacy, and the way we show up for future generations - especially in these times of Black Lives Matter, Coronavirus, Trump (and a severely divided America) and Brexit - need I say more? His book, The Good Ancestor, is out now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

[FROM THE ARCHIVES] - May 2021 Today's guest is Justin Baldoni.  He is an actor, director, producer, and co-founder, and co-chair of both Wayfarer Studios and the Wayfarer Foundation, and the heartthrob star of Jane The Virgin. Over the last ten years, Justin has been on a journey to explore masculinity and reimagine what it means to be a man, and human, in the world today. He has spoken about his journey with masculinity in his wildly popular TED Talk and in his series, Man Enough. His book, Man Enough came out in May 2021. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Alex speaks to Kelechi Okafor. We ask the big questions: What possesses our joy? How do we move through the purpose of relationships? What does it mean to call-in, rather than call out? Kelechi is the founder of Kelechnekkoff Studios, and you can find her here. She is also the host of Say Your Mind Podcast. End of Year Review Form See you on Jan 14th for a brand new episode of Time To Talk. Instagram Liminalities Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Alex speaks to Melz Owusu. We ask the big questions: Who has the right to imagine? Who needs to unlearn the responsibility of harm? Does masculinity equal harm? Melz is the founder of Free Black Uni. Instagram Liminalities Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week I speak to Jack Guinness about his new book, The Queer Bible. We discuss his experiences with homophobia in the modeling industry, growing up in London and we have a great in-depth conversation about identity. Find Jack Guinness here. Go further: instagram.com/byalexholmes alexholmes.substack.com alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to a special episode of Talk More brought to you in collaboration with Movember.  In Part 2, we are discussing Men and Therapy from a Black man's perspective. It's a hell of a ride! This podcast is in collaboration with Movember. Movember focuses on mental health and suicide prevention, prostate cancer and testicular cancer in men, and has since 2003, funded more than 1,250 men’s health projects around the world, challenging the status quo, shaking up men’s health research, and transforming the way health services reach and support men. Find the guys over at: Richard Harris Ryan Nile Nathaniel Oke Connect with me: Don't forget to get your tickets to ManTalk.live to join us on International Men's Day Go Deeper: Heart-To Heart Letters @byalexholmes alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to a special episode of Talk More brought to you in collaboration with Movember.  Today, I am joined by psychotherapist Nathaniel Oke, and my good friends Richard Harris and Ryan Nile. We are having an in-depth conversation as men today about the past year, filled with pandemic woes, collective racial trauma, and exploring why men need to have better conversations around mental health - especially in 2021. This podcast is in collaboration with Movember. Movember focuses on mental health and suicide prevention, prostate cancer and testicular cancer in men, and has since 2003, funded more than 1,250 men’s health projects around the world, challenging the status quo, shaking up men’s health research, and transforming the way health services reach and support men. Find the guys over at: Richard Harris Ryan Nile Nathaniel Oke Connect with me: Don't forget to get your tickets to ManTalk.live to join us on International Men's Day Go Deeper: Heart-To Heart Letters @byalexholmes alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week on Time To Talk, I'm honored to be joined by Sam Delaney. Sam is a writer and podcaster from London who has worked in the British media for 20 years as a print journalist magazine, editor, TV news, reporter, radio, presenter, and creative consultant. He hosts the top flight time machine podcast and writes and hosts a podcast regularly about mental health via his substack blog called The Reset. Connect with me: Don't forget to get your tickets to ManTalk.live to join us on International Men's Day Go Deeper: Heart-To Heart Letters @byalexholmes alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

It's MOVEMBER! This week on Time To Talk, I speak to psychotherapist James Hawes. We have a powerful discussion about anger, love, and the power of men’s groups. As a therapist, for James, it’s usually men who walk through his door. There, they have a myriad of discussions about sexuality, emotional regulation and learning how to be men of the best possible kind. His book, The Secret Lives Of Men: Ten Keys To Unlocking The Secret is an amazing guide for men and those who love them as a way of discerning the issues that men face. Connect with me: Don't forget to get your tickets to ManTalk.live to join us on International Men's Day Go Deeper: Heart-To Heart Letters @byalexholmes alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to Time To Talk.  Passing. Fetishisation. Colourism. Mixed race identity. These are the topics I have the pleasure of speaking to my friend Natalie Morris about this week on the show. Her book, Mixed/Other: Explorations of Multiraciality In Modern Britain.  The book comes at an essential time, especially in Black History Month where it can bring up very strong feelings of exclusion for mixed race black people when entering the conversation. Interestingly enough, out in cinemas this week is Passing - the new film written and directed by Rebecca Hall, starring Ruth Negga and Tessa Thompson about African-Americans who had skin color light enough to be perceived as "white" - which is known as ‘Passing’. Gemma spoke to Rebecca Hall – who’s own Grandfather ‘passed’ as white - about the movie which is out in cinemas on October 27th and will be on Netflix on November 10th - and is based on the 1929 novel by Nella Larsen. We do have an in depth conversation about what it means to ‘pass’ especially today in the age of Meghan and Harry; the identities of mixed race people; fetishisation from within and without the Black community, and what books Natalie wants to share with us this week. Natalie and I have worked together as journalists before, and she is deputy lifestyle editor at the Metro covering race, mental health, women in sport and women in the work place. She has a column called Mixed Up on Metro.co.uk. She hails from Manchester, and is doing the work to make the newsroom a much more inclusive place. Find Natalie on Instagram and Twitter I do hope you enjoy the episode. Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe, and share far and wide. —— Some NEWS.  On International Men’s Day, November 19th join me, and some esteemed guests such as Jonny Benjamin, Simon Thomas, Hope Virgo, Tom Chapman and more, as we partner with Shawmind, Beyond & the lions barber collective for an evening with some of the celebrated authors of Trigger Hub debunking myths around mens mental health. As a guest, in person or online, you will be part of a conversation as we tackle some of the all to common 'man myths' from my book Time To Talk and discuss what it really means to 'be a man' in 2021. Not one to miss. RSVP today at mantalk.live to get your tickets NOW. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I'm speaking to New York Times Bestselling author, Mateo Askaripour. We talk all things writing, being Black in a corporate setting, and optimism. His book, Black Buck, is an earnest work of satire, hilarious, and razor-sharp skewering of office culture; a propulsive, crackling debut that explores ambition and race, and makes way for a necessary new vision of the American dream. Go deeper: • Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters • Submit your questions to Anxiety Letters • Join the Time To Talk Book Club. • Join Masteri Academy to join a group of committed readers and self-healers. • Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Executive Produced: Alex Holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Robin DiAngelo, Ph.D. is an academic, lecturer, and author working in the fields of critical discourse analysis. She is the affiliate professor of education at the University of Washington, and we speak about her new book: Nice Racism: How Progressive White People Perpetuate Racial Harm. In this episode we talk about: Defining niceness Wokeness Cancel culture Why Is It Okay To Generalise About White People? White people can still be racist even if they have a level of oppression The role and impact of white women in ‘nice’ racism Go deeper: • Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters • Submit your questions to Anxiety Letters • Join the Time To Talk Book Club. • Join Masteri Academy to join a group of committed readers and self-healers. • Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Executive Produced: Alex Holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Speaking to Dr Alex Lathbridge is a joy. We talk about ghosts and hobbies, but more seriously we ask the questions about genetic and ancestry tests for the Black community, whether they are safe and what we should be looking out for. Also, are you interested in taking a Ph.D.? This might encourage you. Not one to miss! Go deeper: • Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters • Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Executive Produced: Alex Holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week in our first Black History conversation is with a living cricket legend, Michael Holding. Michael Holding is an elder, a wise connection, and leader of our experience as Black people in this country. We talk about his long career in cricket, his experience post-George Floyd and what he remembers about his career. He retired in September 2021. He wrote Why We Kneel, How We Rise - a sober, densely researched account of racial discrimination, partially told through discussions with leading athletes including Usain Bolt, Thierry Henry, Michael Johnson and Naomi Osaka. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trigger Warning: Conversations on Drug Use, Suicide, and Depression. --------------------------------------------- David Poses is a writer. His book The Weight of Air: A Story of the Lies About Addiction and the Truth About Recovery, is a book I will continue to go back to in my own self-development as I progress on my own journey. He is also a speaker and activist. After twenty years of hiding his struggle with depression and opioids, he started opening up and challenging the disregard of science and evidence in drug treatment, prevention, and policy.  We discuss: Shame and drug addiction Breaking down the stigma of addiction How to rethink policies relating to drugs Books that might help Not one to miss! This episode is brought to you in partnership with Trigger Hub. For 15% off ebooks, to support authors and mental health charity Shaw Mind with your purchase, use discount code: AlexHolmes15. Go deeper: Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters Submit your questions to Anxiety Letters Join the Time To Talk Book Club sign up to get the newsletter. Join Masteri Academy to join a group of committed readers and self-healers. Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Henley Literary Fest - October 3rd Token Man Event - October 7th Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Engineered and Co-Produced: Ryan Nile/Pure Creation Media Executive Produced: Alex Holmes/Recover Well Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Trigger Warning: Suicide and Depression. --------------------------------------------- Today is #WorldSuicidePreventionDay. I have a conversation with Josiah Hartley about his book 'The Boy Between' where he speaks about his experience with depression that he wrote with his mum. We discuss: Writing with your parent Breaking down the stigma of depression The signs of depression Feelings of shame Before this, I start a heartfelt conversation about how we can be better for one another and the importance of conversations about mental health. Not one to miss! This episode is brought to you in partnership with Trigger Hub. For 15% off ebooks, to support authors and mental health charity Shaw Mind with your purchase, use discount code: AlexHolmes15. Go deeper: Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters Submit your questions to Anxiety Letters Join the Time To Talk Book Club sign up to get the newsletter. Join Masteri Academy to join a group of committed readers and self-healers. Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Henley Literary Fest - October 3rd Token Man Event - October 7th Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

David Harewood joins me this week, as we discuss the background to his new book, Maybe I Don't Belong Here. We discuss: 'Becoming' Black Earliest memories Racialised mental health issues His father's psychosis and his mental breakdown Grief and the Windrush Generation Stereotypes in acting And cultivating a sense of belonging. Not one to miss! Go deeper: Subscribe to the Heart To Heart Letters Submit your questions to Anxiety Letters Join the Time To Talk Book Club sign up to get the newsletter. Join Masteri Academy to join a group of committed readers and self-healers. Follow me on Instagram and VERO. Don't forget to rate, review and subscribe. Credits: Website: alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Writing and mental health - how do you use therapy? Jason Mott speaks to me this week about the importance of therapy while writing. We talk about his new book - Hell of a Book. The book is uncategorizable and fizzing with playful invention and intelligence, and Mott's story centers on an author and a young black boy who may or may not be the child whose recent murder by a police officer has sparked protests across the country. What a show. Check out his new book Hell of a Book, here, it came out on August 10th. Community: Join the Time To Talk Book Club: tune in next week for a discussion on August's selection - The Happiness Trap. My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Write your letters to me via Heart To Heart Letters Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Facebook Instagram VERO Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Do you know how to be human? This is the question I am sitting on with today's guest clinical psychologist, Dr. Sophie Mort. We have a chat about emotions and how we manage them. Check out her book A Manual For Being Human here. Community: Join the Time To Talk Book Club: August's Book is The Happiness Trap by Russ Harris. My Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Write your letters to me via Heart To Heart Letters Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Facebook Instagram VERO Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Natasha Lunn is the features director at RED magazine and the creator of a popular and acclaimed bi-monthly email newsletter, Conversations on Love. After years of feeling that love was always out of reach, Natasha Lunn set out to understand how relationships work and evolve over a lifetime. She turned to authors and experts to learn about their experiences, as well as drawing on her own, asking: How do we find love? How do we sustain it? And how do we survive when we lose it? In Conversations on Love, she began to find the answers. Her book: Conversations On Love is out now. Playlist: For You - Laura Marling Time To Talk Book Club: Olive Kitteridge - Elizabeth Strout All About Love - bell hooks Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Join Facebook Group Instagram VERO Email: alex@alexholmes.co Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Blog: timetotalk.substack.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ciaran Thapar is a youth worker, social activist, and writer based in London. His journalism on serious youth violence, austerity politics, British multiculturalism, and contemporary music culture can be found in the Guardian, British GQ, Vice, and Pitchfork. He has experience developing and delivering charity programmes in secondary schools, youth clubs, and prisons. As Founder of RoadWorks, music, and social education charity, Ciaran has advocated on behalf of young people in both Houses of Parliament, on national television and radio, and in legal court proceedings His book Cut Short: Youth Violence, Loss and Hope In The City is out now. Playlist: Glassy Riddim - Raf Saperra Hold Up - Tolu Shorts Time To Talk Bookclub: Hero of A Thousand Faces - Joseph Campbell The Corner - David Simon Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Join the Facebook Group. Instagram VERO Email: alex@alexholmes.co Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Blog: timetotalk.substack.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to another episode of Time To Talk, the home of conversation around mental health, masculinity, and healing. This week, I am speaking to my esteemed guest, Riaz Megjhi. Riaz is a human connection expert, based out in Canada.  We talk about all things human connection, journalism, and what it means to have a good and wholehearted conversation to get the best out of the person as well as learn something new about ourselves. After the year that we have had behind screens, in isolation, and away from family and friends, I'm sure we would find it hard to disagree. Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Become a member: steadyhq.com/alexholmes Instagram VERO Email: alex@alexholmes.co Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome back to another episode of time to talk the home of conversation around mental health, masculinity, and healing. This week, I'm exploring the conversation around empire with the one and only Professor Kehinde Andrews. Andrews is a Professor of Black Studies in the school of Social Sciences at Birmingham City University. He is the founder and director of the center of critical social research founder of the Harambe organisation of black unity, which houses, the blog - Make It Plain. We come together to chat about his new book, New Age of Empire: How Racism and Colonialism Still Rule The World. Today, we chat about the psychosis of whiteness and global psychology, the intersections of mental health, masculinity, and racism, and what we can learn about Western racism from the enlightenment and traditional philosophical thinkers. Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Instagram VERO Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Newsletter: alexholmes.co See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I speak to Eugene Ellis. He is the founder of The Black, African, and Asian Therapy Network, which has been an amazing resource for me and my own mental health. However, this conversation is focused on his new book The Race Conversation: An Essential Guide To Life-Changing Dialogue. We have a chat about how the body holds trauma, healing, and what we can learn about this to become better people going forward. We also speak about his time as a practicing Buddhist, and his experience working with Soul II Soul in North London in his twenties. Get his book: The Race Conversation Credits: Hosted by Alex Holmes Co-Produced by Alex Holmes and Ryan Nile Audio Engineering: Pure Creation Media  Executive Produced by Alex Holmes  Get in touch: Become a member: steadyhq.com/alexholmes Instagram VERO Email: alex@alexholmes.co // tttalkpod@gmail.com Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Newsletter: alexholmes.co See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today's guest is Justin Baldoni.  He is an actor, director, producer, and co-founder, and co-chair of both Wayfarer Studios and the Wayfarer Foundation, and the heartthrob star of Jane The Virgin. Over the last ten years, Justin has been on a journey to explore masculinity and reimagine what it means to be a man, and human, in the world today. He has spoken about his journey with masculinity in his wildly popular TED Talk and in his series, Man Enough. We talk: Enjoy the episode!  Get the book here: https://uk.bookshop.org/a/644/9780063055599 Credits: Get in touch: Become a member: steadyhq.com/alexholmes Instagram VERO Email: alex@alexholmes.co Book: Time To Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection Newsletter: alexholmes.co --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, I am speaking to Paul Mendez. We discuss all things Jamaica, growing up Jehovah's witness in the Black Country and his debut novel Rainbow Milk. Rainbow Milk is a beautiful novel about love, belonging and the Black, Queer experience that we don't often see from Black men. Dive in, it's a beautiful conversation with an icon. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexholmes Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week...it’s time to talk about sobriety and intentions with Africa Brooke. Africa Brooke is a globally recognised Mindset Coach, NLP practitioner, sobriety advocate, and explorer of the subconscious mind. In her work as a Mindset Coach, Africa uses her training in NLP and various other mind technologies to help coaches, entrepreneurs, change-makers, and spiritual seekers overcome self-sabotage so they can create fuller and more nourishing lives and businesses. I have deep admiration for my guest today. Africa Brooke is an empowered woman, beautiful human and inspired friend. We sit down together this week and discuss what success and failure mean, we also talk about her journey through sobriety and self-sabotage, as well as her understanding of what it means to live an intentional life. Her journey to sobriety is amazing. Getting sober (after 7 relapses) has to be the most courageous and fear-inducing thing she has ever done in her entire life. We speak about it all today. Check out her stuff here. Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share among as many people as you can. Let’s get the word out that here is the place for confident, wholehearted and compassionate conversation. PRE ORDER TIME TO TALK: HOW MEN THINK ABOUT LOVE, BELONGING AND CONNECTION NOW Thank you to our sponsors: BetterHelp.com/timetotalk21 - You can get 10% off your first month. Let them know I sent you. BetterHELP start living a happier life TODAY. Herby Box - Head over to herbybox.com and use ALEXHOLMES10 to get 10 per cent off your one-time purchase of herbal tea blends. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Malachy Dunne is a counsellor and educator situated in Cornwall.  He is the founder of Lifetime Therapy, a humanist, people-centred practice. They believe that, given the appropriate conditions, every individual has limitless capacity to heal, to come to new thoughts and beliefs and to change the way they view the world, others and themselves. We talk about resilience, shame and anxiety as well as the importance of therapy in today's society. Get in touch with Malachy over on Instagram and the Lifetime Therapy website! Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share among as many people as you can. Let’s get the word out that here is the place for confident, wholehearted and compassionate conversation. PRE ORDER MY BOOK: TIME TO TALK: HOW MEN THINK ABOUT LOVE, BELONGING AND CONNECTION SUPPORT THE PODCAST ON STEADY] Sponsors: BetterHelp.com/timetotalk21 - You can get 10% off your first month. Let them know I sent you. BetterHELP start living a happier life TODAY. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Dr Nicole LePera is known as the Holistic Psychologist online.  As a clinical psychologist, she grew tired of the limitations of traditional psychotherapy - and so, wanting more for her clients and herself, she embarked on a mental, physical and spiritual journey which saw her picking up the tools to heal and do her work. She began to share that with the world and so, the Holistic Psychologist online, amassing a community of over 3million people! In this conversation, we discuss her new book ‘How To Do The Work’ which came out yesterday, and this is a piece of work that explores the way we think about mental health and self-care, and about how we can take the power into our own hands. PRE-ORDER MY BOOK: TIME TO TALK: HOW MEN THINK ABOUT LOVE, BELONGING AND CONNECTION - OUT 1ST APRIL Thank you to the sponsors this week:  Beardfluence - Head over to Beardfluence.com and use TIMETOTALK2021 to get 15 per cent off SITE WIDE on the new Kensington Set and the bestselling Night Oil. BetterHelp.com/timetotalk21 - You can get 10% off your first month. Let them know I sent you. BetterHELP start living a happier life TODAY. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week...it’s time to talk about choices with Emma Gannon. Emma Gannon is a Sunday Times bestselling author, speaker, novelist and host of the no. 1 career podcast in the UK, Ctrl Alt Delete, with over 9 million downloads, nearing 10mill last I checked! She has blogged since 2009; podcasted since 2016 and is the author of five books, including the novel OLIVE.  We talk about choices. What choices do we have when we turn 30? Are we conforming, making our lives somewhat tormented by living up to expectations? In her debut novel, OLIVE Emma’s protagonist is childless by choice. We have a chat about this, and the stigmas we face as very...very new adults. PRE ORDER MY NEW BOOK: TIME TO TALK: HOW MEN FEEL ABOUT LOVE, BELONGING AND CONNECTION. Steady: steadyhq.com/alexholmes Thank you to our sponsors: Better Help: BetterHelp.com/timetotalk21 - You can get 10% off your first month. Let them know I sent you. BetterHELP start living a happier life TODAY. Herby Box: Herby Box - Head over to herbybox.com and use ALEXHOLMES10 to get 10 per cent off your one-time purchase of herbal tea blends. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to Time To Talk. Where I speak to life seekers, healers and leaders in their fields, to break down the stigmas of mental health, heal and become emotionally courageous by having one compassionate conversation at a time. This week...it’s time to talk about grief and masculinity with Guvna B. Guvna B is an East London rapper, who has written a memoir called Unspoken, which details his experience with grief, faith and mental health. We have a deep dive into what grief taught him, the relationship he had with his dad before his passing as well as also talking about love, fatherhood and marriage. It’s a great conversation, with a legend. Don’t forget to rate, review and subscribe - and share among as many people as you can. Let’s get the word out that here is the place for confident, wholehearted and compassionate conversation. Want to support the show with exclusive packages? Get over to Steady: steadyhq.com/alexholmes Thank you to our Sponsor: BetterHelp.com/timetotalk21 - You can get 10% off your first month. Let them know I sent you. BetterHelp - start living a happier life TODAY.  Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: alex@alexholmes.co Production, Music and Edit: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Eddie S. Glaude Jr is the James S. McDonnell Distinguished University Professor and chair of the Department of African American Studies at Princeton. He joined me on the show this week to discuss his book, Begin Again: James Baldwin’s America and Its Urgent Lessons for Today, but we spoke about so much more. Colourism, masculinity, forgiveness and healing. We go through it all. Want to join the compassionate community, while supporting the podcast? Pick your plan.  Thank you to our sponsors: Herby Box - Head over to herbybox.com and use ALEXHOLMES10 to get 10 per cent off your one-time purchase of herbal tea blends. Beardfluence - Head over to Beardfluence.com and use TIMETOTALK2021 to get 15 per cent off SITEWIDE on the new Kensington Set and the bestselling Night Oil. Want to start podcasting? Check out Pirate Studios at Pirate.com and use code: Alex7135 for £10 off your first session. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Production, Music and Edit: Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Public philosopher Roman Krznaric talks to me about what it means to be a good ancestor. He wrote a book called The Good Ancestor, and I have to credit Roman with helping me to think a lot more about legacy, and the way we show up for future generations - especially in these times of Black Lives Matter, Coronavirus, Trump (and a severely divided America) and Brexit - need I say more? Support the show by using Steady. Pick the plan that works for you (ps, it's like Patreon, but better!!) Thank you to our sponsors:  Herby Box - Head over to herbybox.com and use ALEXHOLMES10 to get 10 per cent off your one-time purchase of herbal tea blends. Beardfluence - Head over to Beardfluence.com and use TIMETOTALK2021 to get 15 per cent off SITE WIDE on the new Kensington Set and the bestselling Night Oil. Want to start podcasting? Check out Pirate Studios at Pirate.com and use code: Alex7135 for £10 off your first session. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Newlsetter: alexholmes.co/newsletter Production, Music and Edit: Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

James Smith: Pursuing The Wild Stuff, Psychedelics and Living Life On Your Terms | Today, I am speaking to the straight-talking, no-nonsense personal trainer James Smith. He is the host of his own podcast, The James Smith Podcast, but he is also the author of two Sunday Times Bestsellers, Not A Diet Book and his latest, Not A Life Coach. In this conversation, we chat about personal training, mental health, masculinity…and psychedelics.  Yes, we go there.  Want to start podcasting? Check out Pirate Studios at Pirate.com and use code: Alex7135 for £10 off your first session. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Newlsetter: alexholmes.co/newsletter Production, Music and Edit: Ryan Nile (@ryan.nile.show) Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Ayman Hariri, CEO of VERO: Superheroes, Social Media and Compassionate Leadership | Today, I am speaking to Ayman Hariri. Ayman is the Co-founder and CEO of VERO, yes that social platform I have been speaking about since this podcast’s conception! I value Ayman as a real mentor, and this was an amazing conversation to have with him. We discuss compassionate leadership, confronting your mistakes, superheroes and what a good social media platform and company does and doesn’t do. Make sure you guys go and check out VERO - all the links are in the description. And so, happy Friday and Ayman Hariri - it’s time to talk. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Newlsetter: alexholmes.co/newsletter Music: Ryan Nile Executive Produced: Alex Holmes --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Natasha Devon: Intersections Of A Mental Health Campaigner | Natasha is a campaigner and broadcaster who tours schools, universities and events delivering talks and conducting research on mental health and related issues like body image, sexuality and gender. She is also the author of A Beginner's Guide to Being Mental and Yes You Can: Ace Your Exams without Losing Your Mind. And she is also the host of the 'Staying Sane' podcast. Find her on Instagram @_natashadevon and her website.  Want to start podcasting? Check out Pirate Studios and use code: Alex7135 for £10 off your first session. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Newlsetter: alexholmes.co/newsletter Editing and Production: Pure Creation Media/Ryan Nile Executive Produced: Alex Holmes  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Today’s guest is Nova Reid. Nova is a TED speaker, writer and diversity and anti-racism campaigner. We had a conversation about what her experience growing up in Hertfordshire in England was like to which we spoke about the first time she realised she was Black. We chatted about what it means to be an anti-racist, and how we can combat micro-aggressions challenging negative behaviours that contribute to poor effects these have on oppressed minorities mental well being. Her book, The Good Ally will be out in all good bookstores in Autumn 2021 and I hope to get her back on, but you can pre-order her book now. Let’s welcome, Nova Reid. Catch me on: Vero: Vero.co/alexreads Website: alexholmes.co Instagram: @byalexholmes Email: tttalkpod@gmail.com Newsletter: alexholmes.substack.com Music: Ryan Nile Production: Pure Creation Media, Ryan Nile Executive Produced: Alex Holmes--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's more intimate episode is with Shahroo Izadi discussing self-kindness. But before we get into that, I discuss the importance of being kind to ourselves as a service to others as well as to ourselves. We are so much love, and we are deserving. Ask yourself: “How can I care for and comfort myself in this moment?”--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What are the barriers stopping Black people, men in particular, going to therapy? Why are there less men of colour therapists?  In this week's Time To Talk find out with psychotherapist Kwame Opoku.  #Booksthatmatter - It's OK To Feel Blue, curated by Scarlett Curtis - This Book Could Help The Men's Head Space Manual, by Rotimi Akinsette--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Comedian Dane Baptiste joins me and we talk about everything from fatherhood, matriarchal families, masculinity, mental health and love - and we have hella laughs on the way! Time To Talk is a place where men come together to discuss topics that don't get talked about enough, with vulnerability and openness at its core, to help get men (and eventually others) talking about things they claim to never speak about. Check out Dane on socials, and get tickets to his new show 2020 tour - 'The Chocolate Chip': https://sohotheatre.com/shows/dane-baptiste-chocolate-chip/ #BooksThatMatter: - Mask Off by JJ Bola - We Real Cool: Black Men and Masculinity by bell hooks - We Should All Be Feminists - Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie - Weapons of Mass Instruction - John Taylor Gatto Hashtag - #TTTwithAlex Hit me up on - Twitter: @tttalkpod Insta - @alexreads Vero - @alexreads Facebook - @TimeToTalkPod--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/timetotalkwithalexholmes/message See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices